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Grindr Dating is so Frustrating in India


Submitted by Pixel Location: All India (All India, India)

According to the posting I read here on ohmojo, it appears to be so easy to get a date on Grindr and some even writes that they get a a date within an hour of searching Grindr.

To me, looking for date on Grindr is so frustrating, it's a big hassle, I spent hours surfing going through their profile and than making a video call to authenticate or validate their Biodata and pictures

posted on Grindr but when they show up at my door, it's not the same person, they look something like the person I spoke to on video call but doesn't appear to be same person.

I hardly find any honest & sincere person, almost everybody lies, cheat & misrepresent themselves on Grindr. I am aware that many use filter to enhance their picture posted on profile and I think

they also use some kind of filter apps even for a video call.

Am I right here? Or Am I wrong? Please Enlighten me.

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Kaavya		Posted On May 10, 2026

@bussywuss true man 😂😂😂. And they will add their telegram id too. Are they scammers or hackers? I seriously doubt they are genuine people!
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Bussywuss		Posted On May 10, 2026

@Moobs4U Thank you.
@Kaavya Both I suppose. They're not genuine. Nor bright. Like why an American will have a Nigerian number. I worry about the men whose pics they're using.
@Dost4ever012 True. And changing locations so quickly that doesn't seem right.

The first time I fell for it, I was over the moon, couldn't believe my luck.. you know.. American Dr, wants me.. ME.. Wow.. and then came the Nigerian number and such horrible English. I was like, 'Dude, have some shame atleast or put some effort..' Anyway.
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Dost4ever012		Posted On May 10, 2026

@Bussywuss: How you even fell for that dude. I saw that it's a scam right from the very first message. The name, the DP, the message nothing looked natural.
Just take care.
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***		Posted On May 10, 2026

Over three decades of offline wandering, chatting, and lurking in gay chatrooms, some things have evolved, but a lot hasn’t budged. One thing that has stubbornly stayed the same for Indian men? The sacred cushion of anonymity.

Back in the day, it was all about cruising spots—you know, the thrill of “Is that eye contact? Or just the reflection in your glasses?” Then it graduated to the digital era: Indiatimes chat, Yahoo M2M, MIRC, Rediffmail chatrooms, Guys4Men(which eventually became PlanetRomeo, now just PR), and today it’s all apps: Grindr, Adam4Adam, Scruff, and an entire alphabet soup of *** convenience.

The kicker? None of these platforms were ever about dating. They’re marketplaces for “getting your rocks off,” pure and simple. ASL morphed into “U from?” and “u got place?” became “u host?”—but the eternal mantra of “Fun and Friendship” has survived thirty years. And here’s a little pro tip: if someone tells you they’re looking for “Fun and Friendship,” just swipe left—or delete, block, whatever feels right. Ask yourself: when was the last time a “Fun and Friendship” seeker actually hung out with the person they… erm… connected with? Why are people pretending? If I'm looking to be blown, then that's what I'm looking for. I'm not looking for fun and definitely not a friend. May be the adage "fun and friendship" is self soothing the ego to pretend they are not a whore and act of class (?).

Back in the cruising days, there was some in-person action. At least some fake conversions—you’d see faces (without filters!), exchange awkward jokes, then depending on how *** you were, well… nature took its course. Chatrooms made it more complicated. Without pics or video, you had to rely on words, wit, and sheer curiosity to decide whether to meet. Fakes existed—always did—but the thrill of meeting someone you’d only known in text made the eventual meet-up feel like an adventure. The rules were simple: “lines were fed from both sides, but the bottom line was always: let’s find a place and do it.”

In all these stages, nobody pretended to be looking for love or a relationship. If the *** was good or you liked someone, numbers were exchanged—intention clear, repeat business optional but welcome.

Then came the apps. And boy, they killed curiosity. Hours spent swiping, narrowing your radius, screening your “interests,” sending a few dozen “Hi”s, exchanging photos (sometimes unwanted), trading naughty pics—and then, with one cold tap, block or delete. The conversion rate from chat to meet, and meet to actual ***? Dramatically lower than in the good old days. The thrill is gone; the chase replaced by obsessive scrolling and overthinking.

Options? Well, you can:

Stick to apps and accept it’s a numbers game—fun but frustrating.
Revisit the old ways—nostalgia-fueled cruising spots, in-person mingling, zero filters.
Mix it up: chat a little, meet a little, and maybe—just maybe—let curiosity do its magic.*

The bottom line: the tech has changed, the screens have multiplied, but Indian nature? That one stubborn constant hasn’t.

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Bussywuss		Posted On May 10, 2026

@dost4ever012 Nothing serious happened. No financial transactions. They wanted me to click on some link and I discontinued. These have been there since 2016
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