Anxiety before meeting for hookup

Bottoms: Raise your hand if you've ever canceled a hookup last-minute because the anxiety hit like a truck

Me every single time:

I match with a hot top, we vibe, pics check out, plans are set... then 1-2 hours before I'm supposed to head out (or he's coming over), my brain goes full panic mode:

• What if I'm not clean enough even after 3 rounds of douching?

• What if it hurts too much and I have to stop awkwardly?

• What if he's way bigger in person and I can't take it?

• What if I'm too nervous to relax and it's just... bad?

• What if he's a scammer?

• What if he's not actually nice in person?

• ...and the classic: maybe I should just jerk off and ghost, it's safer I back out almost every time. Like, 8 out of 10 meets never happen because the stomach-churning nerves win. And I know I'm not alone—I've seen so many other bottoms talk about the same thing, especially when heading to a guy's place or a cruising spot. That mix of horniness + terror is real.

No shame here—just wanna hear I'm not the only one spiraling before the doorbell rings. Drop your stories below."

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