Guys many of us may not have liking for marriage in such case share your ideas about how to plan and manage life without marriage
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CherryBlossom | Posted On Jan 7, 2018
Personally till my early 30's i had the mindset not to get married but got married later due to family reason and society around. If i were not married i would have probably looked for life partner or a long term friend with whom we can spend the life with. But the real challenge is can we get a good and trustworthy guy who is having similar mindset and willing for mutual support?. Secondly ppl mindset is often changeable and their mind changes seeing society around then and get married. If we get a guy of our choice then life may be fine otherwise life may be little difficult. Again marriage does not guarantee any good life, that life is also with lot of struggles. Most of us would end up in old aged homes in our retired life for sure looking at current situation whether we get married or remain single. |
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CherryBlossom | Posted On Jan 7, 2018
To plan for life without marriage i feel we focus on our career and job. We should earn and save enough for future. Also pursuing hobbies is a good option. Unfortunately adoption is not a option in india if it is i feel it is a good option to plan the life. |
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Madipakkambot | Posted On Jan 7, 2018
I was so insecured and fed up of my short-term gay relationships and got married ...but oh boy I regretted why did I take that decision...it's better u live alone than getting married to a girl with who u have 0% chemistry...yesnu can be a good freind and loving and all that but no intimacy without which life becomes hell....my recommendation is not to get married and pursue your goal of u don't have any...Y dint u make travelling the world as Ur goal and cover one country a year..save money travel and relish that experience ...make good like minded decent friends and bond with them ..there are somuch you can do .. |
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funguy2016 | Posted On Jan 7, 2018
for people who r bi.. is not a problem.. like me.. cant think life without woman... and am here for fun with men for time pass only..... i dont have any issues with it... but. u knw.. many times i have thought.. is gay natural.. or the result of childhood experiences.. many have said its not natural........ i mean two men or two woman cant produce a kid..then how... |
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Kani2707 | Posted On Jan 7, 2018
Good topic! I was in this forum for couple of month and this is my first submit.
Reason for not getting married:
I’m 32 and gay. Out to my parents on 12 Jan 2014. As I thought coming out would solve everything. Well I was wrong. That’s the first step to all the difficulties you are about to face. I came out to my parents in a situation where I’m completely independent (financially) and I know about me more. (It took nearly 5 years to know what I want and how my life should be). After coming out went few counsels and a lot of converstaion with dad & mom on topic which a son shouldn’t speak off (masturbation, impotent, feelings over a guy.. etc). Well I tried a lot to make them understand me.Still it’s going on. As a parent they want make sure their son is alright after their time which is nothing wrong. But I’m standing to the point which I took initially - long ago. Not getting married. Be single
Why not partners: Being Single: There are few things I thought about.
1. Very much comfortable being alone.
2. Who’s gonna love me? Accept me who I’m.
3. Would WE both be truthful, decent, open, supportive, caring to one another?
4. Does parent’s or peers should know about the relationship?
5. And many more.....
I have tried everything in my life: from alcohol to ***. Likely I wasn’t dead because of overdose. (I really don’t know why I have mentioned this here)
To answer your question: How to lead a life without a family? To me: I want to getup every single dam day and survive being single. Nothing more I expect.
Nothing is permanent in this world. One has to selfish and look after them self. I know it’s clichè but it is the truth we all realize one day.
Note: Search for THE EPIDEMIC OF GAY LONELINESS in YouTube. |
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Ebubu | Posted On Jan 8, 2018
Oh boy, you're opening a Pandora's Box... :) :) :) |
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Harshid | Posted On Jan 8, 2018
Looks people shared their views and it's nice to see..my opinion as follows
Before go for marriage , just think our self what we want exactly.
1. Need partner/good company till life end
2. Want to live as per our Indian society design pattern( marry a girl and have children etc.,)
3. Just need ***..
4. Due to any pressure from family or surrounding
5. Will you able to compromise ur stuffs(small things to big one)
6. Physically able to satisfy a girl?
Your answer for each of the above points will give you a clarity of whether u go for marriage or not
I can't exactly say whether u go for marriage or not..becoz at the end of the day it's all ur decision based on the points mentioned above.
One simple point would like to communicate, when u r in a relationship with a guy, pls don't proceed for marriage..u will feel the life as hell which u can't bare just like that..
Bi guys will be able to manage as the partner (other guy) Wil suffer a lot..
It will push him to go to any extreme condition..
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tonedbloke * | Posted On Jan 9, 2018
Let me add my experience as a mature "unmarried "man in a relationship with another man.
It is the best experience to be in a long term relationship. I have never been married and I cannot comment on life as a maried man. But the feeling of sharing your bed with another man on a daily basis is great. Relationships do have ups and down but dealing with it and accepting the flaws in your partner is part of life. You yourself are not perfect so why not accept the same from the other. But... it is very important to find a erson with the right mind set. You should be able to share at least one common hobby. Financial situation must be made clear in the beginning to avoid misunderstanding later. *** is just great. You can be so much more free. Over the years there are periods when *** does become a bit monotonous but there are periods when there can be a lot of passion. Try to look good and maintain a decent appearance for your partner.
Accept that either of you will stray at some point or the other later in the relationship. |
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shree89V | Posted On Jan 9, 2018
I am 30, I am not married and dont intend to marry as well. I am not out as well. I am who I am.I dont believe in relationships whatsoever. I have lot of interests and hobbies and I wish to help the society in my own possible way. And I am doing good to the people around me.
This way I dont feel lonely/lacking though unmarried but I always have something to do in life and am hooked to it. But regular *** is problem. I have to spend some time searching for desirable guys. |
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Tallandbrown | Posted On Jan 22, 2018
I believe that if you are gay then you shouldn't marry a girl. It's not fair to you and to the girl. You can hope to meet a guy in the future and get married if you really want to get hitched. |
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279488 | Posted On Feb 24, 2018
S even i like to stay single without marrying only thing v have to be cautious is our health exercise daily eat well rest well earn well that's it v can have a happy single life |
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Mahesh80 | Posted On Feb 27, 2018
If we cultivate a genuine love, concern and goodness of heart towards all beings at all times, there is nothing to worry, whether one is married or not...we will see that love being reciprocated in unimaginable ways and the events around us unfolding miraculously in our favour, this is not some abstract concept..when its practised we see it becoming a living reality. I've observed this in many people's life.. |
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CherryBlossom | Posted On May 2, 2018
@Mahesh80 don't worry and be happy...if you get a opportunity for marriage of convenience go for it in my opinion. As mentioned by shivatier good health is important than anything else whether we are single or married |
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