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Life of a Bi

Submitted by Doorellin007 Location: All India (All India, India)

Growing up to like the concept of love making also leads to several confusion in few and I was one of them. I couldn't really understand which part was I supposed to play. On one side I liked the smooth silky curvy scent of a woman and on the other side I loved the odour of a man. I never could find a perfect partner or love because you can't keep that up for long. Eventually got married because that seemed "the best" option. But even that didn't last long because I couldn't stay straight for more than 5yrs. And the worst part of this all.. lost all the good friends in this whole process.. because the agonizing truth is.. that it's not easy to trust any friend when you're married.

And there...for many, it's so easy to judge someone or "hate" someone because they are "confused" in life as a Bi. As a Bi, I strongly feel, most Bi's are lonely and they need compassion just as much as anybody else does.

Share your views and love for all those lonely souls out there. Thanks! 🙂

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Posted On Apr 29, 2021 - 05:11 PM

"As a Bi, I strongly feel, most Bi's are lonely" and I'm one of them.... Can't adjust along with friends in real.. But when it comes to social sites, life automatically sets you up.... I feel like life behind the screen isway more open for me rather than in real life...

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Posted On Apr 29, 2021 - 05:23 PM

Recently I watched hotstar web series 'Out of Love. This web series is in extra marital affair.. How it disturbs the life of loyal wife and kid..

After watching this I felt really bad. Earlier I was not thinking much to hookup with married men. Infact most of the s*x I had with married men. Now I am thinking not to meet married men. It really ruins everything including my conscience and moralities😣😣😣

What is your opinion?

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Posted On Apr 29, 2021 - 06:20 PM

@Curiousboy92.. please don't fill ur mind and heart with unnecessary guilt

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Posted On Apr 30, 2021 - 04:42 AM

Dear @Curiousboy92 what you have seen in the web series is all together a different story which may be pointing to influence something in the movie, or they want to show the negative effect. But all are not similar, The things which are applicable to that character are not necessarily applicable to everyone. There are many gays/men who enjoys there *** life with other men/women keeping all things secret. So don't think much with your *** partner, enjoy your *** with your choice guy. You really know how much I like you. Love you TC Aarav...

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Posted On Apr 30, 2021 - 05:27 AM

hey @curiousbou92, its just a webseries..yours is a real life...and married men gets that girl pregnant..and has decided to divorce his wife, that wont happen in real, isnt it? ofcorse in india, you wont marry the married men..so just go on enjoying till u can..and if ull get along well, then friends for life is a best option. Married men too must b having some lonelyness, so void..so they approach u..or explore their bi side. So..hook up and Njoy..till u can.

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Posted On Apr 30, 2021 - 06:26 AM

Always wonder....who qualifies to be identified as "BI" in this context? Someone who sleeps with multiple men and 1 woman, his wife? India is a complex society. Will the so called BI men let their wife have *** with another woman...or may be another man, cause she might be BI as well? But some food for thought.
No offence to married men who have *** with another men. Each to his own and who are we to judge.

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Posted On Apr 30, 2021 - 08:14 AM


Yes, even I was thinking on the same line when I read this thread.
In our society gays are not accepted. There is no point in discussing what we have to do so that society will accept us.... This is not the topic of discussion here.... We are not happly accepted in society. This is the fact.

When I started recognizing myself as gay and started enjoying with men..... I got mixed crowd - 1) singles 2) Married
When I started thinking deeply on sexuality (after having so much fun 😜), I asked these married men whether you are bisexuals or something else ...... Everyone replied that I am bisexual. I asked them so how many girls you *** till date ..... They said that I am married and I do *** with my wife only..... So I asked what r u doing with me ..... They said *** but you are not my wife..... I get attracted more towards male than female..... So what I conclude is they are gays.... Due to society they are married with woman.... And they are now claiming that they are bisexuals because they *** both.... They are not bysexual in real sense....

Even I have single friends who are still having *** with me on regular basis. Some of them are married now..... When they gave me news of their marriage I asked them are you sure that you will be able to satisfy your wife sexually.? Most of them said I am bisexual "now" ... I can *** girls..... Girls नहीं मिलती थी इसलिए लडको को चोदता था । अब शादी के बाद ये सब बंद । As I said they are still having *** with me after marriage and they recognise themselves as bisexual.... Few of them (2 to 3) are now struggling for divorce and the reason I heard from others (people staying in my building and other straight frd) is they are not able to satisfy their wives.....

So, i don't think so there is perfect bi in my life .....

What you pointed is fact these guys are always ready to have *** with gays but they will never allow their wife to sleep with others because their thinking is like that if wife sleeps with other person then it is *** which is crime and what I am doing with other men is just a fun....

I would like to have *** with pure or perfect biexual guy....And would like to know how he is maintaining the relationship with his wife , with other women and men as well.

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Posted On Apr 30, 2021 - 08:34 AM


Hahaha.. Nicely written...

But what do u mean by pure bisexual😜😜

Most of the bisexual are gay only. Due to family pressure they married..few are normal, just they dont get female easily, safety concern, gay s*x free of cost and they can do anything with boys (girls make drama), give good oral and importantly there is no need to spend money to pursuade boys...considering that they prefer boys over girls..

But technically everyone is bisexual only.. How can we bifurcate who is pure and who is unpure😊😜

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Posted On Apr 30, 2021 - 10:26 AM

This confusion is with many bi mens which includes mee too...but still i can say i like both men and a woman, gets feeling for both...*** is just a part of relationship....but if u feel for some one in both way ..it can be bi like thing..but conclusively i feel all bi are a confused...and some are underpressure to get married...many married or who r about to get married ask me how u manage...

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Posted On Apr 30, 2021 - 11:14 AM



What I wanted to say by the word Pure Bisexual is as follows

I am gay .... I am pure gay ..... I get attracted towards male and not female.... Suppose I marry with a girl due to society (This is what I am not going to do) I will not physically satisfy my wife .... So even if I am married i am not bissxual

If X is a straight guy. He gets attracted towards female, and not towards gay.... They will not be able to satisfy a guy even if someone force them ...... These guy are so straight and they don't even like to think about gay ***....

Bisexual means those who have equal attraction towards both male and female. They can satisfy both .....
I was talking about such guys.... Probably I am not able to put here in words what is in my mind but I hope you understand.....

What I get till date is like
1) बीवी preganent है तो क्या करू इसलिए तेरे पास आया पर जो किया ना तुने मजा आया (I was like तू शादी के पेहेले से और बाद भी आता है मेरे पास)
2) बीवी चुसती नहीं है रे तू अच्छा चुसता है
पर सिर्फ चुसना kiss मत करना, किस करना पसंद नहीं मुझे, वो सब वो गे लोग करते है, तू गे तो नहीं है ना (I was like no I am not gay I am blow job machine कोई भी आओ घुसड के चले जाओ)
And these all guys are bisexuals

But what you said that most bisexuals are gays only .... this is absolutely true.

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Posted On Apr 30, 2021 - 11:43 AM

@Indrachaap and @curiousboy92 I feel when someone says they're bisexual they mean they tend to enjoy the physical act of having *** with both the genders and they're open to having *** with both the genders

As also mentioned by @indrachaap most of the times it's just to fulfil their sexual desires as they don't find it from the other gender.

So it's never the emotional content which @curiousboy92 was referring to when he quoted the webseries. It's pure lust and sexual desires only.

To put it bluntly, they just need a wet hole to release their drop of joy

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Posted On Apr 30, 2021 - 12:24 PM

I somehow, since ages, believe the theory that there is none is really a BI, because it is just a theory.
None can like girls as well as guys equally.

There are cases, which have already been discussed here like... Some guys are there who have sx with wife, but in those days of wife, or when wife is away, when wife is pregnant, they go with the guys but with guys they don't kiss, they don't sk them, they don't hold dix of the other guys... Practically they USE the guys in absense of wife and they don't want to take burden of going with other girl on temporary basis.
Are they BI? I think NO.

There are cases where married guys have good sx with wife, but she is the only lady they had sx with ever. They don't think of sx with other lady, they don't get aroused by imagining ladies. On the other hand, they enjoy sx with guys, they 💋, they fondle, they cuddle, they feel the body of guys, (irrespective of the role they play in m2m fun).
Are they BI? I think NO.

Then there are some guys, who had sx with girls before marriage, then they had sx with wife and they enjoyed m2f fun very well. And later they come to know a gay, who introduced them to m2m fun, they were made to experience the m2m fun. And since then, they either started like this new flavor so much that they started exploring it more and more every now and then... Or since then they started craving for this m2m fun whenever sx with wife is not available.
Are they BI? I think NO.

I have not found a single male who could reply with a proper answer to the question, that if they had a choice to choose between a girl and a guy, who they will choose.
Similarly, I have not found guys who have enjoyed MMF (his wife/gf or other guy's wife/gf, or totally 3 random persons in a ONS/FnF session), like u fk the girl and u sk the guy or U lic the pussi and u kis the guy or U fk the girl and u get fkd by the guy.
Unless one fall in this category, I don't think he is a BI.

LIFE OF A BI is equally complicated as LIFE OF PI.
BUT there are so many complications in the life, that this complication is not that important.

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Posted On Apr 30, 2021 - 05:19 PM

Well to test true Bi one have to do with both male and female together at same point .then he is true Bi who can give equal enjoyment to *** and *** at same time.No one must be his favourite. Or not even substitute.

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Posted On Apr 30, 2021 - 05:32 PM

Actually the real meaning of BI is By interest. Person finds interest in whom at a time he goes with in.like every day u can't have same food. So change in taste is mandatory. But its ur choice whom u give preferences. If ur pure or true gay u will never give ur ture love to any such person who goes on changing partners in bed.let be male or female. Only liking men doesn't makes u gay .only living truly with one male partner represent u has true gay.it as simple as true married couple who never before or after marriage given any kind of importance to anyother person in their life.they are made for each other .rest is just play body not soul.
sorry if i have hurted anyone by my words.
*** is just *** .it's just a body enjoyment therapy. Be true to ur self then for anyone else.

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Posted On Apr 30, 2021 - 07:20 PM

I am a bi and my wife knows it...

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Posted On Apr 30, 2021 - 07:26 PM

There are some funny but true observations of bisexuals. Pheobe sings in the sitcom, FRIENDS, that bisexuals are just kidding themselves. And in the movie, Saturday Night Fever, one of the character says that David Bowie who claimed he was a bisexual "is a bisexual all right, he likes BOYS and MEN!" Lol.

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Posted On Apr 30, 2021 - 10:18 PM

I would rather love to use tinder than grindr. I love and get attracted to girls very easily but i have always faced rejection from girls. This led me to go for guys, they have been generous enough to satisfy my body needs. What category should I put myself into?

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Posted On May 1, 2021 - 01:32 AM

Guys, the world pr sexuality and orientation is not black or white. its not u r only any one among three caTergories Gay(100% male attraction) , bisexual (50-50% exact attraction ) or straight (100 % female attraction). If you think if some one doesn t fall in one of the three he is fooling around, than u r wrong..

the orientation is vivid more than black and white or just three option, seen guys loving a gender and having *** with others both at par very clear and also guys who r indifferent about whats in their plate, they just hv *** with both with no mental connect... isexuality and orientation are more likely to represent a three axis graph 1 axis is attraction to males
2 axis is attraction to female 3 axis is mental connect or need for love so stop saying people only tend to turn by because they r deprived or have been married

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Posted On May 1, 2021 - 07:26 AM

I think being bi ACTUALLY means interest in both genders and personally, I love woman but I've always wanted to know what it was to be with a man. Still do and I have sexted many men, some including married men. I don't know about others but I think the problem with most of the men here and otherwise is that they haven't identified their sexuality properly.

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Posted On May 1, 2021 - 02:52 PM

Does only physical satisfaction with guys indicates he is gay? I had this question for a long but didn't get satisfactory answer.....if my question isn't wrong, then plz clarify my doubt

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Posted On May 1, 2021 - 04:44 PM

Hi Rohan. The human mind is the most complicated subject. And sexuality is in the mind and not body. SO there is no definite answer to ouur qs. Also gay, straight and bisexual are labels. Human sexuality is ver comlpex and cannot be compartmentalized so easily.

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Posted On May 1, 2021 - 05:27 PM

Sexuality is in the mind. It is not about physique. Though many gay men are like hormonal animals and keep having *** with many men (including me) *** happens in the mind. The mind may find any *** attractive and develop emotions which can translate to ***. The human mind is very complex and hence sexuality too is very complex. SO let's please stop with the bisexual bashing. Most gay men do not like bisexuals because they feel cheated or they feel bad for the wife which is totally justified. But somewhere society is to be blamed for entering people's bedrooms. It is definitely wrong to cheat someone after making commitments.

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Posted On May 1, 2021 - 06:52 PM

Good explanation to Rohan.
However, could you elaborate more on -
"But somewhere society is to be blamed for entering people's bedrooms....".

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Posted On May 2, 2021 - 03:26 AM

I m bi and meet with 15-20 couples and enjoy best fun

Yes i like to *** female but like more any male *** my *** for long time in some group fun male not *** *** in front his wife but they want .and some fully open with wife they *** *** and enjoy every movement of life and *** .in bi they life with both gender

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Posted On May 2, 2021 - 03:56 AM

I think it's the best of both worlds

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Posted On May 2, 2021 - 06:07 AM

Many guys including me prefer fun with men but strictly no *** with men, and full *** with women naturally inserting in *** (*** included, if woman agrees)....
Do we have a term for such guys, or bisexual fits in perfect for such guys.

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Posted On May 2, 2021 - 03:08 PM

i do not think only having *** with any particular gender will give u a tag of ur sexuality. I think all *** doesn't have love.....many guys do ***( with men or women) for physical pleasure only. and it doesn't mean that they are bisexual.....we can only call them 'tharki''hawasi'.....there is no love there........
i don't know whatever u guys think over my opinion, but i just shared my little experience of my little life

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Posted On May 3, 2021 - 06:21 AM

i am a bi, i wont get attracted to guys outside, only online dating guys whom i meet and have fun, i like to do CD (i love myself in CD) for my top and wanna get *** hard, one of my regular top he says i am his second wife, i have *** lot of girls and aunties they said i am a great fucker and very good in foreplay, Is Bisexual tag fit me?

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Posted On May 3, 2021 - 07:05 AM

@rohan_kolkata....I don't agree....it's not about love....see the term itself suggest....it is related with ***...it's bisexual.......agreed that *** and love are different....but when it comes to define bisexual....*** with man and woman should be considered and not love..... that's what I believe

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Posted On May 3, 2021 - 08:37 AM

If I consider ur opinion....
Then gay and lesbian both terms are also related to ***, not love. Because gay or lesbian is a type of 'sexuality'.....is '***' means only physical relationship??? I think '***' also means gender....😶

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Posted On May 3, 2021 - 09:01 AM

@rohan_kolkata...agreed with *** as a term is also used for gender and some word can have multiple meanings....but given the context of this tread, I said so.....

Okay...I'll try to make a scene for you and would love your thoughts on it
A male X loves his male childhood friend Y, always had backed his friend Y in thick and thin, X and Y never got attracted towards each other sexually (never even thought of touching each other inappropriately)

X claims he loves Y as a friend so much so that he can die for him....
Also X and Y are happily married to their lady love,

X makes same claim for his wife(female) that I love you so much that if time comes where only to your happiness is my death....I would happily end my life for you

Now, is X stright or bisexual?

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Posted On May 3, 2021 - 09:14 AM

Grammatical corrections in above post

X makes same claim for his wife(female) AS WELL, that I love you so much SO, that if time DEMANDS MY DEATH AS THE only WAY to your happiness....I would happily end my life for you

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Posted On May 3, 2021 - 09:16 AM

Guys, just try to know about the sexual orientation spectrum.
Testosterone describes masculine nature where as estrogen defines feminine behavior. Every individual have both this harmones. usually male have more testosterone while female are higher at estrogen. The level of this harmone keeps on changing as we grow depending on many circumstances and our body aswell, and it keeps on changing till we breath. So people experience different sexual orientations , while some have same, throughout their life depending on the change in the level of this harmones in their body.

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Posted On May 3, 2021 - 09:37 AM

@rahul00 that's true and makes sense...but I guess the doubt is

what line divides a straight and a bisexual,

is it only love for same gender without intimacy and *** (here, *** refers to action)

or *** and intimacy (with or without love and care) is mandatory to define one's orientation

For me later one is true...a son loves his father and vice versa if love was the factor then everyone in world is bisexual, love is pure....love can happen between anyone, 2 brothers love each other,

But if *** and intimacy are mandatory to call someone bisexual or straight, I think that line is clearer.

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Posted On May 3, 2021 - 09:52 AM

I feel love cant be the factor as its an emotional thing.
Here the major focus is on physical attraction , even the sexual orientation spectrum is designed for the same.

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Posted On May 3, 2021 - 10:41 AM

as per my understanding straight, bi, gay are the terms how one is sexually attracted to others.
The % of attraction might be varying depending on the individual. Doorellin007 mentioned that he could stay straight beyond 5 years. While you call yourself bi... you cannot turn into straight. May be along with ur married life, you might have to keep fulfilling ur other needs also to keep ur life moving..
Also, being lonely... is another point again depends in individuals. I have seen many bi and gay guys mingling with many friends and groups. Being lonely is something an individual decides, not the orientation. There might be some effect when we are being open to friends.. but now a days many understand this so might loose only a certain percent of friends, not all.

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Posted On May 3, 2021 - 09:10 PM

Like few of us mentioned.. human mind is way to complex to understand. Most of our views and perceptions depend on experiences that we have or people we meet or what we assume of others. Human mind and sexuality perhaps is way too complicated or impossible matter of segregation and labelling. Ever heard of a man sexually attracted to Baloons :-)

Not only Bi men cheat... married straight men cheat, married women does cheat too and so does some "married like" gay partners cheat on each other. Everybody is confused... including the one here who claims to be totally sure. May be you could just try to pick one from the most likeable lot for a night and decide your percentage. Spread love for Bi's too. Peace ✌️

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Posted On May 4, 2021 - 12:58 AM

Interesting views guys! But frankly speaking - don’t care as long as you satisfy yourself sexually at no one’s cost. Statements like Bi’s are cheaters sounds like gay *** is unnatural 😄..we are all animals who have insatiable *** hunger that drives most part of our life..so don’t think ..just stay safe n enjoy 😜

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Posted On May 5, 2021 - 01:10 AM

@BiaSes, well, I do not completely agree, we are animals, yes but we are also humans, we have got ability to THINK compared to other animals and that’s what makes us special! ;)

Everyone is talking about *** here, but, being a BI do you also feel EMOTIONALLY connected to both man and a woman? Can you fall in LOVE with both the sexes?

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Posted On May 5, 2021 - 05:31 PM

@cuteguy4444 - yes we are humans - social animals..dude we are all in love with all genders - friends and partners, parents, teachers etc. love is a large subject😄 but when you associate love with *** it is lust that’s always lead by our *** than hearts😜 *** is also an emotion - more passionate one😄 shall we try it together and explore😜

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Posted On May 6, 2021 - 10:00 AM

Mostly Bi's are Gays who end up getting married due to societal and parental pressure.
Rarely seen Bisexuals otherwise.
Exceptions are there, but hard to discount the fact. It's anyways fine to be in denial as our society has not progressed further. Let alone, as collectively we ourselves haven't .

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Posted On May 7, 2021 - 05:47 AM

As bi I thought bi are so alone, personally I feel so lonely...

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Posted On May 7, 2021 - 06:32 AM

What about bicurious? Or people who don't have access to girls and need *** only when they are *** or till they don't have orgasm? My question might seem like from a mad person 😁😁

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Posted On May 7, 2021 - 10:07 AM

According to me..the kind of feelings that are between a boy and a girl...if you have the same feelings for the same gender...then you are gay. If its just *** that u enjoy..then u can label it as BISEXUAL. I hav many friends who are not at all attracted towards other males in a romantic way...the only thing they like is...*** a ***..n thats it...so its the sexual act that they are enjoying. The main thing is to stop labelling and enjoy that moment.

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Posted On May 9, 2021 - 03:59 AM

Hi, I am 47, happily married. I want another male to love me but not for ***. Am I Bi or gay?

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Posted On May 9, 2021 - 05:48 AM

Sexual orientation means how you are attracted romantically and sexually to other people. There are different kinds of sexual orientation. For example, a person may be:

1. Heterosexual (straight) - describes a person who is attracted only or almost only to the "other" gender.
2. Homosexual (gay, lesbian) - describes a person attracted only or almost only to those of the same gender.
3. Bisexual - describes a person attracted to both men and women, though not necessarily equally or at the same time.
4. Pansexual (or omnisexual) - describes a person attracted to those of any gender.
5. Asexual - describes someone not sexually attracted to any gender. This is different from deciding not to have *** with anyone (abstinence or celibacy).

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Posted On May 9, 2021 - 05:50 AM

People calling themselves as straight and looking for men here are the biggest Hippocrates.

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Posted On May 9, 2021 - 05:57 AM

Bi-curious is the term invented by such peoples who want take *** but don’t want to loose his MALE ego😂.
Some calling themselves as Pure-Tops is again a joke. They only need a hole. They deny to touch your ***, kiss you or getting emotional connect “during” ***. It seems like they are just pumping 😂.

Dont get offended if you lie in this category, just change your status and thoughts.

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Posted On May 12, 2021 - 12:42 PM

Lots of mouths ....lots of opinions ...and lots of frustrated soul too

Lots of people hate here bisexual and few like to call them pure top .... now the thing is each one has their own weakness and liking and no one can compel you to do stuff which you dont prefer or like...trust me *** is not all enjoyable when your partner doesnt enjoy it with you...you wanna be rough?...take consent of you *** partner if he is ok willingly then it's ok....remember it's just *** ...for the sake of a *** you can't lose your self esteem , your dignity ... when I used to hook up I used to play Top but never have *** a ***...people use yo tell me so you are "pure Top"... I was like bhenchod pure kya hai?... quality check hai?... it's just that my preference in *** was that...I can kiss a guy like hell and chew off his lips...but whatever you do it should be mutual... none of the partner should be felt he or she has been used for *** or just to get a satisfaction ..... certain people like to get a boost of male ego by treating others as a inferior breed... their mentality has been set in such a way in this society while upbringing them...

And I pity for lots of guys here...who say they are bottom , they want to be treated as slaves , who feel they are Randi and born to be abused,even they enjoy filthy language about their wife , mom , sister .... bedroom *** talk in the moment of heat is different and totally giving up your self respect is different we all have got kink in ourselves but a line has to been drawn between being used and enjoying together ...

And trust me labels are not that important it is just to identify what you enjoy ...it is no award you are getting and there is no shame in admitting it... arey bhai hai toh hai jo pasand hai woh hai...be comfortable in your own skin and once again


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Posted On May 13, 2021 - 08:10 AM

Bisexual means those who have equal attraction towards both male and female. They can satisfy both
I have same feeling to both and I enjoy both way of life
It's there own thinking

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