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Hi I tried *** for first time and it really hurt and I could not take it in. My partner has a 7 inch but really really thick ***. We used coconut oil but still my *** hurts. Can anyone tell me the best lube or cream to use? Are there any specific positions that help in easy penetration without pain? Please help!

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Posted On May 23, 2019 - 04:12 AM

My first time *** was no pain. The guy who *** applied this gel on my *** . It's called lox 2% jelly. No pain nothing at all. Do check it out

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Posted On May 23, 2019 - 07:09 AM

Lox 2% gel has anesthetic property. It must have numbed your anus joe_666. Did your partner applied gel only to the *** hole or lubed your rectum too? Were you able to feel the erotic sensation throughout the intercourse?

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Posted On May 25, 2019 - 03:02 AM

Lox 2% is good but since it is Anastetic u wont feel pain if there is small tear in ***.. U will continue and later after words ur will get minor fissure.
Better use proper lube. It helps a lot. *** sildes in smoothly n then u can continue. Gradually build up hard *** sessions.

Ur top partner need to be bit patient. N let it pain a bit coz it is indicator to stop or change positions.

I use 2% lox while cleaning ***..coz need to clean internally. I don't like his *** gets dirty. Then wash it. N again apply lube.

My partner used to like rimming as well. So if im using 2% lox, it will numb his *** too.

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Posted On May 25, 2019 - 05:02 PM

One who wanna try bottoming.

Very first thing that matters is PASSION to become bottom. Guy who sucks deep throat with no teeth intervention and enjoys each sec when he was handed with deserved *** said to be a man with passion to *** well and yes, he must not be limited only with *** but extends his move with balls too (refer some perfect bottom vids who is very great at ***)! It's just same as that.

Just like bottom should have passion to properly use the perfect ***; A perfect top always have great passion to make use of the *** (for me nice tight and bulge one turns my hard and thick *** on and on to encounter even twice at the same session but it depends on how partner make use of one's ***) whether a brand new tight one or the well used one.

Very important thing: You will get pain for sure at the beginning but the same pain will be turned to pleasure by the right top; again you should know the diff between the pain and the pleasure!

My Exp:I have encountered many new bees (not all who approaches me but the right deserved one if all clicks). They do have fear of pain like you guys have. But when exposed and handled well, at the end of the same session they used to comment me with compliment saying that they wish to get fk frequently from me. Simple as that who handles you matters!

Some guys do coin themselves as bottom and limited to *** a ***. Note, a perfect bottom is someone who knows how to *** and pleasured by getting nice fk. Feel the real pleasure of fk but be SAFE. Bareback is good and that gives very diff pleasure but move only with the trusted one not to the strange and open to all for the time being pleasure.

Trial: If you wanna know pleasure of tool stroking in your *** before the real ***. Try this...

When taking bath, once you applied soap or bathing lotion all over body, sit like you sit on the indian toilet. Apply your one finger inside your ***. And yes, It will be obviously tight but as your finger and body fully covered with foam, you may feel the difference and for sure your finger will move in. once entered, dont go for deep, just stroke with one finger.

Soon the skin will slightly open and it is now ready for two fingers. what's stopping? Move on with two fingers and stroke well and feel the IMMEDIATE PLEASURE. Later, 3 fingers. But 2 fingers is more sufficient for the first attempt to check the nice feel.
All should be done on the same position applied with soap all over body especially the finger part.

Dont use oil or especially the vegetables and fruits (come on, the purpose is to eat those stuff, don't make it gross as many haven't get a change to eat).

Foremost thing, clean your *** well when care to get ***. It's very basic! Final note once again that It all depends on who handles you at the first encounter.

Enjoy and cheers. Tune your *** well for the world of top with nice *** :)

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Posted On Feb 6, 2020 - 06:57 PM

Is LOX 2 ya 3 easily available at chemist shops.
What's it actually 4

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Posted On Apr 3, 2020 - 06:06 PM

Hey guys , well in my experience first foreplay is very important , let the guy finger you gently and then ask him to give you a rim job for at least 10mins after which you can try *** , I prefer sitting on top so I can control the penetration .

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Posted On Apr 4, 2020 - 05:13 AM

Guys better use durex gliding gel whic is silica based or water based lubricant it’s helps you to gets *** easily inside *** hole with out hurt and also it will avoid tearing of condom.. if we use oil or other than silica or water based lubricant then there is a high risk of tear of comdom, so please use durex gliding gel

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Posted On Apr 4, 2020 - 07:12 AM

Jab tum lox 2% jelly use kar loge to tum 1 nhi 10 bando ko satisfied kar sakte ho .

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Posted On Apr 4, 2020 - 11:24 AM

@kbot69, read brownbubblebutt's advice, above. As a pure top I recommend loosening up first. (This often takes a couple of sessions; you don't want *** damage or a bad first time!)

Make sure you are thoroughly clean inside by using a warm clean-water enema. This will not only clean you out, but will get your used to applying lubricant and the feeling of penetration. Finger yourself with lubricant each day before the Big Event, so you you know what to expect and don't tighten your sphincter when he touches it.

Use plenty of water-based lubricant. Only use local anaesthetics (xylocaine 2%, haemorrhoid ointments) afterwards if you have pain. (If you have stinging, don't use anything - see a nurse or a doctor. You may have a small tear.)

Go into the session with a relaxed mind and don't rush it. The more relaxed you are, the better sphincter control you will have.


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Posted On Apr 4, 2020 - 11:31 AM

As for positions, any position that brings your knees towards your chin will encourage pelvic muscles to relax: squat; on your back holding your knees; kneeling with elbows and knees touching. Sitting on him gives you full control, and I recommend this for first-timers.

▪ https://gaysexpositions.guide/

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Posted On Apr 5, 2020 - 07:32 AM

Always warm up first. get ***, play with it, use small thing first so yeah use finger first, it’s always good to start with smaller things, so start with 1,2,3 not direct jump to 10!(those are just numbers not thickness) :p

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Posted On Apr 5, 2020 - 07:33 AM

And of course never forget to use lube! :)

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Posted On Apr 5, 2020 - 05:38 PM

Bottom should follow all the chemical and tips.
But bottom should really like that top.
If he likes him and if his mind prepares then automatically that pain converts into pleasure after 2-3 strokes.

It happens with me... so it is completely my opinions.
I got *** by more 250 times. I had enjoyed double penetration also .but i met 2-3 guys where my mind was not comfortable that time I really felt too much pain.

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Posted On Apr 6, 2020 - 07:37 AM

One needs to love his top. There should be sexictement
I love doing with hot/cute looking guys

*** is an entire experience. The intensity , the lust, the aggression , every thing helps the bottom to open up

I m very very tight and even after every *** I again turn tight but good tops who rim me well help me to open up nicely for them.. when rimmed I go in estacy And then take in absolute deeep like touching my soul in there..

A good kiss fore play at body 👅 etc helps me to open up..i generally always forst start with sitting on my top n jumping on him n then he laying on top of me frm behind

N finally missionary

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Posted On Apr 6, 2020 - 11:33 AM

How to cope with smell while rimming?

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Posted On Apr 6, 2020 - 12:26 PM


Smell (noun), or odour detection (verb), is the result of molecules binding to tiny receptors in the nose. In rimming, those molecules come from the disturbance of residual material on the skin surface. If the skin has not been recently washed of any extraneous material then the cause of the smell remains.

Organic material may include dead skin cells, faecal particles, naturally produced body oils, fungal or bacterial organisms or residual moisture such as sweat. Non-organic material may include chemicals, soil or fabric microfibres.

Only recent and thorough washing will eliminate or minimise the odour during such intimate contact.

Showering with soap, and thorough drying, will reduce the residual organic matter that can accumulate in warm, moist areas.

This applies to any warm, moist external areas on the body, such as armpits, under breasts and groin.

▪ https://www.healthline.com/health/personal-hygiene

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Posted On Apr 6, 2020 - 03:59 PM

Read the book - "How to bottom like a pornstar" . It is very elaborate and gives you all the information one needs to bottom for first time and even later on..

It is also a guide for your health, body parts, organs and care for your body if you are bottoming.

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Posted On Apr 7, 2020 - 02:11 AM

Kon sa condom use karna chahia and kon sa jally condom per lagana chahia condom damage na ho

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Posted On Jun 13, 2020 - 02:29 PM

Today for the first time I got *** and it was with a shemale
It was painful at first but slowly the pain decreased and we had a really good session but I didnt get the feel of that pleasure people said they experienced when they get ***

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Posted On Jun 13, 2020 - 03:05 PM

She said my *** is lose but I dont know how it can be loose coz i have never inserted anything into my anus before except for once when I had gone for a prostate checkup

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Posted On Jun 13, 2020 - 05:32 PM

Never tried. But i think u cannot really clean it thoroughly. There will always be some dirty remains.

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Posted On Jun 13, 2020 - 09:15 PM

Not butt size change but yes my hole is now big enough to take big size ***. Start playing with veggies or toys and try to keep it for long to loose it.

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Posted On Jun 14, 2020 - 06:24 AM

@iloveindians, you need to repeat rinse till clear water flows out.

Others, the opening of the anus is very sensitive and it controls the release of excreta. It's not advisable to play much without proper care and supervision. As we age it may cause to losen up and later lead to uncontrollable expansion leading to complication. So be very careful to play with your hole. Work to tighten the muscles if you think if it's sort of open.

Play Safe & Be Safe

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Posted On Jun 14, 2020 - 12:56 PM

I usually don't eat 2-3 hrs before ***, and before *** I apply gel or Vaseline and put my finger *** myself so that all waste comes out and then with finger I clean from inside if anything left out. It helps me to clean almost completely.

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Posted On Jun 14, 2020 - 05:22 PM

To remove hair on private parts -use hiphop hair removal.
And a bottom who wanna try *** first time
Anus must be clean.
He should not have piles.
He should use ky gel or lignocane 2% and try marker as a practise which will open *** hole.
And other imp.
He should be mentally prepared.
And he should be comfortable with guy then only can enjoy..
Foreplay should be done

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Posted On Jun 14, 2020 - 06:24 PM

@ammy196 Hiphop is safe to remove hair from privates? Most hair removal creams comes with a warning of not applying in the nether regions!

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Posted On Jun 14, 2020 - 06:26 PM

First time *** karna chahta hoon,meri *** vergin hai ,bahut tight hai,*** *** kaise karoo,kon sa tarika hai ki *** *** time pain na ho ,dard na jo,kon sa condom or jall use karoon,condom khrab na ho

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Posted On Jun 15, 2020 - 07:21 AM

At ammy196 every u said is correct but while inserting top should insert his *** very patiently coz I have seen many tops try to push it forcefully inside anus. This should not be done. It coz severe pain

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Posted On Jun 15, 2020 - 07:24 AM

@aamy 196, You mentioned hiphop hair removal cream. I have same question, is it safe to apply on private parts specially around anus and balls ? i applied veet few years back. It was a terrible experience. Had burning sesation for few days. Please reply.

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Posted On Jun 15, 2020 - 12:24 PM

I tried couple of times but it was very painful and I couldn’t go for it

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Posted On Jun 15, 2020 - 06:42 PM

full lubrication ke baad,dheere dheere insert karvao,gradually anus size badhta hai aur thick wala bhi chala jata hai,ek baar kuch der dheere dheere karo fir speed badha sakte ho dard nahi hoga aur maja hi maja

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Posted On Jun 16, 2020 - 05:17 AM

I tried fingering my a** with shower gel still it's paining and feeling burning sensation . Plz someone help me.

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Posted On Jun 16, 2020 - 05:54 AM

Use lots of lube and try Medium size cucumber first. Penetrate with cucumber for somedays and your *** will be ready for all size of ***. Also use co dom while using cucumber for safety.

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Posted On Jun 16, 2020 - 06:39 AM

Sparsh: Obviously your *** will burn if you shove shower gel into it. Vegetable of your choice + condom + water based lubricant gel is what you should be using.

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Posted On Jun 16, 2020 - 11:14 AM

Use lox 2% while fingering or *** ***. Also apply Vaseline in night and keep it for whole night it will make ur opening skin soft so it will not pain or tear while doing ***.

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Posted On Jun 16, 2020 - 03:32 PM

Please note
I personally used hip hop and it does not create problem.
Dont use veet at all.
The guy ayush sion also uses hip hop to remove hair on private parts.
Offcourse there shouldn't be any wound on ur private parts.
Top also should be expert.
And exchale breath which will open cavity.
And again i m telling that bottom should be mentally prepared and he should liked that guy.
I was became selfie for my case.
I did friendship and agreed that guy to *** me.
It was too painful for me but 2nd time onwards i enjoyed the sessions.
I have enjoyed double penetration also

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Posted On Jun 21, 2020 - 05:50 AM

I made my *** flexible after inserting my fingers and penetrated with long egg plant, I felt the spot. Now I'm looking for top who can make my *** scream.

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Posted On Jun 21, 2020 - 09:59 PM

The very first time I used castor oil... The best

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Posted On Jun 22, 2020 - 10:02 AM

try cowboy position, it gets easy..

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Posted On Jun 24, 2020 - 06:13 AM

Ky jelly is the best

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Posted On Oct 8, 2020 - 01:22 PM

Pain is part of the pleasure from getting ***. You can avoid the pain by using LOX gel, but then there is not fun in having *** at all! I usually use plenty of lube - I prefer using "Lubic" Gel (it is a medical grade product usually used for *** procedures). The first thing my top does is finger *** with this gel, then lots of gel is applied on his *** (on the condom, rather), and then enter slowly. The most important part here is to enter slowly - pushing the *** will cause a lot of pain. Enter slowly, then steadily increase pace.

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Posted On Oct 8, 2020 - 02:23 PM

Like slow n steady wins the race..right?

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Posted On Oct 8, 2020 - 03:12 PM

Tbh i when i had a *** penetrated in my *** i had a very rough and passionate partner taking my virginity. He took my cloths off we did foreplay and then did a very good deep throath to him with which i had so much saliva and then he massaged my hole with my saliva then he put 2 fingers in *** which made me do aah. And then came time for the main evemt to take his 7 inch *** in my ***. So he grabbed my boobs so tight, licked my neck and pushed his *** hard and that way the pain got turned into the most pleasureable moment. He *** me very good and so my *** was paining till 2 days but the experience was awesome.

Great news but. Due to lockdown my *** has become very tight so any cockholder having a thick long *** wishes to tear.my *** you are welcome.

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Posted On Oct 8, 2020 - 04:41 PM

Lube, fingering and going slow are important things in make it enjoyable for the receiver. If you are getting penetrated by a desperate hole-seeker, you will have to be real careful, since they are most often interested in their enjoyment and not your comfort. Make sure the top fingers you and relaxes your hole before you let his pole enter.

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Posted On Oct 9, 2020 - 05:41 AM

First time will be painful. If you are careless you will end up getting injured and it will lead to long term complications.

Always use a condom and lube. A big tube of ky jelly costs around 200 rs or so..buy good quality lubes which cost a little more. Don't cheap out.

Remember all *** are not of same thickness and length. Don't force the *** inside. Using lube will make penetration easy and will give you nice tingling sense too

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Posted On Oct 9, 2020 - 06:29 AM

फर्स्ट टाइम हो या 10वी बार या 100वी बार...
छेद का प्रॉपर लुब्रिकेशन जरूरी है!

महंगे वाले ल्यूब की जरूरत नही है, "लॉक्स" एक मेडिकल ल्यूब है जो किसी भी मेडिकल शॉप पर ₹40 पर ट्यूब मिल जाती है!

टॉप से मिलने के पहले, बॉटम गान को अच्छे से अंदर से साफ कर ले! साबुन के लुब्रिकेशन से या लॉक्स के ल्यूब से एक उंगली फिर 2 फिर 3 उंगली डाल कर अपने छेद को थोड़ी देर बाद घुसने वाले लन के लिए रेडी कर ले!

उसके अलावा अगर आप या आपके पार्टनर की सलाइवा / थूक ज्यादा आता है और वो थिक भी होता है वो भी आप ल्यूब की तरह से यूज़ कर सकते हो! एनल सेक्* के दौरान भी बीच बीच मे एडिशनल ल्यूब लगाते रहो!

कंडोम का यूज़ करना भी जरूरी है!
और अगर बॉटम की *टनल* अंदर से साफ है, तो एनल सेक्* ज्यादा मजा देता है, साथ ही किसी भी तरह की STD के चांसेस बहुत कम हो जाते हैं! वरना टॉप को यूरिनल इन्फेक्शन और बॉटम को हेपेटाइटिस का खतरा हो सकता है!

इसके अलावा, एनल सेक्* के दौरान बॉटम ने किसी तरह का नशा ना किया हो, तो बढ़िया है! अगर कोई छोटी मोटी इंजरी हो जाये, ब्लीडिंग हो जाये तो नशे में होने की वजह से बॉटम को पता नही चलेगा जो रिस्की है!

फर्स्ट टाइम के एनल सेक्* में, बॉटम को बोलो कि सीन को कंट्रोल वो करे!
टॉप आराम से बेड पर लेट जाए और बॉटम उसके लन को टाइट करके उसके ऊपर बैठ कर धीरे धीरे इंच बाई इंच अंदर ले, अपनी कम्फर्ट के हिसाब से...
जब लन फुल अंदर हो जाये तो कुछ टाइम इसी पोजीशन में रहे! इससे लन के हिसाब से गान की मसल्स खुल जाती हैं! उसके बाद बॉटम लन पर ऊपर नीचे होना शुरू कर सकता है!
बाद में पोज़िशन्स बदल बदल कर एन्जॉय करो!
काम पूरा होने के बाद, बॉटम कमोड पर बैठ कर प्रेशर डाल कर अंदर की गंदगी को बाहर पुश करे, अंदर से अच्छे से सफाई करे और ये भी नोटिस करे कि कहीं कोई ब्लड ड्रॉप्स तो नही निकली हैं!

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Posted On Oct 9, 2020 - 06:37 AM

बिल्कुल सही
अगर गैप नही होगी तो लन अंदर जाने में दिक्कत देगा
इसलिए गान में गैप होना जरूरी है

खेलने के पहले जेली को 30 मिनट पहले लगाए
खूब exited रहे जैसे पहली बार ठुकने जा रहे हो।

कुछ मूवीज देख ले ताकि माइंड में ये सब आ जाये
सेफ्टी use करे
उसके बाद टॉप को कहो कि एक बार मे अंदर मत करना
एक वार निकालो फिर डालो
ऐसा 5-6 बार करवा लेना
ताकि वो खुल जाए
15 से 25 तक के टॉप थोड़े बुद्धू होते है वो सोचते है कि बॉटम मतलब रंडी
बस थूक लगाया और डाला

लेकिन जो 30+ होते है वो botom को एक गुड़िया की तरह से प्यार करते है
उसकी सब बाते मानते है
इसलिए आजकल लोगो को टॉप नही बल्कि daddy चाहिए जो उनका खयाल रखें ।

ध्यान से करियो

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Posted On Dec 25, 2020 - 03:03 AM

give me tips :
as im gona meet my first *** soon ...
finally i made my mind to be bot...
is anything dangerous swallowing *** or taking insde hole
plz help me

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Posted On Dec 31, 2020 - 10:12 AM

Use plenty of lube. Play only with a condom. Swallowing *** is not dangerous - however, considering safety from STDs, please use a condom, unless you know the person personally very well. Taking inside the hole is not "dangerous" - make sure you use a lot of lube and tell him to wear a condom. All the best @beingbottom !

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Posted On Dec 31, 2020 - 12:25 PM

you have to train your anus by introducing your own finger with lubricant oil/vaseline...first one then 2 together and then tree together with small trusting movements simulating *** daily after you pass stool, this helps a lot...and the parner has to be very slow initially when expansion is taking place...sudden thrusts will lead to pain

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