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Life of a Bi

Submitted by Doorellin007 Location: All India (All India, India)

Growing up to like the concept of love making also leads to several confusion in few and I was one of them. I couldn't really understand which part was I supposed to play. On one side I liked the smooth silky curvy scent of a woman and on the other side I loved the odour of a man. I never could find a perfect partner or love because you can't keep that up for long. Eventually got married because that seemed "the best" option. But even that didn't last long because I couldn't stay straight for more than 5yrs. And the worst part of this all.. lost all the good friends in this whole process.. because the agonizing truth is.. that it's not easy to trust any friend when you're married.

And there...for many, it's so easy to judge someone or "hate" someone because they are "confused" in life as a Bi. As a Bi, I strongly feel, most Bi's are lonely and they need compassion just as much as anybody else does.

Share your views and love for all those lonely souls out there. Thanks! 🙂

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Posted On May 31, 2021 - 04:34 PM

I m a bi guy

It is really frustrating as i have bodily needs for which i need both gender to attain satisfaction

I do have guilt of cheating but sometime i need it to pacify frustration

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Posted On Jun 9, 2021 - 12:08 PM

A gay is distinguished by the attraction to another male... and the fascination for the male genital
rest is all cover up for being gay

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Posted On Jun 21, 2021 - 02:48 PM

I am a bi guy and I don't think marriage to a girl or a boy can stop me from attracting towards the other gender.so I am thinking about bigamy with a guy and girl. Will it work out?

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Posted On Jul 2, 2021 - 07:44 PM

melts: if you are looking to play around, PLEASE DONT get married and hurt others. if one partner is selfish and the other is not...it will NOT work out. if both partners have an open relationship, it will NOT work out.

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Posted On Jul 2, 2021 - 09:50 PM

i have read all the above comments and find Them interesting! i am bi and did not get married as i did not want to hurt anyone. my parents/family/friends kept asking about marriage but...as i have moved overseas, there is no longer pressure. being gay or bi or heterosexual is a combination of genetics and/or environment (nature/nuture). we were all created by the same creater, different in colour/size/***/orientation/intellect/abilities/etc. so let us not judge each other as we have NO AUTHORITY to do so. i know of many bi men who are married, some happy, most not. i guess if one was a top before marriage, then he most probably will be able to juggle 2 birds in a hand. if he was a bottom before marriage, he would find it difficult. indian men are coerced into marriage to keep the parents happy and to provide the family with an heir. the parents had their lives lived as they wanted to (?) but it is unfair that they manage their childrens lives to satisfy themselves or their relatives or friends. the men are supposed to adhere to the parents wishes and get married, so that he can get his share of the property/wealth. BUT IS HE HAPPY? he is caught in a sandwich between his parents and his wife. if he can satisfy his wifes needs, he is a happy family man with a dirty conscience. if he cannot satisfy his wife's needs, leads to BIG family problems and a dirty conscience. some men are SELFISH and dont care about cheating on their wives. some care about their wives but cannot divulge their secret or reconcile between heart and ***, which leads to STRESS! a wife will never allow her husband to have *** with another woman, as women are clingy and the other woman will want a share of the husband. a wife will not allow her husband to have *** with another man as she cannot understand why her husband needs a another man when she gives him all of herself. if she knows he is a bottom, she will loose respect for him. there is a joke...a serious joke.....god gave men 2 important organs....brain and ***...but god did not intend that they work at the same time! yes this is so important when it comes to infections like stds/hiv/hep c. in the heat of the moment, men loose their brains and have unprotected ***. rimming is quite common in india...though not many are aware of the dangers. yes even kissing a rimmer is DANGEROUS! all men love oral *** and most men dont get it from their wives, so they seek men who know the art....but these artists are *** other men who may/may not be infected. imagine the consequences of taking these infections to your wives and maybe kissing your children!!! PLAY SAFE OR NO PLAY OR STAY SINGLE.

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Posted On Jul 3, 2021 - 05:58 AM

@jaidesai, man you nailed it, hit the spot, I guess most people understand it but does not have courage to take decision and by the time they realise the truth, it is too late. Guys one life, live it, enjoy it but with respect and dignity. I am not saying do openly what you want to do, respect social boundaries but still do what you can without damaging your reputation, take care of your mental health!! Cheers.

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Posted On Jul 3, 2021 - 08:28 AM


Very well covered all the aspects and consequences of being on spectrum. What else can be said well further?

I also know it is damn difficult and traumatic to take a decision for yourself.

I just wanted to say DO NOT MARRY if you cannot keep the "VOWS" of a marriage.

It is better to be on your own and happy then make a miserable life trying to keep family and society happy.

I know my decision being whatever I want will be judged by everyone till my last breath, but at least I will not have life long regrets on my decision being whatever I am.

Not sure what else to say further as I know in most cases the decisions are derived based on "what society will think?" Rather than what I want.

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Posted On Jul 3, 2021 - 10:47 PM

I never experienced gay *** and all but when I was in school, in class 10...one boy used to touch my *** in class and I used to really like it.... But i never tried to touch his *** as I was so shy... Then my school changed after 10....i lost his contact... Now I have completed my graduation... Dated many girl.... Done many thing but still didn't did any gay thing.... I really want to do with boys but stopping myself.... I don't want to ruin my image in front of anybody..... In every dream I think of touching ***... Play with it
I am really confused about my sexuality... What I am?
Straight, bi or gay.... What's my position? Top, bottom or bi

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Posted On Jul 4, 2021 - 01:24 AM

Hey @nakedlife098, as you said you dated many girls and think about ***, most probably you bisexual /pansexual /bi-curious. And the position thing is can be cleared by watching ***, as in my case. Choose the kind of *** you wanna see, and see which role/preference you are enjoying more. And yeah, you can be verstailte too. Yayyyy!
Most importantly, about your judgement part, no having *** with someone isn't gonna ruin your image if you choose that person carefully. Make your first time special, choose your first person carefully, tell him there can be things which will be totally new to you and you wanna just experiment with it all.
Good luck with your first time!

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Posted On Jul 4, 2021 - 02:47 AM

A homosexual guy marrying a lesbian girl may assuage the frictions as both knows each other’s needs and society’s expectations so *** part of the life may be smooth. But how to find. It could be better if a web portal is functional for such guys and girls, since such cases exists in large numbers but unaddressed.

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Posted On Jul 4, 2021 - 03:29 AM

@Cva agree with you.. actually it's better if any platform created for this type of boys and girls met and live their life as they want together

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Posted On Oct 13, 2021 - 06:36 AM

Let me explain something, Guys grown up in conservative family or an environment, it’s impossible to escape from marriage, because their parents expects his life with a women who can deliver a baby for generations. It’s still possible for parents who has open mindset or who aware about what is LGBT or if they have same pressure of life what we have now . Before I get married, I was a versatile and after marriage I realised I am bi . Because i like girls if they have nice structures. Since , the rules of LGBT relaxed , anyone may get encountered with someone easily. Married guys has less opportunities to have fun with men and slowly the urges would reduce over the period of time and they will be matured to find guys for fun . But if the guy is not married or having relationship with someone , the urges never stop with his partner only , when he finds someone better than his partner, he might change the mind. The relationship get failed and start to find someone again and again. The age will go and when he turn back , there will be pain and cheating only ..

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Posted On Oct 13, 2021 - 06:49 AM


Just a very bizarre question if I may. I read your post. But I'm not sure how you confidently say thay it's impossible to escape from marriage. That's the most stupidest thing I've ever heard. First of all it's your life. No one can force you into doing anything. As far as my knowledge goes, slavery was abolished years ago. You're free to do whatever you want. (Granted not considering you coming out to your family as gay or bisexual or lesbian or any of those matters), but marriage is one of the things that's under your hand. If you don't go to the marriage hall the marriage won't happen. It's entirely your decision. No one can force you into doing it. Just say no. Anyone will respect your decision. Second of all, who in their right sane logical mind would want anyone to bring a baby into this forsaken world. It's the most illogical thing to do. We as humans have desecrated this planet, destroyed it to it's core. Unemployment, politics, diseases, sickness, over population, crowded, there's no good food to eat, no good water to drink. Why, let me ask why would you wanna bring a child into this planet and unnecessarily give that poor child suffering. We have suffered enough ? Why create more ? It's a simple thing. Don't procreate.

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Posted On May 6, 2022 - 12:05 PM

Because of confusion several guys consider themselves as bi even though they know deep inside they are gay .Many think of being bi as a fallback option( which doesn't make sense to us) and as a way to console themselves that they are not only attracted to guys but also girls to hold up their masculinity. This happens in most of the tops out there who consider themselves bi.I have come to this conclusion by chatting with several members out there.these guys think being gay is not a masculine thing. But that's wrong ,utter wrong . There's no wrong in being gay or you won't become less masculine just because you are gay.
Just because you got a hj or a bj in some dirty public toilet from a guy doesn't make you a bi.
It's about being in a room with another man and respecting him for who he is and his likes.
When it comes to actual bisexual guys , whom I have had the pleasure to meet , some have altered their sexual orientation becoz of societal pressure of getting married and being gay and others who are simply bi without any pressure or force.
Most of the subs I meet are married and they have a lot of fetish and fantasy. I can honestly and confidently say that I have engaged in some weird and confusing fetishes that you would have never even heard in your life . But these guys just ask a safe partner and a safe place to be themselves and be accepted for whom they are , and for that they go all the way , they don't care about time or money is they find the right guy .
Being bi for many is a challenge ,but being true to yourself is more important than you think.
If someone tells you you aren't a man or masculine or chikna or anyother thing , just ignore him and move on .
You are 100 times the man he is .
Take care guys

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Posted On May 6, 2022 - 01:05 PM

In my experience :-

1. Hypocrisy related to sexuality, especially by men , is not an Indian speciality. It exists in every country of the world. Homophobia is far more severe in western countries than in India. In Indian big cities no one cares about your personal life. But it becomes an issue in smaller cities and villages just like in every other country. Let's not shame India.

2. Bisexuality is a shield used.by most gay married men to present a picture of masculinity or save himself from judgement. Homosexuality is a major question for most men of their masculinity.

3. Sexuality is a personal choice. Whatever an individual chooses to love by or present should matter only to him and his/her partner. As long as there is consent no one has the right to judge anyone else.

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Posted On May 6, 2022 - 01:33 PM

Lately i dont give a ***... i like threesomes .. whether bi or straight or confused.. if we can eat a *** and *** and be kinky .. its all good

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Posted On Jun 19, 2022 - 03:47 AM

Hey people.. I love women and always get aroused with them.. I also get aroused when I think about getting *** by men. I have been in sexual relationships with both for years, & I always acted as TOP who liked to get ***.

But, nowadays I have feeling towards *** ***, I would like to give it a try. I’m looking for a person who would like to suk my dik & *** my ***.

I don’t know how to put my orientation now? Can someone help me on this?

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Posted On Jun 19, 2022 - 04:55 AM

Hey racecourse
Dont worried abt ur desire
From my experience i *** two married guys, they have same feelings as u have.
I ask them why u like this, their answer is same, they said the i touch their body, kisses their body, rimming b4 ***, (i am a slow fucker ) they enjoy it very much, this is the thing dat they are not getting from wife.
Even i ask them what about attraction towards men, they said, yes its is there but they dont indulge that.
Thank god still both happy with me

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Posted On Jun 19, 2022 - 07:19 PM

Guys, do what your heart feels right. Want to get married, get married, don't want to get married then don't.
Marriages are not always doomed after partner comes out bi. I've had at least 3 friends who came out to their wives, by accident or willingly, and they were understood and cared for by their wives. Of course, there was friction initially, but they made peace for whatever happened and still continuing. Even if you search online, you'll see many blog posts/YouTube videos about such couples. Year is 2022. Everyone has the right to set their own moral boundaries for their own comfort zones. It's foolish to consider what society thinks it's the right thing. It's always best to open up/hint about your inclinations to your partner before a decision like marriage is taken. And It's not that all straight married couples are always loyal. It has to do with one's own conscience and not sexuality, whatever it may be. Married or single, one must learn to control their sexual urges and put that energy to good use. *** is not everything. Even I'm struggling in that zone, but progressing day by day.

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Posted On Jun 19, 2022 - 07:39 PM

And a very few people get into marriage out of love for each other. At least in Indian society. Be it straight or queer.
It's almost like a social contract for two individuals to offer each other the social, monetary and heritage benefits of cohabitation.
In my opinion, which might be wrong, love is just another emotion too overrated. Nothing exists like true love. It's always give and take. Even your parents don't love you unconditionally. Start misbehaving and be inconsiderate, they'll disown you. I'm not saying this, it was written thousands of years before - "अर्थार्थी जीवलोकोsयं, न कश्चित कस्यचित प्रिय:" (Living world works for each other's benefit, nobody likes anybody). Therefore, I believe in preserving one's individuality and personal space even while being married. Just see what you're offering in exchange, and make sure it outweighs enough. Many would find this irritating but I'm being pragmatic here.

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Posted On Jun 23, 2022 - 06:01 AM

@Lovelust_1 "Living world works for each other's benefit, nobody likes anybody" thanks for sharing that verse. It is so true and profound.

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Posted On Jun 23, 2022 - 06:29 AM

I'm a bisexual. I met few in this site. Started with gay. Then experienced 3some with their wife's.
There are people who's living Happyly after marriage also.

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