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Do you feel insecure because your *** size? I do.

Submitted by Tallandbrown Location: All India (All India, India)

I am mostly a lurker here and all these sexual adventures are fun to read yet I can never have the courage to indulge in something like this because I am so conscious of my *** size. I am 6’ tall and slim and have people have told me that I am quite good looking(lol, I don’t think so but whatever) but I can never dare to meet someone or download grindr to hook up because everyone is obsessed with big *** and I feel so unworthy and unlucky. I am 27 and have met only 3 guys, all of them had *** bigger and thicker than mine. I am like 5” in length and 4” around, which is below average scientifically and that makes me very sad. I can never dare to go to gay cruising spots like Rajeshwari in Bangalore or to a gay nudist group because I am so ashamed of my size. Even the three guys that I met, I couldn’t finish *** with them because I was so depressed looking at the size difference and felt somewhat inferior. I lack serious self confidence because of this which makes me think that I am missing out on a lot of gay adventures. I wish I could be an extrovert but I just can’t. Even if I like a guy and want to talk with him, I immediately think of my *** size and how disappointing it could be to him and i never take it forward. Even though gay *** is legalised in India now, I can never express myself whole-heartedly.

Does anyone share this feeling or am I the only one?

P.S. I know my post maybe unrealated as it is not a cruising spot post but I felt like sharing my thoughts as most people seem to be nice here and of course I can’t talk about this with my friends or family, that would be embarrassing.

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Posted On Jan 3, 2019 - 02:22 PM

Size does not matter...if u have got *** that is enough.....size is by birth. ..can't increase. ...btw. ..5 inch is more than enough....get out of depression. ...enjoy....

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Posted On Jan 3, 2019 - 02:28 PM

Hey don't get insecure your *** size is fine I have mate guys with small *** size and enjoy *** with them
Your honesty and good *** performance matters
You said your good looking that's the plus point to you
I don't know what role you like in gay *** but whatever just go with confidence
Take care

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Posted On Jan 3, 2019 - 04:45 PM

Hey mine is only 4.5 inch..It doesn't matter

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Posted On Jan 3, 2019 - 04:47 PM

Hey.. You exactly replicate my feelings.. differences are that you have a bigger one than me coz mine is 3.5 only and you atleast met 3 guys.. I haven’t met anyone yet.. just getting curious day by day..

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Posted On Jan 3, 2019 - 05:24 PM

exactly size is of about mental issue,, dosent matter at all ,, *** n time of work is mine

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Posted On Jan 3, 2019 - 05:38 PM

Who gives the ***?
Keep away from all choosy ! There are lot of othwr guys who value other things ( looks, physique, foreplay)

Believe me there is always someone for you!!
Everyone is in need. You just need to approach right guys!
Happy Hunting, Cheers!

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Posted On Jan 3, 2019 - 05:57 PM

Come on dude. What's in the size ? Performance counts. :p not size.

Even with straight guys size is an issue becomes many think bigger size means better ***. That's sheer non sense.


Now that's a thoughtful reply.. Chill dude. But there is a misconception that taller guys have bigger *** which is actually a myth. Infact I am tall but mine is only medium. When certain guys are obesssed with size (esp when u hook up online), they even ask what's ur size.. At times when I get pissed off, I just reply " WELL MINE IS OF OPTIMUM SIZE EITHER UR *** OR *** COULD TAKE" .. Lol ..

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Posted On Jan 3, 2019 - 06:21 PM

I won't lie. *** Size does matter. But it's not the only thing that matters. You may not be able to get a bigger ***, but can easily make yourself free more confident and attractive by working on getting a toned hard body. That very often makes up for lack of size.

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VersTop_Hyd *
Posted On Jan 4, 2019 - 01:06 AM

Its true that some are obsessed with the size and look for 'giants', but believe me, they dont do what they say Either, like 'i can s*** for hours', 'i can get f**** for hours'.
I have a medium sized and most of them i met love to meet me again coz of my foreplay and harder i do 😉

I do feel that I should have had a bigger one but that's just because one can never be satisfied with what they have.

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Posted On Jan 4, 2019 - 01:48 AM

Guys, my take on this..
Size of course does matter when it comes to *** and satisfying the partner. Even I agree there are other things like foreplay, stamina are also important.
I have gone through numerous materials on this subject and Believe me with lifestyle changes and little medication you can reach out to your full potential (length, girth, hardness). When we see the pic of nude model and say he has a good package which means he is not having lengthy one. Either any one in size (length, girth, stiffness) is predominant which makes the bulge clearly visible.
I can provide medication and details. Please note I will have to charge nominally. Inbox me if interested.

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Posted On Jan 4, 2019 - 04:10 AM

hey... don't put urself down because of the size. Size is not something which we can decide. Why to worry on things which you don't have control. Yes, many around in this community are behind bigger.. but doesn't mean that everyone are looking for bigger. You just ignore people who look for bigger and have nice fun with guys who are not bother about size.
In fact 5 is a decent size. you can satisfy anyone with your art in playing and having pleasure-full fun.
You just have to gain confidence.. just don't let yourself down... Just forget about size.. start meeting friends.. have fun. During fun too, dont even think of size. This will obviously allow you to play nicely.. which will inturn gives you a great confidence slowly..
Just enjoy buddy... don't ever think of size...

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Posted On Jan 4, 2019 - 04:41 AM

i dont judge ***... i only judge guys that act like ***... the size issues are just made by people insecure about reality... ive been with guys with small ***.. some have made up for the lack of size with their mouths and hands...*** is about communication though all senses.. and then there those big *** are just wave around like dead weight... dont group people into label.. if you wanna be free.. let size isssue go.. and just have fun so these questions are immature and daft.

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Posted On Jan 4, 2019 - 05:39 AM

@valentine84 and @darkstarchild
It is only natural for men to judge / rate their sexual partner for physical attributes. It's instinctive to our native gender {ie male} . Am sure you guys too have some physical criteria for selecting a mate. Just because to some people, a *** size acts like a sexual trigger, doesn't mean they are daft.

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Posted On Jan 4, 2019 - 05:45 AM

Be confident...
no matter how big you live
I got a 6inch very satisfied

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Posted On Jan 4, 2019 - 09:24 AM

Size really doesn't matter. IN my experience what matters most is stamina & ability to perform anytime anywhere.

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Posted On Jan 4, 2019 - 09:56 AM

As a bottom i feel good that my *** is very small and useless. I like it when tops see it and laugh at me. They call it not a *** but a ***. Add to that my soft fatty looks with breasts hanging, fat thighs, and submissive, romantic and womanly attitude makes a top very wanting of *** me.

So a small *** is good in my case, it makes tops feel superior, they get this urge to somehow *** and put their sperms inside me. To loot my youth.

So if you have small *** turn to being bottom, and suddenly it will feel like jewellary on your female body

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Posted On Jan 4, 2019 - 10:08 AM

I understand it fully @tallandbrown and I'm able to very much connect with your concern coz of 1 main reason: Me too, tall, fair but not big size.

Mine is pretty decent betw 6-7". In spite of this, i feel little inferior about it. Coz, like you i have also surfed net and learnt that average size is about 8-9". That too when before ***, mine doesn't show up in good size... once erect, i will be more confident coz of its stiffness...lol.

2 times, guys have rejected me for its size. once in a public toilet, that a guy bent down for *** and then woke up saying that he wants bigger... imagine the kind of dejection. ha ha ha... sounds silly now... but it was bit upsetting then. recently in a massage center, the masseur said that mine wasn't storng enough and showed hesitation for giving a hj....however, after *** it seems he was convinced... he he...

coming to the point...yes, size does matter. but i want to quote good things as well. ecept these 2 major rejections, i have not faced anything significant. so, there are definintely good number of people who prefer to have good fun irrespective of the size. cheer up. size does matter, but its not everything. you will still find good number of people (need not even hunt for) with whom you can enjoy....

if we happen to meet, i am frank, i wouldn't hesitate to have fun with you :) Only thing I look for in boys is, decent, clean and neat. Color, size doesn't matter.

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Posted On Jan 4, 2019 - 10:54 AM

We r Indian Breed, majority of our people average size is 5 to 7 .... Just like you can't Pomeranian breed with German Shepherd.... Africans have Huge size, Western people have diff size, Japanese have less than 3 size.. So it differs n nothing to worry.. U need to find partens who admire you size...

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Posted On Jan 4, 2019 - 10:57 AM

simple and short. it's not about size. it's about what you do :)

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Posted On Jan 4, 2019 - 11:08 AM

I don't think size matters. It's all about pleasure we have or give to others

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Posted On Jan 4, 2019 - 11:34 AM

While I understand size is irrelevant and what matters the most is the actual performance and the attitude of the man behind the *** but size curiosity is a big thing among men. Gay or straight- all men are curious about the size of the other mans ***. Gay people just go a step ahead and take steps to check out the size. Yes depending on how the guy looks people also assume the size of his ***. Like tall well built guys are imagined to have big *** as opposed to short petite guys. However this can be quite misgiving as the physical body structure has nothing to do with *** size. Most Indians range between 5 -8 ...also specific communities seem to have bigger than the rest like the jats in the north have real big *** the East Indians from Assam / Manipur seem to have to rather small.

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Posted On Jan 4, 2019 - 11:45 AM

You shouldn't feel insecure about it no matter what, rather embrace it. If it makes you feel any better, I am less than 4 inches when hard (i.e. my actual size is approx. 2 inches), however mine is a different scenario altogether. I embraced my size and accepted it as a part of me and turned into a sissy instead. I knew I could never satisfy women with that size or men thus I indulged in the pleasures of being a pure submissive bottom for others and I don't regret it. I am better this way and I keep myself locked, in-fact I wish I was even smaller (but that's just me, lol).

Now I have been with men of all different sizes and its just a myth that bigger is better (it is a little bit but not always), technique, intimacy and other factors are much bigger than the size itself. 5-6 inches of *** size is average size for Indian men according to a survey (you can easily find it online), and with the right technique you can easily hit the male g-spot and pleasure your partner. So, lighten up a little and let go of your inhibitions, not all men are same.

Hope you have a great year ahead with much more love. :)

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Posted On Jan 4, 2019 - 11:45 AM

navindiesel, ha ha... yes.... that time i felt bad... but now i laugh at that incident.... .

Exotic, yes. Assuming one's size based on his physical appearance is very much misgiving. I'm reminded of the music director anirudh *** video that popped up a year ago. would any one have imagined him to have such a big ***.... lol.

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rajesh top
Posted On Jan 4, 2019 - 02:25 PM

hi I have only 10cm this is normal or small?

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Posted On Jan 4, 2019 - 03:40 PM

10cms is 4inches. that's small

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Posted On Jan 4, 2019 - 04:11 PM

my *** is just 2 inch. whn ppl try to touch it, thy tell where is it not finding. I feel proud of my very small *** as I can wear panties. I'm girly type so my *** size suits. we need to feel proud as its god gift to us as a bottom.

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Posted On Jan 4, 2019 - 04:50 PM

Almost 30% of guys I have *** had *** bigger then mine.

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Posted On Jan 4, 2019 - 07:10 PM

hey, you are not alone. I am in the same boat. Infact I have micro *** which is very very small..smaller than yours :)
I am bottom so it works for me.. I am in Europe. Here Guys in the gym shower naked.. i too shower naked and attract a lot of attention but i flaunt it with pride:)

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Posted On Jan 5, 2019 - 01:05 AM

Word to word is right . I have also got same problem

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Posted On Jan 5, 2019 - 02:03 AM

Dear, as u hv seen many who responded have well said, the size does not matter, if you hv the vigour to hold your ejaculation for long time thats the *** your partner needs, i hv met guys who has long *** had *** problem not attaining more than 45 degree. So shed away your inhibition , perform confidently

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Posted On Jan 5, 2019 - 02:17 AM

hv u ever felt same about your hight, nails, nose, hands i am sure you not. then why with this, everyone has different size like other body part be happy with what we have and enjoy it.

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Posted On Jan 5, 2019 - 04:17 AM

I also feel very much insecure about the size of my ***. I mean it feels lile everyone is bigger than me.

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Posted On Jan 5, 2019 - 05:10 AM

Guys u shouldn't be insecure of *** size instead of u should be conserned about its performance, I think guys still don't have solutions of premature ejaculation

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Posted On Jan 5, 2019 - 05:36 AM

Hi guys, i also have little & thin ***. Mine is just 4-5 inch long and 1 inch thick. Not sure if thats enough for fun. But good that i am bottom & enjoy others ***.

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Posted On Jan 5, 2019 - 06:05 AM

Hi dear you have a tool which meets the average size of indians...in fact I am with a smaller tool than you and made it success with 10 ladies outside marriage and with number of boys here. Just think something else thsn your tool size and keep going with confidence. All the best!!!

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Posted On Jan 5, 2019 - 07:02 AM

One guy really my love *** still it is in average size *** so size doesn't matter only the pleasure u like that's it

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Posted On Jan 5, 2019 - 07:55 AM

Size doesn't matter for women . It matters only for gay bottom. They want long and big *** to satisfy them selves

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Posted On Jan 5, 2019 - 08:47 AM

*** size matters but no point in feeling bad or ashamed of what is not in your control or even responsible for. Enjoy what you have and make the best out of it. That's the mantra of life!

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Posted On Jan 5, 2019 - 01:06 PM

Met a guy touched his *** it was micro to nano, it got erected and believe me it reached 6+ inches and *** me deep

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Posted On Jan 5, 2019 - 02:48 PM

dear bro i am also facing this size problem. i knew it early on in life so i took to *** *** which am enoying

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Posted On Jan 5, 2019 - 03:44 PM

I too have a relatively small *** and I do feel at times for the same. But then I feel we should accept it as God given n be happy with what we have. May be true that bigger *** is sexy but if we have a handsome look and beautiful heart it would be sufficient to love someone.

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Posted On Jan 5, 2019 - 09:21 PM

Depends. If u r top then maybe you might feel bad. But mine is like 2 or 1and half inch big. I don't get erections and when i do its maximum 3 inch. But i m happy with my size because i am a pure bottom and i dont have much use of my *** being a bottom. And Anyway tops prefer bottoms with small *** as its doesn't get in their way of *** me..

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Posted On Jan 6, 2019 - 11:02 AM

I don't think you should be insecure at all. the average size in India is like 5"-6". But size shouldn't be too small or too big. Too big is way worst than too small because it takes too much blood and testosterone to make that *** hard. If you don't trust me watch any BBC video you'll never find rock hard ***. And for too small *** there's always room to grow bigger. Remember it's muscles afterall it can be built by right excercise.

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Posted On Jan 6, 2019 - 03:05 PM

Size size size

Even middle finger enough to satisfy your girl...

Love and affection in the main role in ***..

If a guy with big *** raped one girl is she feel happy...

Bloody mind set...

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Posted On Jan 7, 2019 - 05:44 AM

I am a bottom because of my *** size ... just 3inch

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Posted On Jan 7, 2019 - 05:46 AM

Hi all! I don’t think size of the *** matters if the man knows how to keep the partner happy!

I once met a hot and muscular doctor guy and we went on a movie date! We were so much into each other that we just wanted to get into bed. He then took me to his room and we undressed each other hungrily and I just wanted to take his beast into my ***. I hurriedly pulled off his underwear expecting a huge ***. But the *** was so small I was shocked. I dunno the measurement, but it was smaller and thinner than the little finger! I usually do not bother about *** sizes but that day I was so *** he saw disappointment on my face.
But guys! I can say that he gave me the best of orgasms ever! He just knew very well how to make most of his tool and he *** me twice that night and it was just fabulous. I had taken bigger *** in, but this guy was the best fucker ever. I was so happy and contented! So size does not matter as long as u can use the tool to satisfy yourself and ur partner well! Trust me, if u don’t know how to do it well, then even the biggest *** in the world cant help you!
Also *** is not the only thing that is used in ***! Let go off that stupid pure top *** and use ur hands ur lips and ur tongue! Okay, do not do oral if u don’t like it, but learn to perform the best with what u have and stop worrying bout the size.

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Posted On Jan 7, 2019 - 06:02 AM

I don't think *** size decide your role as top or bottom, I got *** real hard and deep by tops have less size than mine

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Posted On Jan 7, 2019 - 07:50 AM

The whole *** Size thing is so subjective. Some do find it important, some don't. The guy who posted the question, has come across many who lay emphasis on size.

@poster - physical attributes are going to be important for many guys. Guys are built that way. If you feel insecure about your ***, there are other attractive physical traits which you could easily accentuate - such as your physique, abs ripped chest etc.

But on the other hand there are guys who claim physical traits do not matter (have personally not come across anyone who says that in real life, except someone very very ***). So you could ignore the above bunch n just continue taking things ahead with the ones who fit the second bracket.

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Posted On Jan 7, 2019 - 08:01 AM

Interesting thread.

First and foremost, @Tallandbrown, you are by no means "small"! So there is nothing to feel insecure about. The average *** size for India is from 4 to 4.5 inches!!! A quick google search will show you this data. You might however be one of those guys who like big *** on other guys which would perhaps explain why you are insecure about your size.

Does size matter? It is a very subjective question. It may matter to a lot of guys and may not matter to others so there is not definitive answer to it. So if anyone's small *** size is the reason they are feeling insecure about, they just need to avoid the guys who like big *** and get it on with guys who don't care about it. As many have pointed out, what you do (and how long you do it) with your *** is more important.

There also seems to be a lot of misinformation about preferences towards being top or bottom. One's own *** size does not have any bearing on one's inclination. So guys having big *** should be top and small dicked guys should be bottom is pure bullcrap. Those who claim they "became" bottom because of their small *** size are bullshitting (intentionally or without realizing). You are bottom because you like to *** a *** or you like to take a *** up your ***. Not because you have a small ***! If a guy does not like doing either of these things but has a small ***, will he start liking these things? Definitely not.

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Posted On Jan 7, 2019 - 08:08 AM

I agree that size does not matter.
Though I love long and thick one a lot, it is just to attract partner. Once in bed, time matters a lot than anything else.
I have tried all size and shapes, one whom I can not forget is a person with a small *** but he could bang me all through the night.

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