relationship with bi guys

hey guys. i m in relationship with a bi guy (who works for me). things are going very good as of now. he claims that he loves me and i love him a lot too. we had *** about 3 times till now. but he is not into *** at all neither desires much about *** me. i usually play the dominant part. now i want to know what is possibly the future of this relationship. 3/4 years down the line i feel he will marry a girl and start a family and i will be left alone. plz share your experiences in dealing with a bi guy. i am really confused about this.

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No Picture Sonu25bottom	Posted On Nov 21, 2021 I am relationship with guy for last 19 years....but we both are happily married and stil we meet and spend time together
No Picture jaidesai	Posted On Nov 21, 2021 if you date a a bi-guy, be prepared to share him with his wife. he will have his cake (wife) and eat the cream/icing (you). i know of many bi guys and i find them good human beings (except cheating on their wives). men and women are not supposed to be biologically monogamous, but society has forced them to act responsibly/morally by the institution of marriage. however, if he is having more than 2 loves, there could be serious problems.....aids/std/etc.
No Picture curious_bot	Posted On Nov 21, 2021 Never indulge into bisexual guy if you are a gay guy. You will be dumped or taken as a mistress in the relationship. He will be bored of the loose 'kitty' and your tightness will give him firmness for a few years. Do not be a *** dump, rather be with a guy whose ambition matches yours. Well it is my opinion having noticed a dozen gay guys being dumped 'very' quickly by so called bi guys. Gay guys would cheat too, but bi guys make it an episode by putting you v/s her. Not all would bring misery, but why to put hand in Troubled waters.
No Picture shapeoflove	Posted On Nov 21, 2021 @_rhythm_ If your partner really loves you then, it doesn't matter if he is bi or gay. He just loves you and that's it. And if you feel the same way towards him then, carrying that relationship forward shouldn't be an issue. And as far as *** is concerned then, its only you who can decide for yourself, if that's satisfactory or not. And also how important a role does *** play for you in the relationship? Now, why do you feel that he would marry a girl in 3-4 years down the line and leave you? Has he said or hinted something like that to you? If he has then, he definitely doesn't love you. And if he hasn't then it may be just your fear or insecurity regarding your relationship. Btw, in any case, having a clear and meaningful discussion with your partner regarding the future of your relationship will solve out a lot of doubts. So, it's better you talk to your partner, if you are really serious but somehow insecure about your relationship. Transparency plays a major role for a successful relationship and it can only be attained through discussions rather than just jumping on some conclusion based on other's experience and your own ambiguities. Wishing you all the best 👍
No Picture Longtermlove	Posted On Nov 22, 2021 @rhythm unless gay marriage becomes law it's hard to have life long partnership. Even with bi guys you can have long term friendship and relationship but do not expect him to stay with you forever as there is good probability he may marry a girl for family society reasons But to tell u frank there is no guarantee that gay guy will be with you forever unless there is marriage.
No Picture _rhythm_	Posted On Nov 22, 2021 thanks for your comments. i have multiple discussions with him about his future plans. he has said that he wont probably marry. but its not a commitment from him. and since I am 29 and he is only 23, talking about marriage and future plans is way too early for him. he is still in college. from my side i am very happy with him. he is a loving boyfriend and *** part is also great. but i am unsure about his feelings. although he has said many times he is perfectly happy with me. but in my heart of hearts i feel he secretly wishes to be with a woman. lets see what happens.
No Picture Kumar_Aman	Posted On Nov 22, 2021 m curious,,,,how about Bi guys already in relationship with guys but still crave for girls,,,would you as a gay allow him to seek a girl for his sexcapades ?
No Picture Salman472	Posted On Nov 22, 2021 We cannot find loyalty in todays world when coming to bi relationships
No Picture Sanbtm	Posted On Nov 22, 2021 I totally agree with @curious_bot U cant trust a bi guy..
No Picture tasteme2021	Posted On Nov 22, 2021 @rhythm Same thing happened in my life , My partner was Gay , im bi , i was 23 he 30 when we start to date , he s pure btm , we both feel satisfied in bed but ... he can't ready to accept me as a BI He forced me to become gay n open up to my parents , He threatened by his love ... but... i can't ... he s not ready to accept what im ... @rhytam im telling u as ur Partner's voice - i expected the only thing from my partned is accept me what im but he s not i just ready to be loyal for both of my partner ... I can't speak against my parents as well i can't fight with my sexuality bcz im BI not gay Now im living with guilty concious about i gave false hope with him while we r together i gave a false hope like "i will be with u for end" .. that guilty consious still killing me ... so don't force him, show ur uncontional love by accept him what he is ... thanks
No Picture Unimate	Posted On Nov 22, 2021 @_rhythm_ i suggest that you maintain a no string attached relationship. There is benefits for both but since the guy is 23 and is bisexual, once he is employed , he will get married by his family, will be forced into family life. Its better that you wake up to truth now rather feeling bad later. I don't blame bisexuals,they are designed to lead a dual life and will in 💯% probability will lead a life with a women than a man. So wake up to the harsh reality and be prepared.
No Picture Bemonami2	Posted On Nov 22, 2021 As I’m bi I never went into any kind of relationship on gay side of me. Homosexuality for me was NSA and I made it clear whenever I met anyone. I have cravings for girls and always wanted to settle with a girl. So, I did not give any false hope to anyone. Try not to expect a long term engagement with a bi and as @Unimate suggested, try to maintain a NSA relationship.
ANDYfook	Posted On Nov 23, 2021 Bi guys after a few years become gay In india getting a decent girl is almost impossible. The best of boys/men finally give-up, his girlfriend shall become his wife, then she will open her *** larger than her ***. He shall come back to you. Women are the worst to live with. Nagging and shopping shall drive him mad. Bi guys always become gay..... U should know how to BLOW.
No Picture toprod	Posted On Nov 23, 2021 i have seen few gay and bi relationships. worst. always possessive from both side. bi guys play emotional cards to fool gay guys. bi guys never spends money only gay guy do. bi guys will ignore you whenever they want or whenever they get new partner. get ready to get hurt.
No Picture cindrella_c	Posted On Nov 25, 2021 @toprod // bi guys play emotional cards to fool gay guys. bi guys never spends money only gay guy do. bi guys will ignore you whenever they want or whenever they get new partner. get ready to get hurt. // Well said. Use them as they use you is the best policy.
No Picture burjuman	Posted On Nov 25, 2021 @tasteme2021completely with you. I find it extremely hypocritical that gay guys expect everyone to accept them the way they are but they will not accept a bi guy the same way. All these talks about do not trust bi guys are complete nonsense, my experience ( I am 50 so I have seen some life), gay guys are as promiscuous if not more compared to bi/ straight guys.
No Picture billpotts	Posted On Nov 26, 2021 I'm bi and the biggest reason I have only *** with guys but full relationships with girls is that us guys are unfaithful. We are so *** that when we're not with our bf we're trying to hookup with other guys. It is heartbreaking to love a guy because we behave like pigs on heat. Girls are much more loyal overall.
No Picture sameer143347	Posted On Nov 26, 2021 I am bi and married. I have been looking for a relationship for sometime now. I feel its natural to be bi and accept it. However the issue with us is we cannot come out in open for multiple reasons. But yes we do desire someone who would understand that we are looking for something more than ***. We get *** from marriage so that is out of question. We are mostly loking for that companionship that makes us feel wanted, cherised and happy. I would not deny that fact that many bi guy are just looking for *** but generalizing them would not be right.
No Picture chennai_guy	Posted On Nov 26, 2021 @curious_bot and @cindrella_c, very well said, thank you! "Use them as they use you is the best policy."
No Picture Viniki	Posted On Dec 7, 2021 23 being a young age, once he finds options outside and feels independent, he will leave So don't be too attached and go with the flow Been in relationship for 3 years, he left without a reason
No Picture Carnage0562	Posted On Dec 7, 2021 If u r a bi never get serious with a gay! Attraction doesn’t always end up in commitment!! Eventually the bi guy will get bored and subconsciously he will never accept relationship wholeheartedly with a gay coz bi are mostly closeted and they like it that way only. Eventually the guy will marry a girl so there is no future with a guy! These kind of relationships do happen; very very exciting in the beginning but they fade with time or they end up very ugly! A gay who loves u will never accept the fact that his man is having *** with a woman; he may not show it or pretend to be ok with it but in reality he will be jealous if the bi guy won’t give him time or give his share of time to a girl/wife!! so in my opinion gay-bi relationships are largely a bubble
No Picture sameer143347	Posted On Dec 8, 2021 Hi Carnage, To an extent you are correct. However i would like to put forward certain things as i dont think they are bubble. A relationship hi mutual i.e. both bi and gay are aware of the situation and then commit. However both needs to put forward their expectation and needs to be accomodative. It is give and take. A bi guy needs to devote time both the places after marriage. Also we need to understand that nothing comes with a stamp saying that it will last forever. Its how we nurture the relationship makes it longer. As a bi or closet gay...whatever anyone terms and as someone who is married, i am looking out for a stable relationship and i tend to be upfront with the situation. It is in the best interest that both the individual do so that conflicts or ugly endings does not arise. There would be few gay bi relationship that is going strong for years. All we need is to be transparent and a little accomodative and things do fall in place. P.S. This are my view and i may be wrong in your perception. So in case someone disagrees, lets agree to disagree.
No Picture RomBottom	Posted On Dec 11, 2021 Never date with bi if you are a gay. There are enough of gay guys around who are into emotional bonding stuff. At the most with bi, they will treat your as a side chick to fulfill their *** or bj fantasies as their spouses would deny or get the feel of hard body.
No Picture toprod	Posted On Dec 16, 2021 fun with bi guy is safe and no tension. now a days have fun with gay is risky. faced few things. they become passive and start crying like girls do. meri maa ki health tik nahi hai need money. ghar pe problem hai need money. mera jija ghar par bait gaya hai need money pure ghar ki responsibility muj par hai need money bla bla bla. aaj kal tho koi settled hai tho uske saat hi fun karna tik hota hai.
No Picture VersTop_Hyd	Posted On Dec 19, 2021 Please do not generalize it with everyone. There are fake cry babies in gays, bi and straights too. It totally depends on the person's character. I did spend money on a guy when I was 23 yrs believing his every word. At the same time, I did lend money to a straight guy who was working for us since he was taking care of my parents well. Both turned out to be good at words and cheaters. It doesn't matter if the guy is settled or not. So, be careful. I would suggest, lend short amount of money once, and from next time onwards ask him to return the previous amount before lending new amount or tell him that you have financial needs to take care of too. Whenever your relationship get involved with money, it starts falling down.
No Picture UnicornMale	Posted On Dec 19, 2021 Verstop_hyd - " Whenever your relationship get involved with money, it starts falling down." Golden words to incribe
No Picture Ajith30	Posted On Dec 19, 2021 Guys i take the entre blame on me as i was madly in love with him it started with 25k in emergency he was in trouble ...Then it became habit every now and then you know amount in 7 yrs counted to some 40plus lakhs and my keemat is not even 40 paisa in his eyes.....When ever i wanted to make physical love on him he never allowed saying ki he is suffering from mental stress where as later after 7 yrs i cought that he had *** with multiple guys across all cities he was at... God dont want to recall those days....i have been ruined in all ways mentally, physically financial ....
No Picture ridrob	Posted On Dec 20, 2021 @Ajith30 ... Karma is like boomerang..just wait and watch.. I still recall my ex telling me, i regret leaving you..but it was too late
No Picture sameer143347	Posted On Dec 20, 2021 @ridrob.. i agree about karma.. but we should also be aware...giving money once is fine..but giving again without having the first one returned is plainly not in the best interest..further if someone is repeatadely asking money then it is a red flag and we should be aware.. I have a habit of making it clear..anyone coming to me saying that they are looking for a relationship..i make it clear before proceeding further that any monetary transaction are out of scope until and unless there is an emergency and i dan verify that. I never got another message from them or after a few more chats they disappeared.
No Picture Ajith30	Posted On Dec 20, 2021 Dont know what to say...But since then i have lost all my self confidence in life....suffering from self low esteem... Cant even think of ever love a guy in life.... I shared this just to make sure you follow friends to know about this dark geet part also.... So that before loving further u guys must be aware....
No Picture lovemybootty	Posted On Dec 20, 2021 Well, I read the thread. I am married but find myself as gay give priority to my family and cannot fall in love with anyone else even if I would have a desire. I feel confident, comfortable when I used to be with like-minded. My wife brings me panties which I always wear and is part of my daily outfit. How was my sexual relationship with her? I just don't feel comfortable. Last Saturday, I met with my old friend and he was two, never got in threesome before was satisfying like never spent a day for the year (since Covid started). Felt lovely, awesome can not say in words. One thing I was confused by reading the thread, is this about relationships with bi or married and bi. For me, Bi itself is confusing. A man who is inclined toward man is gay otherwise straight. For helping with money, I have lost of a lot money not toward my gay mates, but usual friends and today also I sent some to someone. My wife don't like it as, because of that I am in debt but used to. While giving money, I never expect it will return back and never get returned as well. Lets see how lkng it will go, may be someday I will be in need and they decline and then I will remove them from book and I dont thing the things will change. Comjng to the initial part, as I said my family is my priority wven I feel depressed, it is because of me. I dont pick phone of the person to whom I agreed to meet only because my wife knows everybody close to me.
CluelessHubby	Posted On Dec 21, 2021 Love doesn't bind itself to titles or relations. People tied together by marriage may be light-years distant, mentally. At the same time, a one-night stand with someone you've related with beautifully- doesn't let your urges return for months. If you really love someone, let them be- they'll return if they want. If they never return, they were never yours. Nobody owns anyone else. We only have an illusion of control. As mature, thinking adults, draw your line of involvement. We all die alone, and enter the oven or the pit alone.
No Picture Aseem Javed	Posted On Dec 23, 2021 Im not a relationship counsellor, but what I dont understand is how come ur partner is bi when u too both love each other. If हे likes girls and desires them sexually, den he is a bi. Anyway the word 'bi' is very confusing when it comes to relationships. My advice would be both of u sit and have an open and frank conversation abt ur future so that both of u r very clear what u want to do. Relationships always depend on mutual trust, love and understand, last is to accept each other for life.
No Picture Guideme	Posted On Dec 25, 2021 Each one of us are playing a role in the stage called Earth for chapter called Universe. Sorry I truly didnt want to write anything, but the long leaves due to Christmas and New Year is killing my thoughts. I am 37, life has never been easy for me until this day except this year to be honest. I am in Pune since two years with no friends (relocated here and lockdown started), office friends sucks!!! Weekends are dam boring. Go alone to Shopping mall and admire all youth guys around and do nothing. Although am not inclined towards girl, but doesnt mean I dont get attracted to a women. Situations like this (almost every single weekend) and long leaves - I feel tanhai, loneliness and wish I had good friend circle to hangout. Now that is lacking so sometime I feel I should have been married by now with a child. This tanhai and depression is hitting me hard this time because the its been 18 years we did 12th and the whats app group reunion stuff where every single person is married, kids on the reunion. Questions from friends "Why arent you married yet, what happend bla bla bla". I am sorry to put my thoughts on this site as these thoughts are truly haunting me, exploding accumulated stressful worrisome thoughts.
No Picture abbasulli	Posted On Dec 25, 2021 @Guideme, I feel you brother, I empathize you. Am going through very similar phase, and life feels purposeless..! I dont think just the identity is the issue, but more than that, the sequence of wrongs that happen in our life which puts us in this precarious position. Brought and raised enviroment is very critical for a gay to atleast survive well. If that support is lacking, a life is gone waste. I feel total unworthy of life.
No Picture Grandios	Posted On Dec 26, 2021 @Guideme and @abbasuli - I empathize with both of you. I know being single can be very lonely and tiring. I suggest you to find some other interests to pursue - painting, arts, music, spiritual. You will find community there. Nothing will fulfill your sexual needs or your search for partner. But your emotional stress will definitely reduce. Your sexuality is just one part of your identity. Please don’t let it consume your happiness.
No Picture Guideme	Posted On Dec 26, 2021 @Grandios : Well said and agreed. I occupy myself on lot many things. But we are human beings, we tend to take break at times for personal time off. But with no friends around, and been on solo long drive, wherelese can I go now. Example: I was more than 100 kg (200+ lbs) a year ago and now am at 70 kg (150 lbs) that personal trainer now defines me as normal weight (neither over weight nor under weight). Occupied myself with music classical learnings, occupied with lot of spiritual book readings. But this phase (current one), I am tired with gym, classical learnings and book reading. Thought of spending time just on netflix (registered for first time just few days ago). And then the school whats app group message on reunion and thats where all this psychological trauma got multiplied and ended up here what you saw my previous comment on this page.
No Picture _rhythm_	Posted On Dec 26, 2021 whats stopping you from finding someone for LTR guideme?
No Picture Guideme	Posted On Dec 26, 2021 @_rhythm_ : I dont think am blessed with LTR. Two guys in last five years wanted to have long term with me but then I started maintaining distance when the questions come to me on the very first or second meet. How much this car is valued? How much do you earn, tum toh bade position mein ho na... These are not giving me any comfort on the conversation. If these questions would have come after few meetups or visits, I would have given second thought ki ab relationship next level mein ja raha hai. but first or second mein he?
No Picture Grandios	Posted On Dec 26, 2021 @Guideme: Why not try getting a room mate first. Doesn’t always have to work out to a relationship. That might deal with loneliness. If you guys connect then pursue it, if not still you got a friend. I know room mates are not always perfect or doesn’t match 100% but beginning somewhere can help
No Picture Guideme	Posted On Dec 26, 2021 @Grandios : I stay with Mom. Both of us dont have topics to discuss!!!
No Picture Chettu	Posted On Dec 26, 2021 @Guideme : in family there is no need of any topic to talk
No Picture Anurag72841	Posted On Jan 5, 2022 i m btm,i was in relationship with straight boys,but he was not loyal,so better to being single
No Picture anand84	Posted On Jan 12, 2022 Hi friends, am married bi...I loved both my wife and my gay friend...but after a few months of my marriage my gay partner left me and got mingled with another of his friend
No Picture jaidesai	Posted On Jan 30, 2022 there is no use blaming another person. DONT expect others to change for you. it is we who should change! both bis and gays are not always faithful. the younger the worse, because it is based more on lust and less on love (puppy love). as we grow older, marriages grow stale and so we are more open to love. some are lucky who can keep both wife and boyfriend happy BUT NOT AT THE SAME TIME! gays are more promiscuous than bis (family matters keep him occupied). money: NEVER tell your new friend of what you do or how much you earn. pretend to be a clerk or something, to check if his interest is in you or your money. you may lend money ONCE...if not paid back within a reasonable period of time....DUMP THE GUY! NOTHING IS PERMANENT!
No Picture jaidesai	Posted On Jan 30, 2022 ajith: feel sorry for you. were you so blind?????????????????????????????????? to get rid of the bad memories...call this guy and warn him that you will put his name out on the net. you must have some proof that he took the monies from you and you should be ready to face his chances of exposing you as gay. if you cannot do both, then FORGET ABOUT IT> thinking on the past will only make you sink further. lesson learnt never to be repeated. now you will trust no one...but that is NOT A SOLUTION. learn to open up...tell new friends so of your experience. if they are cheats, they will leave you. if they are compassionate, they will stick by you and make you strong. (read my posts on this subject for more wisdom).
No Picture jaidesai	Posted On Jan 30, 2022 lovemybooty: think you are playing with fire. eXciting but DANGEROUS! it is more dangerous for your wife, as you may pass on something to her while kissing and she could pass that on to the children while kissing. solution: find one man (better married and sticks to you ONLY) so that virus/bacteria are not passed around and around.
No Picture chbbybot	Posted On Feb 19, 2022 I don't know why we have to generalise and call out all the Bi guys out there,very well knowing that they go through the same social pressures as the gays,trans,lesbs and I know gays who got married after lasting homosexual relationships.If bisexuals seek both men and women that's because that's how their sexuality is,a spectrum. I am very sure a lot of gays here have tested the water with respect to sexual partners,the very fact we are here is to find sexual freedom so let's not act holier than thou trying to shame bisexuals into being just liking men and commiting to a life long relationship.They have their own struggles,likes and desires hence monogamous commitment oriented gays please wake up from your pipe dream - the world doesn't revolve around you!! If you are really in love with a bi guy test your 'love' by french kissing him after he's eaten ***....maybe you'll know that love and lust are two separate things that need faith,trust,desire and honesty to co-exist. P.S: Speaking from personal experience.
No Picture pervert	Posted On Feb 19, 2022 Lol. It wont work out dude. And its not about the sexuality. Be it Straight, bi or gay, sharing ur partner wont be easy. If u r sure he will marry a girl at the end and u r still *** around with him, u r responsible for ur fate and not him. So, its u who need to make up your mind. Btw, this confusion would still remain if u replace this bi guy with a gay guy. Can u guarantee he'll not cheat on you with another guy? So stop thinking about it too much, its a phase and will pass. Just take a decision if you wanna continue enjoy *** until it last or ask for a commitment and let him decide.
No Picture Grandios	Posted On Mar 3, 2022 I don’t think I am the first one to say this. Being gay is difficult being bi is twice difficult. I thought I killed my passions in life. But am struggling really between my consciousness and my passions. I wish I wasn’t born. I wish there is a pill that exists that would get rid me of all of this. In short I am depressed. I don’t expect anybody to empathize or sympathize. Am blurting out as I have no direct venue. Sorry if I am sounding desperate. If you guys don’t like it please ignore.
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