I have read a lot of posts about men who spot a gay person in a group. I guess all of us have an attenna that goes up and picks signals from others in our day to day interaction. The signals that help us identify other gay people is called GAYDAR.
There are some easy signals like extreme feminine qualities hand hip and face movement that helps spot gay men but there is another 90% men who do not display any feminine qualities and are still gay. It's a bit challenging but with time this sense gets sharper among gay men. It's the eye contact or some non verbal signal or frequency that attracts us to another person who might be gay. Sometimes it can be a false alarm but 70% it works . How good are you guys in spotting another gay guy. Have you ever heard of office whispers where they talk about so and so being a gay. Just thought I will post this to know if you guys believe that GAYDAR exists
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Nikky_dost | Posted On Mar 5, 2018
There is an automatic thing.. gesture...i mean eye to eye contact.. If usually straight guys don't stare other guys. if you a bi/gay u stair at guys whom u like..if he is not gay/bi..he just ignores it.. if he is gay/bi he looks back at you...for more than a second. in case. if he likes u he will look back at u again and again..if he doesn't like u.. he will look back at you at least once..to confirm that you r gay..or to make sure that u r not following him.. or something like that... |
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Iluv2cruise | Posted On Mar 5, 2018
Nothing works better than eye contact...first eye contact might be very casual...person wuth gay feelings is most likely to turn up for second time...from.third time it will get repeated based on how much both like each other or how much *** they are... |
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263363 | Posted On Mar 5, 2018
Even I feel the eye contact works the magic
Just few glimpses exchanged speaks thousand words, normally straight guys never stare into each other's eyes.
Sometimes the way they speak also gives a clue as sometime they are very down to earth n friendly speech.
Finally is the handshake. |
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Valentine84 | Posted On Mar 5, 2018
Oh course eye contacts and frequent glances tops the list.. Hmm.. Some unusual comments or compliments about looks and approach are also clues .. Usually straight men don't comment much about another guy's looks or personality ..
If some guy gives you an unusual compliment then I bet he likes you ;) .. Try to make your move.. |
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Harshid | Posted On Mar 5, 2018
Now a days insta and FB become hunting forums..apart from just start having conversation with a guy you like thru in person talk or via WhatsApp etc..just keep having normal conversation ..If he start appraising ur dress code and look then definitely he likes you and he might be hesitant to open up...just catch hold of that tale and proceed accordingly..and enjoy 😀 |
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266066 | Posted On Mar 6, 2018
Yep. Eye contact worked for me as well. This is first time in my life. One day in my office keep making an eye contact with me. He is new joineevin. Very young. Even I also made an eye contact with him. It worked :-p |
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Ragu for fun | Posted On Mar 6, 2018
As you all have already said, it’s mostly the extra few seconds of eye contact and a head turn u see u again...but some times even straight guys check u out if they think you are checking them out....so if u get a second glare it need not imply that the other person is interested.....men to like women like attention |
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Exotic1234 | Posted On Mar 6, 2018
One thing about women is they always check out each other irrespective of straight or lesbian they will always check each other out. Also women are more accepting of lesbianism infact the latest India Today Survey suggest about 24% of women have participated in same *** relationship as opposed to 18% men. The straight men find women on women action highly erotic (whereas even the women find woman on woman action a bigger turn on than man on man action) lesbian women are not judged negatively by the society unlike gay men unfortunately being gay is seen as not being a man enough by the society as there are clearly established rules about what constitutes being manly. Like watching cricket and other sports, not liking shopping, not investing enought on grooming oneself etc where as women have no such standards to deal with. Also I have seen women move easily from sleeping with women to sleeping with men (bise xuality) eg Lindsay Lohan Angelina Jolie Kristen Stewart Meghan Fox have all been in a relationship with women and men. In *** return of Xander Cage Deepika Padukone flirts with Ruby Rose who is a well-known lesbian actress. However the only sad part is women don't have enough lesbian cruising and hang out places like gay men. All over the world the gay world is better organised and has more options than the lesbian world |
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Valentine84 | Posted On Mar 6, 2018
@ exotic - Indian women don't need any exclusive cruising, they are far better in underplaying everything and anything discreetly :)..
But I have seen a lot of lesbian couples outside India hanging out in gay bars.. Since the gay men doesn't bother them I guess they find gay bars as safe places to hangout.. I have been to a few drag queen shows in bars and have spotted a few lesbian couples often.. |
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Exotic1234 | Posted On Mar 6, 2018
@valentine - globally it’s actually common for straight women to head to a gay bar for drinks as no one will make passes at them and they can just be themselves without being judged or commented. They find it safe in a gay bar I guess the same holds for lesbian women too straight men just won’t leave them alone. Also the straight women get to see a lot of good looking men in a gay bar ....I have seen a lot of gay men take extra care in the west about their body and grooming as opposed to india |
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Valentine84 | Posted On Mar 7, 2018
Agreed .. Most Indian gay man lacks grooming.. :). Definitely I like my man as a dapper.. |
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Etc | Posted On Mar 7, 2018
Eye contacts worked mostly for me in places like train bus etc. You can easily sense the motive as you also look out with the same motive :) Just a micro second look have carried so much info like "hey... Interested? Shall we try. I like you" etc etc.
I've always wondered how the info exchange is possible in a micro second :) |
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Mahesh80 | Posted On Mar 12, 2018
During a hand shake, holding someone's hand for an unusually long time;
a discreet quick staring at the crotch region of other person;
using some intimate words in spoken or written communications that are usually exchanged only between the close loved ones etc... all these could mean that one is interested in the other person.
I ve also noticed some western gay/bi men & women sporting large visible tatoos on their bodies.. |
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Valentine84 | Posted On Mar 29, 2018
Gaydar could also work this way - with a welcoming smile, songs, interests and bike rides..
Well it was that casual meet of a person I found in Grindr today.. Of course I had a different picture of the person I was to meet in my mind.. But I was quite blown away by that good welcoming smile he had in his face.. As we had agreed it was supposed to be a casual meet but that smile did kindle the desire.. But neither of us was keen to bed immediately but were liking to spend more time .. First we head for a coffee and then to near by ground where we sat by a stone bench and started speaking.. Turns out we both worked For same companies and chat proceeded to our respective gay crushes and so.. But still the want was more.. So decided to find a cozy corner to atleast smooch a kiss.. That's when the bike ride started.. In the eternal search for finding a cozy corner we were driving for hours... Not sure how or who started the singing, but it kept the evening alive.. We took turns to complete the songs as both had a common list of favourite songs.. From Tamil to Hindi to English to Telugu .. From arr to haris to ilayaraja to way back to MSV .. We were singing along and driving occassionally holding holds and smooching every possible way we could while driving.. He was leaning over my shoulder and that feeling was good.. All this while we were still searching for a corner by then it was already 2 hours and we both couldn't had it enough..each one starting a new song and again joining in to sing along.. By then atlast we had found a dimly lit place where we shared a kiss.. Though the kiss was a momentary one, back again in my bike as the guy sat behind first planted a little peck on the neck.. This then gradually became passionate twirling of the tongue and he then gave a very sweet kiss of my nape.. wow.. That kiss of the nape from behind with his arms around around my waist we shared very passionate kiss far better the first.. Again back until we reached to Tambaram we were singing our favourite songs with momentary smooches in akin with the lyrics..,
Not sure if we would have enjoyed this much even if he had hit the bed today but that smile, song , bike ride and that passionate kiss made the evening a complete one.. |
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Exotic1234 | Posted On Mar 29, 2018
@valentine - I loved reading your story and am happy for you. I think your chance meeting can develop into something beautiful and long term. The chances of finding this sort of connect is not common so keep it for good my friend. Will be a good stress buster |
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Ragu for fun | Posted On Mar 30, 2018
@valentine - what u posted is clearly not gadar....it’s just romance between two gay men who know knew that they are gays
@Exotic1234 - what h r doing is open flirting with Valentine....I guess u guys should meetup :p |
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Valentine84 | Posted On Mar 30, 2018
@Ragu - well the appropriateness of posting about the event in this thread was different. It was that not always lust could be an underlying factor, there are many factors (as mentioned in that post) could attribute to a nice date.. What was supposed to be a casual meet later became a full fledged evening date .. Thanks to the welcoming smile which initiated everything.. So bringing up that was my intention..
On your comment on @exotic - I didn't find that as flirting. I guess when someone shares their happiness you say along 'I am happy for you'.. That s a nice gesture.. Of course I would like to meet up a good lot of interesting people from this site as suggested by you as a "Get-together" in a platonic sense... But I guess ur plan of a get together is yet to be materialised ,.. |
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Ragu for fun | Posted On Mar 30, 2018
Just pulling u guys’ legs here....but definitely the appropriateness of ur post in THiS thread is what I questioned and not the content of ur post ;) |
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sarojsaroj_1974 | Posted On Sep 8, 2022
infact luck plays a big role too, i was in my normal male clothes but was wearing bra and panty inside and was travelling by bus, one guy must have been in his late fifties was standing beside the seat in front of me which was occupied, that guy had a bulge and was just devouring that sight not knowing that he has seen me staring at his bulge, he looked directly in my eyes and blinked i felt so shy and bit my lower lip with smile looking at him, slowly he came and stood beside my seat and rubbed his bulge in right arm it felt like being in heaven i was virtually shaking since it was night and lights were on but brightness was not enough so i took advantage of that and started touching his bulge with my left hand he was hard, the guy sitting next to my seat got off and my man sat next to me, he put his hand on my left thigh i guided it to my right boob and he started fondling with it, so you don't know when and where your luck will favour you. |
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Guy27bi | Posted On Apr 28, 2025
The intuition or sense to pick up signals improve as you get more experience. More people you meet, you can learn a lot.
If you are new, don't depend on gaydar, there are lots of experience shared on ohmojo when it has gone wrong and people have been abused in public. |
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