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Relationship with a married man. Acceptable or not

Submitted by AlwaysLusty09 Location: All India (All India, India)

Have you ever been in a relationship with a married guy? A friend of mine from the community is in relationship with a bloke almost 10 years older than him. He says that married men always attract him for following reasons: they're experienced lovers, you can have a mature conversation with them about finances to politics to dirty talks, etc.

He says that both are aware of no future as his bf is married, but they still enjoy the most of it. Though he often feels like being an extra burden on someone else's life.

When he told me all of that, Ohmojo came to my mind for seeking multiple views. What you guys think about this form of relationship?

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Posted On Mar 5, 2020 - 07:18 PM

First of all a "relationship" is not a part time thing if anyone is hallucinating , then get real! if you are the married man wanting to get into a sidekick relation or you are the one considering relationship with a married man/woman, get real!! It only leads to mess and more mess and disappointments and waste of time energy and precious years of life.

IF you are calling something else as "Relationship" for e.g. a fuckbud or FWA then thats your choice. :)

if you are married, you have a commitment to keep- your kids need your time and so does the wife/husband. and dont expect people to putup with your extra marital affair be it man or woman. Gone are those days.
Willing or not, you got into a family, so you might play outside(please do it responsibly if its so compulsive for you), occasionally but dont get into another "relationship" you wont be doing justice with either of them although you might enjoy the "choice"

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Posted On Mar 6, 2020 - 08:16 AM

Relationship with a married man is not acceptable. It will spoil the marraige

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Posted On Mar 6, 2020 - 11:24 AM

It's k to hve relationship with guy after marriage,, as he is nt hving affair or *** with girl so no cheating, having *** with same gender is acceptable n safe

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Posted On Mar 6, 2020 - 12:35 PM


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Posted On Mar 6, 2020 - 12:45 PM

Those who don't mind relationship with married men let them do it, those who don't want to it is upto them; why discuss so much on this and do moral polycing? Is this a site for moral polices? After all it's a consensual relationship. As long as it does not involve child and sexual harrasment I gues we should not go into much details. They like it-they do it, you don't like it-you don't do it; it is just that simple.

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Posted On Mar 6, 2020 - 04:21 PM

Nothing wrong in. It

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Posted On Mar 6, 2020 - 07:28 PM

It's been OK for me so far. Not gotten into trouble

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Posted On Mar 7, 2020 - 03:52 AM

Yes only one life,,,
So our feelings, emotions , love, relationship, friendship everything keeps CHANGING, we grow up with curiosity, we try, then settle down at a point, then again there find something new, again curious to know, and we try, if it works we settle,, this keeps on going,, and the memories are the 💎 jewels that we carry through out our life, and lastly Relationship with married or single has no meaning,,today everyone knows what he or she wants, it's not just ***,,

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Posted On Mar 9, 2020 - 04:32 AM

There are human ideas and divine ones.
"Relationship with a married man"...is a euphemism in this precariously convenient context to defend against doing something wrong.
Anyone who expresses contempt, ridicule, or judges in order to get away with their *** with a married man is
covering up the simplest facts here.

There is no other way to explain: lying, cheating and stealing.
So all you little boys need to say out loud, to hear yourselves: "Lying, cheating and stealing is okay in this department." Really, it's okay?
Really...ahh...the criminal mind at work, "getting away with" something fundamentally wrong.
Did you mommie's and daddies train you that lying, cheating and stealing is okay?

Obviously one person's testimony was that his mother cheated on his father, found that hot, and therefore conveniently decided "if mommie can cheat on daddy, and
it gets my *** hard...it must be okay."....sigh...

Since so many of you want to say *** with any married person is not wrong, let's look at it plainly:

1. Does the wife or husband know? if not, then it's a secret, and lying and cheating is going on.
Justifying because it feels good is like justifying heroin or cocaine ...it feels good.
Why keep it a secret if trouble wouldn't be caused?
Hey, test this: before having *** with a married guy, ask if his wife knows, or if you two can tell her !
Or, of course...if she gave her permission....right?

2. Stealing means: stealing the married partner's time, confidence and trust; oh...more lying and cheating.

3. "Because I love him"...is a corrupt rationalization for misbehaving, i.e., defense against doing something wrong.
e.g., "I love my children, have no money, so I steal and kill others for food"..."because I love them"...great...now you're a loving criminal.

4. Forget the morality subject for now, since people always get high handed and saucy with their tempers, thinking they either know the moral codes of
conduct, or are entitled to rebel against them. Fine...and Karma? All it means, in this case, is there are consequences.
If you justify wrong doing, fine. Live within your own conscience. Justice in this case...obviously is eclipsed by the myopic person saying
"it's fun and I haven't had anything bad happen to me yet"... Great...do you know how many brain cells die with each cocktail? No, of course not...until
it's too late. Or does diabetes care in your body because sugar tastes so good?

Anyone who justifies doing something wrong only has themselves to live with.
Lying, Cheating, Stealing...

Tell me: what is the purpose of the word: Adultery ?
What's the purpose of humans having any rules?
Are all rules, morals and ethics to be trashed by convenience?
[ the president of my country seems to act like it is okay...sigh...God save us...]

Now put yourself in your married husband's wife's shoes...how would she feel knowing her husband is *** another man...?
You don't care? Hmm...then you have a serious mental problem with your conscience, i.e., criminality, lack of empathy, selfishness, self centeredness, and possible *** addiction.

...enough said...oh...I'm an American psychologist by the way...and the cultural differences make no difference when it comes to human rules of conduct...
Good luck boys.

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Posted On Mar 9, 2020 - 08:40 AM

Perfectly put.
People who justify adultery do have "serious mental problem with your conscience, i.e., criminality, lack of empathy, selfishness, self centeredness"
More importantly, hypocrisy, because none of these men will be okay with their wife doing the same.

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Posted On Mar 9, 2020 - 08:42 AM

I do not feel a relationship with a married male is any issue, as long as he is able to give me time and able to satisfy my needs.

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Posted On Mar 9, 2020 - 09:52 AM

@putine.. saying someone who is in an adulterous relationship has a 'serious mental problem' is so stupid n disrespectful. we do not know anyones life story so pls stop judging.
@drtike.. pls stop this pseudo religious bullcrap. who ever decide 'adultery' was a 'wrong'. this is some post Victorian socially acceptable norm that is being imposed on people who don't care for u or ur religion or Victorian culture.

Live and let live people.. live and let live..

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Posted On Mar 9, 2020 - 10:51 AM

@skilledmate mental health issues aren't either stupid or disrespectful. They need to be spoken about and addressed.
What's stupid and disrespectful are a lack of empathy, compassion, loyalty, and honesty.

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Posted On Mar 9, 2020 - 05:08 PM

Whoever says that adultery is old is kinda bothering. We are humans. Imagine if the married person with whom you are having relationship, actually has an affair with some other guy. Will you be ok with it? Before anyone jumps on judging me, I m married in a relationship with another married man. Not a day passes by without debating with my conscious with regards to cheating my wife. I met my partner before we both were married but we later had to marry someone else but it's a constant struggle.

Now people might ask why continue. Well that's love and life I guess. It's not simple. But I agree that cheating for gays or otherwise is not normal

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Posted On Mar 9, 2020 - 05:36 PM

@putine, talk about generalisations!!! You must truly be a world mind reader to claim that none of the guys are OK with their spouses sleeping with other men. Right there with that generalisation, you lost your argument. I don’t want to even get into “serious mental problem” accusations. Talk about sweeping statements!!! Someone died and made you the king, er God. Long live the king, er God!

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Posted On Mar 11, 2020 - 12:58 AM

It is better to stop this discussion. Right or not, thinking a and actions are vary from person to person.

Any relationship is always between two individuals.
If they are happy, adjustable in their life, lead the life happily and loving each other, then there is no question of asking if it is right or wring.

We are always accepting our wrongs, but pointing out others mistakes. Please do not judge others.
It is their life. Allow them to lead their life happily.

Enjoy your life.

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Posted On Mar 11, 2020 - 03:19 AM

Married gays already cheating their wife. So why can't someone have a relationship with a married man.

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Posted On Mar 11, 2020 - 03:34 AM

Relationship with married man will kill his marriage and make his life hell..adultery and one fun nights are ok but LTR are a nightmare.. becoz one night stands only involve your balls while relationship involves a lot of your heart. Dont spoil your heart...

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Posted On Mar 11, 2020 - 06:59 AM

"Relationship with a married man. Acceptable or not"

Good Question but my suggestion is guys u have to know what u r like

whether u have to know about u r Gay r bi sexual

if u Bi not big deal to have relationship with a married man

but if u r gay defiantly that will not be right choice to choose a married guy bcz married guy always have a partner to takecare of him but for gay that will not suite for him

So u guys better to find who u r like , u r gay r bi ....

Sorry if my suggestion hurts anyone of here

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Posted On Mar 11, 2020 - 12:27 PM

The question is meant for guys who want to have a RELATIONSHIP with married guys. Whether such a relationship is possible? What will he get from such relationship?
Relationship means something much more than ***. It involves emotions and time spent together over and above sexual activities. Will the married guy go with you for movies, dinner, outing. Will he be besides you when you are sick or down?

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Posted On Mar 12, 2020 - 11:39 AM

As me exclusive gay , my experience says that In our country gay men hardly find out reliable gay partner with whom he can share his feelings , understand his emotions, take care each other. Every gay person has fear of society. Living double standard life every day. No one want to understand him. So he keep relation with married men but in end he find nothing then guilty. If you are straight or bisexual than its ok. But if you are gay keep relation with gay who understand you.

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Posted On Mar 13, 2020 - 07:58 AM

I would say as long as it doesn’t harm anyone , everyone is entitled to their happiness n pleasure. Problem starts when people are not open minded
Love n desire are in the air all should embrace ir

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Posted On Mar 14, 2020 - 04:18 AM

I am married and always wanted a boy partner.. just the thought of after effects hold me back.. difficult to find a person who can understand the situation.. and also not confident if i can manage to sail in 2 ships😁

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Posted On Mar 14, 2020 - 07:42 AM

Personally, I don't think all bottoms have the need for the extra...we're pretty self sufficient. A stable partner yeah, but as such sukh dukh ka saathi types ni chaiyye. 😁

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Posted On Mar 15, 2020 - 11:28 AM

U cannot call this a relationship, it's just enjoying their sexual needs. Relationship needs trust, love and care for eachother what I think. If this comes in highlight, mostly runes the married man's life but much won't affects ur friend life if he his single.

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Posted On Mar 16, 2020 - 01:26 AM

Hahah. As if anyone on this website gives a *** about relationships and trust. People here just want *** to be honest. And some of them don't even know how to talk to people

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Posted On Mar 17, 2020 - 07:35 AM

Those are the stupid people who are looking for a relationship at this platform.. This place is to enjoy hangout have fun and to explore ur wild fantasies.. Sorry if it hurt u. . But relating relationship to married/unmarried is such an derogatory thought. .

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Posted On Mar 18, 2020 - 09:53 AM

Alternate relationship is always good. Because the opposite *** demands more service than pleasure but in alternative *** with same gender has its own thrill.
The partner is very kind and giv3 all his attention to please the opposite.
In my view same *** gende4 gives u more satisfaction , pleasure and leisure better than his regular wife.
Same gender partner will give u utm9st satisfaction while *** or ***.
His bottom will be tight compared to his wife ***
He will *** out ur balls , *** and also lick ur bottom with his sensual touch that the loaded balls spurt out hot milk shooting high from ur ***.
All this pleasure is not easy to get from ur regular wife or even if u have girl friend

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Posted On Mar 18, 2020 - 10:29 AM

I Agree... Having an alternative relationship helps keep your current heterosexual relationship healthy and active.

Not all women today want ***. some just want companionship and very little amount of ***.

if one balances both sides of the world - he will be happy.

Ethics are always there and 9/10 people will say its wrong. But we need to adapt to the current style of life.

if the partners (married man / committed man and the corresponding homosexual partner) are willing and are aware of the consequences, then why not?

its a personal choice of a way of life one chooses to live. Contemplating if its acceptable or not? well it WAS not acceptable. but it does not mean it still wont be acceptable.

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Posted On Mar 18, 2020 - 11:32 AM

I am all for two married bi-sexual guys having a relationship with each other. Both will have equal stakes.

But a single gay guy getting involved with a married guy wont get anything but heart ache from such a relationship.

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Posted On Mar 18, 2020 - 12:19 PM

Agree with @fifty relationship between two married bisexual guys is more practical and they both know how to balance it..

I don't know much about single guys as I have never been in touch with them as I feel from my side it will never work out with young n single guys for me. .

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Posted On Mar 19, 2020 - 12:48 AM

i always imagined what it would be like to have a long term friendship with a maried bi top.
some one who can be my friend, lover, brother and yet does not own me like a husband.
if a straight man can have a best friend. So can a bi man have a gay confidant. Instead of spending time in sports sports they ***.
It is so liberating.
Both get what they need and yet get to go back to the mundane life rejuvinates.

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Posted On Mar 19, 2020 - 06:51 AM

I think it depends on the person as well. I mean even if a single guy is able to find a married man and have a good relationship, it's still great. I mean as long as both of them know what they are getting into. If they are mature enough to understand stuff then they can enjoy each other's company to the fullest.

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Posted On Mar 22, 2020 - 01:51 PM

@kingofdesire56 you are right I agree. The most imp thing is that people should know what they are getting into. If two people are mature enough to handle it and understand each other's expectation and differences then it's fine।
But what I have analysed is that most people need a *** buddy or trustworthy *** buddy or friends , calling it a relationship is bit wrong. Bi married men who are inclined toward this kind of life want this fun too. And many guys are interested in married men too as they know the art of love making , they are mature etc which turn you people on.

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Posted On Mar 24, 2020 - 11:49 AM

I think it depends on the person as well. I mean even if a single guy is able to find a married man and have a good relationship, it's still great. I mean as long as both of them know what they are getting into. If they are mature enough to understand stuff then they can enjoy each other's company to the fullest.

-. 100 percent correct. I accept this. - Kingofdesire56

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Posted On Mar 25, 2020 - 04:00 PM

Relationship to me is primarily a physical or/and emotional connection. With my partner I obviously want and expect both.

If you are getting both from a married man and you are ok to accept the realities and complications (jealously, access on your terms etc etc) that might come with the territory, then awesome!

I personally would not get into it, but I've had *** with married men and it was beyond sensational 😀

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Posted On Mar 28, 2020 - 03:17 PM

Its a common practice among Malabar Muslims, & Indonesians. Married people keep one Steppney, young Boys.

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Posted On Mar 28, 2020 - 05:26 PM

Now a day's wife also cheat on husbands so what's wrong in this

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Posted On Mar 29, 2020 - 11:28 AM

@ Don't know about relationships... But had fun with married uncles... They are really caring... Don't think anything wrong.... Depends on person's own interest...

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Posted On Mar 29, 2020 - 11:42 AM

Y do relationships have to b named.
I am wanting a relation but want it discreet. Yes I am open to stay a double life. Normal straight outside n another with my lover. M btm. Want a handsome top as my bf in Mumbai.

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Posted On Mar 30, 2020 - 10:44 PM

I do question the explanation of your friend. You provided 2 reasons, neither of them have anything to with being married, but more his perception of an older person.

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Posted On Apr 1, 2020 - 06:34 AM

It's acceptable

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Posted On Apr 7, 2020 - 09:01 AM

Since I am into uncle's...I got *** by married men...I don't know abt relationship, but having *** with them is completely safe n fine...But one should not hv relationship with them as it may spoil their married life..

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Posted On Apr 22, 2020 - 11:13 AM

That would depend if the marriage is monogamous or open, is there dishonesty involved? etc. I personally do not think, if consensual adults engaging in relationship outside of marriage, all parties involved in the marriage including the 3rd member, the one outside of marriage, is a problem. Although I'm not comfortable with the fact that some people will not tell the full truth to their spouse that they like someone "part-time". Yes, sometimes some sexual needs go unmet, but some want to quench that thirst and other can live without those unmet desires voluntarily. But the minimum action should be based upon minimizing the hurt feelings of the spouse who may not know their husbands (or wives) are sleeping with someone else. It's a tricky balance I know.

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Posted On Apr 28, 2020 - 12:05 PM

I always enjoyed my time with married guys. Though some tried to use for their unfulfilled desires. If it's only for fun then it's completely ok. I'm having a fun with a guy for last 2 years almost. he's married (37) & having 2 kids. We never disturbed each other personal life. You may think he's cheating his wife. Yes, he is. Is that happening only in gay's?

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Posted On Apr 28, 2020 - 10:50 PM

Until you and your partner are capable of hiding the truth it's fine.. who is she to interfere into your bedroom? Play safe.. ensure that you both seem good friends or colleagues... Or ex colleague and ensure you often hangout with her knowledge ... She will never doubt on your relationship... Fear can be inside.. but you should know to Act without making a mistake...
I never touch my partner in front of his wife.. I maintain a lot of distance.. Every minute I will have the grudge that He is Mine and is all mine within the 4 walls of my house..

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Posted On May 3, 2020 - 12:15 PM

I have been through it and take my personal advice.

Nothing against it, uts their life and their call for what they have chosen to be.
However if u a r gay and have decided to live ur life as gay, pley NEVER EVER fall for married men however attractive they appear to u. Keep ur lines firm only upto hook up or friendship if they r good natured.

A closetted relationship between two married men is great thing but a gay relationship will never work. U will always be a secondary option and an outing out of his married life.

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Posted On May 11, 2020 - 08:00 AM

Having relationship with a married men is not an issues, they do have a feeling or have some closted men want to open there feeling better with other men and if both the person is ok and other person will not entered his private life and meet occasionally, most of indian married men have this type of friends they do enjoyed there life in private

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Posted On May 13, 2020 - 03:23 PM

Having a relationship with married person depends on characteristics of the married person. It becomes bad, if it affects his marriage life, turns into fantasy if his enjoying both his married and personal life. Trust me, I too had a married bf in Mumbai. He had fascination for gears, leather, bdsm etc. Also he loved having fun in them. I was perfect match for him since I wore those. We used to have meetings in hotels, where we would dress up in leather and start having fun pretty much. Everytime I asked about his family, he would smile and say he loved his wife. It was all about fulfilling his own personal fantasies, desires with me. He had obsession badly with BDSM, which he couldn't have with his wife. So I was the target, he aimed for. I loved his company, he never made me feel guilty. I had another bf, who was dwarf. Ofcourse he had personal issues and used to quarrel with his wife. Although he good with me and all, still I decided to leave him, as I felt guilty over here. However nothing has changed, as he still flirts with me, and is trying to date few men.

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Posted On May 23, 2020 - 02:19 AM

Relationship with a married guy is a Chaos.

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