As the question asks. Are there any actual emotions or real love involved or is it just *** and lust within the Indian gay community?
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Decent55 | Posted On Aug 4, 2026
There is lov. It is hard to find because such guys don’t publicise. It is natural phenomenon two guys like each other they become friends they meet regularly and then the magic begins. The end result is a strong relationship.
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Rahulxv | Posted On Aug 4, 2026
I think mostly lust .. |
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Kanmani | Posted On Aug 4, 2026
It always lust. No matter who gets the butterflies, at the end the one who gets them will get hurt. 😞 and that’s reality. |
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Mnbvcxxz_r | Posted On Aug 4, 2026
Well, waiting for my Mr. Right since I got to know that I'm into men but we know the reality that 99.99 percent people(both heterosexual n homosexual) r just for lust.
But I won't loose hope till my last breath. I'll wait for him |
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Ammubaby696969 | Posted On Aug 4, 2026
99 persentage of the tops come just for lust after masterbating they treat us like a prostitute |
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dv2020 | Posted On Aug 4, 2026
both are there, diff ppl have diff prioritites |
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gayaddiction | Posted On Aug 4, 2026
There is love but it's very rare once u feel someone is loving u never cheat on him ... basically others are like *** n forget they just don't get *** they hunt for *** hole n *** that's harsh reality n everyone should accept that openly |
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Snorlax | Posted On Aug 4, 2026
Mostly lust only |
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Virginbottom34 | Posted On Aug 5, 2026
I am looking for enjoyment.... I want to gset used by top |
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ignite369 | Posted On Aug 5, 2026
Mostly Indian men are into lust and random *** only |
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Subslaveprem | Posted On Aug 5, 2026
It is all about hook ups and lust only. No love involved in it. In Lesbians may be love involved according me. Its my opinion only. |
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Yolokivvi | Posted On Aug 5, 2026
I think it depends on the person . If you are looking for love . You'll only want LOVE ❤️ . If you're looking for lust . You'll only find lust . But ofcourse. If you get lucky . You'll get both . I'm someone who prefers love over lust . Lust is just one element to a beautiful relationship. I need commitment , comfort, safety , belongingness and many other things from a relationship that makes it worth being in love . This logic just applies to everything in general . But unfortunately. Nowadays. People are scared of commitment and monogamy than they are of STDS . LOL . Be safe out there kids . Use protection at all times . |
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Yolokivvi | Posted On Aug 5, 2026
I also think ppl are scared of monogamy in gay relationships because , Our love isn't even recognised legally in terms of law . Even if I am to love someone one day . They won't be considered as an official partner by the government or the laws that divide this country . There are limits to the rights that have been given to us . We can't get married . We can't adopt kids .our belongings do not automatically transfer to our partners . These are some external features that unknowingly and knowingly by the government, influences each queer relationship. But I assure you . Love will find its way towards all of us one day . Even if the government that takes our fking money as taxes can't do *** for us . Love is eternal and superior to hate . Always has . And always will be . And one day . History will note This period of the 21st century in black and white for the atrocities done to the queer community , but let the love that lasts among us bring colour and hope to the future queer children , who we are fighting for and cherish so dearly in our hearts ❤️✊️🔥 |
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SilentRuiner | Posted On Aug 5, 2026
I recently visited bnglr and met this guy for second time after so long. First time i met him was in 2024. This time when i went to his place he had decorated the bed with balloons and flowers. We had really awesome ***, blasted the balloons with our bodies, it was intense af.
After that we ordered food and sat talking about each others life after years. Hes married now, bought a house, its nice. I was happy for him. Even when i was there he was chatting with other ppl but with me he was sweet… feeding me, cleaning me, applying soap, kissing for no reason, holding my legs and pulling me closer. I felt that connection somehow.
Next day we met outside, held hands, walked around the streets of bnglr, talked more. Then went for a movie and after movie had proper emotional talk. I asked him way too many questions coz i wasnt expecting him to love me or make me his partner. Hes married and already got feelings for another boy. Im pretty chill about it. I just felt close to him and wanted to keep that bond, maybe just as friends or bi buddy.
Later went back to his place again. Had intense *** on the balcony and even on the stairs of his building. We took nude pics together, he asked for it. At one point he put his wifes lipstick and started to kiss on my body and kept kissing and praising it. The way he made me feel so special in those moments… i loved it but some part of me already knew it might hurt later.
I even postponed my return to hyd just because of him. He came to drop me at the bus, hugged me and left. He promised hell chat, call now and then and be there if i need him. That was enough for me at that time. I already decided not to get attached in a bf way.
But after i reached hyd he just made sure i landed safely and then went quiet. I texted him that morning… no reply. I didnt text again, not because of ego. If there was even little concern or connection he would have said something. I saw him on apps later and ignored. Felt bad for 3-5 days. Still feels a bit heavy sometimes.
The hardest part is nowadays im staying more in bnglr than in hyd but he dont know. I haven't even met him once and honestly thats good for me. I know the reality. He was good for the lust and those caring moments while i was in bnglr, but nothing beyond that. At my age its still hard to balance the emotional side with practical side. Sometimes i wish i could just switch off the feelings. |
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Raj_ex | Posted On Aug 5, 2026
I prefer love over lust but I'm unlucky |
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KaliMotiGand | Posted On Aug 5, 2026
@SilentRuiner you must be having a good *** to *** that made a married man lust for you.
I feel like surrendering my manhood and letting rugged strong men *** me like a cheap free use hooker whenever I lose something in life or feel depressed. I have no friends or no girlfriends. I am so lonely. I want lust. |
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Snorlax | Posted On Aug 5, 2026
We bottoms are always preys |
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Joy_sub | Posted On Aug 5, 2026
There is definitely love but for me only lust and pleasure |
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Mroldlover | Posted On Aug 5, 2026
Depends on person to person, I had relationship with 3 not at same time but different time.
1. From delhi for 4 years We used to hang out like friend in open n like husband n wife in close.
2. From noida : 3 years
3. Gujarat: 3 years .. |
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Sahaisab | Posted On Aug 6, 2026
@SilentRuiner exactly the same happened when I get emotionally attached with one of my partners. He is based at Mumbai, we virtually met on a what's app group created by a common friend and started chatting initially in group and later in person. We decided to meet in an event at Mumbai, we met he took really good care of me during my 2 days stay with him.
After coming back to my city we chatted for few days in the similar way as we use to. But after 10-12 days I started feeling that he is ignoring my msg some time and not replying all the msg at the same time I observed late replies as well.
I called him one day and his way of talking said all.
We stopped chatting, I left my friends WA group. It was unexpected and took arround 2-3 months to get out of that.
After say 5+ years he texted me again that he is in my city and wanted to meet me. I said ok, we fixed a meeting for next day and met. He was feeling sorry which I totally ignored and I said let's move forward as I can't be the same for you again.
It's been two years now no contact and m happy 😊 |
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Young_Vs_Old | Posted On Aug 6, 2026
I'm in relationship with someone since 2014 |
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Wantmylips | Posted On Aug 6, 2026
According to me it’s mostly lust people talk big till they get you in bed once they have *** they loose interest and usually just walk away. Have got a married guy who is romantic and loves to kiss and stay nude with me and keeps on messaging to meet and this almost made me fall in love with him as I enjoy his company too.
The first time we met he was unable to penetrate me but we had loads of kissing and bide hugging and I really enjoyed it and it was he who wanted to *** me but was very apoligitic that he couldn’t sustain his hard on even after me *** him and making him hard. But i was patient and kept in touch with him bcos he seemed to be a genuine guy.
The next time we met he did penetrate me and made me *** hands free which was amazing and that’s what made me fall in love with him and I wanted him as much as he wanted me.
But knowing fully well that this would end up only in a bad way bcos of him being married i just withdrew myself and kept a check on my emotions bcos didn’t want to get heart broken bcos I noticed that o was unable to think about anything or anyone other than him.
Apart from this one guy all guys I met have been only lust centric and some even very rude to just use you as a *** dumps’s if it was their birth right. |
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burjuman | Posted On Aug 6, 2026
People who are in committed relationship are difficult to find in any discussion forum or hook up app. They are busy living their lives. |
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Ramani3 | Posted On Aug 6, 2026
💯luat |
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Sub_Arpan | Posted On Aug 7, 2026
It's always lust, even if they pretend to love , they will do so until they get bored of your body and then they'll go to others, now as a bottom you have to accept the fact that you are a tool to get the lust and frustration out of a man and ensure he gets maximum satisfaction for the time he spends with you |
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Bottom_mohit | Posted On Aug 7, 2026
@sub_arpan exactly.. very true.. being a bottom myself can relate.. once i met a guy from dating app had chat for many days.. he praised my butt n looks for days.. n one day he asked me for date.. we met drank ate food n chat for atleast 3 hours in the restaurant..
I was quite high but into our chats.. he asked me can we move to my place.. i was like yeah why not.. it was late too.. we went to his place sat for sometime.. he asked me if i wanna shower or something.. i thought together, but he was asking me to shower i got it later tbh.. i was so high that the shower n all was nice for me..
But as i came out of the shower, the lights were off n he was under the blanket naked, he was acting to sleep, n i went under the blanket naked as i had just showered.. he straight away came on me.. didnt do anything just turned me on my belly and made me get on my knees in doggy position and oiled my hole n his *** and started *** me with no pre romance or foreplay or talk or anything..
It was random.. he *** me for n half hour.. it was a good ***.. but no nipple ***, nothing else.. he creampied me and went to washroom got cleaned.. n went in the drawing room..
I too cleanedup my *** n all.. n went to the drawing room he was smoking.. he told me he had guests coming early morning n askd me to leave indirectly..
I was like u didnt say this earlier.. till u *** me.. n as it was.. i left in disappointment and never got any msg or communication from him..! |
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ShyamBot | Posted On Aug 7, 2026
We do with passion, like bhoot chad gaya ho...tabaahi machha dete hai |
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Samy2026 | Posted On Aug 7, 2026
The problem with gay relationships in India is the patriarchal mindset of men. Top or bottom or versatile in his head is the man in the relationship. This mindset kills half of the potential in a relationship. |
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Mnbvcxxz_r | Posted On Aug 7, 2026
One thing I don't understand that some people says they r in committed relationship (I'm talking about homosexual only) then why they r still on gay sites.
Can't be they loyal to one at a time. If not then why do they call it committed relationship.
I'm not talking about open relationship.
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Asimas | Posted On Aug 7, 2026
For bottom it is love for top it is easy *** only |
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nostrings98 | Posted On Aug 7, 2026
Love is there but it will never be public, it will be discreet , private and comes with expiry. |
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Sakwerry | Posted On Aug 7, 2026
@asimas i agree with ur point...I felt my bf to take care of me ...but he always ignore me...and when I get mood I go for romance he get cummed and leave me ....that cycle goes on...but I liked his body so much...wanted his company...in alone times |
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Pixel | Posted On Aug 9, 2026
By nature, gays are promiscuous and hence incapable of making a long term commitment or love as you call them. For some gays, they still live in their dreams or fantasy and hope for love
because they haven't yet lived in real gay world where only *** matters and love is just a fairy tale. Two gays may live together as a freind or for financial support and yet look for *** from
some one else but that's not love, that's just convinience. |
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everydaygayguy | Posted On Aug 10, 2026
@yolokivvi-very well said.
@sub_arpan, @snorlax- very true!!
@youngvsold- congratulations!! You are very lucky.
Bottom line- we like to love if in a committed relationship. With that being hard to find in India's LGBTQIA community and not legally recognised, as @yolokivvi pointed out, it often comes down to lust. Sad fact. |
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anand84 | Posted On Aug 10, 2026
In my experience there only lust .. if there is trust...thn love will be there... |
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Mnbvcxxz_r | Posted On Aug 10, 2026
Totally agree with u dear@Asimas |
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Asimas | Posted On Aug 10, 2026
@Sakewerry for bottom he need man for life he can no longer feel comfortable with girls but top are only for *** they *** they sleep |
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carolinecd9 | Posted On Aug 12, 2026
99% lust not much love |
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Aniruddhbottomm | Posted On Aug 12, 2026
Finally someone said 5 sal se main yehi soch rhaa hu i realised no indian gay relationship won't last longer easily it's all facade lies fakery |
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Aniruddhbottomm | Posted On Aug 12, 2026
Hum bottommms ki life ek dagmagati hui naav ki tarah hain kabhi is kinare kabhi us kinare everyone just use bottommms |
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Snorlax | Posted On Aug 12, 2026
Don't know why gay men find it so hard to be in a monogamous relationship. |
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blueboys | Posted On Aug 12, 2026
I'm looking love |
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30BtmOMR | Posted On Aug 13, 2026
30 btm married man here. But I have been having this feeling to be someone's girl. I'm bisexual so girls turn me on too. But this feeling never quite leaves me however hard I try to leave it and go away.
I am speaking to a man i got from PR and he seems to be nice.
But as my comments here, I still feel gay life is more for lust. It would be wonderful if I can have someone who would look at me like his gf irrespective of physical looks. I can definitely shave my body and CD for him, even come out dressed, but need the right man for it. Fingers crossed. |
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misterman61 | Posted On Aug 13, 2026
@asimas you write "for bottom it is love for top it is easy *** only". I am bottom and I cannot have a lasting relationship because I am too much of a ***. I have a need for tops to want to *** in me.
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SilentRuiner | Posted On Aug 13, 2026
I saw a few comments saying bottoms are always the ones being used, that we are just prey. I don’t fully agree.
I have felt the quiet sting of being left behind by a bottom. It is never about the role. If someone truly wants you in their life, there are a hundred ways to show it.... none of them depend on who is top or bottom.
I already shared this experience earlier. He was married, yet he was so sweet. He asked me to be his boyfriend, spoke of living two lives, treated me with care and warmth. I told him clearly that since he is already married I do not wish to be his boyfriend but we can stay good friends and share the ordinary things of life. He agreed. Then the silence came.
I know it was my mistake to meet a married man, to let feelings rise and to expect him to remain a good buddy who talks and stays. But I had no bad intention, and he had agreed to the friendship I offered.
THAT SILENCE TAUGHT ME IT WAS ONLY LUST WEARING A SOFT VOICE FOR A WHILE.
So please, do not fall for every sweet word you hear here or on dating sites. Do not raise your emotions and hopes unless the person is truly serious. I know it is hard. But it is better to practise holding yourself back and feel that small ache, than to later carry the heavier pain of being ignored after you have already opened your heart. |
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bidesi | Posted On Aug 13, 2026
I think in most cases the offering/showering of love and the need for love from/for a person is a short period with waxing n waning intensity the duration could be a few days weeks or months
Very few long lasting friendships n fewer pairs I have seen esp around Desi men coz let's be honest we have grown up seeing trying to increase the count n qty in our lust for quality
Also, it ll be a fairytale thing to get into love-shove from the. Apps with a few intense online chats.
It is like growing dhaniya, which has a short life.
Beautiful love stories take time, ups n downs, mutual trust and in many cases a lil room for playing around too (like in many many straight marriages) n there is one more thing, love needs emotional stability whereas mostly we tend to repackage the need for emotional anchoring as love.
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Mehertransgirl | Posted On Aug 15, 2026
Honestly there is love in gay *** my dad n i had *** out of lust first time when I was 15 den we hv daily ftr a month we fall in love with each other n dad decided to make me his wife forever n till dat am his wife n also got operated for him to female |
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Chanden | Posted On Aug 15, 2026
My opinion -
you will get rarely a true love
Cause people follow fck and forget funda |
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Harry80 | Posted On Aug 15, 2026
“You’re on this platform because somewhere, you’re searching for something too. Maybe it looks like lust, attention, attraction, or even love. But if love is truly what you’re looking for, there are other ways to find it.
Your time and energy are valuable. Whatever you consistently give them to will eventually shape your life.
So maybe the real question isn’t, ‘Who can I find here?’
The real question is: What am I actually looking for?
Love? Connection? Validation? Excitement? Escape?
And one question deeper: Why am I searching for it so desperately?
Sometimes finding the answer to that question is more important than finding another person.” |
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Biswachat | Posted On Aug 15, 2026
Love happens surely. But till then its lust 😏 |
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