Grindr Dating is so Frustrating in India
According to the posting I read here on ohmojo, it appears to be so easy to get a date on Grindr and some even writes that they get a a date within an hour of searching Grindr. To me, looking for date on Grindr is so frustrating, it's a big hassle, I spent hours surfing going through their profile and than making a video call to authenticate or validate their Biodata and pictures posted on Grindr but when they show up at my door, it's not the same person, they look something like the person I spoke to on video call but doesn't appear to be same person. I hardly find any honest & sincere person, almost everybody lies, cheat & misrepresent themselves on Grindr. I am aware that many use filter to enhance their picture posted on profile and I think they also use some kind of filter apps even for a video call. Am I right here? Or Am I wrong? Please Enlighten me. Reply/Post a comment
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Kaavya | Posted On May 10, 2026
@bussywuss true man đđđ. And they will add their telegram id too. Are they scammers or hackers? I seriously doubt they are genuine people! |
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Bussywuss | Posted On May 10, 2026
@Moobs4U Thank you.
@Kaavya Both I suppose. They're not genuine. Nor bright. Like why an American will have a Nigerian number. I worry about the men whose pics they're using.
@Dost4ever012 True. And changing locations so quickly that doesn't seem right.
The first time I fell for it, I was over the moon, couldn't believe my luck.. you know.. American Dr, wants me.. ME.. Wow.. and then came the Nigerian number and such horrible English. I was like, 'Dude, have some shame atleast or put some effort..' Anyway. |
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Dost4ever012 | Posted On May 10, 2026
@Bussywuss: How you even fell for that dude. I saw that it's a scam right from the very first message. The name, the DP, the message nothing looked natural.
Just take care. |
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*** | Posted On May 10, 2026
Over three decades of offline wandering, chatting, and lurking in gay chatrooms, some things have evolved, but a lot hasnât budged. One thing that has stubbornly stayed the same for Indian men? The sacred cushion of anonymity.
Back in the day, it was all about cruising spotsâyou know, the thrill of âIs that eye contact? Or just the reflection in your glasses?â Then it graduated to the digital era: Indiatimes chat, Yahoo M2M, MIRC, Rediffmail chatrooms, Guys4Men(which eventually became PlanetRomeo, now just PR), and today itâs all apps: Grindr, Adam4Adam, Scruff, and an entire alphabet soup of *** convenience.
The kicker? None of these platforms were ever about dating. Theyâre marketplaces for âgetting your rocks off,â pure and simple. ASL morphed into âU from?â and âu got place?â became âu host?ââbut the eternal mantra of âFun and Friendshipâ has survived thirty years. And hereâs a little pro tip: if someone tells you theyâre looking for âFun and Friendship,â just swipe leftâor delete, block, whatever feels right. Ask yourself: when was the last time a âFun and Friendshipâ seeker actually hung out with the person they⊠erm⊠connected with? Why are people pretending? If I'm looking to be blown, then that's what I'm looking for. I'm not looking for fun and definitely not a friend. May be the adage "fun and friendship" is self soothing the ego to pretend they are not a whore and act of class (?).
Back in the cruising days, there was some in-person action. At least some fake conversionsâyouâd see faces (without filters!), exchange awkward jokes, then depending on how *** you were, well⊠nature took its course. Chatrooms made it more complicated. Without pics or video, you had to rely on words, wit, and sheer curiosity to decide whether to meet. Fakes existedâalways didâbut the thrill of meeting someone youâd only known in text made the eventual meet-up feel like an adventure. The rules were simple: âlines were fed from both sides, but the bottom line was always: letâs find a place and do it.â
In all these stages, nobody pretended to be looking for love or a relationship. If the *** was good or you liked someone, numbers were exchangedâintention clear, repeat business optional but welcome.
Then came the apps. And boy, they killed curiosity. Hours spent swiping, narrowing your radius, screening your âinterests,â sending a few dozen âHiâs, exchanging photos (sometimes unwanted), trading naughty picsâand then, with one cold tap, block or delete. The conversion rate from chat to meet, and meet to actual ***? Dramatically lower than in the good old days. The thrill is gone; the chase replaced by obsessive scrolling and overthinking.
Options? Well, you can:
Stick to apps and accept itâs a numbers gameâfun but frustrating.
Revisit the old waysânostalgia-fueled cruising spots, in-person mingling, zero filters.
Mix it up: chat a little, meet a little, and maybeâjust maybeâlet curiosity do its magic.*
The bottom line: the tech has changed, the screens have multiplied, but Indian nature? That one stubborn constant hasnât.
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Bussywuss | Posted On May 10, 2026
@dost4ever012 Nothing serious happened. No financial transactions. They wanted me to click on some link and I discontinued. These have been there since 2016 |
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TwilightPet | Posted On May 17, 2026
Why Iâm starting to hate Grindr lately đ©
Hey guys,
Iâve met a couple of genuinely nice people through Grindr in the past, so Iâm not saying itâs all bad. But lately it feels like the app has been completely taken over by desperate straight guys looking for any hole they can find.
Look, I have zero problem with straight or curious guys exploring. But the issue is the sheer volume of them now. One after another, they expect you to show up looking like a full-blown pornstar trans woman... boobs, heavy makeup, perfect feminine voice, the whole package. Bro, Iâm a sissy, not a trans girl. I canât magically grow tits for your ego. Stop projecting your fantasy onto me.
Then you have the endless stream of kids (barely legal) and just plain dumb guys who donât understand the word âNoâ. Theyâll spam you, get aggressive, and act like getting blocked is some kind of achievement.
And the logistics? Absolute nightmare. Their places are never safe. Youâre either hearing random knocking on the door mid-act or you have to sprint out the moment they finish. You canât even moan properly , have to stay dead silent the whole time like youâre committing a crime.
Sexually itâs usually one of three things:
Canât get hard
Cums in under a minute
Or gets so desperate and rough that it actually hurts
And the absolute worst â the chickens. Theyâll chat for hours, send location, get you all dressed up and ***, and the moment you reach their place⊠blocked. Every. ***. Time.
Anyone else feeling this lately or am I just unlucky? |
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Kolhapur | Posted On May 17, 2026
Anyone travelling in train 11049 adi express? |
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humki | Posted On May 18, 2026
@Twilightpet this is so true.
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Leo1237 | Posted On May 18, 2026
So I had the worst experience lately, I was in Nashik for a function with friend and before leaving I had some time n my friend were out for some work so I was alone in the hotel. I was horney n thought to have some fun so I got a guy on grinder who was 100m away from me. I asked for pics but he insisted for a vc. So we did a vc but it was too short n I was like ok as I was horney n didnât wanna waste any more time searching guys on gr as the other guys where bit far so I thought as I have less time I should invite someone who was near to me. I shared room no n hotel name n asked to come. To my surprise he was there on the door in a minute. When I asked he said he know the hotel n hotel owner n comes there regularly with his gf so they donât stop him. I was like ok, so I asked him did you bring the condom with him as I requested to bring those with him, on that he said he has told his friend to bring from the near medical n he will bring it. Everything was really awkward, n then his tone of talking changed n he started behaving arrogantly n was blackmailing me saying heâs the local gunda n tujhe yaha se mumbai nanga bhej dunga. I was so shocked n meri fat gayi, he was really creating a scene n shooting videos while abusing me, I requested him so much but he was getting worst every second. He finally said the he will leave if I give him money for drinks n all. He asked me 3000 rs n said give me immediately n Iâll leave. As I was really scared so I gave him all the money which I had kept for my ticket, which was only 900rs in my wallet. When I offers him he said bhik de raha hai kya n started abusing m asked me to show my bank account balance I showed him lucky I had no money in any of my account so he asked to borrow money from anyone n give him. The situation was so *** tensed for me n I just wanted to get him out of the hotel, so I had no option n I called a friend of mine n asked 2000 n gave him. He didnât even left a single rupee in my account, n left. While leaving he said now donât you dare to come online on grinder if he sees me online he will come back n beat me n all kind of ***. I was just ok that he left the hotel but I was so dam scared n literally packed my bag n left in no time. I donât even wait for my friend to come back as they were only 15 mins away, all were asking why are leaving without meeting us n all but I made some exam left the hotel, even while leaving I was scared thinking he Might be near the hotel or in the hotel. I canât even think of that experience n immediately uninstalled grinder. Worst experience bc. |
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Photographer51 | Posted On May 18, 2026
Pitty on you @Leo1237
But Grindr is the platform of goons and blackmailers and gigolos now
Some ask for money upfront before meeting and other will extort in this manner.
Grindr blocked me few months back and I too feel relieved. When I was on Grindr, I was hardly getting any date from that platform.
Many a times I think, cruising spots are still safer.
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Photographer51 | Posted On May 18, 2026
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DYe9nLeSNEd
It is reality |
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Romance469 | Posted On May 18, 2026
@Leo1237, I could feel the suitation to you..so pity for suitation.. I too had similar long back at my place..
Thanks for sharing, it would be lesson to one who searching in kind of suitation
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