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Let's face it, Online Dating Sucks!

Submitted by the_undefined Location: All India (All India, India)

First of all, there's this fear of revealing identity which most of us have but are annoyed with the same in others.

Then maybe it's a psychological feel that there's infinite choice and so we never like to settle coz we feel there's always another guy.

If we manage to get past these, enter ghosting -_- It's like internet is designed for it. To be honest, even I can be accused of all these.

keep the discussion going ppl !

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Posted On Aug 12, 2020 - 04:45 AM

It sucks indeed. It's like fishing in the ocean. You may get good fish if you are lucky.

Being a bottom, I had lots of bad experiences.

1. I shared a pic of mine. That guy liked me. He sent his *** pics in response . He thinks bottom does not have any taste in men and all they need is ***.

2. Most of the tops think of themselves as straight. Lol πŸ˜‚ I met a few who told me this. They think they can have romantic *** with girls with bottom it's just give it to *** and ***

3. Most of the times, I was left unsatisfied in bed. When tops are done. They zip it and move on.

4. If you are bottom, you are bound to sleep with any top guys. You are not entitled to have preferences.

5. I was a naive bottom who was into body play romance *** that's all. Now down the line, I am into *** play, deep throat and rough fun. Owing this to rough top guys I have met.

6. Online dating sucks because many of them are using for time pass not willing to meet anyone.

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Posted On Aug 12, 2020 - 06:28 AM

Kya bhasad macha rakhe ho πŸ˜‚
Mat karo online dating bhai
Just have the guts....approach the person you like directly. Ask him/her if he/she would like to go out with you for a coffee/dinner etc
Man up and accept rejections if you come across them.
And yes good luck and hope for the best that the things work out eventually.

All the above only if you're looking for dating. Which clearly most of you'll are not. Not atleast on this portal you see.

If you want to date, use the right platforms or always socialise more to end up meeting more people and have a better choice

There are always pros and cons to everything
So yes there are restrictions and risks for online transactions as well
How can you expect that online dating would be simple πŸ™‚

Take care guys
Everyone got your point abhi relax karlo
Mast rainy weather hai bahar ...

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Posted On Aug 12, 2020 - 06:48 AM

Basically these online dating apps is keeping all gays bi's in the closet, if these apps would have not been there people would have found alternative way of meeting directly hence no fuss. People need to innovate something different.πŸ‘

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Posted On Aug 12, 2020 - 08:19 AM

@Blr_Rajajinagar I think i have just stated the fact. I'm not against people putting their private pics in their profile. Everyone has the right and freedom to date the way they want. But just ask a simple question to yourself. By putting your private pic in your profile what you are intending to show? It's clear that you are looking for a hookup and not a ltr. Then coming here and complaining about not getting a real relationship doesn't make any sense, does it? Because in reality you are not looking for one. Just think that a person looking for a partner would like to see your private pic as first thing Or would like to know about you and your interests? Because if i don't like the person then, his private pics are not gonna make any difference untill and unless i'm not just looking for a NSA relationship. And tbh i'm not against random hookups too. Everyone has their own way of living their life and i respect that. All i'm saying is that we should change our outlook towards gay relationship. People should look beyond *** because a relationship is not about *** only. It's more about knowing each other, supporting your partner and being with your partner during good and bad times. *** does play a part but it's not everything.
And as far as my profile is concerned then, i'm not looking for a relationship in my life right now. I come here just for exploration. I like reading people's views on different subject. I'm not in a position in my life where i can carry a relationship. But when i would be looking for one, i will make sure that i make a true and an honest profile. And *** will not be the base of it. It may play a small part but not everything.

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Posted On Aug 12, 2020 - 08:22 AM

People would've been in the closet otherwise also
How many people dare to go upto other guys and ask him out for a date ?
Very few.
So had it not been for these dating apps, people above who are feeling bad about the online dating troubles wouldn't have even had the share of fun which they've got through these apps.

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Posted On Aug 12, 2020 - 02:28 PM

Don't blame the technology or a platform, blame ourselves. How many of us have represented our profile wrongly and with fake information?

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Posted On Aug 12, 2020 - 05:41 PM

@letsfuck, this is why India needs gay bars, so guys can see each other at their social best!

Why doesn't India have gay bars / safe spaces?

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Posted On Aug 12, 2020 - 06:54 PM

Online dating is good way to meet people of understanding needs be it love *** or casual friendship, we just have to be wise and smart, neither greedy of love/*** nor too trusting anyone after first chat, i use blued, romeo, grindr i talk first understand by their words if they seem in hurry to meet then i say no or block them, even though they cry by words giving bad words. Gay people are pure by heart and understanding, bisexual people are good but lack patience. Just be safe and understand the difference by talking more !!

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Posted On Aug 12, 2020 - 09:07 PM

@shapeoflove I am not sure if you even read my profile. I am not looking for any relationship. And I made it clear with my picture and the explanation in my profile. And for all the lecture you are giving, you neither have a picture nor any explanation about yourself. You are not even here for relationship.

One very important thing why people don't put their face or any other pic is it gets misused and I say this because I had a personal experience of such. So please don't judge people.

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Posted On Aug 13, 2020 - 08:02 AM

@Blr_Rajajinagar you seem to be not getting my point. Don't take my comment personally because i had no such intention at all. All i'm saying is that people shouldn't complain about finding anything 'real' when in reality they are not looking for such. It's as simple as that. I hope you would get my point. Peace ✌

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Posted On Aug 13, 2020 - 10:09 AM

here msg to msg then msg then msg...

we all here living secret life

but forced to ask number then call any time without information..

so much disturbing then i put a notice on my profile pls share your number... no one ready to share.. but their second msg send number..

i met one guy this site... basically i am top.. but he mentoned vers... so i meet up with him.. he is nice guy.. but he asked me being bottom for him.. i dont want disappoint him.. so i did..

he do very hard.. and two times..

then after we talk on phone... and second meet also i am ready to bottom for him.. but he didnot attend my phone and block my number..

what i did wrong... his wishe fulfilled by one side.. other side he ignore me without reason..

thats sucks....

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Posted On Aug 13, 2020 - 12:40 PM

Here is an interesting take on how things flow in PR/GR for a bottom:

1st Message: "Hi.." - the person doesn't bother reading profiles, or trying to understand the person he talking to
2nd Message: "Have place?" - what for?
3rd Message: A pic f the ***, or "Send number"
4th Message: Will u ***?

Very characteristic of a desperate hole seeker.

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Posted On Aug 13, 2020 - 02:51 PM

Thats applicable to most of them which includes a *** seeker and not just a 'hole seeker'. You have been liberal enough to put them in multiple messages, but i have seen and got messages which says

1st message: hi from place pic

End of chat.

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Posted On Aug 13, 2020 - 04:36 PM

@VersTop_Hyd - ah. Only hole seekers access my profile - so just quoted their comments. Didn't know the *** seekers did the same.

I usually give some fodder to see how long they go. Some profiles, especially those without a pic or any description, do not get a reply from me.

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Posted On Aug 13, 2020 - 08:00 PM

mojo and PR both are good in setting up meetings. But I do feel that most of the top just need holes to bang.... They see bottom as substitute of girl. As bottom i expect some talk, foreplay, romance and love. They directly jump in to action and done in 2 mins. After that they throw us out of their place. that hurts.. We have played, enjoyed few mins back and forced to leave.. Thats very bad of treating someone...

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Posted On Aug 14, 2020 - 04:44 AM

Don't blame online dating platform... Blame the persons who r making fake profiles... They given the options...chats, frnds fun dating.. choose appropriately...

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Posted On Aug 14, 2020 - 10:05 AM

I've had my fair share of bad experiences with the guys I met online, while there are a couple of gems I found here as well.

So it depends, can't be sure of a man until we get to know each other be it online or offline.

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Posted On Aug 14, 2020 - 03:53 PM

here once meeting is over then avoid that person..

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Posted On Aug 15, 2020 - 01:53 PM

@CallboyIndian bang on point

Everyone needs to own up to what you want. You dont like online dating, visit the gay scene in the city. India dont have gay bars so what, go to a gay party. Dont wanr ***, say no.

How many of you participated in queer film festivals, queer parade etc. If not, how many of you feel sincerely of gays? If you do how many have contributed to NGOs working for gay rights and gay mental health. Noone prevents you to think or do something secretly if you are living in closet.

Better to face your own insecurities than blame it on portals or others.

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Posted On Aug 17, 2020 - 02:01 PM

Usually guys send a *** pic when I online date
That is enough for me. Before the meet them sometimes I play with my clitty and c&m in my panties looking at their ***
One guy sent a *** pick and his c$m pic to that was so naughty

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Posted On Aug 17, 2020 - 03:12 PM

Great veiws, but its BLUNT truth, Its a MIX of all kinds of folks here , specially if its GAY DATING , no matter how that individual looks but they want exactly like a FOOD RECIPE kind of person when they date. May be they have that freedom to choose but , one must not reject others like they are Spoiled Vegetable , Worst of all is questions ... HI, Place , LIKES , PHOTO PHOTO , VC VC , after all this they abruptly cut call and block .. LOL imagine the opposite persons condition.. so many would be in Suicidal condition too. few go on LIVE sessions like in apps like BLUD beg beg for beans etc , they know they cant get nude they get blocked but they go semi .. worst of all the cheer group always asking them to get nude .. OMG its a COCOON hypocrisy .. Few say they are OPEN few say they r so secret that they hide there face from them self. few select by Skin color , few by hair density , most by Size of *** or Shape of ***. few by Gym body few by Bulky chub .. what not .. its a FLESH market were its not Animals or birds but MEN are for SALE .. not for money always but for Barter ..

Few meet up cos they are *** , they get so excited they leak n levae partner in a condition like they are TOILET PAPER wiped there shitty ***. and run to bath room n dress to leave, few hunt for money , few for jobs, few for rent place , few as a HONEY BUNNY ..
EOD , 99.999999999999999% are only for PLEASURE of SELF nothing else , agree few emotional fools also there who are always VICTIMS .. cant help if they dont use there brains in judging the right partner or date and end up in troubles and loses.

Apologies if any one had got offended its purely a view by what is seen in years of ONLINE DATING especially GAYS.

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Posted On Aug 17, 2020 - 06:43 PM

@Alwaysready. Great answer and very straight forward. But the truth is my friend that is how the world is working.. if it's *** or marriage or job. Same old same old and it applies for all genders. Only the ways are changed. End of the day we are humans and no less animal than any earth species. But i feel you, that's all I can do.. I hope you find what you looking for in that 0.01%

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Posted On Aug 18, 2020 - 03:01 AM

@alwaysready - exactly my thoughts. Online dating is just another trading that's all. Each to his preference!!!

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Posted On Aug 18, 2020 - 03:32 AM

I dont think so. Online dating may not be helpful to people who are already out and living life without any prejudice or fear. But it is very much helpful to newbies and people who like to be discreet and have fun. If not dating apps we would not have shared our views here, would have met anyone till now, or exchanged thoughts and explored this side of world. I personally thank them

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Posted On Aug 18, 2020 - 04:58 AM

Hey hypocrites,
Fellow hypocrite here.

Read a few of the interesting posts on this thread.

As you can see, I have a decent body and I get approached alot.
My profile is mostly empty, but still why do people message me?

THE PIC, is it not?
THE BODY, is it not?

If you're a person who is into fit and good looking men, then gosh, how do you expect fit and good looking men to not be into same? Get my point?

I understand preferences change, but those are rare, believe me.

Nobody looks for the face, or personality, when searching for hookups!

My advice(which nobody wants) -
1. Get fit. Believe me, it helps.
2. Be presentable (send the one best pic you have(not your *** or ***))
3. Don't be too needy. That shows your vulnerability. So CALM THE *** DOWN. And stop blaming the app.

Also, for those who're talking about Manning up and asking people straight, why don't you attend gay parties and try picking up men there? That'll help.

P.s - don't yell at me. Just trying to be real

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Posted On Aug 18, 2020 - 04:22 PM

There is nothing ideal in this world. So everything you try will definitely have its own deviations. Same is the case with dating apps. Plus, ppl have changed the meaning of literally everything lately.
E.g. The meaning of relationship I knew initially was only a monogamous one, but now, we have Open relationship where ppl *** around with everyone.

So everything has changed and making use of it, ppl started misusing the apps or changing it too. There were many who asked me to leave Gr coz I was not willing to meet any for a certain period.

Just because of those few or most, we cant generalize it for everyone. There are very very few i know who met their partners on dating apps. So, they do help for what we look for.

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Posted On Aug 18, 2020 - 06:35 PM

first they all msg with curiosity.. but not intrested in meets... they dont mention about their expectation..

so boring to answer formal question...

after meeting they even dont reply in phone or the app.. mot of them wanted being cheat sluts for
their needs... not a man...

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Posted On Aug 20, 2020 - 06:35 AM

@zane007 ('007'? Really?)

The only correct observation you make is, that no-one will want your advice.

Arrogant sod, everybody is different. Don't lump us mere mortals into your shallow, narrow hypocritical mindset.

And don't chastise others for not being fit until you have an insight into the reasons they're not. Just because you can afford gym time (financially and socially) doesn't mean everyone else can.

Just because you don't look for anything more in a person but the physical doesn't mean that everyone else doesn't want to interact on a deeper level.

The tripe you spout is the opposite of 'real'; you are in your own elitist bubble.

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Posted On Aug 20, 2020 - 08:10 AM

I had met few good partners online, but majority (esp young guys) only want a face share or a private number share and then its all gone. So i would say in online patience plays a major role..

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Posted On Aug 20, 2020 - 02:50 PM

Ya, it really does. I was a cam slave to one master and he said that we would do in real and stuff, but i later found that he was lying about his current location.

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Posted On Aug 20, 2020 - 04:45 PM

Why does everyone wants a picture? They're not bold enough to send their pic but want a picture from the other guy. For me i personally want it to be discreet. I dont want to romanticise things because what I'm seeking might be different from others. But have some decency and respect the other guy's views man.

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Posted On Aug 21, 2020 - 07:40 PM

Its funny when guys wannna bang me , *** ,*** on me but cant even spell basic words like *** or boobs . Its a major turn off when some idiot directly asks for mobile numbers. Some directly send nudes and ***. Some text me as if they are something spectacular and great and if i sleep with them its them doing me a favour. Some arent even gay they just wanna be *** and want a hole to ***. Some dont even read the profile. Some ppl just text weird *** one guy on grindr texted me - is my mommy with you ...like what does that even mean for opening the conversation with me. Very rarely i do find some gems who arent dumb or *** seekers. But thats like 2% against the 98% of *** pic senders. Everyone here is for *** or friendship or companionship or intimacy ...want this all den treat ppl with RESPECT

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Posted On Aug 22, 2020 - 01:41 AM

Dating apps are awesome. Ohmojo is priceless. Provided we can make the logistics work just about anyone can bang me. May the gods bless the internet.

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Posted On Aug 22, 2020 - 06:02 AM

M goodlooks. Decent. Educated. 32 yrs vers btm. I have been looking for a lover a bf for ages. But I dnt knw y m not getting any. Is having basic requirements of goodlooks decent young/mid age guy so difficult to get. I want a man to hold me in his arms n whom I offer all my love in a discreet way.

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Posted On Aug 22, 2020 - 09:04 AM

@rajcute, basic requirements are good education, good health ,financial stability and loving partner being able to take care of each other till the end. Good looking and being handsome will survive with you for another decade or so,then you will also be the same. I am not against you seeking good-looking guys but look beyond looks. Try to accommodate greater things than look for simpler ones

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Posted On Aug 22, 2020 - 10:09 AM

One thing I wanna point out as a bottom I noticed that talking to most top guys they exaggerate a lot about their sexuality as if they have *** daily with hot girls and so much experienced and all. They just want is to think like wow what a man he is but it always turns out that they are not really great and in reality had *** just once or twice or sometimes never but I don't understand why they feel the need to brag. Must be something every guy does.

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Posted On Aug 22, 2020 - 01:18 PM

AmYourGirl, what you say is partially correct. Being top, I have experienced it N-number of times the invariably asked question : what is your co(k size. As if they have a big and deep a$$ hole which needs tool of a feet length and a quarter of feet wide to fit in properly and satisfy them.
Why they feel the need to brag when everyone knows about standard sizes?

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Posted On Aug 22, 2020 - 07:00 PM

@shapeoflove battle between top and bottom is good combination on bed.. not here..
online dating is helped to find a person to chat..

but reality not working so well. 50% of persons intrested only in chats... most of the tops thinking all bottoms are not satisfying girls..

they all need imaginary world.. not a date

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Posted On Aug 25, 2020 - 03:42 AM

I have been resign the complete thread, not going to put my views on what people have spoken here.
I agree to one person who mentioned that he avoids sharing his face pic because it was misused and I have had the similar experience and even I don't give out here or on grinder.
Most people am not sure here but on grinder 90% is looking for hookups and as a bottom I know I have a awesome booty and can satisfy my man on bed, tops love my *** after seeing pic and then they ask face pic, you want to hookup not marry me so I have showed you enough pics of my body to prove that you will have a great time ( I am good looking but I can't share because of bad experience ) and then don't text back or don't want to hookup.
I am very clear here or in any other gay dating platform I am here for pure *** because I am a *** so I guess that should be enough.

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Posted On Sep 17, 2020 - 10:24 PM

I tired online dating for past month

Only one person actually showed up and most ask for face or body pic
They just want a jack off but in cruising you out yourself out there and meet interesting and bold people that are actually willing to have *** . You can see them they can see you so it’s all good
They know what they are getting into and I know what I am getting into so I done with online dating

Most men just ask your fave pic like dude I just meet you I am closeted sissy

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Posted On Sep 18, 2020 - 02:17 AM

Online dating is just like flesh market. Jo dikhata hai woh bikata hai. If you dont have hot pic as your dp then noone would bother to visit your profile. Very few actually go through your entire profile and read it.

But nowadays I feel online dating is safe option. Cruising is bit risky. Also everyone wears the masks so cant tell who is as per your choice and who is notπŸ˜‰

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Posted On Sep 22, 2020 - 11:19 PM

I'm tired of Indian tops to be honest. Especially ones who have good bodies. They think having a *** and a good body is all that is required when it comes to ***. They know how buck their hips and that is pretty much it and that gets old and boring after the first few minutes. Honestly I would go only for foreinger tops but it's hard to find one especially in Delhi. And if you're not a feminine bottom with a feminine personality, they kind of get intimidated which is a complete turn off.

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Posted On Sep 24, 2020 - 06:12 AM

Gay dating in india is kinda sad story!!

Firstly being Gay is a taboo still, so people (Gay, Bi, lesbian, trans, curious ....) looking around for dates, hookups, or relationship no matter what size and type of body you have, all I have come across any platforms is one thing in common, people carry 'GUILT' and shame (is this right thing to do?!) sadly this takes out 99% of self-love and fun from FUN itself.

Dating apps and sites just offer a platform to socialize and connect. Use it wisely. and most importantly respect each other. Educate yourself about sexual health and wellness.

My suggestion:
Be confident about your body, soul and mind.
*** is a beautiful thing, so is Love. Try to get the best of both.

I'm a Mental Health Counsellor and have been counselling LGBTQ+ individuals in Bangalore.

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