Married men of Ohmojo: Are you happy?

Guys, many got married due to family commitments or force or own interest etc.

Just did we ask ourselves "am I happy and satisfied?"

Also did ever get a response as " yes" completely?

Let's share our views here.

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No Picture Rohan123rohanbo	Posted On Oct 14, 2022 @cute_rowdy .... The married guyz you are talking about must be in love with some another men or might had seex with another men or just want to have *** with another men... In my case I don't want to have *** with another man... It's just that I imagine about man who is *** a women
No Picture Cute_Rowdy	Posted On Oct 14, 2022 @Rohan123rohanbo, you clearly have unresolved issues with your sexuality. I'm no expert in psychology but i can make out from what you have written is that you are gay. Attracted to guys sexually. You are just repressing this deep down, maybe because of the inferior image you have created in your head of homosexuality or maybe because you are scared society will never accept you or maybe because you think living a straight life is more respectful and fulfilling. I don't know what is the reason but could be anything. But let me tell you, you will never be happy untill you accept your sexuality and attraction towards men. That it is 100% natural and give up the fear of external judgement. Only when the image in your head of homosexuality is normalised maybe you will start feeling the emotional bond with men. And this i look at the guy when seeing man having *** with a woman is a classic, classic case of attraction towards men but suffering with self denial. I have been there, so take my word! :)
No Picture Yuvrajhotuv	Posted On Oct 15, 2022 Well. It is a very difficult topic. Personally I am married and live a satisfied life. Problem here is if you had past sexual relationship with men before marriage. You know you already explored the pleasures of being gay. Now you are trying to be straight.... which may not happen. If you are lucky and your spouse is good then you will not have any problem in committing towards marriage. I know men who are attracted toward men are really active when I comes to *** as compared to straight lads. If your *** life with women decreases then you will be hungry and then you will start remembering past sexual encounters with men. And a women with kids will may not be always available for ***. This is even a problem with straight men too!!!! I remember when I was young... my neighbour did *** with me because it was easy for him to trap me and sleep with me. He did because his wife was not with him for long time and he desperately needed ***. I have straight friends too, they go out or meet their ex girlfriend to be only physical with them because *** is not happening with wife inside home. It is not about being straight or gay. It is how well you communicate your sexual needs with your spouse. It is about how much time you spend together with your spouse Let's say.. .most of gay men loves to get *** *** and to get their nipples *** These acts can even be done by women over men too... U only need to tell her ur sexual needs. If ur wife is understanding then you are good. Now for those guys who like to *** *** or getting drilled inside ***. I know naturally these acts cannot be performed by females... But she can always perform oral *** over balls and licking acts near ur butt or stimulating ur hole... Most of the bi/gay men loves those.... To add on, if u spice up ur *** life with women like experiment with *** toys and doing role plan then the thought of sleeping with other men will be very less. *** role play involves: you can pretend to be like a girl and she does all those passive acts....of men. The exploration is endless... We live in a country where ancient India inscribed the sexual pleasure and role play act between humans.... .
No Picture Raajiv	Posted On Oct 15, 2022 @yuvraj.. the feeling of being with a guy can never be same as that of being with a girl..sexual acts can be performed with girl but you know something is missing.. some thing u crave for... For that u still look for guys outside inspite being married..
No Picture Rohan123rohanbo	Posted On Oct 15, 2022 @raajiv ..... Vahi to baat hai na.... Bahar jaa k kisi men k sath mu maarna band karna hota h... Aur jab Kabi zindagi main kisi men k sath s.e.x Kara hi nahi to uss experience k kch feel bhi nahi hota.. then it becomes easy.. If u already had s.e.x with men then u can't forgot that pleasure and then all problem start... Fir shadi k baad b jaane ka Mann hota h ki kisi men k sath karo
No Picture Rohan123rohanbo	Posted On Oct 15, 2022 I am from Jaipur... I know many Cruising spot here where men come and always available at night to have ***... But I never tried with any of them.. So now I don't even want to go... Mtlb as such icha bhi nh hoti... Might be my brain got trained in that way over time...
No Picture Yuvrajhotuv	Posted On Oct 15, 2022 @Raajiv, I agree with you inspite of having a satisfied *** life with women, you will still look for other guys. But then you will not be soo desperate to sleep with other men.. You may think for a while... but at the same time you will also think about your wife too!!! It is all about keeping a balance.. and marriage is that!!!.. You keep one partner at a time irrespective of you or straight or bi or gay.
No Picture tanuj69	Posted On Oct 16, 2022 All arguments let us lay to rest.... Iam married .... For me *** with a guy is like how we eat out once in a while even though we cook at home, once in a while we feel like eating outside and it's the same feel
No Picture beamcolumn	Posted On Oct 16, 2022 If u r gay and Having *** with bisexual men is like u r hurting ur self. They never give value to ur feelings. Just they want xxxxxx I have have few bi friends and behind they make fun of gay people and on other side they go and *** gay people for work. This is the truth of life. Gay people alway suffer when they fall in love with bisexual people. If u r gay and want life partner then stop hinting bi people.
No Picture Asimas	Posted On Oct 16, 2022 @beamcolumn you are right but there is no other way I am bengali studying in bangalore enjoy with college senior roommates they have girl friends they are only for *** nothing else I am emotionally evolved but all top are like that only they *** bottom & dream about girls only bottom are emotionally evolved not top
No Picture Cute_Rowdy	Posted On Oct 16, 2022 Guys, for a moment close your eyes and transport yourself to a world, a world where homosexuality is treated in no way inferior or queer compared to heterosexuality. Where gay couples are looked upon just like and as natural as straight couples. Now in this world, who are you attracted to? Will the so called bi guys, guys who have *** with guys like a eat out and with wives like home food (lol), guys who make their wives play a man's roles in bed (🙄), guys who look at only men in straight *** but are too afraid or wait have no urge to sleep with men (really?) exist? Please don't justify all this in the name of bisexuality.
No Picture Yuvrajhotuv	Posted On Oct 16, 2022 @beamcolumn and @ Asimas. If you are gay and want to have *** with a bisexual men then you already know what is gonna happen at the end. Bisexual and especially married bisexual men never give preference to gay men over his family. You knew it before you gets involved in sexual act. NO Strings Attached.!!!! Most of the bottoms are emotionally involved with top. I agree. I been to that side of being bottom. Most of the tops only wanted to get his *** s*cked and then f*UK hole. Let me ask you this. How many tops actually make you please orally?? Do they even care about bottoms pleasure during the act!!! Do they *** buttoms ***? Even you ask him too. To all bottoms, If want to get drilled by any top, set your expectations!!! Involve in *** act only if he pleases you based on ur pleasure needs. Find only those men who will ready to spend more time with you even you are not doing any *** with that top. Do not fall for those tops who don't really care about your feelings!!! When i was young, On earlier days when any top wanted to have *** with me i set a clear expectation to please me orally. I don't open my *** for him unless he satisfies me. I had few boyfriends, back then who spend more time with me talking and hanging out with me... we go to park and mall and many dates and dinner!.. Those top guys were owesone. Sometimes during *** they make me *** early only they wanted to see me satisfied & they are left without happy endings..... yes this used to happen with me. For other tops, who only wanted my *** and ***. I don't give a shut about them!!!.. There is no fun with them... So the point is Do not lower your values and self respect for those top who do not care for you!!!!!
No Picture Asimas	Posted On Oct 16, 2022 @Yuvrajhotuv you are right my senior roommate are only interested in their enjoyment after *** he not even look at me or talk I am to *** him I am to rim him he only *** till he *** after that turn over to sleep I not like my top to *** me I have feelings it is for bottoms only but I like him to kiss me after he *** play with my chest no sleep right away in morning I am supposed to clean wash beedsheet everyday as I am afraid other will know from room smelling all 3 only drink never help
No Picture WhiteBiBottom	Posted On Oct 16, 2022 @Yuvrajhotuv please don't assume we all have the same motivation as yourself. I am a bottom and I believe it is my role to give pleasure to tops. I am happy if my top gets excited and cums because of me. I do not expect or demand any reciprocation. My best experiences are when I'm being dominated and degraded by younger smaller guys.
No Picture jaidesai69	Posted On Oct 16, 2022 WhiteBiBottom: it is alright to want to give pleasure to others and most bottoms do that, just like most females do that. IT IS SOMETHING ELSE TO BE DEGRADED.... YOU HAVE LOST RESPECT FOR YOURSELF!
No Picture Biguy007	Posted On Oct 17, 2022 Hi guys just a thought I would love to share in this group. This recently happened to me. To start with I’m happily married and yes i do love male to male connection and sexual but lately I have been more attracted to men at intellectual or emotional level rather than just physical fun or wild ***. I love to talk to people or chat with them whenever time permits or at leisure as u all know being married and bi we don’t get free at al times. I met few guys who wanted to stay in touch with me n chat as friends n was happy to share telegram ID with them, I did chat with them for awhile and suddenly I got busy and couldn’t chat few days in between (everyone gets busy right) when I texted back after a small gap they started talking bad saying if u can’t spend time on chats why initiate it or don’t look for friends n stuff n also said few more mean things too. I felt bad we do have lives that keep us busy right n it’s not always about male to male fun or time to spend on private lives. Didn’t know how to react? I still do have friends whom I’ve met through gr or ohmojo or PR too who have been with me for almost 2 decades now, we don’t chat everyday nor we meet often but we are happy to greet each other n have a light moment when we have time and enjoy a phone call or quick chat exchanging pleasantries and how life has been . I guess ppl are being impatient
No Picture Raajiv	Posted On Oct 17, 2022 @WhiteBiBottom what yuvraj said is absolutely correct and most of the bottoms here will agree to him... It is u who are the exception.. not him.. Being elder and liked to be treated as a *** by young tops is not gay thing.... U dont know the meaning of being a gay...
fifty	Posted On Oct 17, 2022 Biguy, if you were chatting regularly, stopped abruptly and came back suddenly and said I was busy, it may give an impression that you are using them as per your convenience and need. Even they had the need to chat with you. When you had to stop, you could have informed them about your paucity of time.
No Picture Biguy007	Posted On Oct 17, 2022 @fifty yes I did inform them that I will be away for a brief period
No Picture Asimas	Posted On Oct 17, 2022 @whitebibottom thank you for making me have peace with myself yes bottom like us are like girl we are to give pleasure to out tops I also feel satisfaction to make my top *** make him happy by rimming the problem was in me not my top but my expectations that top will treat me like a girl now life will be easier with no expectations bottom are for love for top most are for *** I will search for top who is gay like me till then I will be happy in moments I am getting not get frustrated with my undue expectations
No Picture Marriedbi	Posted On Oct 17, 2022 @biguy007 Well drafted I am in the same page like u Have friends for decade and we catch up depending on time availability but still we understand eachother
fifty	Posted On Oct 17, 2022 @biguy, in that case , they were wrong.
No Picture Atul2Enjoy	Posted On Oct 17, 2022 It's depends on person , if he is understanding then he will not issue of unavailability ,he just raise it and ask for free time when we can chat freely. But few guys hv more expectation may be due to being alone or some stress.
No Picture WhiteBiBottom	Posted On Oct 17, 2022 Thank you everyone for your concern but I've been a submissive pleaser since I was much younger. This is not a new thing. Nowadays it is a relief valve from being in charge and having ot make decisions at work and home. When I am submitting to a guy I just obey which is an awesome break from the pressure of telling people what to do. This has nothing to do with self respect. I think there is more of a question of a lack of self awareness in the posts I see. Be aware that how you feel is not how all others feel so don't make yourself look foolish by writing comical psychological analysis of others.
No Picture oh_desi_guy	Posted On Oct 17, 2022 @WhiteBiBottom Agreed. Not saying everyone needs to know everything but BDSM is a widely known term. Literally covers everything WhiteBiBottom described(Domination, Submission and Masochism). Its a fetish/kink thing. Not everyone is just into vanilla ***. Some of us love rough, raunchy ***. If you dont, its fine. Just dont tell others what they are doing is wrong. And for gods sake, a bottom is not a girl, not like a girl regardless of how much desi "straight" guys want to justify sticking their *** into guys want to justify their actions by it. If you feel like a girl or want to be a girl, its totally ok but you probably are trans. Trans people are not exclusively bottom either.
DaveUSA	Posted On Oct 17, 2022 Oh desi guy 👍👍 your correct…. Straight bi gay here … Not everyone is into vanilla BDSM can take you to a new level of sexual excitement Whether you are dom or sub I’m bi. Married …like it rough n tuff being force *** and made to do stuff Also held down and *** in park by a few guys Straight dom men are Hot
No Picture Needfriend45	Posted On Oct 18, 2022 I m bottom like to be treated as lady. So some gow avoided marriage. But never got into *** too. Whole life lived alone fear of insult humiliation as I see few bisexuality top men enjoy and still talk bad about bottom .any how life was difficult even after being very conscious about behaviour . Afterall bottom are still don't have good respect in society.
No Picture Amrit4u	Posted On Oct 18, 2022 im married nw, when i was single i was very interested in having *** with women,but i dint got dat because of hving shyness in me. so as time pass by i met one friend of mine who was bisexual n he started trying me n one day he jerk me off..it was my first time n i felt grt.after day pass he gave me blowjob n started inserting his finger inside my *** n this find me very pleasurable. he den iserted his *** inside me n dat i found very good with nice feeling inside my ***.. this went on n after 5-6 year i gt married n finally i gt to hve *** with women ,n this was really i wanted frm my child days n felt very awesum. 4-5 years we had grt *** ,,n in dat period no *** with male..because i gt wht i wanted. nw things gt different n nw my wife avoiding *** with me,,due to lack of interest or marriage daily life issue. nw again im hungry fr *** n nw i cannot find other grl ,as im married nw n noone girls prefer married man fr *** n relationship. so nw again i started to hve *** with male nw..dat old feeling getting activated in my mind n forcing me to hve *** with male again because of no choice left. wht to do?plz help..
No Picture Amrit4u	Posted On Oct 18, 2022 correction-i hve nt started to hve *** wit male nw,,but because of no option left im started feeling to hve *** with male again..
No Picture dingdong	Posted On Oct 19, 2022 @Amrit4u, for most couples, sexual acts would be reduced as and when time passes.. that too as you rightly said, so many factors like health, work pressure, family commitments etc etc. So you are going through that situation and sexual desires are going up more.. Make some good friends and start having your fun with them... no confusions.. Meantime, have it at home too whenever there are chances.. dont put an end at home for action..
No Picture RajeevNarhe	Posted On Oct 19, 2022 Dingdong is right. After 5-6 yrs of marriage urge to have *** with your spouse decreases that does not mean you would not have ***. But make sure u manage home and ur personal life. None should be ignored. Life is one so you should not have regret
No Picture Guy27bi	Posted On Oct 19, 2022 Most of the guys here are right, most common cases are like @Amrit4u said , most turn to bi because lack of interest with their partners, many are stuck in marriage even though they are gay . It's so sad . Many guys after 40+ like to explore new things in the bedroom but their partners lack interest, so they look outside to explore their fetishes. If you want a on off thing on the side then married guys provide you that But a serious relationship is very hard . So manage your expectations if you looking for long term relationship with married guys . But married older guys r fun , more open to explore .
No Picture Etc	Posted On Oct 19, 2022 I am a bi and I have identified myself as Bi several years ago....in my teens. Now I at 38.... It's about 10+ years into the married life.... Here are the phases I went through as far as a the sexual part of the marriage is concerned. First couple of years, especially the first year - it was just an act of excitement... had no idea what i was doing.... it was a simple act of love, excitement, and of course the intention of giving birth. foreplay time was short as the thrill didn't allow me to extend it...quick orgasms. Second phase is something really good.... prolonged sessions, very long foreplays... this is when i started experience it deeply... had more love, more understanding of how to perform..... Third phase, my current phase.... more into exploring.... in fact, the desire hasn't reduced... weekly once or twice without fail... mostly twice a week.... a 10-day gap is rare... the sessions are even longer these days.... in all the last 10 years, the desire hasn't reduced much... frequency was high only in the first year or max the first two years, after which it is settled with weekly once or twice pattern and things are going cool till now... another few years, will get to know if there is any decline in the desire.
No Picture Here4Funnn	Posted On Oct 19, 2022 @Etc, u summarized very well. I m also in similar stages, but slightly more than you, about 5 more years and still in the third phase. Just want to add one more point here, due to kids the possibility reduces, even though in mood need to restrict sometimes due to kids. Otherwise you have covered most of it. Agree with @dingdong & @Rajeev Thanks for sharing guys
No Picture Amrit4u	Posted On Oct 19, 2022 @ dingdong ,Etc n Guy27bi. thanks for ur support in replying fr my message. i hve kids too so i cannot be wit my wife alone like i usually do when we was nt hvig a child. my *** desire is increasing day by day n main thing is whenever i go outside n i look some hot girls i go crazy i put myself into more *** depression n feel sad fr myself. at de end i relieve my desire through masturbation,which i dont like at all.Rather den dt i wul prefer to hve *** wit a decent good male friend.
No Picture mohan2626	Posted On Dec 8, 2022 earlier i mastrubate think of getting fu** by men... but from last 3 months after i joined gym i started thinking of fuc*ing a women.. *** women nippl*s... i really get very hard think that and have very good mastrubation think of having se* with women....i don't know how this change happen
No Picture raprap007	Posted On Dec 8, 2022 Hi mohan 2626 I have also experienced this. This is due to hormonal changes when we start building muscles. Basically we are bi in nature. When we workout the manly nature gets highlighted. You stop working out you may feel sleeping under men.
No Picture mohan2626	Posted On Dec 8, 2022 but then every pure gay would have joined gym for lifetime so that their preference can change and get desire to have se* with women😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
No Picture wingedcupid	Posted On Dec 8, 2022 And wouldn't it be easier if women go to gym, develop some muscles and manly features and all gold standard gays can then start liking women directly?
No Picture mohan2626	Posted On Dec 8, 2022 what u mean to say @wingedcupid?
No Picture wingedcupid	Posted On Dec 8, 2022 Sarcasm @mohan2626
No Picture Etc	Posted On Dec 8, 2022 Mohan, I know of Gay men who go to Gym, yet remain gay. Just that you started seeing things differently and the change has come from within, not on your muscles or the hormones. It's a perspective, but you're trying to generalize it.
No Picture kk27	Posted On Dec 8, 2022 Being married is having its own advantages like we get a life long friend to share and care , we get support from family/relatives and the society treats us respectfully. If we get blessed with children, it's a huge bonus to live the life in a manner. And this gay life/partner is never permanent. It's quite difficult to find a perfect partner and set a perfect life. In married life, this inclination towards same *** would never fed if it's really inside us. The desire for a male body would become more intensive. It would hurt emotionally and mentally. This feeling can never be suppressed for a long time. It can only be temporarily avoided due to family commitments and busy life. So, strong mentality and balanced life can make everything easier irrespective of our marital status.
No Picture Rakeshforyou	Posted On Dec 8, 2022 @wingedcupid yes, tht would be nice. girl as muscular tomboy and we boys feminine. this relationship will always work and acceptable from society also.
No Picture wingedcupid	Posted On Dec 8, 2022 @mohan2626, thank you, I have learnt some new words! @Rakeshforyou, well sis, I didn't mean that. I used to approach desperate straight guys for ***, mostly they all reject me understandably because I do not have a ***. They say that a tiger would not eat grass even if it is to starve(a local adage). I guess the same applies to Kinsey scale-6 gays (like me) as well. I do not find Muscled Marys and Tomboys sexually attractive for my relationship to work. They'd definitely make good fraternity or sorority but thats beside the point
No Picture Lovelust_1	Posted On Dec 8, 2022 @kk27 Very well said bro. Balanced life is the key. We've become so much *** oriented that we can't think beyond *** to be happy. However, there are also monks who give up *** and yet live a peaceful and more content life. Agreed that we cannot go to that extreme, but my point is every urge can be controlled. Especially sexual, coz more we have ***, more we want it. Yayati was the king who borrowed youth from his own son to seek pleasure and yet couldn't be happy. Just looking at moral of that story, we all have one Yayati inside us. Taming sexual urges is very important, in a balanced way.
No Picture Coming Ahmedaba	Posted On Dec 9, 2022 @mohan2626 Agree. But in my case i just wanted to move out of the gay world (bcz i was bi and only wanted to have *** with man, with no emotional attachment). So i moved my focus from searching gays online to building a good physique. Now from past three months i havent installed any gay app or met any gay, and now dont even feel like meeting a guy for ***. So yes moving you focus and priorities can help a lot.
fifty	Posted On Dec 9, 2022 Comingahmedabad, your profile says you are 23. If you were too much of time on dating site, then obviously it was wrong. I guess it is more about *** addiction than gay *** addiction. If there were girls as easily available as men, straight guys your age would also be doing the same thing. And why are you on this site yet? Shouldn't you have deleted your profile at the time you deleted those apps?
No Picture Coming Ahmedaba	Posted On Dec 9, 2022 fifty. Just wanted to share my thoughts.(Added a long comment in different thread regarding all this that was happening in my life). Also still I don't feel like finding a male partner for ***. People use different social medias, now I use ohmojo to check people's responses and if they need any help. I got lots of dms thanking me about my decision and a new life.:)
No Picture hotncute	Posted On Dec 10, 2022 @fifty very true, we are addicted bcz of not concious of not understanding what we are doing and how we waste our time. If a person finds a way to *** once in 2 or 3 days (if you are too young). Once in 4 or 5 days if you are above 35 then the feelings of searching for others will not dominate you. If I get that feeling and if I bored of *** myself I try to go for a massage and my urge of having *** with someone will go away. Sometimes I also have fun with my regular guy. We should no get addicted and spend more time on this and also we can't avoid completely. Balance or spend title time for this. Where we are investigating our majority of time is important. At the same time we cannot eliminate having the fun part completely which gives heavenly pleasure.
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