A petition for recognising same *** marriage is being heard in the Supreme Court of India. This will be a big step after decriminalisation of gay ***.
Most guys here are for *** date and fun. Nothing wrong with it. But there are quite a few who are seriously looking for long term relationship or gay life partner. Considering the vast database ohmojo has, number of such guys will also be sizeable.
This thread is meant for such guys.
We can share our details like age, location , sexuality, role, expectation and so on.
Some requests 1. discussion about viability of gay relationship, same *** marriage can be done somewhere else.
2. This thread os NOT meant for requests seeking *** dates
3. Do not share all your personal details as the page can be seen by anybody. Those can be exchanged in one to one message.
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No Picture Baadshah Bhai | Posted On Jan 28, 2023
31 versatile from Aligarh Uttar Pradesh. I m looking for true love and life partner |
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No Picture HotBot | Posted On Feb 18, 2023
A small intro abt myself. I am from south mumbai. My actual age is 34 but I look around 26-27. I look like a normal guy in public but I am a pure bottom and private cd. With a smooth and soft hairless body. I am a complete girl at heart and soul. Looking for a long term secret boyfriend or husband. Someone above 40-45. |
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No Picture guy_0201 | Posted On Mar 5, 2023
Gay relationship is a joke, infact any relationship is a joke. Partners will go around *** others discretely. |
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No Picture tasteme2021 | Posted On Mar 5, 2023
Can be loyal in Straight life for this society and if they love each other
but for gay ppl being loyalty n relationship is impossible
ofcourse can prolong for few yrs but its very difficult
Bcz in straight life we dont have any other oppertunity to have fun with others but
In gay life is not like that both know this under ground community n dating apps n site ...
Taste cat never will be idiol to taste another thing ...
sorry if my statement hurst any loyal couple but bitter truth is that ............ |
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fifty | Posted On Mar 5, 2023
tasteme2021, Straight couples do not have extra marital affairs? In my office itself I saw at least half a dozen extra marital affairs; some very closely. Have you heard of tinder app? There are so many married men on ohmojo itself. Are they loyal to their wives? Not all straight marriages are happy. They are not broken, because getting divorced is considered a blot and women still don't have a say in their own lives. They are not independent, financially secure and their parent's might not welcome them if they leave the husband.
And this accusation of gay men being promiscuous. Have they been given an opportunity to stay in a relationship?
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No Picture Voyeur_exhib | Posted On Mar 5, 2023
Human beings are social animals. If given a choice these days, many straight men and women would not get married, not get kids and have multiple partners. |
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No Picture kingofdesire56 * | Posted On Mar 6, 2023
I genuinely don't understand. Why can't gay relationships be true and legit. It's not necessary that every single person will go out of their and have extra marital affairs and whatnot. There are people looking for comitted relationship as well. I'm one of them. |
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No Picture vishal_kumar | Posted On Mar 6, 2023
If loyalty means only *** one ***, one *** or *** one *** life long, then we need to seriously reconsider the whole point of being married. Inspired by heteronormative relationships and a society which modelled around a unit of a man and a woman, sets a pretty low standard to qualify for a succesful and meaningful relationship. For example a man/woman can be an absolute *** to his wife/ her husband. Can be emotionally unavailable, insensitive, abusive, manipulative, but as long as no *** is happening beyond society alloted pair (aka married couple) it is ok? Personally I would prefer a partner who aces on being an awesome human being and a partner in life (*** or no ***), over a so called monogamous entitled ***. |
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No Picture ram2001 | Posted On Mar 6, 2023
Yes it is true any social restriction or binding not relevant if our liking and bonding not strong. If we like someone then it does not mean we are in polygamy. We have to be mature and full of enthusiasm to deal such issues.weather straight or gay transparency ; truthfulness and mutual trust can plays a vital role. Our feeling may vary person to person or 2 persons at same time but we should respect and understand each relationship as some may short term or some may long term based on our liking and circumstances. |
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fifty | Posted On Mar 7, 2023
Vishal_kumar, I agree with you. But since monogamy is the standard now, one tends to look upon it as a necessary condition for life partner What I feel is we have different needs - sexual, cultural, entertainment, intellectual, physical activities and so on and it is not possible nor necessary that the partners tastes match in all these spheres So one should have their own space where one can enjoy these activities with another person , with the knowledge of the partner. Even having *** outside marriage is not an issue But there should be no double standards and secrecy, cheating in it At the same time, there is a risk of getting drifted towards this third person and if one wants the relationship to stay strong and long, some compromise might be necessary Of course relationship should not become a burden.
These things are too complex .
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No Picture blueboys | Posted On Mar 8, 2023
Is possible same *** marriage? |
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No Picture PattyNatty89 * | Posted On May 11, 2023
I feel if vibe is there, emotions are there between two ppl, all other things become secondary or unnecessary thats what we call true love. |
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TopGen | Posted On May 11, 2023
I don't believe in Love kind of feeling. Yes attraction is there, lust is there. But love is just a feeling when you get used to person over a period of time. How many time has this happened, when you really want a person so bad.. but once you are done with him, you don't even feel like looking at him. That's normal. Now I know many will tell me I am wrong. But come on, even dogs get attached to people who give them food for a week. So love is all time paas. Just do it and leave it and don't repeat it. That's a beautiful way to live. NO Attachments NO Feelings. |
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No Picture Cool78 | Posted On May 21, 2023
That's true many men are not loyal to their wives as I have noticed many men having extra marital affairs |
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No Picture Sandipisgay | Posted On May 21, 2023
I m looking for long term relationship with crossy My family knows about me n they are ok with |
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No Picture blueboys | Posted On May 26, 2023
I'm looking Gay Husband |
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vanju1 | Posted On May 27, 2023
Very interesting forum and a much needed one, thank you @fifty.
As someone who has been in this "line" since his teens, I can honestly say that monogamous relationships are very rare. Nearly all hetero friends of mine - old and young - have had extramarital relationships, and many continue to do so. Especially men. The same applies to homosexual relationships as well.
If being in an open relationship were an accepted norm, then many a marriage or relationship would have been saved the agony of the irrational expectation of fidelity.
I may be wrong, but being in a relationship with one person gives one the sense of stability, structure and comfort; and accepting the openness of physical liaisons along the way with others removes the the threat of betrayal and the sense of guilt.
Having said all of the above, I myself am looking for a relationship with someone mature who has a kind heart, is physically fit, intelligent, very hygienic (no compromise there!) to spend my "twilight years" with. Other qualities like a fondness for travel, good music etc. would be a bonus. Must be financially independent; I detest gold diggers.
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No Picture 4frds | Posted On Jun 17, 2023
I feel being loyal or not depends on indiviual person .If he feels he needs to share everything with partner and must be loyal he can be .But on the other hand he feels he can be with him and others also ,again he is responsible i feel that.though it may varry. |
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No Picture BigbottomSanju | Posted On Jun 17, 2023
People still feel shy to talk of gay relationship in my city. Matrimony is only a day dream. |
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No Picture MylifemyWish | Posted On Jun 19, 2023
Technically legally in India gate marrage is not possible...but if wish to do it's a temporary living in until anyone is found out any unbearable flaws with other ...again same terms and conditions which are in straight marage are here also guys who look for beauty handsome...*** size...hairy not hairy... howmuch the other earns ..does he has bike car flat rent or own ...can u introduce to parents n frends.... most important flaw in GAY MEN is THEY R MEN N MEN WILL BE MEN ...Crazy in-fidelity if in relationship also going around ather boys or women ...worst of all slowly getting *** less... imbalance in earning only one spends ... mood swings if any health issues it's a pain ...again all this after a long 15-18 years of being in gay relationship and it totally failed as most get married to there family Choice girls n get settled n forget the old gay partner n ask us to be practical n move on ...later post 40 years with health issues ,older body ...loans n credits ..in short.u r no value in any one's life ...đ ...not exhausting the enthu but factually it's this all ...NOTE : WRITTEN ABOVE IS NOT FICTIONAL OR IMAGINATION BUT EXPERIENCE AND TRUTH .... |
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No Picture ray_gay_6 | Posted On Jun 19, 2023
Personally I am not against anything that favours the gay community. However what I am against is choking what is normal between like minded gay people or people of other orientations down the throats of people who are otherwise heterosexual. All this LGBTQ+ publicity is just pointless.
It is a fact that people of mixed orientation and gender needs to be recognised, respected and considered. All sorts of awareness given to the younger generation should be focus on that. However now the movement is just loosely defined and almost a waste of time.
A man who dresses up like a woman cannot make the other person and vice versa cannot and will never convince the person on the other side of the table. To that person it may be a comical situation if he/she is polite and respectful.
I can't understand what two guys would want to "marry" Why? Imagine what a divorce would look like in the court. It will end up as a criminal waste of time for the judiciary. Above all if you love each other... move out together, live happily and be merry. A matrimony between a man and a woman serves a purpose. The marry, raise a family together, there is a father figure and a mother figure for the children, they grow up the way nature designed them to be. How the *** can two guys replace that?? It is bullshit. |
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No Picture MatureGuy | Posted On Jun 19, 2023
I completely agree with ray. I'm living with a friend since 2 years and find the association very satisfying. We complement each other. There is a bonding without assigning a name to the relationship. Same *** marriage serves no purpose. |
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No Picture ray_gay_6 | Posted On Jun 20, 2023
@MatureGuy Thanks for agreeing with what I said. This whole idea of LGBTQ+ is losing its direction and same *** marriage makes it even more complicated, to the point they celebrate it in the corporate world by going rainbow for one frigging month of meaningless activities. If I am a supervisor I dont care what the orientation of my team member is, if he/she is good and shines out from the others and get stuff done that's what matters. Their orientation, sexuality, gender identification and how they carry themselves doesn't mean anything to me in a workplace and it ideally shouldn't. One's orientation is strictly personal and choking it down a normal person's throat is a crime. |
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No Picture YungB | Posted On Jun 20, 2023
@ray_gay_6 Either it's your internalized homophobia talking or you have a very shallow understanding of the situation. The point of pride month is not to shove things down people's throat. How does changing the logo for one month or having awareness shove things? For decades people were hiding part of who they were. People were killed, segregated, tortured, etc for being gay. So, the very idea that someone can be openly gay now is celebrated. That is the point of pride month. Ofcourse, corporations are not true allies and only side with LGBTQ+ so that their sales can increase, but it's better than nothing. You're talking as if supervisors in companies give promotion based on sexual orientation, or forcing everyone to be gay. This sort of situation is only talked about by those terminally online, but there is yet to be a real world situation where this has happened. Meanwhile, there are tons of articles where the opposite is happening. |
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No Picture Cute_Rowdy | Posted On Jun 20, 2023
@ray_gay_6 @MatureGuy if matrimony between a homosexual couple served no purpose, most of the western and developed nations wouldn't legalize it. There is more to a marriage other than bearing children. It's about respect and recognition from the society! More importantly legal recognition. The civil union, insurance, property co-ownership, medical rights and countless other areas where having a legal spouse can be of great advantage. Not to mention, legalizing gay matrimony will inevitably atleast in the long run if not immediately bring in more acceptance towards the community! |
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No Picture Cute_Rowdy | Posted On Jun 20, 2023
Also it is ridiculous how certain people from our own community talk about what is "natural" and what is not.
If we stoop to thier own ignorant level, can we point out how the homophobes could say their lewd profile pictures of *** displayed in such vulgarity are not meant for penetration? |
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No Picture RAJESH_BOMB | Posted On Jun 20, 2023
@ray_gay_6 You sound ridiculous and what you speak is bullshit. If 2 ppl line each other apparently they can take other responsibilities of running a family. Don't be a stereotypical fool saying only husband and wife make a family, then there is no point in accepting homosexuality. If you accept their existence but you won't allow them to get settled or marry is same like i will accept your kinship but you don't have any royal and legal rights, you are just for showcasing purpose. This kind of comment comes from people who want to get married to a girl but still want to shove a *** in their throat and *** shamelessly behind their wives and pretend to be straight infront of society. |
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No Picture VersTop_Hyd | Posted On Jun 20, 2023
@ray_gay_6 and @MatureGuy, surprised to see such immature comments when world is changing so rapidly and even the definition if "family" doesn't say that there should be a male and female involved. Per me, marriage is a relationship which binds 2 individuals who love each other more closely. It isn't a mandate that 2 individuals who love have to marry, but it's their choice. You don't have to rub off your feelings on others.
Coming to "nature", it's all about survival, not reproduction alone. It's really sad to see people from the same community look down and pass on such lewd comments on fellow members. |
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No Picture vihit2345 | Posted On Jun 20, 2023
Well some insanely regressive thinking to come across in pride month, one of the highlights being Men will be men (btw when you meet your person you just meet them, anyone looking for cars/flats etc is looking for an arrangement and not a relationship, physical compatibility is important and is not that hard to meet given there are so many guys out there)
I guess men will be men but that does not mean they should not get the opportunity to get married and figure it out together (but then again this is preaching it to a society whoâs sole interpretation of marriage is monogamy and reproduction)
There are gays out there who are married and raising kids (they are happy because it is what they wanted and they are doing it with their life partner), there are gays out there like me who are happily married and donât want kids (who are open but that doesnât mean the marriage isnât real, it just means we are communication forward when it comes to marriage and emphasis is put on building a life together)
Forget about the stereotypical ideas of marriage lgbtqia+ marriage can give your partner the ability to make financial, legal and health related decisions on your behalf. It can give you the ability to fight in court if you were discriminated against for being in a same *** marriage. Guys that are of the community but are in closet working against the community's welfare make me so sad. If you have made decisions that suit your life let others make the same decision without dragging in nature and mother+father crap into it) |
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No Picture ray_gay_6 | Posted On Jun 21, 2023
@RAJESH_BOMB You're missing the point I am talking about. When normal marriages between a man and a woman break down at record rates in our country, the children that are born out of that bear the brunt on it all. I discussed what happens when things break down between two married guys or married girls. How will that be managed? Is it worth the headache? I speak about it coz I know what it is like and went through it all my life. If I love a guy I'd rather live happily with him without disturbing or reinventing the wheel with the society. And if you think when this is legalized the society is going to welcome a gay couple with their arms wide open, you are genuinely smoking some strong *** man. For the record, I meant and I say that again regardless of what you think that two guys loving, being intimate and absolutely in love is fine with me, I am one of those and that's the one reason I am here. Getting matrimony into the mix is just pointless. That is exactly what I meant. And regarding your last line in your comment. It's is one's personal choice married or unmarried what they shove in their *** or their mouths or shove someone else. I can't understand how hypocritical that statement is. You mean to say it's ok to proclaim your orientation and shameful if you don't? That's *** up. |
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No Picture ray_gay_6 | Posted On Jun 21, 2023
@VersTopHYD I think you should read what I wrote again. Probably also read how you contradict your own statements too. Where does it say that a family means it can be anyone? A family consists of a father, a mother and their children. This is the natural world as we know it. This is how nature designed almost all living beings on the planet. We need to understand the fact that being gay, bisexual or anything else is abnormal to the normal person. This is where acceptance to what's different becomes important and that's what I spoke about. Two people of the same *** or the opposite *** can live happily without bringing a matrimony in between. It's a waste of time fighting for it in a country like ours. That is my point. At no point I chose to disrespect anyone's thought, identity, gender or orientation in the comments I made. And no there were no lewd comments. Peace. |
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No Picture ray_gay_6 | Posted On Jun 21, 2023
@vihit2345 i spoke about the things that can go horribly wrong when matrimony comes into the mix. Bring in some adopted children in a same *** marriage too. What and where do they go if things break down? What if the child grows up and disapproves his/her parents status or orientation when they find otherwise around them. How would they face and live in a hostile society. How would the couple live in a hostile society? Are you saying we shouldn't be caring about all of these things? If ever this is legalized, it should be a mature decision that is made for couples to stay committed legally. Else just like a normal matrimony when things go down the hill, it will open a brand new and wiggling can of stinking worms.
I mean no disrespect to two men or women who genuinely love and want to spend the rest of their lives for themselves. |
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No Picture vihit2345 | Posted On Jun 21, 2023
@vihit2345 i spoke about the things that can go horribly wrong when matrimony comes into the mix -things go horribly long all the time for everyone but that doesnt mean you dont live.
Bring in some adopted children in a same *** marriage too - hell yea, those who want kids absolutely should, you donât even have to be married to adopt by the way.
What and where do they go if things break down - so you go into a marriage or go through the adoption process or surrogacy planning a contingency of what if we break up? Is that how straight couples in India. Work too because last i remembered so many off them just have babies without all these negative thoughts.
What if the child grows up and disapproves his/her parents status or orientation when they find otherwise around them - they are entitled to their thinking, your job is to keep them safe and give them the ability to think
How would they face and live in a hostile society/How would the couple live in a hostile society? - do you realize despite being from the community you are part of the HOSTILE SOCIETY, when we have people like you with this thinking what can one expect from the society.
Are you saying we shouldn't be caring about all of these things - keep caring and living in fear man, thats your choice but to suppress lgbtqia+ because you donât have the guts under the pretext of being pragmatic is pathetic
If ever this is legalized, it should be a mature decision that is made for couples to stay committed legally - Cannot emphasise on this enough, legality of this is for paperwork and recognition a couple does not need it but unfortunately everything and everyone else does. The change needs go start somewhere.
Else just like a normal matrimony when things go down the hill, it will open a brand new and wiggling can of stinking worms - Marriages are not for everyone, especially for those who do not understand the concept and make it all about themselves as opposed to making it about both of them.
I guess I answered all of your questions eitherway legality of it is not going to make regressive, self deprecating people like you with internalized homophobia to get married to a guy so just to be clear YOU ARE CONTRIBUTING TO MAKING THE SOCIETY HOSTILE and then crying foul that it wonât work. You should know better than all the other heterosexual people out there |
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No Picture Cute_Rowdy | Posted On Jun 21, 2023
@ray_gay_6 Since you are an expert on what is natural and what is not, let me ask you something. Many orthodox religious bodies consider *** *** to be unnatural and unholy. And here you are, a new bee bot with your *** displayed in full glory for the entire wide world. Lol. If that's not heights of hypocrisy l don't know what is! If a trait observed in minority makes it unnatural and unwelcome, should left-handers leave the planet?
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No Picture ray_gay_6 | Posted On Jun 21, 2023
@Cute_Rowdy You are deviating from the point of discussion here. My *** or what I want to do with my *** is my personal matter. No religion or even you have a say in what I will, may or may not want to do with it. So let's get thst out of the way ans talk like
I did not bring any religion or any values over here. I dont really care. What I discussed or mentioned was the fact that a man and a woman gets married and starting a family with one or many kids. For the record that is what I meant by natural. The way nature has designed it to be. But people like you and me are exception. I admit that and I have admitted that on my statement and points in the earlier comments.
I say again I see nothing wrong in a man being with another man and making love and being happy the way they are. It is fine and many may call it unnatural but I don't really bother. However what I am not supporting is a marriage between the two. That is unnecessary particularly in a heavily divided society like India. It will easily work in the West but extremely difficult to penetrate into a society like ours. Each state has its own values, beliefs, traditions and of course superstitions what not. Are you saying a newly married gay couple will be welcomed by people? No chance. Our society isn't prepared for that. Not even the younger folks.
Heres what is required just like what the Kochi metro did. They hired transgenders into their workforce. That is the need of the hour. Including them into the society and then build on how that inclusion grows and matures. This is my point. Going straight into a matrimony would more harm that good in India. Cheers!
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No Picture ray_gay_6 | Posted On Jun 21, 2023
@vihit2345 I think you are jumping the gun and misunderstanding my points I mentioned. Some are calling me out already to a point if they can cancel me... they would by now.
I am not here to oppose but brining in some points to consider before we go ahead with such a legal decision. Else it would make it look like the one of those masterstroke moves like the note ban my friend. Thats what I meant. The scenarios I mentioned in my comments are to make anyone who reads it understand the depth of such a move. |
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No Picture siddhi91 | Posted On Jun 21, 2023
Matrimony is a mind game the marriage is not for the body but for the mind. Guys couldnât be really that loyal itâs very rare |
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No Picture vihit2345 | Posted On Jun 21, 2023
@ray_gay16 not jumping the gun but let me ask you one question are the same questions asked about straight marriages and legality of it? They are not just because its just happening for centuries and is âNaturalâ well in the same spirit queer marriages should be legalised so decades down the line it is normalised and people can just get married to a guy if they want to.
@siddhi91 how many examples of gay marriages should i provide that work? Mine might not be loyal according to you but it is the happiest i have ever been because we talk. But there are so many examples around me of happy loyal couples. If you want someone loyal you will know when you meet them. If trust is something you cannot place in a person you shouldnât be getting married to them anyways but that doesnât mean there should be no provision for marriage at all. You not finding someone is a you problem but legalising should not depend on that.
Who is able to use the gay marriage law does not matter! It needs to be provisioned irrespective if there is no one to use it for sake of equality. Everyones like it will never work, man and woman etc. if you know if wonât work then why not legally recognise it anyways. This is why I had to come all the way across the world to live my life because I knew even the gay community is not unified in India.
We have people that use false âbiâ umbrella to act straight amongst gays, we have gays that in public take a stand against their own community to fit in (you dont have to come out of closet but atleast be an ally and even if being ally is too much to ask for ignore and move on but making it worse for your own community because you are in denial is just sick) |
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No Picture ray_gay_6 | Posted On Jun 21, 2023
@vihit2345 A matrimony between an man and a woman or otherwise is probably the main reason we are here. That is a fact and we need to accept that. A family and many families are what makes a society. Sure there are things that are questionable as nothing man made is perfect. But you can question nature can you? That's the whole point here.
Let me give you an example of mindless legalization. I live in North America and very recently they just went ahead and legalized cannabis and a few hard drugs. The community that consumes them celebrated the move. And now the whole of the city centre is filled with people smoking up ***, taking hard drugs and destroying their lives, there is absolutely nobody to help them. Why? Because a vast majority of the society don't care and don't accept the move and the just ignore the existence of the people who are considered abnormal by their standards. Legalization of same *** marriage in India will end up like it. People or a community who are indifferent from the normal society will always be cast out. It just the way it is and in India it will be a bit more pronounced due to the differences that are already there in the society. How does the normal society accept the transgender community in India? They are mocked and ridiculed at, yet they have been in our society for 1000's of years. You think one verdict will change the way people think? Hence my point. If you love a man and you have an option to move out with him, do it. Be happy, make love, have a ton of *** and enjoy the rest of your life. It is pointless to connect that to a matrimony which belongs to the normal people of the society. I don't want to sound like I represent them here. But someone will and when they do, gay couples will be treated worse than transgenders in our country. |
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No Picture vihit2345 | Posted On Jun 21, 2023
A matrimony between an man and a woman or otherwise is probably the main reason we are here (thgis statement makes me sick to my very core). That is a fact and we need to accept that (not a fact there are gay animals who do not believe in marriage at all along with the straight ones, institution of marriage was created by humans so I am not going to accept the whole matrimony is between a man and woman nonsense, you feel free to believe in the ***)
A family and many families are what makes a society(people make society, not just families there are many people with no family so i guess they are not part of society according to your definition). Sure there are things that are questionable as nothing man made is perfect (possibly the only time in this long forum that you have made sense is this sentence when used in case of the institution of matrimony)
But you can question nature can you? That's the whole point here ( No one is questioning nature, nature has done things perfectly always hence not 100% of the population is queer but only 10% is to ensure reproduction, that does not mean the 10% of queers should be forced to live by 90%âs rules - in this case you are willingly doing that which is a choice)
Skipping asding the next long paragraph because it is a bunch of bullshit with classic deviation tactic (also it makes me so sad you live in somewhere as liberal as north america and chose to be this regressive), in North America where gay marriage is legal you instead chose to compare legalizatipn of same *** marriage to making *** legal (ever heard of comparing apples to oranges?)
It doesnt matter how society treats transgenders, it does matter how you treat them? How do you treat them? How much of it is because society treats them that way? Do you have any emotional intelligence to disobey the society and do the right thing? |
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No Picture Cute_Rowdy | Posted On Jun 22, 2023
@ray_gay_6 Dude, seriously? Looking at every sentence you spoke..reeks of tonnes of internalised homophobia! Coming that from a guy from the community is insane. You have buried inside you the so called ideas of what is supposed to be "natural", "family" so deep that lets say after decades even if homosexuality and gay matrimony is completely normalised, you will live like an outcast. No offense, but guys like you deserve it :) |
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No Picture RAJESH_BOMB | Posted On Jun 22, 2023
Ray_gay_6 I know a gay couple who are in relationship since 12 years. They wish to get married now and take their relation one step ahead, bit its because of people like you who say its unnatural and whatever they are not able to do it. So now they will be devoid of basic rights of marriage , adoption etc because people like you don't want them to get married. If you marry and girl and enjoy all the rights you cannot stop gay couples from doing so because you feel its unnatural. Society didn't accept Homosexuality before, after decades of fight some part of society is well accepting it Similarly a change has to begin somewhere. Just for the sake of rudimentary and downtrodden thought process of few people like you , we can't take away the happiness from others. Even straight couples have to go through divorce and all doesn't mean every couple ends up getting divorced. And of you are staying in North America you better avoid talking whats going in India , because it won't be applicable for you so your views and points are of zero importance. |
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No Picture Arwin | Posted On Jun 22, 2023
And how ironic is it, that a person being on a gay dating website giving such bullshit honest opinions. I will just just say log shaadi karke bhi yaha muh maar rahe h so chup hi rahe toh behtar. |
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No Picture ray_gay_6 | Posted On Jun 22, 2023
@rajesh_bomb the society will label them as unnatural, crazy, stupid and probably write them off. I mean to say the couple who you are talking about. Its not people like me who will call it unnatural I would rather call it unnecessary. They are better off living the rest of their lives they way they have been happy until now. That's exactly what I meant and said throughout whatever I said here.
But before I wrap up, Here is what I mean. I support same *** love, relationships, intimacy and beyond. I think a gay matrimony is pointless in a time when normal marriages are dropping like dead flies. It will add stress to our judicial system and when things go wrong, we pay for it all with our taxes. What needs to be legalised is the acceptance of of people with mixed orientations. That is step one. You really think a gay person is accepted and respected in the current social setup in India? I brought children in the discussion, you think they will be accepted by other children and if they are do you think their parents re gonna be cool about it? The answer is no. The gay couple, their children (if they have) everyone will be written off from our society that is sadly the reality of things in our country. In the rest of the world you are ignored, uncared and end up homeless on the streets. |
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No Picture ray_gay_6 | Posted On Jun 22, 2023
@arwin Are you for real man? Please have the patience to read what everyone has written, including what I have. Homophobic??? Why should I be? What I am so sure about myself is the fact that if I proclaim who I am, that would be my last day on the planet. I know it so I would rather stay low than confront the situation. It is cowardly and stressful until the last day of my life. But it is what it is. Your situation is not my situation and the same goes with each and everyone of us.
I spoke only about the impacts of such a move it it is made in the current social setup in our country and nothing else. People have called out that I am many things already, homophobic is new. But please... I would recommend you read my statements with a broader mindset. Cheers! |
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No Picture RAJESH_BOMB | Posted On Jun 22, 2023
Ray_gay_6 Firstly you are assuming they are happy but unfortunately they can't nominate.their spouse for their legal belongings. Its so bad that I love a person whom I cannot nominate for my bank account. I can't include in my insurance cover. If you think its unnecessary then I feel your existence itself is unnecessary. Homosexual couples deserve certain civil rights like other couples. Why should gay couples be burdened because normal marriages are dropping off like dead flies and whatever. It has to begin somewhere and someday. You have diarrhoea so you can't stop others from eating. whatever they wish, because you have diarrhoea is not their problem. And yes there are mixed reactions ,there is not 100% acceptance for gays but similarly there is not 100% rejection or hatred for gays. I have been attending discussions where people say that homosexuality has been a part of our culture and we have to accept it, and this comes from heterosexuals. This change has happened after 377 was scrapped down , and there could be few people who would have said same thing while 377 was scrapped, that society won't accept and ***. The younger generation is far more accepting towards alternate sexualtilies ,you are unaware of ground realities. And if you are not located in India better those who are based here fight for their rights. Your views don't really matter because you have already abandoned the country. Take care! |
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No Picture siddhi91 | Posted On Jun 22, 2023
All relationships are fake and temporary the mom dad departs b4 us bro sis becomes enemy/competitor after marriage suddenly a new relationship springs v name it wife/husband from it few more relations grows like in-laws son daughter. Finally in the old age the wife may depart before us children may abandon us so in the end itâs v who travel with us from the birth to end so all r temporary and fragile few have a good relationships but again itâs the one alone that can satisfy oneself v r the best friend and relationship to ourselves my buddy thought me when he departed from me |
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No Picture ray_gay_6 | Posted On Jun 22, 2023
@RAJESH_BOMB I respect your thoughts and some valid points you brought up now. You're right people of other orientations deserve their rights and privileges just like the other folks do. I am for hat you said where there is a change in the rules to nominate for your personal belongings, be a nominee and insurance cover too. This is necessary. I think I have made my point why I am not in favor of matrimony already and since I am not a parrot, I don't want to go over it again.
I really wish you look at this topic even if you favor it from the other side. I think that's when you will figure out the depth of such a move if it ever happens.
Finally the last couple of sentences regarding my absence from my home country was unnecessary. I dont care if my views doesn't matter to you or anyone personally. I have the freedom to communicate so I will wherever I may be. What made you think I abandoned the country and I am unaware of the ground realities? I lived 99% of my life in India! |
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No Picture vihit2345 | Posted On Jun 22, 2023
@ray_gay_6 after deciphering pointless long posts of yours I will give you one quick analysis that shows your internalised homophobia - you keep calling straight marriages NORMAL.
@Rajesh unsure if people who donât live in India have abandoned it or now (I know I havent because i was born and raised there and have only been in US for 7 years but that doesnt mean I do not care about India as it is my country) that being said Ray_gay_6 is actually more indian than you think lol just looking at his self deprecating thinking despite being in north america proves it. |
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No Picture ray_gay_6 | Posted On Jun 22, 2023
@vihit2345 You never sounded pointless to me. And I never said you did. Calling out the other person using some meaningless generalised terms like homophobic is probably they way you handle a discussion. What are straight marriages then? What is normal is always legal what isn't will be legalised based on how sensible it is for the society. Since you read all what I wrote your analysis goes nowhere. The deciphering hasn't really worked my friend. You have been calling me out as homophobic a couple of times and maybe... just maybe you need to redefine your understanding of that term.
And thanks for accepting atleast something. The fact that I am Indian in a way you probably do like, which honestly doesn't bother me at all. |
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