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First time *** - Tips?

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Hi I tried *** for first time and it really hurt and I could not take it in. My partner has a 7 inch but really really thick ***. We used coconut oil but still my *** hurts. Can anyone tell me the best lube or cream to use? Are there any specific positions that help in easy penetration without pain? Please help!

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Posted On Dec 31, 2020 - 12:25 PM

you have to train your anus by introducing your own finger with lubricant oil/vaseline...first one then 2 together and then tree together with small trusting movements simulating *** daily after you pass stool, this helps a lot...and the parner has to be very slow initially when expansion is taking place...sudden thrusts will lead to pain

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Posted On Dec 31, 2020 - 12:32 PM

Which is the best lube to use

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Posted On Dec 31, 2020 - 12:58 PM

Try moisturizer and aloe vera gel..

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Posted On Dec 31, 2020 - 01:55 PM

Use gels. Like anesthesia gels. Benefit.for mutually

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Posted On Dec 31, 2020 - 02:49 PM

More than anaesthetic gels it is better to use an actual lube. KY 2% gel is very helpful and a somewhat cost effective option also.
Another thing when receiving it is very important to relax and breathe to relax the *** muscles. I usually take deep breaths like when we do yoga and calm myself, and also open up my anus not just with hands but also apply a little pressure like when we poo. Helps to let the guest in :)

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Posted On Jan 3, 2021 - 06:50 PM

Actually I want to ask the same question in a different way.
Earlier I had *** a couple of elder guys who were very experienced bottoms. I could easily penetrate and had a good *** fun with them.
But recently I had met some first timers and I was unable to insert at all. So what could I do if I want to enjoy *** *** with first timers as well..?

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caediumn *
Posted On Jan 3, 2021 - 08:14 PM

Lube helps a lot. Also helping the bottom relax and take a few deep breaths. If they are nervous or tense their *** muscles will definitely close up. I remember my top was unable to penetrate me during my first time but he told me to breathe, and was very patient with me. He also made sure to use a good amount of lube. If you have time you could start by fingering them and once three fingers comfortably slide in, you can give your *** a try. It will still hurt so just be patient with them :)
Their *** being tight will definitely be difficult for your *** though. The extra tightness might not be very comfortable for you possibly

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Rum Bun
Posted On Jan 8, 2021 - 12:57 PM

1. Fingering helps a lot. With proper lube, one finger... slowly two fingers... and three. practice this for sometime.
2. bottom has to be relaxed by any cost. It is pain. But be relaxed. allow the man to enter. relax ur *** muscle. before getting fuc ked, use finger small candles in the night. then go to get fuc ked.
3. top has to be patient and understanding. once everything is settled, *** hole is going to be your playground. allow the bottom to take your di ck slowly.

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Posted On Jan 9, 2021 - 10:57 AM

One has to be very patient when is having *** for the 1st time....so when wants to have *** for 1st time see to it that the top is using proper lubricant and secondly most important is that he bot guy should look out for a Top guy who has experience ...

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Posted On Feb 9, 2021 - 04:53 AM

Always use lube. Ky jelly or plenty of other brands that you get.
If you use an inferior quality lube like coconut oil or Vaseline,
There will be a risk of condom tear and more importantly your anus will be injured for good. If it starts bleeding internally it will cause injury. The you will have to explain to the doctor how this happened.

For first time or penetration after long time, use a toy, lube it nicely and insert it. Make sure the insides of your anus is well lubed before you allow partner to Pentwater

Once lubed, slowly and gently ask your partner to insert the ***. It might hurt initially,. But once inside, take sometime, allow your muscles to relax and then indulge in proper ***.

Also, your position on bed matters. Some may find doggy position comfortable, others may find missionary comfortable.
Find your comfort zone.

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Posted On Feb 10, 2021 - 03:25 AM

*** *** for first timers may be painful if not lubes well...infact good analsex for any bottom would be an orgasm without any stimulation when getting ***....you know you’re going right then when you’re in heaven doing nothing....

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Posted On Feb 10, 2021 - 12:40 PM

So many post here talking about doing it first time. I have also gone under this but my experience is if you have a single partner for longer time and try for *** from the first meeting, it will happen automatic. The top should not push for it from the first meet and the bottom should also take his own time to free the ***. I have spent my time with 2 guys and we *** each other after we were comfortable with each other and each time we end up ***. Just take your time till you are comfortable. Dont look for *** on the first meet, it might be extremely painful

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Posted On Feb 10, 2021 - 01:28 PM

Do lot oral *** before insertion. I had *** with almost 5-6 boys on different ocassions but never had pain issues all of my partner's had good size ***

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Posted On Feb 11, 2021 - 06:43 AM

It depends how the bottom guys is means as me myself being a bottom I took care of myself too much like shaving of unwanted hairs from all body everyday while having shower. And I also use to finger or rub my ***@hole plenty of time so my hole got little bit wider n soft. So for tops it's more easy to get inside me with there saliva only. And before meeting with anyone I use to apply booty butter that brings nice shine n make skine more smooth.so that monster tops workship me more easily n enjoy more.
And this all *** bottom should try.

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Posted On Feb 11, 2021 - 06:54 AM

I use every third day fingring with oil.Ofenly I insert two fingers in my hole n fingering well.some time I use brinjal (vegitable) in my hole n play 5-10 mnt.some time I use candle also.But last month I meet a visitor on grindr he was pure top having big Lund size 8"/3".I call himin the evening time n we went to forest side near the road side.I *** his tool .very lovely tool that was.but ve failed to *** my *** hole.becouse his Lund was big n hole was right mwhile he use oil n condom also.He tried two time but not success. Even third time he make me doggy style but his lund doesn't enterd.

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Posted On Feb 11, 2021 - 09:23 AM

@love4u515 you should never use oil as a lube with condom. The condom can break and there can be chance of STD or AIDS. When you do not trust somebody and are using condom, please using water based lubes.

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Posted On Feb 12, 2021 - 11:11 AM

In South East Asian countries you get poppers which help bots drastically to relax muscle n also enjoy. Very common practice in Bangkok n Singapore.. but here It's very hard to get poppers.

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Posted On Feb 14, 2021 - 07:13 AM

Same with me too. Many tried, but anus vv tight, when applied lot of 2% gel and with other guy help another guy insertion possible

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Posted On Feb 14, 2021 - 07:58 AM

U needed to Train your anus before the deed...
After fingering, u can start with pens or toothbrushes...gradually increase the size or number of pens...n let it be there so that u can get used to stretching...
But don't inser too deep as it may get lost inside n then u will have to visit the doctor
u can also use *** plugs...start with silicone once n then u can move ontto steel plugs...

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Posted On Feb 14, 2021 - 12:16 PM

First u should train our *** with fingers, but rather using lox 2% , use ky gel it well lubricates the *** after fingering with finger , u should try to insert with some long brinjal wrapped in condom.

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Posted On Feb 14, 2021 - 04:56 PM

First thing to take *** is stay on liquid diet 2 days or 1 day prior to the action.

Use plenty of lube. Apply xylocaine 2% 15 mins before action. It will make your *** a bit numb.

Your partner's action will play a great part in experiencing great ***. He should not be in hurt to ***. Make you relax. Keep your anis relaxed. Finger him first. You keep you *** like you are pushing out. Take or push the pen is bit by bit. Once you are fully in, rest for some time. Once your partner is comfortable, the start the motion slowly. Check your partner's expression and increase the speed.

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Posted On Feb 15, 2021 - 06:34 AM

You don't need to stay on liquid diet to be safe during anl intercourse. Best would be to wash your innards with edema or use the hand faucet to force any remains inside the rectum. Repeat till you see clear water flowing out. Better avoid flatulence foods when you are looking forward to having ***. My two cents!

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Posted On Feb 15, 2021 - 05:26 PM

Can anyone please tell me where can this gel KY 2% gel available in pharmacy in Hyderabad And also the price, any other better lubricant which is better.

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Posted On Feb 15, 2021 - 06:06 PM

Lox2% gel available at all medical stores price is only 32 rs and this is the best gel.

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Posted On Feb 16, 2021 - 07:55 AM

I couldn't find KY but the guy gave me Lubic (pink and white box) ₹105.00. Absolutely amazing. And don't recommend you use any anaesthetic gel; granted *** is painful early on but the pain is your body's way of telling you that you either need to relax or that your partner is being too rough or forceful.

Start off slow and someone did suggest a tooth brush or something similar; smooth, round edged and gradually increase the girth and length as per your comfort. Whatever you use, make sure that it has a flared bottom which would prevent the object from completely entering you. *** and vaginal *** are not the same and if something gets lodged inside you, you're probably going to have to visit a doctor or a hospital to have it extracted.

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Posted On Feb 16, 2021 - 07:57 AM

Oil or vaseline damage most condoms so you need to use water based lubes.

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Posted On Feb 16, 2021 - 08:07 AM

Fingers are definitely the best way to get started; start off with one and then gradually progress to the second or third.

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