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Hi I tried *** for first time and it really hurt and I could not take it in. My partner has a 7 inch but really really thick ***. We used coconut oil but still my *** hurts. Can anyone tell me the best lube or cream to use? Are there any specific positions that help in easy penetration without pain? Please help!

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Posted On Aug 11, 2018 - 01:37 PM

All the tips are give here for bottoms only....anybody wants to tell any top any tip???

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Posted On Aug 11, 2018 - 02:34 PM

When I was *** first time. We both were in jungle type area at night 8 pm around. first I *** his. then he asked me to lay down. Usne meri legs upar kri and tried to push his *** inside me. M ghar se hi ready ho kar aaya ta..*** clean krke and fingering so that I can become loose at that time. But uski *** wrong direction me ja rhi thi and slip ho rhi thi...I held that and put at right point on my hip hole. and he pushed harder. it suddenly entered inside my *** completely. It was very first time with me. I felt something different. something big thing inside my ***. and that point when i entered thrw my *** hole that moment was enjoyable. then he started his work pull push pull push...wow i was completely in different world..fir usne bahar nikala and put at my lips..his all *** was inside my *** and i took it... At second time I was at sumone's home...first I *** his ***..this time I sat on his *** thrw adjusting my hole with my fingers and took his *** inside my hole and *** myself...then bed cornner pe usne meri leg uthayi and inserted his ***...and this time uska *** easly chala gaya ander...after sumtime he left his come inside my ***..jisse wo slippy ho gaye..after sumtime when he inserted second time wo bahut hi easily ander chala gaya...he *** my 4 to 5 time ...

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Posted On Aug 12, 2018 - 08:45 AM


If a top is *** a bottom in ***, please make sure the top does enough fingering to his ***, using a water based lube (I use Lox).
Keep your nails well trimmed, else it will hurt the bottom.

Make your bot comfortable, so that he accepts your finger. Try not to push at all. If u have used enough lube, finger will slide inside with slight push.
Once you are able to push one finger completely, put little more lube and now work with 2 fingers, first 2 fingers on 1 hand or both first fingers of both hands.
When you use 2 fingers, try to widen your fingers inside his ***, it will make some space inside.. and it will also widen up the *** hole.
I have to do it for sure as my *** is little thick.

Once you notice that the guy is taking both fingers easily... His hole is ready.

While u r fingering him, keep his *** occupied on ur ***.
To keep him calm, if u *** his *** too, in 69, his hole will automatically open... That is why in poems, they show that top guy sucks the *** of bottom while fingering.
If u r ok to rim, then rim his ***, lick, or small chewing... Kissing on his buts...
All these gives pleasure to the bottom, and he starts reciprocating.

Also, never *** a guy who is not interested. If some one allows u to play with his ***, that does not mean he will allow u to *** him too.

Avoid *** too deep, unless ur bottom says... In case of deep ***, the *** hits his intestine walls and that hurts the bottom.

Avoid *** a guy if his *** starts bleeding due to ruptures.
It is risky for him.

Avoid *** a guy if his *** is not clean, u can catch STDs and he too.

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Posted On Aug 12, 2018 - 02:07 PM

I tried *** last week vth all da cautions mentioned..but my a** started bleeding.. even today I feel so painful while doing potty... wish I never tried .. can't express the agony I'm going through...

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Posted On Aug 12, 2018 - 02:23 PM


Sad to hear ur pain. Just visit the doctor and ask for some medicines. I hope it is not bleeding still.

The doctor will give u medicines to get ur skin to heel soon.
And dont worry about what the doctor will say. Just go and tell him truth (u can hide some parts like gay thing). Just tell him that u and ur friend did *** *** for sake of experiment.

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Posted On Aug 12, 2018 - 03:18 PM

About bleeding
Buy lignocane 2%
And put on and inside of ***.
It is made for piles patients. Will give relief and bleeding also will get cure. Dont eat spicy .and never tell truth to your doctor . Just tell him that bleeding is coming from asd

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Posted On Aug 12, 2018 - 05:48 PM

Hi all, I have piles problem but interested in having *** ***. Can I try that please suggest

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Posted On Aug 12, 2018 - 08:29 PM

Guys please be safe while performing *** *** otherwise it can get very critical and put the bottom at lifes risk.
Here are a few tips -
1. Clean *** area and ensure there are no hair there.
2. Very important. Douche your anus. You will get an *** douche or an enema bag in a medical store. This will remove all the feces and ensure clean anus.
3. Again clean tip of anus after douching.
4. This will help to lubricate a little but follow next step.
5. Squat down (like toilet position), Take a lubricant like KY Gel or Durex lubricant, on your middle finger and apply it to the anus. Gently rub it in circles and slowly slide your middle finger in your anus.
6. Move it in and out a little.
7. Remove your finger and squeeze a little bit more gel on your middle finger and put it in your anus again. This will ensure that the whole *** tract is lubricated.
8. Remove your finger squeeze a little bit of lube on your index and middle finger, now insert both fingers into your anus slowly.
9. Move fingers in and out a little.
10. Now your anus is lubricated and ready for fun.
11. Do the above steps yourself so that you are "Safe" and comfortable.
12. Now, ask your top/partner to lie down.
13. Slide a condom over his ***.
14. Squeeze a little lube over his condomed *** and spread it all over the condom.
15. Now gently squat over his condomed *** and allow it to go into your anus a little unitil your tops glans *** is in.
16. Move up and down so it frees your anus.
17. As you move up and down, keep going further down so that his entire *** is in your ***.
18. By now you can squat and move up the complete size of the ***.
19. Do a few strokes and change the position to Doggy.
20. Bend down and put your *** up so that the anus is spread open.
21. Ask your partner to insert and move in and out.
22. By now you and your partner will be enjoy amazing *** ***.
23. Ask your partner to be gentle. The point is to enjoy the sensations for a long time.
24. Increase the speed a little but not too much. Remember its a part of your large intestine, if anything happens to your intestine you'll have to be rushed to the ICU trust me.
25. Tops please be careful too and dont push very hard, it can turn critical.
26. If the *** is very long ask your top/partner to be gentle and stop by putting your hand on his stomach, signalling him that uts deep enough.
27. The max anybodys anus can take is 7 inches (depends on body type).

I hope you find these tips helpful in enjoying a safe *** play.

Love Christian Turner.

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Posted On Aug 16, 2018 - 04:40 PM

I recently took 5 inch cucumber in my *** using lot of vaseline in my ***. It went easily ..does this mean i can take *** without bleeding in my ***?

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Posted On Aug 16, 2018 - 06:41 PM

It means that if your partners *** is as firm as that cucumber, and your partners *** is under ur control as the cucumber was... Then yes u can take ur partners *** up in your *** with equal amount of Vaseline as lube.

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Posted On Aug 18, 2018 - 03:37 PM

I had *** wd my frnd for the first time last month after one weak i am getting pain at opening of *** it starts after going to loo and when iam getting feelings that time also i feel pain there i dont know why it is ...please sujjest me ...wat to do ...when he pushed his *** in mine it's very pain ful his *** head only enters in me ...

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Posted On Sep 5, 2018 - 03:15 PM

Try LOX, LUBIC... These are inexpensive ones. KY is costly.
I will tell you one more name later.

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Posted On Sep 6, 2018 - 07:22 AM

I tried Patanjli Aloe Vera gel on my bottom the plus point of aloe vera gel is tht its water based and its natural and it does not damage the condom also and one bigggest plus point is u can keep it at home as no one doubt also

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Posted On Sep 13, 2018 - 06:01 PM


If you are really a virgin, I suggest you to help yourself first.
Make ur hole loose a little bit. Train it to take the things inside, as of now it is trained to throw the things out only.
Use some water based lube (LOX) and finger yourself often... Once a day... 1 finger then 2 finger then 3...
Once u start feeling OK with 3 fingers.... Use medium side carrot (peeled), medium size cucumber (peeled). Use condom... So that if it goes deep, you can use condom knot to pull it out.
Also don't push it deeper than 5inch.

U have to train ur hole to take 5inch long object which is about of diameter of 1 - 1.5inch.

Once you start taking that and feel ok, then you are ready.
Don't think that regular insertion will make ur hole loose.
Also, remember that a real *** has a mind attached but such fake *** (dildo, cucumber, carrot) don't have.
So never let ur top to overpower you, he will certainly hurt u if he is not patient while ***. Make sure he inserts slowly like 0.5inch in first min and so on... And then once deep in, still his movements are not fast.
To keep the thing under control, make him lay down, protect his dicm using condom, now lube it well, keep ur hole also lubed well.
Now sit on his *** pointing the *** on ur hole. Slowly sit on his *** in a way that ur hole start gulping his *** slowly.
It would be still painful... But then bear it if u really wanna get ***.
Don't get *** under influence of drugs or alcohol or any other nasha.

I hope you enjoy your first insertion.

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Posted On Sep 18, 2018 - 04:31 AM

not sure if it worked just for me or for all.when ur guy is about to drill you he needs to lick ur nipple and kiss you well and simultaneously he should rub his *** head over your hole.this way we get a kind of belief on him and our *** muscles losen to accept his tool.
Remember:*** needs mental coordination more than physical

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Posted On Sep 18, 2018 - 05:31 AM

Agree with u Sharif.
I often play with my bots unless they are really in heat.
Even when I am about to insert, I kiss them, I lick their nipples.... Look directly in the eyes of the guy... Look gently... Look at him with love and passion... Not with anger or like a top...

And then u will see he will surrender himself to you...
Once in, his muscles will loosen up well. Wait till that moment... Now u will have sheer pleasure.. and so ur bot.

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Posted On Sep 18, 2018 - 05:35 AM

If carrot is hurting u, try smaller carrot, thinner one.. and don't push it deep... And go slow... May be like 5inch of carrot in 5 minutes... Give 1 min for each inch...
When u feel pain, apply more lube on ur carrot and on ur hole..
Without lube, don't try even the carrot or finger.
Soap lather is also good but that gives u burning sensation inside.
So use oil or Vaseline or Aloe vera gel or water based gel when you are playing with objects like cucumber carrot etc.
Don't go for wooden objects, glass bottles, or anything like that.
Vegetables are best things to practice.

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Posted On Sep 18, 2018 - 06:16 AM

I used the backside of a tooth brush...i soaped my hole n brush..inserted it half way and was able to train my hole before a hard ***...smoother than veggies i hope

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Posted On Sep 18, 2018 - 06:26 AM

Toothbrush was the first object in my gloryhole, I used it from backside while having shower without any soap or smoothening material. You have to make sure it is not ripped from the handle, otherwise it may tear your inner skin when it has a friction. It initially hurt a little but then the in-out thingy got common and it opened up my hole, after which I tried using 2 fingers. But I have experienced that if you stop doing this for long time, the muscles will become stiff and it'll be difficult yet painful when you have one.

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Posted On Sep 19, 2018 - 02:47 AM

Half the battle is won if you like the top, if you're emotionally comfortable with him entering you and you're sexually aroused by him. After that you can follow all the preceding information about fingering, lubing and what not. Don't get *** by someone you don't like, just because you've heard from others how awesome a feeling it is to get ***. You may not understand it, but that's pretty much close to sodomy.

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Posted On Sep 19, 2018 - 03:03 AM

first thing which i put in my *** hole was a pen , it was nice going in and coming outttt...

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Posted On Sep 19, 2018 - 06:01 AM

Yes very true
My first time was with a stranger. But he was so good and aroused me so high that the pain got very little.
Only at the start it will be there. But from there if you accept the insertions you will enjoy

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Posted On Dec 4, 2018 - 01:33 PM

I tried it first time years ago.. where my friend want to *** me .. I had severe pain .. i said no to him.. he was upset. After that I never tried *** .. I actually enjoy watching *** ***. But Pain is really scaring me to take it inside

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Posted On Dec 4, 2018 - 04:39 PM

@dirtypig788 try having a lot of fore play ... Using a good lube in abundance and having the guy finger U a little first and slowly enter you a bit by bit... Once Ur hole adjusts and opens... U will urself beg to be banged hard and fast n love it

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Posted On Dec 4, 2018 - 06:58 PM

@sumone do you know any good lube that's easily available?

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Posted On Dec 4, 2018 - 07:05 PM

Ky jelly

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Posted On Dec 4, 2018 - 07:20 PM

Thanks buddy. Is that the name of a brand? And can I find it in any chemist shop in bangalore?

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Posted On Dec 4, 2018 - 08:33 PM

Yes that's the name of lubricant ...you can get it in any chemist store

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Posted On Dec 4, 2018 - 08:39 PM

KY can be a costly one...

LOX costa Rs40, and has same effect and same quantity.
And it is not INFAMOUS like KY and infact it is medical lubricent, used by doctors during devtao examination or during endoscopy.
So no chemist will RAISE EYEBROWS if u ask for LOX.

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Posted On Dec 5, 2018 - 02:15 AM

1st time *** is always going to b very painful so for that one has to b mentally prepared themself for pain..but b4 meeting ne one one sud prepare themself one sud use proper anima to clean the *** and if u r planning for a *** *** use *** toys to open up ur hole and if it's not possible for you to get *** toy then u can use small cucumber to insert in ur ***...but dont forget to clean the cucumber and if possible roll a condom over cucumber the reason is in case it breaks the cucumber wont get stuck in ur *** once u make ur *** open up then u r ready for *** and try to meet a experienced top guy for ur 1st *** experience and use a water based lube it will ease the penetration

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Posted On Dec 5, 2018 - 05:13 AM

I think instead of getting ***, if you get inserted on your own in woman on top position, provided your partner is hard enough to take pressure of your efforts to get him inserted in you, it will be easy. Because in this position you are in control of pain and you try to expand your whole maximum possible easily...once it's inserted, then it's easy for your partner to make movement without giving you pain...it's experience...

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Posted On Dec 5, 2018 - 05:23 AM

MAN2PLEASE_U@@ U r right. bottom should be on top initially. once it's comfortable then u can try other positions.

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Posted On Dec 5, 2018 - 05:43 AM

To make my *** ready for *** i first used to use vegetables . Then i bought a proper butt plug and thngs changed . I used to insert it in my *** and keep it for hours. It made me feel cool and also made my *** ready fr ***. Bcoz of it now i cn hve *** *** whenver i want . No matter how big the *** is and no matter where i wnat to hve my *** ***. We all get tops outside for quicky but many bottom only *** them but cnt gt *** as their *** nt ready . I use butt plug daily fr 1 hr atleast thts why if i wnt to hve quicky my *** always ready fr it . Best way fr bottom to train their *** for their tops ***. Bcoz we bottom nt complt unless we gt *** by our tops. *** us makes them top and geting *** by them makes us bottom .

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Posted On Dec 5, 2018 - 06:01 PM

@lips4hugepoles ... There are Durex, Kamasutra, moods and few other lubes which are easily available at your local chemist. You can also order them easily online from sites like cilory.com, Amazon n healthkart to name a few

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Posted On Dec 5, 2018 - 06:09 PM

These lubes are even available in various flavours ... Personally I love the mint n menthol ones as they feel tingly n Supa cool

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Posted On Dec 6, 2018 - 04:42 AM

@sumone2be - i wonder why they are flavoured. It's not like anyone would put it in the ***

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Posted On Dec 6, 2018 - 06:42 AM

hi all i m pure bottom and i have had *** 10-15 times *** *** with the gap of 1years and may be some months..but i feel very pain when tops put his *** inside me..plz can any one say why this is??

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Posted On Dec 6, 2018 - 09:15 AM

Thirty bottom - have *** *** frequently or if possible daily. Then only u can enjoy ***. If u do after a long period of time then it will pain like hell.

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Posted On Dec 6, 2018 - 09:32 AM

@lips4hugepoles ... They are oral safe ... But the menthol or mint flavour really help with an amazing tingly feeling while being *** or ***

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Posted On Dec 6, 2018 - 09:40 AM

Any tips for *** without a condom? I have been having *** with a guy regularly we both want to try it out without a condom,but I don't want any sh*t on my di*k or on my hand when I finger him,help guys.

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Posted On Dec 7, 2018 - 11:16 AM

@dingdong. Well said,. Life is far more precious than few minutes of pleasure. There are many folks like Exotic1234 and Sasmanthu have reiterated in many posts about the enjoyment pleasure with safety. Let's be safe and live the moment. Cheer guys

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Posted On Dec 7, 2018 - 05:54 PM

@pranav they're referring to the hiv samples. When it comes to poo just ask your bottom to either fast for a few hours, or better ask him to take an enema. You won't get any dirty stuff on your *** or hands that way

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Posted On Dec 8, 2018 - 04:43 AM

Thanks guys for your comments and advice,will play safe.

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Posted On Feb 9, 2019 - 01:38 PM

Clean ur *** hole with warm water for few minutes. Slowly push ur one finger at the hole side slowly then later move inside ur hole. Subsequently, 2 fingers if u can. *** urself with fingers then u can go further.
No bleeding, no pain. Enjoy.
Having decade experience of *** *** holes and to be *** for sometime, but now i enjoy *** only.

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Posted On Feb 11, 2019 - 02:39 AM

The first time I took was my cousin Brothers big,hard,hot *** inside my virgin teen *** but then he had spend a hour tickling my hole with his fingers n spit and touching his *** on my hole. I just wanted him to insert

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Posted On May 21, 2019 - 05:46 PM

When *** is pushed inside, try to force your *** push out as you do it during defecation. This way *** enters easily inside hole. But warm up your hole with fingers initially. And apply lots of lubes..clean the rectum well with water before.

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Posted On May 22, 2019 - 02:42 AM

@Rabhu, i believe that the nature gave the man an *** hole only to throw out excreta. It's all together a different thing that the *** hole used for annal ***. I don't know if any other species on the earth do it. Yet I will not say that annal *** is unnatural. Those who have predilection for *** *** must certainly do it as you will see that for many it is a fetish.

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Posted On May 22, 2019 - 02:52 AM

@manpuruhparas You may be right but you should even watch animal kingdom, where monkey, horse, dogs etc do have *** *** on this earth , please watch them.

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Posted On May 22, 2019 - 04:38 PM

During *** *** doggy posse is best. First fingering should be done with lubricant.then penetration should be done slowly in two three attempts.Each time more lubricant should be used. I have get ,9 inch long 3 inch thick in this way. Good luck.

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Posted On May 23, 2019 - 12:58 AM

Position is entirely person specific.. Everyone feel comfortable in different.
But to begin with.. Have ample of foreplay. Ask ur top guy to be little slow. I prefer to sit on ***..so i can control the penetration time n length.. Keep it in.. Then start strocking gradually. Once canal is open.. U can go ahead..

Btw durex massage is costly but it is amazing..

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