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Hi I tried *** for first time and it really hurt and I could not take it in. My partner has a 7 inch but really really thick ***. We used coconut oil but still my *** hurts. Can anyone tell me the best lube or cream to use? Are there any specific positions that help in easy penetration without pain? Please help!

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Posted On May 21, 2021 - 08:03 PM

Hey guys,

Thanks for this thread so knowledgeable.
I came here first time and I also wanted to be a bottom.
Looking for a top guy to *** me.

I actually have sensitive skin, and not sure if applying gel might create irritation to me because when I apply any pain reliever gel or anything like move or move spray , my skin starts itching a lot and there are irritation

Not sure if these lubes will be good? As they also have some numbing agent.
Don't want to try with oil, as condom will burst.

Anyone have any other idea?.

Also I can't play with my *** more as I live in PG and won't get time alone, so will it be good if I go directly to top and he take care of rest?..

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Posted On May 22, 2021 - 03:36 PM

castor oil..

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Posted On May 22, 2021 - 07:31 PM

Guys, I have a doubt as Rahul 0123 said, to put the carrot 🥕or radish on the floor and sit on it, as if riding a ***, will it not Break while inserting.

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Posted On May 23, 2021 - 07:31 AM

Use a condom it wont break

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Posted On May 23, 2021 - 07:50 AM

Hello kya koi mughe batayega ki *** ka topa khula rakhna hota h ya sirf *** karte time hi kholna hota hai plz

Foreskin back Ho jata h but vapis aage nahi hota

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Posted On May 23, 2021 - 08:46 AM

Aisa hai to cut karwa lo.Doctor skin specialists ko dikhao.

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Posted On May 24, 2021 - 04:01 AM

Use KY or Lox 2% gel for first time ***. It reduces the pain.

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Posted On May 24, 2021 - 04:03 PM

i have used brinjal many times and without condom. it is better than cucumbet as it is smoother. you may just apply a little bit of oil and push 6-7 inches. it is very enjoyable, next only to the real thing! if you have a friend who is willing to insert and reciprocate in your ***, it will be better. one of my friends used to do it often. he was not gay, but still enjoyed doing it. i enjoyed more thsn him! pl try if possible.

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Posted On May 25, 2021 - 01:34 AM

Ya.. brinjal is amazing. I have put brinjal in my *** many times. It’s good. Go for it. I think after brinjaling you can get *** smoothly. Go for it. And it’s instant. Before getting fcuked, just get yourself brinjaled for 3-4 min. Enjoy it fully with that sweet pain and then take the *** in ❤️❤️

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Posted On May 29, 2021 - 03:06 PM

When I had my first *** experience my top buddy was experience one yet he haven't had virgins so he tried to force which hurt me alot although he stopped and applied lots of Vaseline yet his hard long thick *** was not able to penetrate ...I wiped my *** nicely n asked him to spit and rub properly even I *** his hard n make it wet slippery than when he slowly pushed he get inside easily once his head got stuck nothing else matters as he slowly pushed deep inside and penetrating me slowly for few minutes later he did as bull does and filled inside me although as per that experience I prefer spit which actually go for *** penetrating moments

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Posted On May 29, 2021 - 06:13 PM

@ luvme2m: Use a slightly long and thin one so that you can put deep inside your ***... later you can take a thick one. Enjoy !!

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Posted On May 29, 2021 - 09:20 PM

First of all Congratulations for having a well built partner😉
Now discussion on topic.
First thing is that you need to understand your body structure,your demands and the most important thing your butthole.We heard earlier that *** muscles are very expandable and can stretch to a very high limit but the problem is how much you wanna take or how much you want to experiment.As you told earlier it was your first time and u felt Pain,frnd it's normal and a healthy thing 😊.When I tried for first time I couldn't take It's Cap and break away in pain but next time I did manage to satisfy him and also my needs.
When u wanna have a *** go clean yourself first as it would be beneficial to both of u.Lubricate your *** after enemas and before *** penetration.Use your fingers to apply lubricant on your inner *** side,Try to insert 1 finger then two then three.Expand you sphincter and apply more lube.
Apply more lubricant on your partner *** then insert it then again lubricate and inser try it
Go gentle don't panic use your moves to tell satisfy your partner.

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Posted On May 30, 2021 - 03:49 AM

for all. enema and other cleaning technics are fine but there are some pros and cons you have to check before doing it.

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Posted On Jun 5, 2021 - 06:33 AM

One tip to make things easier.
Finger your *** properly before the session.
Douce it properly.
I tried this thing last night while my cousin was *** me recklessly. It was such a pleasurable and long lasting experience.

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Posted On Sep 11, 2021 - 08:42 AM

is aloevera gel safe inside ?? i'm talking about natural aloevera gel......

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Posted On Sep 11, 2021 - 09:03 AM

Aloe vera is safe and secure.
I'm using it for past 3 years.
Since I'm a size queen.. I took 9+ inches easily with aloe vera gel.
Use lots and lots of it.
But be cautious. Use only pure aloe vera gel.. u can get it in medicals

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Posted On Sep 11, 2021 - 10:20 AM

me and my partner use saliva every time. he spits on his *** and on my *** and then insert it inside.
sometimes we used coconut oil instead.

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Posted On Sep 11, 2021 - 12:22 PM

Since aloe vera is water based.. It's safe on latex condoms.
If u use oils, it might tear and damage tge condom

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Posted On Sep 11, 2021 - 01:35 PM

I was talking about aloevera gel extracted directly from plants...is that safe too?

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Posted On Sep 11, 2021 - 05:15 PM

Yes. It's safe.
Just look out for dust and dirt

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Posted On Sep 12, 2021 - 12:27 AM

Oil *** a bit and insert a small banana inside.Slide in your fingers to push and slowly crush the banana.The banana juice will start filling your rectum and is the best lube with a great sensation. As your guy fucks, the banana gets crushed inside more adding in more juices as lube. Also,it makes you more full.
Try it,it's the best to gradually make you a *** queen on bed :)

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Posted On Sep 12, 2021 - 07:33 PM

Best at the start would be lubes and fingers. Start with one and move on to more over time. Then lubes and *** props, start smaller and get it to the big ones over time. The hole needs time getting used to the size. *** muscles are delicate, would get minute tears because of foreign objects being inserted so it needs lubrication and care. Such tears would lead to infection if the object of insertion has not been cleansed carefully. So the whole thing brings about a lot of hygiene and personal care issues. The whole thing can be managed safely, if not avoided altogether, by keeping to certain hygiene routine like what I mentioned above.

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Posted On Sep 12, 2021 - 07:40 PM

Pain during *** *** is as much psychological as it is physical. So it is very important to be relaxed. Try it only with a partner you trust. A little discomfort is expected as you are forcing something from the other end but pain or bleeding are not okay. I recommend a few tips for more pleasurable experience.

1. Douche your *** hole. If you are not clean from the inside, your body's natural response is to clench your sphincter muscles. You can buy a store bought enema kit to clean thoroughly or use a disposable nozzle on a jet spray to slowly release water inside the hole while sitting on toilet several times until the water comes out clearer.

2. Lube well. There is nothing like too much lube for a first timer. If you are using a condom (which you should) then use condom safe water based lubes only. Body lotions, vaseline jelly, aloe vera gel are not condom safe most of the time. You can buy KY or a similar sterile lubricating gel from a chemist or buy popular brands like durex or moods.

3. Start slow. Engage in enough foreplay to get into mood. Ask your partner to gently finger you or insert objects (*** toys, vegetables) inside your hole. Take it slow and small. First time may take a little while, so your partner needs to be patient and respect your choices.

It is quite common to pass gas or get an urge to urinate while getting penetrated. There can be accidental poop on your partner's *** or the sheets too. If you notice bleeding, stop the act and relax your *** muscles for a few days before trying it again. Bleeding happens when you (knowingly or unknowingly) clench your *** muscles and when your partner forces their *** in.

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Posted On Sep 13, 2021 - 08:11 AM

Well written @sambhog

One important point to add here is that one must AVOID using a local anesthetic gel (like Xylo). These gels would reduce the sensation and this could be dangerous since you wouldn't realise if you have a tear or injury during the intercourse.

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Posted On Sep 14, 2021 - 02:25 AM

Ideally you should only use the brand KY jelly, its imported but most safe for *** ***. Indian versions contain anaesthetic contents besides lubrication which should be avoided as it numbs your inner *** lining and will not come to know if you get injured during vigorous *** ***.

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Posted On Sep 14, 2021 - 04:56 PM

Don't try lubricant.
Try to use your finger or long brinjal to loosen your ***.
Day by day *** will be flexible.
Try to be natural.

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Posted On Sep 15, 2021 - 12:22 PM

Numbing agents like lox are a big no, but I'd definitely suggest using a good lubricant like ky ( even though this is not specifically an *** lubricant it is still medical purpose and safe). The lubricant will help you from damaging the iner lining of your rectum and will also help pushing the dildo/finger/brinjal in with minimal friction. You can then patiently work your way around stretching your butthole. Just be slow and patient. Don't rush things or accidents might happen

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Posted On Sep 16, 2021 - 06:10 AM

Use olive oil of Figaro it is very best for top and without figured you can enter your d. K in A s hole it goes Very easily and you will be satisfied and enjoy I have used to much time massage your di k with oilve oil and put 2 to 3 drop of oilve oil on the top of di k and push your di k in a s hole

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Posted On Sep 16, 2021 - 09:48 AM

@Mine4You69 generally avoid inserting objects that might break easily. if it does happen the best you can do is sort of douche it out with the help of lube and water. It will be super annoying to deal with though. Worst case you might have to go to the emergency room. If you are inserting something up your bum, make sure it is something won't break easily. For example if you are using a banana, use an unripe banana as it is much harder than a ripe one which can easily get crushed by your anus itself. We have only one butt hole you guys. Love it and care for it!

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Posted On Sep 16, 2021 - 10:05 AM

So it is risky to use such objects.
Again it will not fullful *** desire compare to have *** with real ***.

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Posted On Sep 17, 2021 - 07:39 PM

I heared ***, chewing, *** head for longer time causes blood after ***? ..

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Posted On Sep 18, 2021 - 02:07 AM

Hi... I m new to Bottom can l use Vasilene for ***.. Or in my hole

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Posted On Sep 18, 2021 - 03:47 AM

Use Kamasutra strawberry flavour gel, its water based totally safe. *** slides in easily, feels good inside.

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Posted On Sep 18, 2021 - 07:58 PM

@nudeboy This worked well for me in the beginning.Get a 50ml syringe or an enema bag. Fill Glycerin+water and pump it up your ***. Within 5 minutes of holding,you will feel to poop and be clean in few minutes leaving tickling sensation in your *** making it more open. Feel free that it's ok to play with your *** and stop worrying about poop. Push *** to maximum and then insert oiled fingers. Do it every alternative day. Start using carrots,work it up to do larger ones like brinjal. Gradually, your size will improve.
Wishing all best to you soon to take a Pepsi bottle up your *** and *** oozing out of your little *** from its "feeling full" orgasm.

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Posted On Sep 19, 2021 - 07:29 PM

@pappubglre thanks
I have tried cleaning my *** using a jet spray and did workout superb..
Just never got fingered or rimmed by anyone than me..

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Posted On Sep 20, 2021 - 11:42 AM

When u r using JET spray, check the speed of jet.. and do not fill ur ***/rectum too much. The interior of *** is delicate can NOT hold more water or high speed jet.
Enema bag is right options.. syring also may hurt..
Also, do not use too much of anaesthetic cream coz when we clean or do some inserting act, we need to feel tht so we can understand if something goes wrong.

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Posted On Sep 21, 2021 - 04:37 PM

Lox 2% jelly is a best lubricant. Available in all leading Medicine Shop.

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Posted On Sep 21, 2021 - 04:45 PM

@Saksee Lox 2% Jelly is a local anesthetic and not a lubricant!!!!! It will numb the area for painless *** butyou will never know if you're hurt anywhere during the act. Only after the effect is over you might feel the pain. Please avoid using that. You dont want to numb it but make it smooth and hence use legitimate lubricants.

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Posted On Sep 22, 2021 - 03:26 PM

KY Jelly or any numbing lubricant in my opinion isn't good.. It numbs the area and if you *** after using it, it will numb your lips. Just feels weird.. If you have the money and privacy then buy good durex lubes. Otherwise if you're like me and don't have privacy at home to hide stuff, then use aloe vera gel.. It's the best natural lube I've come across. You can get a bottle of it on Amazon, and since it's a great moisturizer for your face, you can tell your family that you use it for your face ( which I actually do, so it's multipurpose ;) ) . Although it doesn't numb you, it makes penetration smooth.. In my case, although I can take most average sized *** well, it does hurt for a while when a guy first enters me. So your top needs to be gentle at first.. Once your hole has been stretched enough, you can raise the pace of penetration.

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Posted On Sep 22, 2021 - 04:54 PM

Aloe vera gel is the best....is so cool and soothing and so lubricating....

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Posted On Sep 23, 2021 - 06:54 AM

does KY jelly numb? I am not sure..
but ur suggestion of aloe vera gel is awesome.. would be helpful for both tops and bottoms to keep it with them without others getting any doubts or questions...
will try soon with my bottoms...

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Posted On Sep 23, 2021 - 07:33 AM

Coconut oil is my thing.. its a good lube for my hole.. also being a bottom be prepared to get pain.. for bottoms pain is pleasure.. so sometime it hurts but in a good way we should accept it.. being bottom is not easy..

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Posted On Sep 23, 2021 - 08:37 AM

Yes...ive heard but never tried Aloe Vera gel....i always use ky gel... it's a good lubricant honestly and everytime it's successful since i really have a broad girth *** and many times it really hurts while inserting (for me as well as many of my bottom friends have tight hole and it stretches my foreskin too!) but will surely try Aloe Vera!

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Posted On Sep 25, 2021 - 06:13 AM

Use glycerine stick and lot of kissing and oral sx is good for lubrication. Until and unless you dont enjoy it u can't have painless fck

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Posted On Sep 26, 2021 - 07:49 AM

@karannoidacd kissing & oral *** (or "foreplay") increases lubrication in women. *** is not a place designed for ***, and hence it doesn't lubricate itself.

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Posted On Sep 26, 2021 - 08:09 AM

In fact our *** is an exit not entry....so pain in beginning is quite normal, I guess. Indeed with different available lubs it's workable

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Posted On Sep 26, 2021 - 11:50 AM

A lot of people have already said a lot of things, here is what I did. I'll just say that for a bottom, taking a *** up his *** is not a sprint, but it's a marathon. You need to take slow steps one at a time.
Even I was an amateur bottom once and taking a co ck up in my *** was a humongous deal for me. I tried taking one once and it pained like hell and we had to stop right there itself.
Then I started inserting fingers in my ***. Soon, one finger converted into two, then three, and finally the entire finger.

If you can, invest in a dildo, because I did and believe me you will be addicted to dildos, especially the ones with heavy bottoms. I started inserting dildos in my a with lots of lube. At first, it did not go in easily, but after some efforts, it started sliding in easily. That was it, and I started wearing that glass dildo 24x7 anywhere I went. It just remained in my ***. Try to buy a dildo with heavy bottom as it gives immense pleasure to a bottom.

Now my *** was really open, and taking a *** was no longer an issue. Just make sure that you are calm, and you are a bottom bitch. We are made for taking *** up our ***. Let the top have his way, and be that fuckng *** for him.

I personally love it when my tops rim and lick my *** before *** as it helps me feel more girly. Personal preferences.

These days, I can even take multiple *** one after the other. No issues. Just aspire towards becoming the biggest *** in your city and things would be easier for you.

Signing off.

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Posted On Sep 27, 2021 - 07:35 PM

I would recommend, don't try *** *** on first meeting itself, just try to know eachother. Have some meetings and make some bonding. Meanwhile try to putting your fingers to get some idea, how tight is your hole. Try insert 1 finger, if you feel comfortable put 2 fingers and so on. Also make sure your *** is also clean, it should not contain any dirt inside it. If you are comfortable and wanted to try *** ***, let your partner know that it's your first time, so keep patience while inserting his *** inside. Now put some lubricant on your fingers and put inside your hole to make it loose. If you are ready tell your partner to insert his *** inside your hole slowly. You will fill little pain, but keep calm and try it again. Once you feel that you are able to bear the pain, tell your partner to increase the slowly. I can say you will enjoy this sweet pain and start moaning.

Tip :
1. Always use condoms to reduce the friction.
2. Use Plain Condoms only don't go for dotted or ribbed condoms.
3. Use lubricants only, don't use any kind of oil or Saliva, it will break the condom.
4. Don't try *** in hurry, you will find yourself in pain.
5. Use warm water to clean your *** before and after ***.
6. Try *** atleast once a week for few months, your body will be used to it and you will start enjoying *** from first stroke.

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Posted On Sep 28, 2021 - 12:23 AM

Well said @bustyslit. Taking a *** up the *** is a marathon, a patient and slow processing. Also some tops *** deep from the start itself which is not good. Hitting deep is really painful and many times I had experienced it.Respect your bottoms ***. Feel it's each inch depth.Loosen it up first with slow strokes,dig it up. And then it's ready for any kind of ravaging.Nowadays I sit on top of *** as first position,take charge, loosen my *** up and then let top take charge of my *** in any ways he like.

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Posted On Sep 29, 2021 - 07:32 AM

I've loosen few virgin twinks and vers people who wanted to try as a bottom
Steps are easy
Find a trust worthy/experienced top like me..
I usually do a good foreplay n make bottom comfortable..
Then start rimming him for long
Slowly start fingering with rimming
Then use lub to finger *** n make him comfortable with my finger
Then two fingers
Once it's loosen n he is ready.then gently push *** inside ***
Make him comfortable with *** n then you are on for him

If bottom is opening up his hole for you and you directly put your *** inside him in one shot he won't be ready for *** at all and also painful for him
Tell him not to tight his *** and you should gently push *** n keep looking at his reaction. If he really comfortable then he'll directly take your *** himself only n allow you to pound him.

There will a pain for sure in ***..but that *** pain gives pleasures
Just don't hurt your bottom.

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