Harassment, molestation and sexual violence.

This forum is for people to share their bad experiences, genuinely, about cruising , *** or even other wise. To listen and to support. Let's create a safe space for people to be vulnerable.

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No Picture Incrediblyperv	Posted On Sep 4, 2026 I'll start. Once in one of the cruising places, somebody tried to force themselves on me n i had to run.
No Picture Andy69luv	Posted On Sep 5, 2026 At a spa in Bangalore while massage the therapist forced himself onto me... I told him iam side and not into ***.. he pinned me down and tried forcing himself onto me.. I was furious.. i pushed him and or up then he was forcing his *** into my ***..... he now is manager in one spa on whitefield-varthur area.. guys should know no means no
No Picture Bengalur_uncle	Posted On Sep 6, 2026 Cruising places have a certain element of risk and unsafety.. I have had several experiences in cubbon park in the early 2000s Small robbers target vulnerable gay men/boys and have taken away cash/mobile from wallet/pockets while in compromising position There are several instances where trans women/ sissy submissive men have been exploited by police (mufti) There is also this assumption that if we are in cruising place consent is granted and anyone can touch anywhere There is also this tendency that in cruising places regularly visiting men gangup and plan to target/molest boys Many gay men tend freeze and subvert while getting dominated by other unknown men in a cruising place... This is also used by other men to swindle gold jewelry or valuable worn by the person
No Picture ArjunBalasubram	Posted On Sep 9, 2026 I recently had a worst experience. Installed gr after a gap and just looking for guys for hookup. There was this piece of *** who pinged me with his pics and asked mine. Since i liked his pics, description and other details, I shared mine. The next moment he asked me to come over to his place. I hesitated but since he’s from my native and moved to Bangalore for work, i went ahead. The moment im near to his door, he opened and said “yeah, come in” and the very next moment i stepped in, i know something is fishy. He never seen me in my face. The house was neat and tidy but full of drinks bottle. I was standing for whole five minutes after entering and he was working in his laptop without even have a courtesy to ask me to take a sit. (I know we are here for fun and not for any business meeting or interview. I still expect some basic respect and manners). After sometime, I sat and that too he just turned back for a second and made a urgh sound and pointed his hands towards the sofa. Shameless me still sat on the sofa. I was so patience and waiting for him to wrap up his work. After sometime, he just said “go wash your thing and come and lay. “ all this while working and showing his back towards me. I said, thats ok and you just finish your work. Lets chat something and then hookup. He was like you came here for hookup, just wash, lay and if you want me to blow, i have poppers. If you don’t want just leave. “ This triggered me to another level. I just said “ok, im leaving” and left. Omg, this was something like mental torture for me. Even if you’re a dominant top, i agree guys being rude kind of behaviour. But this is something beyond that. He should have said to me if he’s not interested. I don’t know if thats the case or whatever hell that was. Good that i just ran away from that doomed house. Let me know what i did was wrong or im over thinking it
No Picture Ritvik_Love	Posted On Sep 9, 2026 I too had faced similar kind three years back I was msging this guy top aged 40yrs (divorced) on grindr from almost two days..felt and looked decent and educated So on Saturday evening we both agreed to meet at his place. I reached his place by 7pm . his place was in Peenya Industrial area I mean not much crowd.... Knocked his door , he told me to sit on sofa...he got me juice to drink and sat next to me..we spoke to 15 minutes and he took me around his home for home tour. He told that he was staying alone...but somehow I was not convinced... because it was 2 BHK and the other room seem to have stuff of other room mate ..but somehow since he told i believed and didn't ask much about it. Later he took me to his ..started kissing, smooching and all . But somehow I was not feeling okay and felt dizzy which i ignored. He insisted and forcing for BDSM so whatever stuffs he had at his place ...so hand cuffed me to bed and somehow I felt sleepy and I slept like that only for a while may be for an hour. Later I woke up , i could hear he was talking to someone in hall ...so i called him ..he came immediately I told him to untie...he did I was asking me am i okay..I said I need water he got me.. Then I asked him ki was anything mixed in juice which made me dizzy , he told no but somehow his tone was suspicious. I told him that I want to go home , let me just go He told let's have one round and was pleading so somehow I told okay ...I also asked him whom he was speaking with He told his friend has come over so he is in next room chilling around. I told is he aware that I am here , he told yes. He told that his friend knows that he is Bi and often gets guy at home.. So i told him to close the door so that we can quickly finish and i can leave. He told it's okay. So again he started to kiss , smooch ...and was undressing me and himself....his friend entered..I mean not one but two. I got uncomfortable and was trying to cover myself but was handcuffed to bed....but he was nude in front of them. They are telling him ki how come he is enjoying alone today. I told I want to leave but they all laughed and told ki atleast they want to have one round meanwhile he didn't utter a word and was just smiling and nodding the head. Infear I told okay ... there was no other option. So the other two got nude and started to kiss me all over the body while I was handcuffed to the bed. After 10 minutes they told they want to have drink and smoke and then resume ..no option i have to wait so they started to drink inbetween they were speaking about the previous experience...they were also talking who is the best among themselves in terms of stamina and all After almost 30 minutes one of them came and started *** *** me with such a agression and was using foul languages and later they both joined I literally had to go through r**e kind Since I was exhausted and they will still continuing because they were not stopping they infact told that they have taken viagra.. This went on till 1am ...I was in such a bad pain So somehow I fainted and fall asleep. Around 5am i woke up and saw he sleeping next to me nude. He has uncuffed me , cleaned me and has put on some ladies dress on me.... I was exhausted, I wore my clothes and went to door to unlock but couldn't open the door the key was kept somewhere I tried to peep in the other room ..they both were sleeping nude too . So i had to wait until they wake up .so i went back and made him woke up . He woke up and was asking am i okay...I told after all this ***...you are asking me..am i okay. He told that his friend didn't hear he tried but they were not listening to him and all I told him to open the door or i will call police So he got furious and opend the door Meanwhile he was apologizing and asking me to come back again...I blocked his contact number and never went that side...it is still a trauma
No Picture ArjunBalasubram	Posted On Sep 9, 2026 Reading itself gives me a trauma. Sorry that you had to go through this.
No Picture Romance469	Posted On Sep 9, 2026 @Ritvik_Love, Felt very sad on the suitation you was in.. Pls don't mind.. please share areas and few identify so next gay Will be aware of these, if he read your experience
No Picture Ritvik_Love	Posted On Sep 9, 2026 @Romance469 and all His place is Near to Ramaiah University Of Applied Sciences, Peenya his room is there.. I mean can't explain all the features.. atleast if you get any requests from this place be careful or don't choose to go He is smart enough to choose his residency in this place
No Picture Sub_Arpan	Posted On Sep 10, 2026 @Ritvik_Love Your experience is my fantasy, I see the only difference as you were not mentally prepared to submit while on the other case I am degraded to the core and have accepted that as bottom such experiences are bound to happen and the only thing is accept our role as merely a toy to please men, once this acceptance comes, the situation becomes interesting instead of fearful
No Picture Ritvik_Love	Posted On Sep 10, 2026 @Sub_Arpan Why this thread is there then if everything is justified in name of pleasing or pleasure
No Picture Subbtm88	Posted On Sep 10, 2026 @Sub_Arpan The concept of consent just doesn't disappear because one is a bottom or submissive. What happened to him was ***. Just because it is your fantasy, doesnt diminish that fact. Don't normalise such experiences. You are a *** apologist.
No Picture convoblr	Posted On Sep 10, 2026 Thanks @Ritvik_Love for the heads up. Sorry what you went through. @ArjunBalasubram, you did the right thing. You are a person with feelings; not an object to be used.
No Picture LetsBreed	Posted On Sep 11, 2026 @ ArjunBalasubram, @ Ritvik_Love: Sad to hear you all, As far as i know & heard 99% of Grinder meets are like this, Dont know why you guys are still using such idiotic apps which is full of Unverified profiles, advertisements. For everyone who are facing 1) Always meet Outside where there is good crowd 2) Keep chatting or meet or connect in Verified accounts (insta) Observe for some time. If you are so *** to f*** or get f***ed, go & *** OR go & have COLD SHOWER OR do some 50 Squats OR 100 Pushups, your urge of horniness go away. Repeat this for 40 days, i promise you will save lots of time and spend on useful things or useful meets.
No Picture Sagar2004	Posted On Sep 13, 2026 @Ritvik_Love When did it happen? Hope you are out of the trauma now. What you went through is a scary thing. Looks like for those 3, this is very common. Please get tested once.
No Picture Samarsam	Posted On Sep 13, 2026 I'm 21M curious virgin. I am yet to explore my fetish but I think I'm more into ***. I do part time job to cover my expenses. I heard earned 5k so I decided to go one of the steam rooms in a very popular spa (I think ohmojo team takes down the post if you post negative about any spa because they are paid by them so I won't take the name). In steam room it was very erotic atmosphere..around 7 guys were there when I went but mostly 30 years and older chubby or not in great shape guys. One of the gus approached me but I didn't Indulge with him. I think he took offense while I was being nice to him. He said he will just feel my ***. I agreed as I didn't want to create any scene. Ngl it was hot. He kissed me neck and I was rock hard all the time. Then again 1 more guy came and started rubbing and *** my ***. I got scared and pushed him. He got really angry and i stopped the first guy too as it was getting uneasy. Since the steam room is steamy and dark, he said just enjoy while holding me tight. He inserted his finger in my hole which was really really very painful. I wanted to scream but he held my *** with his hand. I was feeling molested and uneasy. The guy I pushed came and started *** my nippled. I was hard but uncomfortable at the same time. I just wanted to leavr but I was scared of them. Another guy came and started *** my *** while I was still telling him not to because it was all very new to me. He didn't listen. This guy inserted another finger in my hole and applied a lot of his saliva while licking my neck. He then forced me to touch his ***. I was really very uncomfortable. Felt pukish. Three guys touching and kissing me all over. It was non consensual. I felt a strong pain in my hole. Turns out this guy has inserted his *** in my hole. Thank god I was not so huge. Almost as big as two finger but I just couldn't wait for him to finish. He didn't come insider but came over my legs and butt. Then he set me free from his hands. I immediately ran by pushing thr guy who was *** me. I cried a lot. I didn't expect that. I'm traumatized. Pls help
Hairy_Chub_Prof	Posted On Sep 13, 2026 @Ritvik_Love Very sorry to hear that you went through such a trauma. I really hope you're in a better mental state now. And I applaud your bravery to post this, because I'm sure it brought very tough memories for you. It's not easy to re-live it mentally, even if it happened 3 years ago. Trauma is always a trauma. Please take care!
Hairy_Chub_Prof	Posted On Sep 13, 2026 @Samarsam What you went through was terrible. Hope you have taken some steps to come out of the trauma, like contacting a LGBTQ-friendly therapist. They can help you professionally with it. Take care!
No Picture PasionBot	Posted On Sep 13, 2026 I wanna share my expirence.. There was a guy who came to my contact through telegram.. He had shared his pics they seemed good i was a lil interested in him but before meeting someone i always do a vc to verify.. So we did vc and somehow that guy just saw my face and cut the call and did not show his face.. I just blocked him and didn't bother much but he kept on forcing me to meet him for a hook.. I was not interested as i felt very uncomfortable.. After a few days i was returning back from my college a very creepy looking guy drives past me and stops just gives a deadly stair at me.. I didn't understand why he did so but my heart beats raised as walked a bit further and looked back the guy went ahead some distance and took a uturn and stopped his vehicle and was stairing at my me.. I contiously Changed my route to mislead him and ran fast and somehow managed to escape when i recalled i realised it was this fellow who texted in and i blocked he was the one but he has sent an old pic of his so i couldn't recognize at first.. This was not the last of him later after 4 days again this guy wantedly waited on the way whii took to home back from college as soon as he saw me he started following and i too realised and ended up changing lot of paths but he kept on following me for an hour i became extremely nervous and ran.. He wanted to know my house.. Finally i ran into an isolated road and felt very unsafe and went into a shop there was a old woman i reached out her and gasped for breath i couldnt even breathe properly as this guy never seemed to stop stalking me and he look like a very toxic goon.. Thanks to that old ajji she came out of shop and offered water that guy even came there with his scooty seeing me with ajji he went away after this event i never use that road to this day and it took 3-4 months to come out of that trauma that someone is stalking me following home..
No Picture sofiboob	Posted On Sep 13, 2026 this was one of my experience where i my friend made me drunk and used by his friends ibwas having affair with a guy when I was in puc regularly he was *** me good and he was elder to me I was in teen he made me addict to *** and also introduced me to alcohol and *** one day he took me for *** smoke to another guy I was completely high and he started eating my body I was fully naked and kissing him he was eating my boobs hard then another guy joined and put his thick tool inside my *** and two guys was enjoying me both *** and *** was busy then *** me hard and deep with condom only then another 3 guys cames and started eating me I was not able to get up full *** was *** for full night one by one
No Picture Isweety	Posted On Sep 16, 2026 I was abused by my friend who was in his 20s and I was about 6-7 years old.. he used to kiss me on lips forcefully.. om my cheeks and press my nipple.. he even used *** my nipple sometime.. *** squeeze and making me to sit on his lap was common.. I didn't understand much back then.. But now when I recall.. my other friends also did that.. not this extent but kissing and squeezing. Some aged guy even tried to *** me when I was in school.. may be some how they knew at that I was gay.. or is that those experiences made me who I am today..
No Picture Rocky9898	Posted On Sep 29, 2026 I was abused by my neighbour his age around 27 and I was 6 years. I use to go to his house to watch tv and when no one was there he wear lungi without underwear and make me sit beside him on sofa and he use to expose his erected hard *** to me while watching tv. Sometimes he made me to touch and hold it. It's a traumatic experience i had
No Picture Dream_boy555	Posted On Oct 1, 2026 If anyone face such things kindly reach me out for legal support its Pro Bono .
No Picture Yessss765	Posted On Oct 2, 2026 Hey pretty people. Just wanna say how incredibly brave you all are for having survived such experiences and being hopeful of your lives. Please reach out to therapists for appropriate mental health care. Keep leaning on each other like this by sharing stories , finding solace, offering comfort , receiving and providing love and a safe space for fellow queer people. Lots of love.
No Picture Sid_25	Posted On Oct 13, 2026 As I have already shared my crusing experience in Malleshwaram went wrong, I was molested there. I went there to cruise and got a guy, when we were kissing 2 local boys attacked us. The guy I was with left me there and ran away. They took my laptop and office bag. Asked they will give me to police and reveal to my family. Then the drunk guys took Fiv K m0n*y from me. Also sexually assaulted me. After giving money also, made me remove my tshirt and 1 drunk guy forced me to s**k him. Punched in thr stomach n dry h**ped me.