Hi I tried *** for first time and it really hurt and I could not take it in. My partner has a 7 inch but really really thick ***. We used coconut oil but still my *** hurts. Can anyone tell me the best lube or cream to use? Are there any specific positions that help in easy penetration without pain? Please help!
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Sleepymood | Posted On Sep 29, 2021
Almost all the ways of making *** has been told by everyone, I have one more tip, try pushing from inside just like how you push hard stools it'll expand and relax the spincters, usually anything inserted inside the *** makes our spincter contract and pull it inside to protect when you try the pushing it'll relax... At the same time follow everything which is already discussed |
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tasteme2021 | Posted On Sep 29, 2021
Nice Thread
X is an ART , Don't Draw the Art with Blood , Play Gentle
When Bottom get Hurt ? When he feel discomfort ?
Bottom will worry about 2 main thing
First *** will dirty or not
Second thing *** get tare and will be bleed
Let me give tips for that...
im top so always Make my bottom ensure about his *** s Clean or not, Ask him to Clean his stomache everything
While doing cleaning a** hole get relaxed then he will that confident about *** won't get Dirty
Let come to second point :
Which is in top hand , top make his btm Relax , Make his bottoms' confortable to allow our ***
Before going to Pound we should L!ck n make his *** relax , then muscle will be relaxed
We often have to say "Buddy will allow me dr please?, Will u allow me dr ?" "Just Relax ur muscles, calm ur organ , i wont hurt u baby"
while using those statement Bottom get more confortable with u , Btm start to trust top n feel relax n give his *** hole to top to get f**K ...
Once we inserted both should come to confortable Zone.. then go with flow ....
this is want my tips for All of u guys
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Young4matur | Posted On Jan 15, 2023
My suggestion to you all who want to become bottom n enjoy first make ur mind clear what u need then go for it and try to feel the things not like they will hurt u .
Best suggestion is that pick one person who loves u and will not hurt u then go *** with him. Do voshing we'll be with lubricant on first time and enjoy the time with ur loved one depends on you how u want.
Again make clear mind what u want and get ready for that mentally. It is enjoying then other things |
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Guy27bi | Posted On Jan 15, 2023
Guys there's a very less talked about thing for *** *** , we all know how lubes are a very essential part, just as important is relaxing ur ***.
When u r trying fingering or ***, just try to relax your *** and back. Take some deep breaths and completely relax your body first, then try lubes and start ***.
Take your time to relax, find patient partners if its your first time, and don't be scared.
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Biggapetwink | Posted On Jan 15, 2023
If you're a natural bottom you'll find it easier to relax and derive pleasure from the penetration. But sometimes you need a little training before like most things in life.
Getting used to the feeling of being filled up could take some time getting used to.
Try an *** plug for this. They come in all shapes and sizes, pick whatever you're comfortable with. Lots of lube and practice with it and you'll feel ready for your real experience where you don't control the pace. |
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fifty | Posted On Jan 16, 2023
The top also enjoys as much as the bottom, may be more. Shouldnt he also put some efforts and time and help the bottom guy relax and prepare for the entry? |
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Sahaisab | Posted On Jan 16, 2023
@fifty it depends, in my case he was quite cooperative spent lot of tine to relax me and lubed me very nicely. He was not at all in hurry and we had a very good time till 5 am. |
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Verstpbtm | Posted On Jan 16, 2023
For those bottom struggling to take it inside... Well indeed it's tough to start but once you get a hook of it, that's a cake walk. Just like everything needs a preparation, this too. Not just once, but every time you get laid.
Even I struggled and use to back off with in few secs due to initial pain but now, I know how to handle the biggies. Here is how I started nd how I prep evey time I meet a top.
Well, there is nothing comes close to being clean, that includes cleaning ur *** hole, perhaps a little inside too. The best way to do is using your toilet spray gun (health positive). Apply some loation to hole, take the gun and gently insert in the hole with water running inside. Hold the water and release it pressure. To it 2-4 till the dirt is cleaned. This way, it's clean and hole is somewhat prepared to things from outside. Not recommended for frequently but yes once in a while, it good thing.
Next, give a nice lube, even good body loation can do the job. Apply a some amount of loation inside your *** cheeks 15 20 mins before u get laid. This smoothens the surface. Best recommendations, be clean, shave your ***, privates, gives better feel, better reach to top.
Next to take it inside your ***, first few strokes are key and as a bottom should control that. Hold the ***, slowly insert inside the *** and gradually take it inside. You need not take entire think inside to start, just few inchs so your mind is relaxed nd *** gets comfortable taking it. Best position, you can sit on top nd control the strokes. Once your comfortable , u can submit to your top. This how I started nd even today I follow that. Best feeling, shave ur privates, ***, be clean nd remember to use condoms. Care ur skin nd use loation to maintain. |
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Sunpat | Posted On Jan 16, 2023
@Verstpbtm
Very nicely explained. I just want to add that when using spray.... please check that pressure is not too much and use spray for few seconds only, Do not force water inside for long initially, until you get the judgement. |
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Verstpbtm | Posted On Jan 16, 2023
@ Harry @vineer..Thanks
@Sunpat, Agree nd True, water pressure to be adjusted, some guns release water like fire engine 😜. Missed mentioning it in earlier post.
Also, not take water too deep. Just the enough level to clean the dirt. |
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wish_u | Posted On Jan 16, 2023
Bottoming is pleasure if u have feeling of little bit submission with ur top. My first *** *** happened that way without any practice or preparation, I was so attracted and horney with that guy, i wanted him inside and it happened. I enjoyed it too because it was very short duration within few strokes he finished. After this I tried many times but was not even able to get penerated, even after penetration I was not able to sustain the strokes. So, from my experience I realised bottoming needs practice for both penetration and strokes. I used objects first to start feel the sensation of *** pleasure. I practiced for penetration and strokes both. When u do *** masterbation u control everything, but when u bottom pleasure depends upon tops skill too. As mentioned above how much relax feeling he gives you, if he is caring, he will keep asking u wheater ur enjoying or not and will adjust postion and strokes according.
If u wanna try first time just start with solo. Explore the pleasure yourself first. Learn to relax ur *** muscles. And use only water based lube without anaesthetic/ numbing ingredients. Even aloe vera gel can be a good lube ( i personallylike it), it's very soothing and good for skin.
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Neeta | Posted On Jan 16, 2023
Good tips. I know someone mentioned using moisturizer or oil to lube. In my opinion buy a lubricant meant for *** ***. Durex has one that costs less than 500Rs that will last you months. The lubricant needs to be waterbased. Oil based lubricants cause burst condoms, a risk you don't want to take. |
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Roykhannaa | Posted On Jan 20, 2023
First time having *** *** and foreplay depends more on the Top partner to make his Bottom partner feel less pain, be patient, give smooth strokes, and making the experience more pleasured.. obviously bottom has his roles to play too like trusting his top partner, being ready for the happy pain for a while and playing along..
Its all about 2 individuals mutual understanding.. but if the Top is well experienced.. its golden..
I wonder if i will find such Top experienced partner!! |
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Radha_CD | Posted On Jan 24, 2023
It depends on ur partner's ***. if it is thick *** i suggest u to use gels like Intimify. If it is average which is the best for the first timers you can tell him to spit on ur *** and fingure it a couple of time and spit his *** too. Then it will be easy to enter.
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vineet69 | Posted On Jan 24, 2023
Correct, it's better to go with an experienced TOP initially and then can go with rough guys eventually |
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minnathon | Posted On Jan 24, 2023
Interesting thread... thought I should share my experience. I have had *** with cds transexual and women . But in all one thing os common...dont be in a rush for *** penetration have patience. Lubes are fine but its important that your partner is comfortable with you and that happens only when u have multiple sessions together. The anus when aroused becomes loose and changes shape so its easier to penetrate. Do it when that happens. Try to force even with lube ita not a pleasent experience. Spend lots of time foreplay with tongue and finger. ...patience guys is the key to great *** |
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VibgyorFun | Posted On Jan 24, 2023
use lox get . its available in every pharmacy . its a local anaesthetic gel you dnt get any pain . |
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Jinu5056 | Posted On Sep 2, 2023
I had my first *** ....it was done by a psycho...he put four fingers inside me....and it cut my *** ....now even after 9 days ....I still have pain in my *** .....what should I do |
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Iamprincy | Posted On Sep 2, 2023
@jinu...
Apply anovate cream for 3 times a day it's for internal and external use also..
Take hot water therapy... Wet a small napkin or hankie in hot water nd keep it there for external use...
It gives good relief |
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tasteme2021 | Posted On Sep 2, 2023
X is an ART , Don't Draw the Art with Blood , Play Gentle
IF bottom feel discomfort he will get hurt
So we should make him mentally n physically pepared
Even though POWER BTM Expect first *** should be show n gentle
Once we came to comfortable zone - even virgin wish to prlong that session
Bottom Always worry about 2 main thing
1st : If *** get Dirty that will be embaressed with top
2nd :If top *** hard *** will be tared n get bleed
so solution for the pbm
Let me give tips for that...
im top so always Make my bottom ensure about his *** s Clean or not, Ask him to Clean his stomache everything
While doing cleaning a** hole get relaxed then he will that confident about *** won't get Dirty
Let come to second point :
Which is in top hand , top make his btm Relax , Make his bottoms' confortable to allow our ***
Before going to Pound we should L!ck n make his *** relax , then muscle will be relaxed
We often have to say "Buddy will allow me dr please?, Will u allow me dr ?" "Just Relax ur muscles, calm ur organ , i wont hurt u baby"
while using those statement Bottom get more confortable with u , Btm start to trust top n feel relax n give his *** hole to top to get f**K ...
Once we inserted both should come to confortable Zone.. then go with flow ....
this is want my tips for All of u guys |
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Mohit_chahal | Posted On Sep 2, 2023
I tried *** for first time and I got rashes around my ***..is it normal?
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Iamprincy | Posted On Sep 2, 2023
@ vinod... If any one have piles nd the trying to be a bottom nd get ***....it's will be hell pain for them... Even I suggest if any one one have health related issues of piles r any thing related to *** way don't even try to be bottom... |
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tasteme2021 | Posted On Sep 2, 2023
#mohit please check with Doctor if u tried BB else no issues it wil be mild skin allergy
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twink4Eva | Posted On Sep 2, 2023
@jinu please go to any doctor. Because of poop coming in touch with your open tear there are high chances of infection. Don't worry the doctor can't understand about *** *** if you tell him that it happened after passing very hard stools. Anyway doctors don't judge |
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oh_desi_guy | Posted On Sep 2, 2023
@jinu if the tear is inside your ***, please get it checked by a doctor. If you get an infection, you will end up in an hospital.
@mohit no, its not normal. At a minimum, please get an STD test. There are STDs like herpes etc which are spread even when using a condom (refer to https://www.better2know.co.uk/blog/3-stis-you-can-catch-even-if-you-use-a-condom/) |
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Manshish | Posted On Sep 3, 2023
Just sharing my experience as a teen, I was 17 years old... (Time when internet was only at cybers) In my early days of curiosity about knowing self.
Hand an encounter, first one in life and he said he would ***. I had no clue a man can get ***... He quickly turned me and inserted. I started bleeding a lot, saw a doc along with mom, luckily doc did not ask anything and gave a tube. It did not fix the problem and i bled for 10 years plus. Thank God, I'm fine now and it got fixed on its own. I never visited doc again or had anyone with whom I could discuss the incident. Don't know if such forums existed, but thanks guys for sharing ur knowledge with people. |
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Manshish | Posted On Sep 3, 2023
I just told mom that I'm losing a lot of blood in stool, she took me to the doc and he said, there are multiple cuts.... It was a nightmare for me to go to the washroom, too painful and all blood.... |
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Akshay99 | Posted On Sep 4, 2023
First time for anyone, they should use KY Jelly along with some fingering as it will relax the *** muscle and once the person is comfortable with more fingers inside, after that *** penetration becomes very easy and pleasurable…..remember lots of lubrication is the key… |
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Akshay99 | Posted On Sep 4, 2023
If any injury or pain or bleeding please get immediate medical help. Doctors also understand that gays have urges and need to have *** and injuries happen too so without any guilt and shame go to one if accidents happen |
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Adhan | Posted On Sep 4, 2023
I have to share my very first experience from 2019. I was sexually attracted to a mature guy of 43 yrs old, he had a thick *** (uncut). We had encountered many times as he used to stay alone near my house & I used to visit him when alone. Initial days we use to sleep naked, take shower, bjs & so on. One fine day we took shower & I was *** & asked him if he could *** inside me. I was young 21yrs back then, it was my first *** though, he took a body wash liquid & applied gently over my ***, gave a motorboat for almost 15 20 mins & my *** cheeks were relaxed, butt hole was also soft that he was easily able to insert 3 fingers. I didn't knew that gel could act like a lube but it really worked, I bent over down & he slowly got into me. That was the best day, it did pain at first but as my butt hole was relaxed it never felt like pain.
Ensure you're relaxed, talk to your partner how you feel, take your time it can take an hour to be relax but take your time. I still practice the same way but with well scented lube from durex with my current partner. Apply as much as you can & enjoy days & night with your loving partner! |
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Curiousman | Posted On Sep 4, 2023
@Adhan, what lube is it. Can you mention the namenof that well scented durex lube. |
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Roykhannaa | Posted On Sep 5, 2023
Hey
I have tried a medium thick hair roller comb rare ended. It looks like a medium sized dildo. I applied Vaseline on the dildo shape and in my virgin *** hole using middle finger. The roller literally went completely inside, almost till the roller part (i.e. 3 to 4 inch). I never had inserted anything, prior to that. As i was high and drunk i took it in one breadth, and later took out pushed in, again took out pushed in, and *** my virgin hole with it till i came.
This was my first *** experience!!
Its fun and safe!!
I do it whenever i am alone! |
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Anonymous23 | Posted On Sep 5, 2023
can I *** my *** with cucumber using oil and condom?? Is it safe or not ??? |
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Devbottom | Posted On Sep 5, 2023
U can use cucumber but, if it's break inside u then it's going to beg problem for u. |
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Srikanth777 | Posted On Sep 5, 2023
Cucumber is safe.. But it should be thick.. Then it will not break.. Try...Bitter guard..( it's thick and rough) carrot..
If possible with ur trimmer.. By using candom.. So that it will not hurt..
I tried.. Broom stick reverse.. And body spray reverse.. |
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Srikanth777 | Posted On Sep 5, 2023
I use.. Coconut oil and vasiline and my saliva and pre *** to wet my *** hole and make it loose...
Though I insert many things in my *** hole daily..
But every first time it will be tight... I will start with my finger only first.. Later end with many things.. Depends up on the mood.. Recently tried beer bottle.. Not fully but 30% went in.. |
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Akshay99 | Posted On Sep 6, 2023
If anyone is inserting any cucumber or vegetable please insert them in a condom and then use so it doesn’t disintegrate. Also use smooth surfaces to avoid injury which takes years to heal. The sweet pain that you get normally is the the prostate stimulation which is very pleasurable. |
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Jeetbot1991 | Posted On Sep 8, 2023
The best thing to do before *** is douching. Few hours before *** you can use warm water and mild soap to clean the colon and then apply lube by fingers. During *** the top needs to be slow while inserting at first and the bottom needs to open up by applying pressure as if pooping to relax and open the hole. Once its in you can wait for a few seconds to adjust and then the top can begin with slow strokes. Then the bottom can get into the rhythm and start pushing back when the top thrusts, this will for sure make the tops *** hit your gspot or prostate which may make you feel like u need to pee, but if you push through that its the best feeling in the world |
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Rajcute | Posted On Sep 8, 2023
Yes go to doctor. It’s best. Search online best sti docs and visit as they don’t knw u. No issues of confidentiality also. But visit and start treatment. doctors don’t judge. They will treat |
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FunFreeVers | Posted On Sep 8, 2023
First of all, insert the hand shower 🚿, let water fill up your *** completely, within few seconds you will flush all water out. Do this for 8-10 times. This will clean the inside area, than sleeping in missionary position(lying on your back) take both legs near to your chest, like female, now ask your partner to put coconut oil on the crack, slowly massage with little pressure, than insert finger in-out, each time partner pushing in taking completely out your *** will start relaxing as it's *** is *** partner's finger. Slowly insert two than three fingers, you open up your *** freely, respond without feeling shy. Now apply oil on partner's ***, same way like finger, slowly push only *** head inside, take out,put in. Do this till your *** turns into ***. Enjooooy... |
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Intenseex | Posted On Oct 9, 2023
amazing thread, i have one major concern. so my hole is superrrrrrrr tight. and even after fingering, rimming and using mad amount of lube it has always been a next to impossible process for me to loosen up. the pain is unbearable. i even showed it to a doctor and was suggested that the only thing i can do is practice to relax.
i have bottomed only twice till now and i make sure the colon is clean inside and out. with proper use of douching and everything. but when the guy is thrusting i feel a very weird sensation as if i am gonna poop even though i know i dont have too, and that fear makes me scared so i have to stop ultimately. no matter how much lube i use, i always find a burning sensation while doing it. i dont find it pleasurable at alllll.......... and i need to learn for the kind of men i need,
Need MAJORRRRRR help by someone who is a pro and know exactly how can i overcome this tightness and that sensation. |
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kundisugam13 | Posted On Oct 9, 2023
@intenseex your problems seems to be purely mental. Unless you can find some way to relax, *** is never gonna be pleasurable for you. My suggestion would be to use toys yourself before getting a d**k. You have the full control when it's only you. Try out things and know how your a** behaves when something is going on and out. |
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Andekafunda | Posted On Oct 9, 2023
I had done *** first time 4 years i was fearing alot, used lox and lube, suddenly *** was able to enter inside, felt awesome during ***, the guy did twice and i enjoyed too. After *** i came and the orgasm was awesome. But afterwards it pained alot while pooping. Does it happen with everyone??
Also nowadays i tried few days before i was unable to take *** inside it was paining. |
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Intenseex | Posted On Oct 9, 2023
thannnnnnnk god...the amount of ppl who have msgd me saying they face the same thing too, i am overwhelmed and feel like am not alone. heheheh. but yes i do agree with rajcute and a few other, one of the major reason is purely mental. What kundisangam13 is suggesting is something a few ppl told me so am very eager on trying a few toys and get my *** accustomed to things going in and hopefully that weird sensation that i wanna poop might go away with practice. |
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Intenseex | Posted On Oct 9, 2023
i read about someone showing handshower/jetsprays in their bumhole......! thats madnesssssssss firstly you shoudnt do that and in some cases ff you are doing it i hope the flow of water is the slowestttttttt possible cause even a tiny little scratch can be fatal. there are very good chances of the membrane tear and what not. basic anema kits are available at all counters and if anyone travels outside india you can get douche pumps as well. |
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Rajcute | Posted On Oct 9, 2023
It also depends on how the top is. Both the times I got f ucked , the top was very very experienced. One took a lot of time putting water first so everything gets cleaned. Then nicely lubticating hole by a proper medical gel. Then slowly did but entered fully.2nd one rimmed me for almost an hour and then again used nicely gel and slow with every stroke. And then once in he rammed me. |
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rakeshBotLove * | Posted On Oct 10, 2023
If you want to exp good *** and a nice *** then don’t go in bed just by thinking of *** in ***… love that person romance with him fall for him and ur door will get open for him.. kiss him deep let him lick u all over and slowly unknowoning let him go in and take him in…. U will forgot what is happening and u will enjoy him in ur heart and in ur mind when he is in ur hole … enjoy by considering he is urs |
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Adhan | Posted On Nov 9, 2023
@Curiousman, the lube was from durex's, 'Durex Play Perfect Glide ' |
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Daddy_love | Posted On Dec 4, 2023
Keep it basic.
Before action make sure you are clean as it will be turn off ..
During *** for first timers
1.lube it properly my personal fav is Patanjali alovera gel,
2. Insert fingers one , slide slowing in out
3. Just try to insert tip( this is important as most TOp here don’t have control at this point and then usually make thrust which is wrong )
4. Keep you tip in and pull out for 5/6times just slowly tip in and then out
5. Now try to instert more slowly the moment your bottom. Say it’s hurting hold
That position don’t pull and don’t push hold there automatically it get relaxed and then pull out same again .. in 5/6 such slow I insert and pull bottom get the habit of that pain .. usually this is thershold and once achieve slowly your bottom partner will start enjoying.
Mark my word slow and holding inside is the key , I *** many old men who was Top and tried as bottom for first time and when I play bottom I take charge of the control
Remember most TOP thrust in 1/2 tried as they don’t have such control whivh give unbearable pain and some time black out
I had blackout two times when my Top men won’t go as per plan.. so play safe rectum opening have many nerve than anyone can imagine
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urfavbtm | Posted On Dec 6, 2023
@daddy_love such a nice explanation
I would like to add for bottom, take sufficient and deep breathe as this will relax ur body and *** muscles
Perfect rhythm will be as below
Main point : lube ur *** properly
1) Hold the breath
2) relax ur *** muscle and give pressure ur on rectum opening as u pooping out, this will open ur hole
3) tell ur top to push slowly while u do this
Keep a signals for understanding
As I keep open fist for stop
And close fist for push in
Once u both get the rhythm, sky is limit
For position i recommend first timer to do in prone bone *** position,it's best to get proper access
Special mention if u can, buy good buttplugs and *** widener is good investment
I usual prime my *** with 3inch butt plug, this will enhance the pleasure. |
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