Homophobic & negative experiences

This thread was necessary I guess just wanted others to share their homophobic and negative experiences in cruising hookups have you been bul#lied for being gay anything like catfishing experience or robbery or attacks on trying on a trying on a straight guy

being an ugly looking gay i have faced them too many of them

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No Picture How_are_you	Posted On Jul 7, 2025 @anirudh - why don’t you start with one such experience you had
No Picture Bratman	Posted On Jul 7, 2025 I came out to my so called "best friends" and since then they started finding ways to call me meetha, bacche nahi paida honge and all...Irony is that he himself is married for 5 years now and doesn't have a kid! Karma returns with interest!
No Picture Roopaitem *	Posted On Jul 7, 2025 There many couple profile is honey trap, they share pics and location and all but when you reach there you will see police and they take you in corner, scold you so much and threaten you for exposing all, when you start crying that time they ask for money whatever you have in pocket or else they take you to atm so be careful to go such profile and many hotels they do so
No Picture Perpetuals	Posted On Jul 7, 2025 Hey, just not coupled but even there as many profiles who would claim to be gay with place. Call you and start indulging. As soon as you into the action few people with barge in using duplicate keys and start clicking pics.. rest we all know the drill, know few who have been robbed to close to 6L. Arjan Garh has one such gang !
No Picture Devraj_Top	Posted On Jul 7, 2025 Most couple profiles on any dating sites are fake...they have one purpose that is to lure people and extort money.....indulge them at your own risks. As for bottoms with place types...don't visit if u don't know the area well and especially hookups within same day or in few hours after chatting online is a big red flag. Me and my partner were once surrounded by a group of 5-6 bihari boys outdoors on a cruising spot who started harrassing us but when my partner threatened them with police they backed off! So always visit a cruising beforehand to observe the area well enough as a precaution.
No Picture Dev_22	Posted On Jul 8, 2025 Happened to me twice , i hardly use crushing spots or meet new people , kindoff got me scared .... A guy texted on grinder , young 21 year old said he'll blow and all we will have fun , when i reached he asked to sit and we'll talk and few minutes 3 others came luckily i left that spot with a small scratch Other time 2 police guys came around when I was just at a spot doing nothing , they asked my phone and opened and blackmailed me , they said a police petty case but they were also gay he pulled my pant down and *** but scolded me badly and took 5k . From that time i meet 2 guys , who i know from very long and who make me have a lot of fun .... I always feel it's better to have fun with people who like you , rather than looking for new ba* t*rds.
No Picture Jeanebad	Posted On Jul 8, 2025 I got catfished by a guy on grindr. I was looking for someone short as in height for friendship and fun. Then a guy contacted me, saying he was short and a good sucker. I gave him my WhatsApp number and we chatted. But I soon started feeling fishy, as his WhatsApp DP contained his original image with a woman. In reality he was a straight guy, dark skin, tall with beard and from north. He had made a profile on grindr only to catfish people. He pinged and msg me about himself. He lied that he was gay, short in height and was looking for friends. He even invited me to his place, but luckily I asked him a neutral location for casual meet. This condition frustrated him, as he only wanted a direct meet. I stayed hesitant, and soon he started showing true colors like threatening to reveal my identity or even exposing my true caller id. However I stayed undeterred and warned him, made it clear that if he proceeds with such exposure, it would also reveal his own use of the same app—implying his own sexual orientation. Thereafter he deleted his profile and there was no message from him.
No Picture Anirudhbottom *	Posted On Jul 8, 2025 Exactly guys I want you to be raw and real about your negative experiences in this thread Because I am reading many many stories in this website many looks cooked or fakish Getting gaysax is never so easy as everyone here projects it we gays face but*lling, ha#rrasment,blac*kmail, homophobic att*cks, ab*use, rac#ism while trying to get fun at a cruising spot or Grindr
No Picture ManishAmdabad	Posted On Jul 9, 2025 This is from my previous post in admavad cruising thread. Seen all india post so i am sharing again Now i have three events to share. First was mild and third was severe which has shaken me to create awareness here. I am afraid that they would read and somehow catch me. But gathering courage to write. 1) 3 years back i went on date to an area 3 km away. I was so tired but still i went at 3 am around. The guy was drunk. Full masti and ***. After one day he called me kept threatening me that he would take me to police for stealing his wallet. He kept calling me 1-2 days. Kept saying that if money is need he would give me but his documents are needed. Then he found his wallet in his own room. It was a mental harassment and my first date after shifting to amdabad. 2) this was a bit disturbing to me. 8 months back i called a guy around midnight. Very charming guy. He was top i was vers. So he kept u insisting do ***. And i said i m not fond of ***. I *** him with my half *** in his ***. He was bit harsh at handling my *** with his hand which was slight painful. While leaving he asked me 2000 loan. I said i dont have. I cant give. He kept asking but i kept saying no. He said you will come down and give me. And i said no. And slowly he was going out of my flat and i was waiting to close the main door. U was very very afraid from inside but i remained confident in front of him that i will not give you anything whatever you do. He kept calling for around half an hour. But i didn't pick. I blocked. And my stress was at peak and i tried to *** to combate stress. It was around 4 am i guess. Then after some days i saw his message on whatsapp. I didn't blocked him there. He shot my video. I blocked him there. It was very disturbing to me. But i was firm that if i contacted me i would go to police to charge him for sextorsion. 3) this was most traumatic. It happened a week back. I was called i an area. I reached and kept messaging on gr app. It was a busy road and bungalows on a side and people all around. But he called me in near area which was dark just 10 steps away from road. I saw 2-3 people like workers of construction. And the half condtructed building just near to public gathering. And all raw material on ground. He said mitti k peeche hai. I kept moving to and fro. He gave me a sound which i heard but it was dark and i went again on raod. Then i messages him come here. Where r u. I am here. He said on app i boomed. I went there. It was dark but just 10 steps away from road. I asked where is place. He said in this half constructed building. Then i said no because there is no bed and not here. Then he said jaoge kaha pe. He locked his two phones and kept together in his clothes, one of which was shayad iphone. Within seconds and when i was stepping away two other guys came. Started slapping me. And they kept stopping me from going. My phone dropped down but i took it in my pocket. Surprisingly no one snatched my phone. Then in their attempt to stop me. My tshirt was torn and jacket also. So i had nothing over my chest. I dont wear vest. Had lower though. I kept walking away. There were lot of people on road. Felt ashame but my target was to cover myself and reach home. I came with auto. No vehicle i had. Then i went to shop around 300 m away and bought a tshirt and kept walking talking on phone and telling wat happened. Then alas i saw they were following me. I didn't knew what they wanted from me. They didnt asked money but said tere ghar tak chalenge. Chalo ghar tere. Then o also said i will go to police. Then they said chalo. 3 guys on a bike. One was gujju the most handsome who was the guy whom i met and another one who was trying a lot to terrify me was from uttarpradesh or MP shayad. I was in front of a busy raod and kept taking to my friend. I was deciding what to do. To go home or another place bcs they were following me. Then i decided to take bike ride for around 1.5 km to reach a hostel where i had my friends and where no one cares who is saying what and i was familiar to go. But they will not be. And they would hesitate unless they are very bigger goons. Because it was risky to go to home in society with them. Because i was wondering they might verbally abuse me in public. So my ride started near to the hostel they catched me. I on bike ride and those three on bike in parallel. Now again they started abusing me. On road in public. Bike wala got fear. He stopped. They stopped. The uttarpradesh guy bikil cheap type ka. Again slapped me. I said ab maarna nahi. Mai darrta nahi tujhse. I know the policemen. Its just near. I asked bike wala please mujhe police station chor do. He refused. I asked bike wala mujhe location pe chor do. He refused. Then i said u go i will pay u. Then he said no. Then i asked details how to pay you hecould not cooperate. He was and i was both panicking. This place was thoda sunsaan at 10 pm and one guy was attracted to our loud talks nearby. Vehicles were passing. But i kept looking for escape and i warned them don't touch me They said ye to *** marai hai. Iska video banaya hai. Sab pata hai. They said tere ghar pe batayenge and tu jahan kaam karta hai waha batayenge. Tu tere ghar chal. Maine bola tu police station chal. Fir gujju said all my khandan is here since years. We dont afraid of you He said hamne tere se 5000 ya 20000 loya hai jo tu police wale k paas jayega. Kya bolega. At this point of time i was familiar with this place i got a chance to escape. Because they could not follow me from bike. Also they followed me like thoda paas aatey for door jate but they followed all around 1 hour. I escaped and they could not further follow me. Uske baad se all is trauma to my mind. Recalling back now i feel i took so many risk including in open. Around 50 dates or more in 3 years mostly at night with lots of risk. Abhi i dont trust anyone. No courage to meet anyone in public also. Keep fearing if they find me again. I called 100 police but cut bcs i thought without highlighting my identity which is fake in my both worlds (real and gay worlds) if this settles down then it would be good. I didn't lost mobile or money but they tore my clothes and slapped me for 10-15 seconds in that dark. What i lost is my trust to every guy in front of me and my courage to do anything anywhere. It must be a good lesson to date any guy in public and be more more cautious. But the fear and trauma in my mind stays same. I could tell this to my 4 friends in details. And rest sharing here with lots of fear which i could not understand. Wat all they wanted and why should i fear to write it hear. Those stupid guy will never reach here to read my lost. Those goons who shluld be punished not only for slapping and tearing my clothes but also for fraud and breaking trust. It does not break trust over this guy. But makes it difficult to trust anyone
No Picture Anirudhbottom *	Posted On Jul 9, 2025 So mostly bottoms & vers are targeted i guess especially the one in 20s & Teenage because most of us lack less self awareness and can't control our *** ness and readily meet people randomly and fall for all these
No Picture Anirudhbottom *	Posted On Jul 9, 2025 ? I’ve had a few of them: 1. I matched with someone in the city and made the mistake of not asking for pictures beforehand & went into a M**slim dominated area. He turned out to be a homophobic M*slim guy who tried to threaten and abuse me. I survived that encounter. He pointed an iron rod toward me to attack me i ran away that day he even knows cops very well 2. I matched with two guys Who asked for a hotel room and any cruising spots in the city. They kept driving me around in their car and eventually took me to a remote forest, where they abandoned me in the middle of nowhere. 3. A guy called me for a hookup, and we verified each other beforehand. However, when I arrived at the hotel, he simply said goodbye because he didn't like guys with beards. I left feeling very disappointed; this was probably the worst time-wasting experience I've had. I had to drive 1 hour to his hotel i have given him my every detail 4. I got catfished by someone who lied about everything including his pictures,names . He even used his friend's number to contact me. He pressured me into doing ****ual activities that I wasn’t comfortable with, and then he took me to a faraway place and forced me to buy groceries for him. When I refused, he just dropped me off in the middle of the night. 5.one guy who was his roommate caught us when i was doing with a guy at his apartment he simply thre*atened me & atta*cked me then I tried to leave eventually they ripped my polo shirt 6.i got called by m*slim guys for sax I thought their apartment is empty for fun instead they took me to a park when i was doing with one of them one of another one was extremely drunk and just att*cked me with leather belt then one another one too att*ked on my face they were actually 4 of them i pushed him away and eventually left it & blocked all of them A lot of other ones too when I reached the meeting spot they blocked me or texted go away i don't like you sorry my apartment is not free i don't like short guys can you pay for my ride can you come in early morning
No Picture Anirudhbottom *	Posted On Jul 9, 2025 7.i was roaming in park three guys att@cked me nearby broken street light they know I am gay they were extremely h*omophobic I was shocked it was nearby my home park and i survived a robbery attempt one guy who connected with me narrated story of his friends who was taken to a forest and robbed of his money from his credit card and whole bank account same happened with another guy the apps facebook cruising spots none of them are safe never roam with money or expensive phone there gangs are active everywhere and targeting gays specifically because we won't report the crime
No Picture Anirudhbottom *	Posted On Jul 9, 2025 Thanks Manish for sharing this what happened to you is extremely common unfortunately I wish police could be supportive to you
No Picture Easy_mark_5	Posted On Jul 9, 2025 During my school days one fatty boy had seen me giving handjob to a guy in classroom itself. All 40 students were present. It was a substitution period. Meaning the original subject teacher was absent so some random teacher was present in class who was minding her own business like checking assignment etc and was least bothered about kids shouting, playing games amongst themselves or talking within themselves. So me and this guy were sitting next to eachother as partners. He had placed his bag on his lap and I had put my hand under his bag into his groin through his pant's zip. I was trying hard to make him ***. But he was a black belt in taekwondo and karate along with being skilled in yoga. During this incident we were in class 8 so we must have been 13 years old roughly. But he had started learning martial arts and yoga since the age of 3 years. He had once told me that he had even slept with his girlfriend in class 6 and had inserted his *** in her *** hole. So he had some strange weird control over his ***. His wife would be so lucky. Like the power to stop ejaculation irrespective of any degree of edging by using kegel exercises etc...that's the level of power he had. So this fat guy had seen me giving him a handjob and since that day he had started shaming me for being a gay. He had seen him giving me a handjob too.
No Picture Anirudhbottom *	Posted On Jul 9, 2025 The last sentences were relatable
No Picture intimate_muses	Posted On Jul 10, 2025 Like almost 10-12 years back...was returning from work in a State run bus and since it was peak hours...the bus was fairly crowded...saw an old man...well not exactly old...but could be in his mid 40's or early 50's being super frustrated and talking in a very harsh tone with everyone around...to cut short...with the people passing by...there came a time when he came and stood right behind me...now it so happened that the person sitting right in front of me stood up as his stop was soon approaching...and out of respect for the senior man...thinking that he must've had a bad day....i moved aside and allowed him to take the seat....he didn't even have basic courtesy to thank me...and instead while sitting he said something so derogatory like...why are you doing this....are you gay...and i was like excuse me...i was young that time so frankly speaking i just froze thinking what did he just say as back then things were not so open like it is today...he went ahead on a rant saying 'or are you a blo*dy transgender'...you'll are just everywhere these days... I gathered some strength and told him that look...firstly...it is just out of courtesy and respect for your age that i thought of giving you the seat and instead of being thankful you're talking all this nonsense...the people around also were trying to tell me instead that let it go...he's not a good person to talk to...just ignore him and all...i also told him that if you think you're right i am getting off at this station and why don't you also get down and accompany me to the police station and let us see whether you're right in talking this way or not...!! like the argument went on for sometime but i've just mentioned it in short that it was a horrible experience and worth noticing how judgmental people can get..!
No Picture Anirudhbottom *	Posted On Jul 10, 2025 How is this a homophobic experiences?? Such things are extremely common by the way lot of people behave like that
No Picture intimate_muses	Posted On Jul 10, 2025 Well judging and criticizing an entire kind for no damn reason is homophobic....if not this...then what else ? Just being kind resulted in criticizing the entire gender so yes definitely it is....according to me...!!
No Picture Anirudhbottom *	Posted On Jul 11, 2025 Ok others share their experiences too
No Picture Shemalelusttbot	Posted On Jul 11, 2025 Pink patnthr when
ThirstResponder	Posted On Jul 12, 2025 It wasn’t exactly a negative experience, but it did leave me feeling a little unsettled. I met a man through Blued—he was visiting my hometown for work and originally from UP. He’d shared his pictures with me privately, and he was completely my type: mid-30s, tall, masculine, dad bod, hairy chest—the kind of man I’m naturally drawn to. He invited me over one evening around 7. When I arrived at his apartment, the place was dimly lit. He greeted me with a warm smile and led me into a dark room. There was something intimate and thrilling about the way he touched me, undressing me gently while I explored his strong frame. I was genuinely enjoying the moment. At one point, he took off my glasses—and being quite myopic, everything instantly turned into a blur. He asked me to go down on him, and I did. But then my phone rang—it was a college friend. As I reached to decline the call, the light from my screen lit up his body for a second. I caught a glimpse of a pale patch on his thigh. Without my glasses, I couldn’t be sure what it was, but it raised my suspicions. I asked to use the washroom and stepped out. The moment I turned on the corridor light and put on my glasses, I realized he had vitiligo. There were no signs of it on his face or upper body—just a few patches on his legs and palms. I wasn’t angry that he had it—I know it's not contagious or dangerous. What bothered me was that he went out of his way to keep it hidden, never mentioning it even once. That felt dishonest. Still, I returned to the room, finished what I had started, but stopped it from going further. I told him I don’t go all the way on first dates. He asked to meet again, but I never followed up.
No Picture saramaturegay	Posted On Jul 13, 2025 unforgotten experience in life last year september 2024 i was chatting one guy on GR while chatting his profile is not paid one. once he reached home saw laptop and all he was taken *** too without doing anything he asked 5k he was shouting on my house near to my house all are family i gave 5k without doing anything he is not worthable he behave like chakka unforgettable experience in my life ... as i am not a well settled guy always remember that incident as money gone!!!
No Picture Verstop_Bi	Posted On Jul 13, 2025 There was this guy who was after me on Grindr always claiming that I approached him to *** me. I told him I never did that coz I know what I've texted him. He kept bugging me and so stopped responding. He texted me a screenshot of my Grindr profile to my personal number. He later sent me a message on Grindr that i got *** by one last week, blah blah blah, which was completely rubbish. Finally i blocked him. He later got in touch through a new profile asking if am interested in a 3some with a bottom. I didn't realize it was him and said yes and went to his place. We took turns in *** the bottom and we were still doing it. He kept pacing between the bed and bathroom and I wasn't much bothered about it as I was busy with the bottom. Luckily the bottom noticed that the entire act is being recorded through his phone. We both asked him about it and he denied it. When the bottom asked to show his phone, he brought it while deleting it quickly enroute. I double checked his trash and other folders and couldn't find the video. The bottom left right away and this fellow was almost in tears and pleaded me to stay for the night. He slept on my chest and was sharing all kinds of sympathetic stories and all. He did show few other recordings of his which looked like he recorded without the other's notice but claimed that it was with the other bottoms' permission. I left the next day early morning and he never contacted me. Later learnt that he is an HR is a reputed firm and was surprised. This is a nightmare still for me when I think what if the bottom didn't see us being recorded.
No Picture Anirudhbottom *	Posted On Jul 13, 2025 @saramatureguy i found similar cases like that too in many cases like one guy who used to live in a gated society got extorted by same method this is unfortunately very common the guy will demand money if you refuse voh Hungama khada kregaa badnaami shuru kregaaa 🙃🙃 one guy in Mumbai too got scammed like that
No Picture Anirudhbottom *	Posted On Jul 13, 2025 @verstop_bi actually they record it and upload it on hundreds of *** websites many of them are infact without consent of bottoms unfortunately this is extremely tragical in many such mms i saw the bottom face is clear but top is either not visible or blurred this is extremely tragical dude
No Picture ManishAmdabad	Posted On Jul 14, 2025 Bottoms are more vulnerable also i guess. I use to be top only and afterwards i started being bottom. Many pure top are straight and they mostly want to give their *** either in *** or ***. They are alert all time. One bottom satisfies more than 1 tops. So they outnumber. Tops can feel good by removing only half pants. But bott ko poora maza sab utar k romance m ata. Isliye being bottom i webt in traps. So if u r bottoming. Be double sure that mobile are aside and doubt everyone everytime... and groups never in first go.. 2 am one top called me and said he will do all romance but wen i went there were two. I did started but they only needed my ***.. i resisted.. they forced.. then i said no.. go to hell.. they tried to threaten me.. but i warned them i will shout.. then even then with their force i had to wear my cloths and take my belonging.. i had to stay confident in front of them.. so please stay safe..
No Picture Anirudhbottom *	Posted On Jul 14, 2025 Right Manish
No Picture Eternalverse456	Posted On Jul 15, 2025 All these things make me worry and scared. Whether to start or not. I want to be with someone ,feel big *** in my *** but at the same time want to get *** and licked( verse to verse) . But if even hotels are not safe then what should be done. Here people seems so fast . I can be genuine guy respecting privacy but what about others.
No Picture saramaturegay	Posted On Jul 15, 2025 @Eternalverse456: person to person experience will be different everyone won't get same experience be bold and smart
No Picture Anirudhbottom *	Posted On Jul 15, 2025 It's all about how much lie the guy is saying and how much risk you can take at cruising spots and through Grindr ugly faced gays like me may face much trouble from others many guys only want a guy to *** them & nothing more don't travel or go with much costly things like smartwatch,iphone, earbuds or other things I was once roaming nearby Kashmiri gate after dropping someone one guy asked me and said let's have fun come to my room in maujpur now i was super puzzled but in the end i have trust issues plus I have heard the area of maujpur babarpur seelampur was known for robbery & other crimes already so maine ghuma phira kra mana kr diya and i boarded a bus to my home Mujhe apne purane experiences bhi yaad hain toh isliye main kaafi savdhan hu i didn't met much guys through Grindr in 2025 daily koi naya case aajaata hain jaha banda robbery blackmailing ka shikaar ho jataa
No Picture saramaturegay	Posted On Jul 16, 2025 @Anirudhbottom: we should brave enough form one unity our itself we need to spread helpline number everyone they are using high profile people as a advantage they won't tell outside last time when he shouted given one punch as he know my house i don't have any options as full of surrounding by family people as i am rented house in bangalore that is problem based on incident always doubtful everyone can't control my feelings
No Picture Youngbottom0003	Posted On Jul 16, 2025 Okay so don't know it considers as homophobic or not but on this site of ohmojo are also some straight guys who are on a next level league..... I got a message from this guy who came into my dm after looking at my profile i just politely replied him "Sorry not interested" He literally started making me feel how unworthy i am or how much big mistake i did..... still i being firm about my choice i said that its my choice don't cry in my dm. He started with who is crying i never cried in my life and i am a government servant and also have a beautiful wife. i said that's a good thing but after having all this you are not even mature to handle rejections be mature.... this conversation going on and on.....Today again that guy texted me saying how can i block you i don't want to see your *** on my profile whenever i open ohmojo i see your profile there don't send me msg i warn you and all..... Like what the F** is wrong with these people. Can anyone really help by letting me know how can i block him here
No Picture Anirudhbottom *	Posted On Jul 16, 2025 This is experience of someone from Hyderabad Helpless ,heartbroken ! Beaten up so brutally just for being a gay 💔 Hey ! Never thought I'd be writing a sad sub in my life! Yeah, so I had some work in an area "X" in Hyderabad and I had to go. And then I randomly opened a gay app(was looking to hookup) , and yes found this guy who was just 1km away from me. Yes we texted , we spoke and thought we'd hook up at his place. He said he had one. He said he'd pick me up at some landmark near to me, and I waited for like almost 30mins, he made me wait saying " 2mins, 5mins etc..." Yes and then he arrived , picked me up on his bike and started gng towards his place (it was almost 8:30pm - 9pm ) We went deep inside colonies and ended up at some dead end , where there were few trees and he told me there was an entrance from behind.... I felt something fishy because he was talking on his phone now and then... Just when we got off the bike and just when we thought to go back from the bushes to his place, 2 other guys from behind came.. They questioned us wt we were doing, they asked if we were smoking gaanja or smtg... Then started hitting me brutally on my face (luckily no bleeding) , asking me wt we were doing there... I had no option but to disclose the truth and yes I've told him that we met on an App and we've come here to hookup... They looked disgusted by my response and started hitting me so hard, yes the person who took me there was not beaten, initially he got slapped and that's all after few a minutes , he escaped from the scene And then these two guys continuously holding my collar and dragging me here and there Hitting me so hard... I tried to run.. didn't workout out.. And then I dragged and shouted for help... Someone was there, I explained him the whole situation but the guy who was beating me was just highlighting the fact that I was a gay and started blaming me for something I didn't do (he was saying I was doing s*X in the bush,etc.. made up ***) I begged them , all of them to leave me... He was continuously dragging me , asked me my details, he threatened me of taking to the police,etc.. Yes only after when an outsider saw me in this situation, I think they thought their plan of wtever(kidnapping or threatening me for money..) couldn't work... I tried escaping again and this time it worked and yes I took an auto and rushed away. Few points I'd like to say 1. Yes iam fcking dumb for believing in a guy so easily randomly 2. But we hv planned to hookup in his place , not anywhere outside ryt? 3. When will people accept gay people as humans? 4. Yes, it definitely is a group scam and the guy who picked me up was also a part of their group 5. I thought, yes I was beaten up badly, but whom do I seek justice from? I'm just 21 , iam not dared enough to go to a ps and complain wtever has happened only for them to learn that iam a gay... 6. Biggest trauma ever in my life... Idk wt to do... Ever since this happened, only thought coming up to my mind is I can't live a life being a gay in here... Fellowmates , please be careful, please do not rush, ask for full details before you're meeting someone random Never thought Hyderabad would turn as a scariest place in my life!!! 💔 NOT A MADE UP STORY 🙏🏼
No Picture Eternalverse456	Posted On Jul 16, 2025 I think we should ask for aadhar card and pan card too before meet or meet at some mall before. Understand their intentions, if they just want to get *** or *** you . They might insist to go to washroom or in parking lot.
No Picture Realmeetprem	Posted On Jul 16, 2025 Mujhe chawl room me fun karne se darr lagne lag gaya ek incident ke baad. Aaj se 2.5 year pahle maine apne area me ek top se grindr se chat karke uske room pe jake fun karna decide kiya. Or me uske gully ke bahar gaya or waha se wo lene aaya. Me uske peeche peeche chal raha tha or us area or gully me uske state ke log hi jyada rahte the or mujhe unki language samajh aati thi thodi bahut. To wo aage chal raha tha or raste me ek gym ke bahar ladke baithe the unhone unki language me poocha ki aaj kki bottom mila kya to usne haste hue or shaan se mere liye bola ki ek bottom mila hai. Waha mujhe thoda uncomfortable laga ki hum do logo ke beech ki baat kyu dusro ko batayi. Or fir jab room me gaye to ekdum chhota sa chawl room tha. me us meet ke pahle 4 ya 5 meet kar chuka tha but us small room or uski un ladko ko kahi gayi baate mere dimag me ghum rahi thi or me soch raha tha kab waha se niklu. Or fir bhi maine usko bj diya or jo usne bola sab kiya. But last me mera pahle nikal gaya to me usko bola ki is reason se me ab nikal raha hu to wo mujhpe gussa ho gaya ki to fir aaya hi kyu jab mera paani nahi nikalwa sakta. Or tu kis baat ka bottom hai.? Or jaise taise usko me mana liya or nikal raha gaya room se. afternoon ka time tha uski wife job pe thi or wo top akela tha to shayad uske neighbour ko pata hoga ki wo yaha bottoms leke aata hai. To jab me room se nikalke ja raha tha to ek elder uncle jo uske baju me rahte the mujhe dekhke has rahe the matlab unko pata tha ki maine andar kya kiya ot mere sath kya hua.? Fir me samajh gaya or me jis raste se aaya uske oposite dusre raste se nikal gaya or uske baad maine kabhi chawl room me fun nahi kiya. Waise chawl rooms me koi kharabi nahi hai fun karne me but jisi kisi ko nahi suit hota waha fun karna jaise ki mujhe suit nahi hua. Or maine baad me jab bhi fun karna tha to partner se chat pe baat ke baad bhi casual milke achha nature ka banda hota usse hi milna shuru kar diya.
No Picture xerox	Posted On Jul 17, 2025 Reading all of these negative experiences is making me want to 1) turn straighten whilst in india 2) never indulge in any homosexual pursuits in any state other than kerala :(
No Picture BigHoover	Posted On Jul 17, 2025 Hey Xerox .. This condition of homophobic tendencies is not identified as per state or region. Rather its individual specific. All places have such people so your saying that you could indulge in homosexual pursuits in Kerala is throwing caution to the winds.
No Picture Sherlock_009 *	Posted On Jul 18, 2025 I had similar experience in New Delhi when a guy shared his pics over gr and invited me to his place. Post reaching there, we got nude and about to start and suddenly 2 hidden guys entered the room and started blackmailing and clicked pics. They charged 5000 from me and let me go after much negotiation. They were demanding 1 lakh initially. *** bas****s have made a fu****g business of of it.
No Picture Anirudhbottom *	Posted On Jul 18, 2025 I will say upload it in hd version on internet and show my bank balance of 250 rs 😂 regarding the blackmailing one thing i learnt you have to act like you have nothing to lose you just have to quickly leave that room as far as possible agr voh blackmail krne ko call krega main 50 galiyan suna dunga one more thing apna asli address mt pata chalne Dena unhe blackmailers are just using our fear and nothing else
No Picture Sherlock_009 *	Posted On Jul 19, 2025 I had similar experience in New Delhi when a guy shared his pics over gr and invited me to his place. Post reaching there, we got nude and about to start and suddenly 2 hidden guys entered the room and started blackmailing and clicked pics. They charged 5000 from me and let me go after much negotiation. They were demanding 1 lakh initially. *** bas****s have made a fu****g business of of it.
No Picture Anirudhbottom *	Posted On Jul 20, 2025 i always pretend and dress up like poor during most past hookups so that guy will not try those things on me rather than saying no to these shady persons i even acted like freeloader in past like asking for uber fare to one such guy so that they can end conversation one old men who was a builder was calling me to an shady hotel in pahadganj i asked for recharding phone he hanged up chats called me few times but i didn't picked up there are always red flags of such persons already ihave faced h#omophobia, bodyshaming, att#acks ,colourism,ghostings from everyone especially on money things are complicated even cops who caught me at cruising spot couuldn't extract money because i nnever have anything then i pretend dumb Reading all these experiences of robberry i feel better as noone was able to blackmail me till now offcourse threating catcalling,shAMING is very common
No Picture Easy_mark_5	Posted On Jul 20, 2025 I have experienced homophobic and negative experience within the gay circle itself. Many times I get bored and as you can guess from my display picture and rest of the profile pictures that I like to show off my body and expect nasty comments telling me in detail how you would want to *** me. Anyways that's a different issue. Main issue is that after getting bored I often make facebook account with sissy names and join supposedly gay/sissy groups and like such pages from India and all of it's states. And most of the times the so called tops in the group just want me to talk dirty about my mother or sister and not just that but they even block me by abusing me first for not sharing naked pictures of my mother, sister and wife is present. Well I am unmarried but still most of these gays just want me to show them pictures of my family's female members or 'roleplay' as a woman and chat dirty with them. Basically these groups are meant for sharing *** videos. Nobody likes it when I share my own naked pics. Many times these so called gays themselves brutally troll me and call me kallu (kallu means blackie/nigro) and just use laugh emojis on my pics. I have shared my nude pics in which I spread my legs and ask for tops to dm me and in exchange all I get are racist taunts and shaming. All these indian gays just want to have *** with extremely girly looking fair and lovely white skinned bottoms below the age of 20 only. Many tops connect with me but then suddenly just block me. After sending me DMs they just expect me to show naked pics of female members of my family. That's disgusting. Pathetic. Indian gays are ***. I have so far come across just one good top that too on this platform but unfortunately he took ghosted me. And he was from Indore. He was totally the type of man I wanted to surrender myself to. But luck. So basically Indian tops are racist, white skin worshipers and just ugly. Many gay tops look fat and ugly themselves but reject me for being dark skinned. Many of them have huge pot bellies and ugly face but have the audacity of wanting a fair skinned womanly looking bottom as young as 18 or 19 years old.
No Picture darkrain	Posted On Jul 20, 2025 @anirudhbottom, Hyderabad is a great place for gays .. just like any other you should be cautious. Your incident reminds me of a similar thing that happened to me in the past. I did go into a cruising zone there famous for gays and in the center of the city .. I was accosted by a few chaps one pulled out an ID and said he was with the cops. This was back I the day before the decriminalization of homosexuality. This was open season tor such ppl. I gad to pay 5K then .. to get off .. The worse thing is a few weeks later I saw one of those guys himself cruising.. Lessons : I never meet people in public places and go to their homes .. that's a no no .. I always have a place of my own (a hotel in case I'm visiting) Next .. if you have your encounters, do it in the day time when more people are around .. thieves are emboldened mostly at night Finally - if you dont have place and someone says that they will take you to a place insist on taking public transport .. that way you have control of where they are going and.... the rickshaw driver will also be a witness to whatever happens .
No Picture Jigs_bi	Posted On Jul 22, 2025 I need to share something with anyone who is ready to listen... I can't post here but would love to chat personally or on linkello voice call.. I am still terrorised and stressed about an incident happened to me yesterday.... Please if anyone is ready to chat or call....
No Picture Niksden2005	Posted On Jul 22, 2025 Not sure if you guys heard but there was Chaitanya Hydernagar campus, there was literally blocks of G and Bi guys back then, I’m talking about 2004 something, it was really a judging thing back then. I literally even JL were gay guys. I did have a few encounters .
No Picture Ashu117	Posted On Jul 22, 2025 Well, it was my graduation's final year. There was this super hot sexy guy in my city that had huge number of followers on ig. He was also open with his orientation and i was (am) discreet. He had many friends from Gr. I hardly commit anyone But i liked him nd thus shared my number to him on gr. Did vc shared many pics. It continued many a timed from start to vc. But we never met. Sometimes i wasn't free and other times he didn't see my message. Also i was bit nervous to meet him because of his flamboyancy i depreciated myself. There comes this thing we again did chats and all from scratch to vc. He then told me meet me tomorrow or day after tomorrow. Otherwise he will never meet me. I was not prepared for the order. I negotiated a bit because it was my academics that stopped me. After pleasing him i told him no. That triggered his ego and blocked me. He then shared my pics to many of his friends from gr. Infact in a gay grp of city ig. He mentioned that this guy is time pass only. After some time that hate was on me. Every third person on gr either abused me, blackmailed me or simply blocked me. They considered a failed ego as truth. I gave up on the app for at least next 9 months. Then post that things went little bit good and sorted. And my pics also improved so they can't even recall. But still that haunts me. And also various "what if" things are also there till now
No Picture Anirudhbottom *	Posted On Jul 22, 2025 This can't be real like you have trusted friend from G.R? Dude without hooking up with them you can't become friends with them 😂😂 In a big city like chandigarh jaipur delhi Hyderabad nobody can mass target you on this level in 5 yrs I am sure Grindr se koi solid friend Milne ki probability 10% hi hongi plus approach is always meet and forgot or meet and remain FWB or talk talk but never meet
No Picture All4unme	Posted On Jul 22, 2025 @Anirudhbottom : To share in addition to what u have mentioned. Gr is not that bad also, I have met many good guys n few r good friends. Everyone is not for *** or *** n forget, talk talk never meet nothing like that. Im also from a big city (Bangalore) n met a guy in gr. From the day one we had chat n second day onwards started sharing everything n Meeting whenever possible n became so good friends that it changed into like family friends n we know each other from long time. Touchwood it's been almost 4+ years n still continued. TBH we have never done any fun even a single time. But we r so close n share everything. We r close like More than family members or friends or relatives n few of his friends are jealous of us n most of them commented and asked us if we both are partner or couples. We just laugh or smile at them n tell them everything. Then they will feel how good and strong is our friendship and relationship.
No Picture Ashu117	Posted On Jul 23, 2025 @Anirudhbottom, You are advising me to improve what already has been improved. Plus i didn't find something funny or to mock at. It's a person's choice to do hookups/make friends on gr. You can't label it or impose on someone. @All4unme, strongly agree Brother get some moral science.
No Picture Easy_mark_5	Posted On Jul 23, 2025 Most of the times tops reject me because of my skin tone as they only want some fair and lovely looking bottom. Indians obsession with white skin is so disgusting and cringe it makes me wanna slap people when they reject someone blatantly due to their own racist behaviour. They call it preference or "my choice". But let's just be honest. You are an Indian. The way you look down upon other Indians just because of their skin tone but are willing to *** white *** of foreigners just because of their skin tone say a lot about you. And it's not just preference. You are being racist. The same way whites look down upon you as well.
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