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Hi I tried *** for first time and it really hurt and I could not take it in. My partner has a 7 inch but really really thick ***. We used coconut oil but still my *** hurts. Can anyone tell me the best lube or cream to use? Are there any specific positions that help in easy penetration without pain? Please help!

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Posted On Dec 31, 2020 - 12:32 PM

Which is the best lube to use

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Posted On Dec 31, 2020 - 12:58 PM

Try moisturizer and aloe vera gel..

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Posted On Dec 31, 2020 - 01:55 PM

Use gels. Like anesthesia gels. Benefit.for mutually

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Posted On Dec 31, 2020 - 02:49 PM

More than anaesthetic gels it is better to use an actual lube. KY 2% gel is very helpful and a somewhat cost effective option also.
Another thing when receiving it is very important to relax and breathe to relax the *** muscles. I usually take deep breaths like when we do yoga and calm myself, and also open up my anus not just with hands but also apply a little pressure like when we poo. Helps to let the guest in :)

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Posted On Jan 3, 2021 - 06:50 PM

Actually I want to ask the same question in a different way.
Earlier I had *** a couple of elder guys who were very experienced bottoms. I could easily penetrate and had a good *** fun with them.
But recently I had met some first timers and I was unable to insert at all. So what could I do if I want to enjoy *** *** with first timers as well..?

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Posted On Jan 3, 2021 - 08:14 PM

Lube helps a lot. Also helping the bottom relax and take a few deep breaths. If they are nervous or tense their *** muscles will definitely close up. I remember my top was unable to penetrate me during my first time but he told me to breathe, and was very patient with me. He also made sure to use a good amount of lube. If you have time you could start by fingering them and once three fingers comfortably slide in, you can give your *** a try. It will still hurt so just be patient with them :)
Their *** being tight will definitely be difficult for your *** though. The extra tightness might not be very comfortable for you possibly

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Posted On Jan 8, 2021 - 12:57 PM

1. Fingering helps a lot. With proper lube, one finger... slowly two fingers... and three. practice this for sometime.
2. bottom has to be relaxed by any cost. It is pain. But be relaxed. allow the man to enter. relax ur *** muscle. before getting fuc ked, use finger small candles in the night. then go to get fuc ked.
3. top has to be patient and understanding. once everything is settled, *** hole is going to be your playground. allow the bottom to take your di ck slowly.

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Posted On Jan 9, 2021 - 10:57 AM

One has to be very patient when is having *** for the 1st time....so when wants to have *** for 1st time see to it that the top is using proper lubricant and secondly most important is that he bot guy should look out for a Top guy who has experience ...

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Posted On Feb 9, 2021 - 04:53 AM

Always use lube. Ky jelly or plenty of other brands that you get.
If you use an inferior quality lube like coconut oil or Vaseline,
There will be a risk of condom tear and more importantly your anus will be injured for good. If it starts bleeding internally it will cause injury. The you will have to explain to the doctor how this happened.

For first time or penetration after long time, use a toy, lube it nicely and insert it. Make sure the insides of your anus is well lubed before you allow partner to Pentwater

Once lubed, slowly and gently ask your partner to insert the ***. It might hurt initially,. But once inside, take sometime, allow your muscles to relax and then indulge in proper ***.

Also, your position on bed matters. Some may find doggy position comfortable, others may find missionary comfortable.
Find your comfort zone.

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Posted On Feb 10, 2021 - 03:25 AM

*** *** for first timers may be painful if not lubes well...infact good analsex for any bottom would be an orgasm without any stimulation when getting ***....you know you’re going right then when you’re in heaven doing nothing....

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Posted On Feb 10, 2021 - 12:40 PM

So many post here talking about doing it first time. I have also gone under this but my experience is if you have a single partner for longer time and try for *** from the first meeting, it will happen automatic. The top should not push for it from the first meet and the bottom should also take his own time to free the ***. I have spent my time with 2 guys and we *** each other after we were comfortable with each other and each time we end up ***. Just take your time till you are comfortable. Dont look for *** on the first meet, it might be extremely painful

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Posted On Feb 10, 2021 - 01:28 PM

Do lot oral *** before insertion. I had *** with almost 5-6 boys on different ocassions but never had pain issues all of my partner's had good size ***

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Posted On Feb 11, 2021 - 06:43 AM

It depends how the bottom guys is means as me myself being a bottom I took care of myself too much like shaving of unwanted hairs from all body everyday while having shower. And I also use to finger or rub my ***@hole plenty of time so my hole got little bit wider n soft. So for tops it's more easy to get inside me with there saliva only. And before meeting with anyone I use to apply booty butter that brings nice shine n make skine more smooth.so that monster tops workship me more easily n enjoy more.
And this all *** bottom should try.

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Posted On Feb 11, 2021 - 06:54 AM

I use every third day fingring with oil.Ofenly I insert two fingers in my hole n fingering well.some time I use brinjal (vegitable) in my hole n play 5-10 mnt.some time I use candle also.But last month I meet a visitor on grindr he was pure top having big *** size 8"/3".I call himin the evening time n we went to forest side near the road side.I *** his tool .very lovely tool that was.but ve failed to *** my *** hole.becouse his *** was big n hole was right mwhile he use oil n condom also.He tried two time but not success. Even third time he make me doggy style but his *** doesn't enterd.

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Posted On Feb 11, 2021 - 09:23 AM

@love4u515 you should never use oil as a lube with condom. The condom can break and there can be chance of STD or AIDS. When you do not trust somebody and are using condom, please using water based lubes.

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Posted On Feb 12, 2021 - 11:11 AM

In South East Asian countries you get poppers which help bots drastically to relax muscle n also enjoy. Very common practice in Bangkok n Singapore.. but here It's very hard to get poppers.

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Posted On Feb 14, 2021 - 07:13 AM

Same with me too. Many tried, but anus vv tight, when applied lot of 2% gel and with other guy help another guy insertion possible

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Posted On Feb 14, 2021 - 07:58 AM

U needed to Train your anus before the deed...
After fingering, u can start with pens or toothbrushes...gradually increase the size or number of pens...n let it be there so that u can get used to stretching...
But don't inser too deep as it may get lost inside n then u will have to visit the doctor
u can also use *** plugs...start with silicone once n then u can move ontto steel plugs...

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Posted On Feb 14, 2021 - 12:16 PM

First u should train our *** with fingers, but rather using lox 2% , use ky gel it well lubricates the *** after fingering with finger , u should try to insert with some long brinjal wrapped in condom.

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Posted On Feb 14, 2021 - 04:56 PM

First thing to take *** is stay on liquid diet 2 days or 1 day prior to the action.

Use plenty of lube. Apply xylocaine 2% 15 mins before action. It will make your *** a bit numb.

Your partner's action will play a great part in experiencing great ***. He should not be in hurt to ***. Make you relax. Keep your anis relaxed. Finger him first. You keep you *** like you are pushing out. Take or push the pen is bit by bit. Once you are fully in, rest for some time. Once your partner is comfortable, the start the motion slowly. Check your partner's expression and increase the speed.

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Posted On Feb 15, 2021 - 06:34 AM

You don't need to stay on liquid diet to be safe during anl intercourse. Best would be to wash your innards with edema or use the hand faucet to force any remains inside the rectum. Repeat till you see clear water flowing out. Better avoid flatulence foods when you are looking forward to having ***. My two cents!

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Posted On Feb 15, 2021 - 05:26 PM

Can anyone please tell me where can this gel KY 2% gel available in pharmacy in Hyderabad And also the price, any other better lubricant which is better.

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Posted On Feb 15, 2021 - 06:06 PM

Lox2% gel available at all medical stores price is only 32 rs and this is the best gel.

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Posted On Feb 16, 2021 - 07:55 AM

I couldn't find KY but the guy gave me Lubic (pink and white box) ₹105.00. Absolutely amazing. And don't recommend you use any anaesthetic gel; granted *** is painful early on but the pain is your body's way of telling you that you either need to relax or that your partner is being too rough or forceful.

Start off slow and someone did suggest a tooth brush or something similar; smooth, round edged and gradually increase the girth and length as per your comfort. Whatever you use, make sure that it has a flared bottom which would prevent the object from completely entering you. *** and vaginal *** are not the same and if something gets lodged inside you, you're probably going to have to visit a doctor or a hospital to have it extracted.

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Posted On Feb 16, 2021 - 07:57 AM

Oil or vaseline damage most condoms so you need to use water based lubes.

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Posted On Feb 16, 2021 - 08:07 AM

Fingers are definitely the best way to get started; start off with one and then gradually progress to the second or third.

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Posted On May 16, 2021 - 11:46 AM

Correct step, rimming-fingering-***

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Posted On May 16, 2021 - 12:12 PM

Looks like am unique. I am a top, but I do lot of romance and foreplay before a great *** and after a great ***. Most bottoms have told me, they have got *** with several tops, but once ***, they dont even pamper their bottom, this is strange to me. I do lot of pamper to bottoms after a ***.

I seem to be unique because, I being top, I like getting my nipples *** and I *** eat lick nipples like hell (if they are smooth and hairless and tickling). I get my *** balls *** nicely and *** rimmed. And then I start eating bottom nipples, I take lot of lubricants to finger the hole and *** *** ***... i just pump... Am I unique?

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Posted On May 16, 2021 - 02:25 PM

I have seen that when someone rims me nicely my tight hole opens up better and gets ready to take a di ck. Also most guys have told me that thy love rimming me as my pink hole tastes very nice to them and thy then get charged to f uck it hard after thy have eaten it. Also I have noticed that after rim the top lives to generally do hard. I go crazy when someone rims me I moan a lot.

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Posted On May 16, 2021 - 02:33 PM

Oh I would love to help with you that. Look 1st time I had with this guy, he was quite hung 7 inches almost and asked me to sit on his ***. I had no idea about pain and wanted to try so I tried sitting down but the pain was so intense that I had to stand up immediately. It was good that there was no damage in my case but I can assure you without any prep it can be dangerous. So I ordered one butt plug at 1st but the plug has so damn thick it won't go so I thought my money got wasted. Next time I ordered one satisfyr *** kit from one of the Indian site Iambesharam and trained my holes to take it. It was hard without any lube but I tried with moisteuriser cream. After some days I ordered an *** lube and kept training my holes until one night I tried inserting the same previously ordered buttplug. It was tough but after some minor pain I finally could insert it. That's it next time with the same guy I was finally able to do *** and it was so good.

So if you really into it, please try investing in these kits and some lubes and you're good to go.

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Posted On May 16, 2021 - 02:41 PM

Use your own finger first to make the hole loosen and use long egg plant.

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Posted On May 16, 2021 - 06:21 PM

Is using LOX 2 GEL effective
Is there any side effects

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Posted On May 16, 2021 - 06:57 PM

Lox 2 gel is good for *** penetration.... Use it 5 mins before....

Use fingers to lube the *** and finger it.... Then its enjoyable

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Posted On May 17, 2021 - 02:36 AM

For first timers:

1.Train atleast 20 days prior.

2. DO the three routines daily: keigels, buy a dildo with suction cup - practice , keep lubed 24x7 (Lignox 2% is available in all pharmas).

3. Take a pain killer on the day. i suggest ultracet.

All the best, sweetie.

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Posted On May 17, 2021 - 03:41 AM

As far as lubes are concerned do not use any with anaesthetic gel as it numbs the internal rectum so you wouldn’t realise if the insertion is painful and damaging.
Ideally use KY jelly , though more expensive but will keep you safe.

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Posted On May 17, 2021 - 03:52 AM

Use body lotion cream as a lubricant it works as very good lubricant and also doesn't tear the condom.

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Posted On May 17, 2021 - 05:10 AM

i use caster oil before and during *** ***, its super smooth, if you r first timer, try this position for less painful penetration. sit on top's *** (position is similar like how we go potty in conventional toilet), ask the top to lie down in bed and sit on the *** and try to insert the *** into your ***, in this position your *** hole will be naturally widen and its easy for *** to penetrate, make love in this position for one minute than *** hole will be open widely than you can try different positions,

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Posted On May 17, 2021 - 06:03 AM

LOX2% can numb the *** hole and internal organs, is this not also numbing the ***?

I always prefer KY Jelly which is non sticky and smooth... Sometime body lotion (without chemical ones or normal cocount oil) lol

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Posted On May 17, 2021 - 11:27 AM

If it's first time choose small ***.. I also rim and precum on the *** will help.. I always choose the versalite and a rim lover..

Also lubes will help but not that much... Precum is good

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Posted On May 17, 2021 - 03:58 PM

Can anyone suggest how to be bottom without any pain , I am scared of pain and i have a date this week , I know she will demand me to be bottom , She got large weapon, Can anyone suggest the authentic and realistic method to avoid pain and have pleasure, PLEASE NO HOME REMEDIES.

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Posted On May 17, 2021 - 04:08 PM

U can use coconut oil to reduce your pain and having one pain killer i.e. ultracet and enjoy heaven ...tc

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Posted On May 17, 2021 - 04:17 PM

@Softrose Does it mean that do i need to have pain killer before the action , And can anyone recommed any anesthetic jelly which actually works.

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Posted On May 17, 2021 - 05:28 PM

If you use an anaesthetic gel, you can get rid of the pain to some extent but not completely. And can you feel the pleasure since your rectum has been made numb with that gel?

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Posted On May 18, 2021 - 01:44 AM

The amount of pain an individual can bear totally depends on the individual and varies from person to person. So, can't really say if it's bearable for you or not. Sorry about that.

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Posted On May 18, 2021 - 06:45 AM

Rahul vers2.Take a tube of k2gel n condom+coconut or olive oil.insert oil with ffinger in *** hole.put condom on his *** then enjoy.

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Posted On May 18, 2021 - 08:40 AM

Indeed to use KYgel and to sit on the tool of your top is better for beginners . This way you can control the entry as you tolerate. changing angle of entry helps. Try to relax as much as possible and slowly try to take all inn, then relaxed for some time. You can try to start stroking up and down...after a while, you may try other positions... enjoy

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Posted On May 18, 2021 - 04:59 PM

If you really want to have *** without pain, the 1st step should be is to not rush or insert something that could damage your inner linings. The 1st attempt is painful, atleast it was for me because I used to practice on a plug and that was big, however I tried after few cm the pain was so intense that I had to leave practising.

However I was able to insert that after I bought one of the gels I don't remember name atm and I vividly remember it was like a small opening that was hindering the process which when passed through, the toy simply submerged inside and yeah it pained a little but not that much because I had used a lot of lube and was very comfortable during the whole process. I had this mindset if it pained I'm going to leave and try other day but I was totally comfortable which I think helped.

One thing that I noticed was like while inserting you simply try to push your hole like you're going to poop while exhaling at the same time, that helps to loosen up, do that again and again and let the thing slide slowly. Remember when you relax after that it is natural for anus to contract and push in and push ot objects so be careful that whatever thing you have inserted be it *** or plug or an object, few part remains inside.

Honestly there is just one entrance that really hinder the process and once that has been conquered the rest thing goes inside smoothly and like it gets submerged and when you try to pull out that thing it pains but it is pleasurable at the same time.

My advice is just be patient and use lots of lube, I mean lot both inside and at the opening, be calm, relaxed, breathe and let it be slow. It also depends upon the top, if he is understandable and you're comfortable I think it's easy as long as the *** is not too thick.

Yeah the pain is damn intense if you're going to try without any lube or is unprepared. But if leave the pain goes away overnight unless you've damaged yourself.

The whole process ie while you're practising with sth sores your lining but pain goes away next day. Try practising every alternate days to be on safe side.

The best position is to sit on top with top lying comfortably. Now as matter of fact, the top might lose an *** if you're virgin so look for that. And 2nd thing while you're sitting on him you'll have idea about the pain during the process and it's you who would be guiding his *** with your hand and have idea where the actual hole is so top wouldn't have to worry about that. Don't try doggy, it often gets irritated for both the person.

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Posted On May 20, 2021 - 07:28 AM

It's really nice feeling to have something inside..

Use normal daily available things..like brush trimmer cucumber fingures ...also I use to try iserting long cable(mobile charger cable) full inside and then pull it out slowly

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Posted On May 20, 2021 - 01:32 PM

If you want to have a good ***
Don't eat too much before ***, just have little food
Like a juice, n fruits
Clean your *** by douche (search for how to douche with water)
Tell top to rim, make your *** enough wet
Use lubricant to finger your *** gently, this is your partner should do n make you comfortable n loosen your hole n keep it ready
There will be pain for sure but you won't get hurt unless he starts *** you hard directly
Have a gentle ***
Once it's loosen go for hardcore if you want to
Take breaks if it's extremely painful

Choose a right partner first timers or those you are afraid of ***.

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Posted On May 21, 2021 - 03:41 PM

Xylocaine is also very good, to be applied 15mins prior to penetration. As a top I'm always super gentle at the entry.

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