First of all, there's this fear of revealing identity which most of us have but are annoyed with the same in others.
Then maybe it's a psychological feel that there's infinite choice and so we never like to settle coz we feel there's always another guy.
If we manage to get past these, enter ghosting -_- It's like internet is designed for it. To be honest, even I can be accused of all these.
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navynagarbott | Posted On Aug 8, 2020
It's *** true!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I joined some leading dating apps (not Gr) for dating stuff got decent matches but not a single one was able sustain a good conversation, they will talk like for a day and next ignore game begins . I mean jab intrested nhi ho to swipe kyu kiya fun ke liye. True love sometimes feel a myth . In world of lust it's gone somewhere deep inside earth , now days lovestories begin on bed , and remains on bed cause everyone wants Fwb and no emotional drama |
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Tista V. | Posted On Aug 8, 2020
Well, to start with, I only hit on the profiles that have pictures and complete details of the TOP.
Complete profiles with pictures means that the person knows why he is here and I obviously would like to feel his *** down my throat to lube it before he shovels it up my boy-***. He has to be dominating and rough, yet not a maniac at the same time. I have found such men over online dating site and am happy to say that I maintain a polygamous relationship with them. Sometimes, they are jealous when they see the love-bites on my body from another ***-buddy of mine; but I must tell this that it is easy for a bottom to tame his tops; because we bottom know what tops want!
Thus, in my case, OM, PR and Gr has bestowed me with many daddies to whom I belong and they have no problem sharing me between them.
I love my slutty independent life among them *** yet intelligent and sensible old beasts! |
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Sidkam23 | Posted On Aug 8, 2020
Yes thats true.....young guys like me who want a long term connection only get bi curious young guys who just want to get their *** *** and nothing serious. Also half of them are nit ready to meet at a decent place.. And also as someone looking for tops above the age of 38-40 its very difficult as they are not into online dating.. |
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Stopgap | Posted On Aug 8, 2020
Online dating is a good cop out mechanism for people who wanna throw trash & hide behind the safety of the digital screen.
There's nothing very conclusive to get from them. It's mostly filled with fake profiles pics,fake GPS, fake names & all things fake. You don't really know what & who you are meeting until you do!
Also, many there wanna see but not show, get info but not share info. Overall it's pretty useless an effort.
So far it's been an absolute waste of time.. |
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Doorellin007 | Posted On Aug 8, 2020
I wanna ask netizens here.. how truely satisfied they were really with the experiences did they have based of photos shared for a purpose.. be it hook up or long living romantic conversation or just for a time pass???
I guess we know the answer and that is why Cruising spots is so important ☺️ |
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Sinner | Posted On Aug 8, 2020
So honestly have been on this site for quiet sometime now !! Have spoken to a lot of ppl on this site but haven't got lucky meeting anyone yet !! Don't know if that day will ever come where I meet someone who has similar interests as mine .. so far it's been a waste of time ... But I'm still holding on strong on my hopes haha ! |
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Stopgap | Posted On Aug 9, 2020
@sinner I think that's the case with most of us. Who aren't really that brave to go cruising to cruising spots that brings with it some more of its own risks.
So like you most of us are holding on to hope & hanging around on platforms like Grindr, PR & OM!
Can only keep our 🤞& hope for the best outcomes! |
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Simple123 | Posted On Aug 9, 2020
Yes it very true online chatting sucks. It's same thing over and over again hi, how are you? You likes? Your *** size. End of story. |
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Patricknorman | Posted On Aug 9, 2020
I have met many guys thru PR and OM. Im not into other gay apps. But i think even today if ur looking for fun, cruising is the best choice. Online i guess 50% people are just to chat and nothing more. So a chance to hookup in a few chats is rare even though location cud be close.
I have stopped replying to hi, how ru, pics, *** size coz its just a waste of time as half the guys are here just for TP |
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Horizon_87 | Posted On Aug 9, 2020
Majority of the users expect a photo. Photo bhejo toh bhi mushkil, nahi bhejo toh bhi mushkil. I never insist for photographs. First day, 100 messages. Next day 2 messages, third day no messages at all. Even if they do, once in a fortnight or annually. The utmost crucial opening statement is " Dude, Photo?" + added with special terms and conditions from their end. :(. This is the same state everywhere. |
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Horizon_87 | Posted On Aug 9, 2020
Some profiles look appealing (in terms of profile content, not related to *** data). The moment I send them a message, all I see is broken language, a copy-paste quote from some alien article/ planet and last but not the least "seen" tick mark goes unattended for ages, despite the fact that they will be online. I would not say all this is frustrating but it is sort of a let down automatically. |
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Horizon_87 | Posted On Aug 9, 2020
I could be wrong. But I cannot seem to figure out how to trust somebody and moreover people keep asking for numbers. I know Blocking is an option but I do not want to block. It is fine whatever opinion they want to hold about me. I am not a saint but guys just do not seem to get over questions like :T or B or V ?:( |
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mayank_blr | Posted On Aug 9, 2020
I agree. Some people are pretty judgemental and fake. I have been the same and it took me years to get over that. Found strange things on different sites. Most of the gr guys think they are super hot and I am not their type. Met few of them and could not recognise them!! Guys on pr are mostly available weekdays not sure how. Guys on ohmojo... Well they will show pic on whatsapp and hangout not here!! See another trend these days of friends with benefits... Which I dont like.
Anyway found some sexy fuckbuddies and few friends. Bottom line is you have to look for what you really want even if you have to sleep alone for many days. |
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Ebubu | Posted On Aug 9, 2020
The problem with internet is that people don't deal with profiles as if they are REAL people.
And people can't read. No matter how I put it in my profile, "PLEASE READ MY PROFILE", people will keep saying "Hi" without anything else, like a fisherman trying to catch a fish just for the game of catching one. This whole game has rotten the whole dating and seduction scene.
In India I know there were some risks involved in open cruising in parks, toilets, etc. But how has that evolved with the decriminalization of homosexuality ? Are these places still as risky as before ? What's going on ? I have not been in India since then, and I'd be interested in knowing how this might have changed the whole gay scene. |
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letsfuck | Posted On Aug 9, 2020
@Ebubu , decriminalizing sec 377 has not changed a lot because homosexuality is still considered to be a stigma. SO the social change is going to take some time. Cruising is still dangerous as there are many vultures of them, most of them being the police. The people who are supposed to uphold the law are abusing it to loot innocent people who are just looking for a partner. Online dating is as dangerous if not more because there are organised crimes happening. Especially in the NCR region, there are syndicates of young men whose main occupation is targetting and looting men of all ages through apps like Grindr using sexual baits. So the scene is quite pathetic.
Single gay men are not able to find partners because there is something seriously wrong with the attitudes of gay men. All of them. I am not able to figure it out myself. So online dating has made things worse and is a huge negative for the gay community. Apart from getting a lot of *** and maybe friends and acquaintances, there is nothing positive about these dating applications. |
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Stopgap | Posted On Aug 9, 2020
@horizon & ebubu couldn't agree more.. there's a massive sense of apathy on these sites which is a general mood kill in itself...
There are so many fakes & ghosters.. There's really nothing besides chatting.. That's of they can hold a conversation with syntax and sense.
Then again.. we're like moths to a flame.. Can't do with it.. Can't do without it... |
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Indrachaap | Posted On Aug 9, 2020
Yes, online dating sucks..... People just chat , promise to meet in the next week.... That next week never comes..... Sometime they make video calls .... *** and leave......
I always find it good to visit cruising spots.... Of course risk factor is there but still I like to take that risk....
I like when it suddenly happens .... |
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lover_boy21 | Posted On Aug 10, 2020
Well, i agree to most of the things discussed here, but i must say that being on the right platform helps. I have been on Gr, PR, but it was here in ohmojo that i found the first two gay encounters of my life. I am a shy person online and do not prefer to put pictures online, but thankfully, those whom i have been with were pretty chilled out in terms of photos. I appreciated that. So, i think ohmojo is a good place and i am still looking for more such people. |
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Naiduhot | Posted On Aug 10, 2020
I'm a bottom. My experience with Grindr was not great. Most of the people posing as Tops are not actually tops. They are not Gays. They are not even Bi-Sexual. They are just sexually frustrated men who have no Girl friend. So, they fulfill their sexual thirst by asking bottoms to *** their ***. |
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rakeshBotLove | Posted On Aug 10, 2020
Is it safe to go to meet semeone who u get from PR or ohmojo |
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Unimate | Posted On Aug 10, 2020
@naiduhot, totally nailed it bro. Most of the guys who are in PR are just there for time pass and not really someone who you'd meet you. They are desparate straight ones who need to jerk off and they hunt gays. I really found and met a few here than elsewhere. Unfortunately owing to distance and covid restrictions we aren't able to met.🤷🏻♂️ |
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dingdong | Posted On Aug 10, 2020
as number of users going up on all such apps, its not surprise that there are decent number of fake profiles too got increased...
there are many factor... some are into just chatting, some shows off, some fakes around, some looking for fun, some looking for more... so everyone's need is different..
though online dating sucks sometime, the fact is that most of the meet ups happening because of these online apps.. so, though it helps, it also irritates sometimes depending on the person whom we end up chatting... in any ways, its better to know the other person properly before proceeding on anything to be in safer side.. ignore if some irritating messages from some.. |
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Bins | Posted On Aug 10, 2020
I'v met my tops on PR. I generally meet guys who have been in touch for long -this way I kinda rule out people desperate for a hole. I've met three guys till date - still in touch with two of them. My best f**k was also with the top I met on PR. I've not had good experiences with GR. Did shortlist a guy here - but couldn't meet him due to some issues at my end.
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Unimate | Posted On Aug 10, 2020
Most guys with age <26 are just there to show off their physical features. Muscular bodies are just to attract men but actually they aren't interested to even meet up. It's just pure show off there. Trust me people don't even read your profile before they ping you and for some reason they just keep tapping you with no guts to say a hi. It just sucks!! |
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sissywannabe | Posted On Aug 10, 2020
What is PR ? |
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Shaikhasif | Posted On Aug 10, 2020
Pr is Planet romeo gay dating. |
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C4LEB | Posted On Aug 10, 2020
PR = Planet Romeo
Gr = Grindr
GX = Gay Exchange |
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C4LEB | Posted On Aug 10, 2020
@letsfuck (and others),
The break from the Anglo/Colonial past will come when there are safe spaces for same-*** socialising: when gay venues are patronised without scrutiny or oppression, only then will men who have *** with men be confident and comfortable enough to move beyond 'the quickie'. Open a bar, and kiss in public! |
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C4LEB | Posted On Aug 10, 2020
Recon (fetish site)
Butterfly (transgender, NOT CDs)
Scruff (masculine) |
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vanditjain | Posted On Aug 11, 2020
I have been using PR,, GRINDR AND OHMOJO for quite some time,, I have met many people from ohmojo and pr but not from gr, there is always a risk factor but I first try to meet them in public place before proceeding to *** and stuff,, and I have also met tops via fb but most of them are just for hookups and are not interested in anything more then *** |
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Nolimits | Posted On Aug 11, 2020
I'm not looking for some love type relationship but Friends ? Sure. Friends with benefits? Absolutely 👍. But many guys or boys on the online platforms are just there cz they have nothing better to do. And there's nothing wrong with that. But , they pretend like they're ready for the real stuff and then *** out later like usual which has become kinda frustrating . |
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StraightCurious | Posted On Aug 11, 2020
Personally for me, the area in Mumbai Metropolitan Region that I live, doesn't have much active cruising spots. Not to forget, the constant risk of undercover cops and thug gangs. I love top men older than me, but I've had to let go advances from such sexy men while in local trains because of their cop like looks/attire.
Now people will tell me to take the bait but I've seen a poor cruiser getting beaten up in public. Nope, thank you, I don't intend to be that guy. Although my family knows that I have bisexual tendencies, I'm not gonna take unnecessary risks.
Secondly, the threat of STDs from unknowns is very much real. No amount of 'fun' in the world is worth an STD. When you meet someone while cruising, you have 0 back info about them or the risks they carry.
For these reasons, I'm not a fan of cruising spots and will always prefer online apps. On these apps, we get to;
1) Find out if the person is well spoken and from a decent background.
2) Know their expectations and avoid unwanted surprises.
3) Filter out guys who have no bio, a fake looking picture, is in a hurry and doesn't put in any effort. Overall, suspicious traits and a possible scamster.
Now I might sound like I'm too picky, but I'm in no hurry and not at all desperate. If a guy ticks all the boxes on my checklist, I'd *** his *** all day. Otherwise, it's always better to be safe than sorry.. |
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Fatchubbyboobs | Posted On Aug 11, 2020
You will be 100 years old and still will be looking and waiting for the perfect guy ....congratulations |
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ricky3636 | Posted On Aug 11, 2020
@StraightCurious.....that sounds so true for so many reasons and most of them seem right...but I guess guys do not have the patience or time these days...also because there is so much available out there without any of these restrictions or expectations....my story was different...when I was much younger I used to dream of real love...I would fantasize about guys I used to secretly like and then imagine the things we will do...ohh but reality turned out to be so different...not that I did not enjoy only ***...it was great..but that was it....no body wants anything more...but I sincerely do hope you meet some nice guys who would meet all your expectations and have fun...because time does not wait for anybody...ciao...stay safe ..🤗🙂 |
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Agudam | Posted On Aug 11, 2020
Are we talking actual dating or hooking up? Most people seem to be confusing the too. It's easy to find *** on Grindr but it can be tricky to find someone to date, because we're as much the problem as the victims. Sexual compatibility is just one part of the relationship but people can't seem to think beyond it. |
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Bins | Posted On Aug 11, 2020
True. GR usually helps having a quick session. Not beyond. In fact, if you are bottom on GR, the opening message from the 'hole seeking d*ck" always is "Do you have place" or "Will u su*k". The other thing a bottom receives is pics of d*cks. The intention is not a date - it is not a long term relation. I did not see LTRs when I began searching on these websites - but then, not interested in quickies either.
I think PR was a bit better on that count - I measure the intent of the person from the way he responds to messages. Desperate hole seekers do not chat longer - they head off the moment they understand I am not looking for a quickie. I usually continue with people who continue talking beyond a day - I've experienced them to be not desperate hole seekers. |
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Versbot83 | Posted On Aug 11, 2020
Most of d tops are actually just looking for hole to release their load, they don't have feelings towards gays. I being mostly bot always gets msg that will u *** or u take in ***? But very few people are there who does complete *** like kissing bodysex and many such things. |
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TopFun | Posted On Aug 11, 2020
Hi all
Im being Top here have some other thoughts.
I also look for feelings and love from bottom but what i get is paid bottom/CD.
Its not always the TOP people are seeking to release there load but there are few like me who whats feeling mixed with passionate love.
If anyone who is genuinely looking for secret relationship kind thing then do DM me.
All details about me will be shared on DM. |
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Aarif2018 | Posted On Aug 11, 2020
Why being partial to online??
Online people are not alien, they are just the reflection of the real people who live among us..
The real admittance should about be people's mentality being promiscous and non committed..
WE cant blame anybody, its individual's preference..
99% people here look for ***, fun and looks..
And if they get a greek God like person, they become insatiated and look for another one..
The blatant truth is, seeking for true love or friendship here, is like looking for a needle in haysack..
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letsfuck | Posted On Aug 11, 2020
Please stop top shaming. I have been refused and insulted by many 'innocent' bottoms for not having an 8" ***. We are all the same. We are meat obsessed and *** obsessed men. Muscular, hairy and toned tops only is not an uncommon demand on all gay dating apps. |
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C4LEB | Posted On Aug 11, 2020
@letsfuck,
Chasing the (socially constructed) dream of smooth hung gods - all driven by media and movies. Guys obviously don't know the advantages of a small *** on an experienced top: nice comfortable painless sessions with someone who knows their way around a guy's body? Priceless! |
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Versbot83 | Posted On Aug 11, 2020
I agree with @Aarif2018 biggest reason is even after SC order our own people have issue to come out in society as gay coz if many reasons. And every society have pros and cons like ours. Most of people miss use it as commercial. I like CD tops or smooth guys only as I m hairy but for that everytime I have to pay to get desired guy |
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Simple123 | Posted On Aug 11, 2020
One more thing I want to highlight here is religion plays a important role in selecting guys online, even if the other person is open minded about others religion or don't care about it some how people don't accept it ,I don't know why? Am not very good in articulating what I want to say but I hope people would understand my point of view. |
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mayank_blr | Posted On Aug 11, 2020
Religion, native, race, body colour, age, sexual prefs. You name it people always differentiate. Somehow I developed a thick skin to all these idiots. |
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letsfuck | Posted On Aug 11, 2020
@C4LeB - totally agree with u ... Not to brag but there are a hundred other things which are the REAL reason for amazing ***. Maybe bottoms should just stuff large vegetables if size is the only thing that matters. |
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Doorellin007 | Posted On Aug 11, 2020
WOW.... Hypocrisy at its Best in this thread 🤥😂
Cross your heart and come forward that one person who hasn't rejected anybody ever online for something and for not being "Not my Type" human. I mean sure why not, everyone has certain preferences.. and why not. So then what's wrong in judging and being judged. This is a game of attraction and only strong contenders win or say get lucky. So either look good or thicken your skin and keep fighting until you get what totals you.
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shapeoflove | Posted On Aug 11, 2020
Most of the people(not all) here are complaining about not finding anything 'real' on a gay dating site are just not real themselves. Just look at their profiles. People can't show their face pic but are very comfortable in showing their private body parts on a public platform.If someone is really looking for something 'real' then, putting pics of your private part in your profile is not a way to go. And if you are shy in putting your face pic then, how you are comfortable in putting your private pic on a public platform? So, it's a clear indication of what you are looking for. A guy looking for a 'real' relationship' is not interested in looking at your body pic as first thing. So, it's better to connect and try to know the person instead. But then, very few people want that. All they want is a secret relationship.
Another disturbing aspect of online dating site is that almost half of the men available here are married and are having children. Well, in actual they are leading a double life. Now, if you are expecting a 'relationship' when you are already married then, it's a delusional world that you are living in. So,either you are fooling yourself or the person on the other side. Because i , personally, would never be interested in forming a serious relationship with a married guy I perfectly know that it's never gonna work. So, it will be 'f**k and forget' type of relationship Or nothing. And no one should complain in that scenario. And many people don't even mention they are married. Their relationship status says 'Rather not mention'. But in actual they are married.
Another thing i would like to point out is that majority of people in India don't believe in gay love. And few don't even accept the fact that they are gay. It kind of hurt their male ego. And many guys are not comfortable in seeing themselves in a gay relationship. For them society and it's views matter more than their own happiness. So, untill and unless we don't accept our self fully, we can never find anything real. So, we should stop being hypocritical. In actual, we should change our outlook towards gay relationship and then only we can find love and a 'real' relationship.
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navynagarbott | Posted On Aug 11, 2020
We can't help in dating in stuff, time have evolved everyone on online sites think that gay bottom of are just *** toys, and it's because many *** members of society. But by chance if you get someone, but in a day or few they will get bored of you and can't keep things healthy for kyunki shadi ko ladki se manani hain . It hurts me to learn that I gonna live alone all my life coz it's really hard to get a partner and I can't ruin any random girl's life . Waiting for the day when people would normalise us too |
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Desidesirex | Posted On Aug 12, 2020
Here hard truth
1- gay dating/dating site doing excellent work that they are intended to do.
2- in case of LGBTQ community there is complexe and complicated structure
- some men are gay curious
- some men are not out
- some men living dual life.
So in above case it not working correctly as it should work because.
- people don't share there real pic/information
- some married/curious men checking these site for one time fun.
Dating site experience depends on your use case.
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Blr_Rajajinagar | Posted On Aug 12, 2020
@shapeoflove. I see that you haven't put any pictures in your profile, so I don't understand why are you bragging about people in dating apps. It's everyone's choice on how they wanna date and how they would describe or not describe their profile. It's better to understand that not everyone are same in this world. |
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