This also isn't about place but support and helping thread to prevent other guys from cheating or harassment.
Post your experiences here and also ways to be cautious and prevent bad things from happening.
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shahnavazsheikh | Posted On May 18, 2016
This is suggestion , if some straight guy ready to have *** with you, confirm that he is interested, otherwise some will ask huge amount of money, if u really want to have *** with him, ask do u take money for this??,if yes how much? Then deal.
Confirm his mobile is in his pocket and he is not doing any recording.
Better stay away person asking Money.And don't share personal mobile number with them |
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Love2 | Posted On Apr 21, 2018
I got fooled by a cheat recently in Baroda. I met him on Grindr chat. He said he is top about 30years old, he sghared his nude pictures and also face picture. He came to meet me, I asked him to bring condom. In my hotel rom, he became nude and asked me to kiss his boobs and *** them. I was doing but he did not have ***. He asked me to lick near his groin area. he surrounded my head with his legs. I am very careful so I had kept my wallet in bag. I later realised that when he put legs around my head and covered it, he removed money and other valuables from my bag. I checked it after he left. I lost lot of cash... Be careful with guys like this. |
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shail4u143 | Posted On Sep 15, 2018
Yesterday i met with one man in public loo near law garden. He was not having a vehicle and told me that he is having a place. I was feeling *** and desparately I went with him. He asked ne to stop my vehicle near one building and parked my bike.But he took away my bike's key trickily and started threatening me. I havent shown any sign of fear. And talked to him politely.
Thank god i havent carried my cell ohone and wallet with me. Even he asked ne that if i have carried any condoms or medicine and checked my pockets but i was having nothing. His intention was to blackmail me.
I have talked to him oolitely and confidently so once he was feared and let me go.
So be aware of such guys.. |
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Rikunj | Posted On Sep 16, 2018
Thanks shail...
Even i post in most comments, if people take u soemwhr make sure its not very silent.
2. Always i suggest carry pepper spray easily available online.
3. Shout if its a little public place very loudly, cheater may fear & run.
4. After 377 decrimilization dont get afraid of cops or someone who is giving police DHAMKI.
5. Judge people and if its law garden try play inside or amul parlour loo. Dont travel too much be confident, brave, NEVER CARRY VALUEABLES, na ya pls pepper spray.
Its very tiny bottle but very effective.
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shail4u143 | Posted On Sep 17, 2018
Yes. one need to deal it with confidence.
If we will show fear to them than they will not keave us easily.
Anyway.. learnt from this experience.. even b4 in jamnagar i have faced this kind of situation with two guys. And handled that situation bravely.
So guyss.. Beware.. and if sonething happened though..
Be Brave and Be Strong. |
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Adihotie18hot | Posted On Dec 26, 2023
Guys please be aware there are many fraudsters out there.
Many gangs are there at different areas in Ahmedabad
I myself have been victim twice and i have heard from my closed ones too
Places like vastral, sabarmati, gandhinagar Or any lonely places please be very very careful before meeting any person.
I would suggest to make a video call first and meet at a public place and if u feel ok then only proceed. |
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Manumitz | Posted On Jan 1, 2024
Yes agree with the previous comment. These guys cheat us and like to extract money. They make you call home and try to reveal us in front of family members. There is one gang at Ghatlodiya behind the temple. Also don't rely only on video call. Sometimes they change places. It is true. I want other innocent guys not to get cheated. Lot of manipulation can happen. |
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Adihotie18hot | Posted On Jan 1, 2024
Yes true very true
I myself have been in this difficult situation and u feel lost because u r alone and u can't get help or support from anyone but these guys exploit u fully.
These guys generally send fake pics, they try to avoid video calls, they will give u 100 reasons for not to do video calls, they will call u to some lonely places where public is less.
Guys please be very careful. It's for your own safety. |
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chubby38 | Posted On Jan 17, 2024
Adihotie18hot - i actually dont do VC or send nudes because people can record that and blackmail us. However, its always there in mind that the person meeting might be a fraud. |
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Adihotie18hot | Posted On Jan 17, 2024
How will any person can blackmail us with A normal vcall ? Plus we can say that someone called nd I picked the call. That's it
We should nit to random nude vcall |
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chubby38 | Posted On Jan 17, 2024
they can record the VC and use it blackmail later.. based on the content of vc.. |
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Youngguy123 | Posted On Aug 25, 2024
Happened to me when I was 18 years old. I had just started using grindr and was waiting for bus on bus stop at sion for going home. To pass time i opened grindr and saw one guy aged around 29 just 100 meters away. He said he was vers with place nearby. After some discussion we came to agreement that he will s**k me and have some bodyplay. He also shared numbers and after meeting me we went to his "place". Place was nothing but dilapidated abandoned old building soon to be reconstructed. I was skeptical about going in but he reassured me that it's safe. While sneaking in I found building also had watchman who was busy with chatting few other guys. He took me to 3rd floor and we started. After some body play he asked me to s*k him. I politely refused saying we already agreed that i won't do that before meeting itself. He was like, ok lets see how you won't, and put hand in his pocket and produced his Police ID and said let's go to police station. I didn't show an iota of fear and told him that I would be more than happy to go to police station, and not just any random police station but the one in which you work. He was bit surprised after this stand but said ok if you wish to let's go and went near stairs. I calmly followed him. After going down one floor his balloon blasted open and smiling now he "requested" Let's s*k each other na.. I firmly said "I have no whatsoever interest and I just want to visit police station, I have already taken screen shot of grindr chat including part where you shared your own number" (I hadn't) in raised voice such that little more louder and watchman below will hear it. Now he got terrified and asked me to keep quiet, saying that he will do all the job. He did, and I left without any trouble.
I will request all the people here to stand firmly against creeps.
1) don't be desperate while meeting strangers. Always keep eye on your surroundings while going to new area/place with stranger and prepare emergency escape plan beforehand
2) If you are blackmailed by one or two men, fight back. Don't let them gather more courage and do same things with other guys. If it's public place, raise your voice before they rise theirs, it will freak them out, if they start defaming you in public first, it will be hard to take edge again.
3) If you are blackmailed by large group, give up. There's no point in getting absolutely rekt.
4) If you are cruising at completely isolated place and there are multiple gay people around, one straight man comes and start blackmailing Or beating someone, unleash hell on him before running away. Don't show weakness by running in fear at his sight (unless you are cruising in stinky toiler Or railway properties, if you are doing,it's your mistake) . Homophobes need lesson.
5) Try to avoid loos and places obviously frequented by passersby for God's sake |
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srima | Posted On Aug 26, 2024
Thank you @Youngguy123 for your suggestions |
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Harshi_5 | Posted On Aug 27, 2024
This story is about how I was saved from being raped.
This story is 2 year old I was 18 years old and was using Grindr at night around 9.30 pm after my dinner while I was out for a walk.
I connected to a man he said he was 25, bottom and has a place. I am a vers bottom hence thought let's go with flow at least we would *** each other.
He came to pick me but when I saw him he was completely different a 30 years old man with not so good looks when I talked to him he said he is a top then I refused but he said he will also *** me I was *** and said ok. I sat on his bike and went with him.
I went to his place it was in a place where there were houses on one side and opposite there was a storage area godown type just a small lane to walk.
Went inside with him he insisted to do it in last room of godown but I refused and said we will do it in 1 room as it seemed more safe. He closed the gate and turned on a dim light as then he removed my clothes and threw it in madiya of the room and made me lie down naked then he came on me and started to bite me when I say bite I mean the blood was coming out. I could now smell that he was drunk too.
I said him to stop but he didn't. It was going to be 11.00 and my parents would worry for me hence I said him too and let me go but he said no and threatened me. At last I said if you don't I will should as we are in 1 room and there are Houses opposite so they could easily hear me. He said go shout you are Naked and people will ask you what were you doing here.At last he said if you want to go then go naked
At end I used my brain and made a plan I agreed to do as he says but I gave him some conditions like
1. We will do it by wearing clothes as it would be safe if someone came
2. We will do it in dark as I love doing action in dark
I knew he would agree as he was *** too and would accept my any demands. He gave my clothes back from madiya .I wore them and made sure that I keep my Phone and earphones in closed chains of my trousers. Then he switched off the lights it was now completely dark in room
I hugged him and was feeling him he too in the mean time I was taking him towards the door as we reached the door I sat down in such position that he thought i would *** him now. he started doing foreplay by giving me his thumb to *** etc. I slowly moved my hands towards opening the sankal of the door slowing slowing as it was dark he couldn't see what I was doing with my hands.
Now as soon as the sankal was open I stood up and pushed him but somehow he manage to Stop me. Now I was like it's time for fight bro I punched him on face very hard I am sure he must have got his teeth broken as my hands were paining after punching him so hard😂 and due to my punch he went went back 2 3 steps in mean time I ran out and ran as fast as I could also I didn't took the same route to home as we came I took the main highway route as he could follow me lastly I reached home safely.
I am not like any skinny submissive bottom I am fair and have a good height and body hence I was able to punch him without any fear. |
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asitasit14 | Posted On Aug 28, 2024
Hi Harshi, Have you mentioned this incident before in this or any other platform ?? I think I have heard this before. Though it was terrifying, pls take care of such things. Can you mention the area ?? |
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Pandyanirav148 | Posted On Aug 28, 2024
Yes i also read this before 2 or 3 year ago |
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asitasit14 | Posted On Aug 28, 2024
I would also share my experience from few years back. Law garden was one of the most happening place. I met two guys on bike outside the loo. They said we have a place. Thinking of having threesome I got excited. Went with them, I was on my bike, they were on their bike. Stopped near a commercial complex, and a guy stayed back on the ground floor and other said let's go up. Security guard was sleeping. I asked him again and again if it is safe, he said don't worry,I do come everytime. I asked where is other guy, he said he is down stairs with friends. That scared me. So it was a group of 6-7 guys. Though nobody came upstairs. He opened his zip, and asked to ***. I started but it was some stinky, so I was not enjoying and also was afraid of the place as it was commercial building. So after 4-5 mins I told him that I need to go. He said ok give me 500 rupees. I said why we haven't talked about it before. He said I do charge 500 for this service. Unfortunately I did not carry my wallet with me on that day, due to such Incidents only. I told him I don't have wallet with me. He check my pocket , he found nothing and snatched my phone. He said I am not asking for more money but you need to provide me 500 anyhow. I pleaded him, but he was not in a mood and threating that I will call all my friends and we are not afraid of anything here. Etc etc. After so much discussion, we decided to go near my house and give him money. Now he demanded 700. We went near my home, parked vehicle few metres away, mobile was still with them, i was afraid if I will go home to take money, they will run away with my phone. I asked them to give it to me. He said are don't worry nahi bhaag jayenge. Khali 700 rs leke aa. I had no option but I ran upstairs and got 700 and gave them. They have my mobile back and left. Fortunately amount was small and they never harnessed me again. But it could have worse. |
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Harshi_5 | Posted On Aug 28, 2024
@asitasit14 yes I had posted this story on this platform but in some other thread I don't remember..... This incident isn't scary for me rather it feels advantageous.... May be I fought with the person and protected myself is the reason I take pride in sharing it...i hope it inspires others to be atleast mentally strong and present at the time of need even though u lack physical power,,mental power is crucial in such moments. |
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manish12 | Posted On Aug 29, 2024
6 ya 7 year ago ki baat hai..Me ahmedabad me naya tha or enjoy karena chahata tha. Old geeta mandir bua stop urinal me sham jo 8 baje ek mast sexy banda mila. Cut co@k vala. Usane bola usake paas place hai chalate hai maja aayega. So me usake bike pe Beth ke sath gaya. Pata naha muje vo konase area me le gaya. Jaha ek old khali building tha. Usane vaha uatarke bike thoda dur park kiya. Fir hum dono upar gaye. Mene pucha safe hai na yar usane bola full safe hia. 3rd floor pe jake vo muje kiss karane laga. Fir muje kiss karate karate mere shirt ke button khol ke shirt nikal diya mene mana kiya lekin vo nipple succ karane laga. Fir usane muje ulata karake fu@k karna chalu kiya. Thodi der bat vo jaldi se kuch bol ke niche bhag gaya. Muje laga koi aa gaya lekin koi nahi tha mene jaldi shirt pehla or pent me se mobile nikalne gaya to mobile nahi tha or dusari side ke pocket mw wallet bhi nahi.. me bahot dar gaya. Muje rat ko hi ahmedabad se 150 km dur jana tha. Kya karu kuch samaj nahi aa raha tha. Building ke bahar niche kuch teen boya the mene usako bola ki mera mobile and purse chori ho gaya to usane thode paise diye or me st depo aaya.
Me ye ghatana kabhi nahi bhul sakata. Kai dino tak me bhul nahi paya. |
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shahshahaj22022 | Posted On Dec 25, 2024
Thus thing happened to me in sector 2 gandhinagar gujarat. One young boy chatted with me and we exchanged pics. He call me near shopping at Secor 2 at his room through grindr. During action all of sudden 3 guys entered to his house. They started scholding me by saying who i am , why i came to their room and all. But I stayed calm and told them let me go else I will shout and gather people here so they let me go I run from his room and reached at safe place . |
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ManishAmdabad | Posted On Feb 19, 2025
I had two experiences in Ahmedabad. I am so moved by it and traumatised that i fear to even write details here. I even want revenge. Can we have some police assurance that they would keep everything discrete confidential. We can not complaint because most of us live dual life and no one knows about sexuality and these goons take advantage to insult us in public and threaten to reveal. |
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dilse4u | Posted On Feb 19, 2025
share all the details and save others from that trap |
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ManishAmdabad | Posted On Feb 20, 2025
Now i have three events to share. First was mild and third was severe which has shaken me to create awareness here. I am afraid that they would read and somehow catch me. But gathering courage to write.
1) 3 years back i went on date to an area 3 km away. I was so tired but still i went at 3 am around. The guy was drunk. Full masti and ***. After one day he called me kept threatening me that he would take me to police for stealing his wallet. He kept calling me 1-2 days. Kept saying that if money is need he would give me but his documents are needed. Then he found his wallet in his own room. It was a mental harassment and my first date after shifting to amdabad.
2) this was a bit disturbing to me. 8 months back i called a guy around midnight. Very charming guy. He was top i was vers. So he kept u insisting do ***. And i said i m not fond of ***. I *** him with my half *** in his ***. He was bit harsh at handling my *** with his hand which was slight painful. While leaving he asked me 2000 loan. I said i dont have. I cant give. He kept asking but i kept saying no. He said you will come down and give me. And i said no. And slowly he was going out of my flat and i was waiting to close the main door. U was very very afraid from inside but i remained confident in front of him that i will not give you anything whatever you do.
He kept calling for around half an hour. But i didn't pick. I blocked. And my stress was at peak and i tried to *** to combate stress. It was around 4 am i guess. Then after some days i saw his message on whatsapp. I didn't blocked him there. He shot my video. I blocked him there.
It was very disturbing to me. But i was firm that if i contacted me i would go to police to charge him for sextorsion.
3) this was most traumatic. It happened a week back. I was called i an area. I reached and kept messaging on gr app. It was a busy road and bungalows on a side and people all around. But he called me in near area which was dark just 10 steps away from road. I saw 2-3 people like workers of construction. And the half condtructed building just near to public gathering. And all raw material on ground. He said mitti k peeche hai. I kept moving to and fro. He gave me a sound which i heard but it was dark and i went again on raod. Then i messages him come here. Where r u. I am here. He said on app i boomed. I went there. It was dark but just 10 steps away from road. I asked where is place. He said in this half constructed building. Then i said no because there is no bed and not here. Then he said jaoge kaha pe. He locked his two phones and kept together in his clothes, one of which was shayad iphone. Within seconds and when i was stepping away two other guys came. Started slapping me. And they kept stopping me from going. My phone dropped down but i took it in my pocket. Surprisingly no one snatched my phone. Then in their attempt to stop me. My tshirt was torn and jacket also. So i had nothing over my chest. I dont wear vest. Had lower though. I kept walking away. There were lot of people on road. Felt ashame but my target was to cover myself and reach home. I came with auto. No vehicle i had. Then i went to shop around 300 m away and bought a tshirt and kept walking talking on phone and telling wat happened.
Then alas i saw they were following me. I didn't knew what they wanted from me. They didnt asked money but said tere ghar tak chalenge. Chalo ghar tere. Then o also said i will go to police. Then they said chalo. 3 guys on a bike. One was gujju the most handsome who was the guy whom i met and another one who was trying a lot to terrify me was from uttarpradesh or MP shayad.
I was in front of a busy raod and kept taking to my friend. I was deciding what to do. To go home or another place bcs they were following me. Then i decided to take bike ride for around 1.5 km to reach a hostel where i had my friends and where no one cares who is saying what and i was familiar to go. But they will not be. And they would hesitate unless they are very bigger goons. Because it was risky to go to home in society with them. Because i was wondering they might verbally abuse me in public. So my ride started near to the hostel they catched me. I on bike ride and those three on bike in parallel. Now again they started abusing me. On road in public. Bike wala got fear. He stopped. They stopped. The uttarpradesh guy bikil cheap type ka. Again slapped me. I said ab maarna nahi. Mai darrta nahi tujhse. I know the policemen. Its just near. I asked bike wala please mujhe police station chor do. He refused. I asked bike wala mujhe location pe chor do. He refused. Then i said u go i will pay u. Then he said no. Then i asked details how to pay you hecould not cooperate. He was and i was both panicking. This place was thoda sunsaan at 10 pm and one guy was attracted to our loud talks nearby. Vehicles were passing. But i kept looking for escape and i warned them don't touch me
They said ye to *** marai hai. Iska video banaya hai. Sab pata hai. They said tere ghar pe batayenge and tu jahan kaam karta hai waha batayenge. Tu tere ghar chal. Maine bola tu police station chal. Fir gujju said all my khandan is here since years. We dont afraid of you
He said hamne tere se 5000 ya 20000 loya hai jo tu police wale k paas jayega. Kya bolega.
At this point of time i was familiar with this place i got a chance to escape. Because they could not follow me from bike. Also they followed me like thoda paas aatey for door jate but they followed all around 1 hour. I escaped and they could not further follow me. Uske baad se all is trauma to my mind.
Recalling back now i feel i took so many risk including in open. Around 50 dates or more in 3 years mostly at night with lots of risk. Abhi i dont trust anyone. No courage to meet anyone in public also. Keep fearing if they find me again. I called 100 police but cut bcs i thought without highlighting my identity which is fake in my both worlds (real and gay worlds) if this settles down then it would be good. I didn't lost mobile or money but they tore my clothes and slapped me for 10-15 seconds in that dark. What i lost is my trust to every guy in front of me and my courage to do anything anywhere. It must be a good lesson to date any guy in public and be more more cautious. But the fear and trauma in my mind stays same. I could tell this to my 4 friends in details. And rest sharing here with lots of fear which i could not understand. Wat all they wanted and why should i fear to write it hear. Those stupid guy will never reach here to read my lost. Those goons who shluld be punished not only for slapping and tearing my clothes but also for fraud and breaking trust. It does not break trust over this guy. But makes it difficult to trust anyone |
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Neeta | Posted On Feb 20, 2025
@manish sorry to hear about your dreadful experiences. We all have had these and unfortunately it is becoming far too common. Everyone trying to take advantage. The best way out of it is to not jump into action too soon. Chat over a few days. The goons have no patience and they are looking to make a quick buck. The loss of trust is not easy to regain but at the same time it makes you more stronger, more smarter and more vigilant. |
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dilse4u | Posted On Feb 20, 2025
sorry to hear about all these experiences
just think and forget about gay thing agar aap ki jagah pe koi ladki hoti to kya use mid night date ke jana chaiye? kya use khofnak jagah pe date pe jana chaiye? aur ye date date ke naam oe ji vyabhichar chal raha hai ye usi ki vajah se hai agar kisi ke sath Relation me ho aur kuch ho raha hai to vo love *** hai baki ye sab to vyabhichar hai yaha to yehi hoga |
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Aksray | Posted On Feb 23, 2025
@ManishAhmedabad
Ever wondered why does this keep happening with you again and again? |
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AngadangadPune | Posted On Feb 24, 2025
@ManishAmdabad sorry to hear that. U should be more careful. Don't jump n fix any meeting in heat of moment. Take some time. Avoid late night n lonely place. |
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raunak_luv | Posted On Feb 24, 2025
I installed grindr three days ago in amd. New to the app.Met one guy who became a dear friend and we fool around in his car. Another, Met two tops at a place *** their ***. Now I have read this thread and uninstalled. There are many red flags on grindr. Don't go late night. Ask for number and vc. Talk a little bit and see how the person is.Open location ko avoid karo.
Find few trusted people and stick to them.
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ManishAmdabad | Posted On Feb 25, 2025
@Aksray it happened because i went too much into *** desperately with all carelessness. |
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ManishAmdabad | Posted On Feb 25, 2025
@AngadangadPune now more courage to have any new date. Now fear to share number with guys whom i met in spa. Also afraid of going to spa. Who can shoot you in action. Who can get your secrets to blackmail. Anyone can betray you anytime.
@raunak_luv you are right if you have some trustworthy people stick to them. Make your relations strong with them. There is always a chance of getting STD or cheating or loss of money in going with new random people. Lust is infinite. |
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ManishAmdabad | Posted On Feb 25, 2025
Its "no more courage" rather "now more courage" |
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Guy27bi | Posted On May 6, 2025
Never meet anyone late at night and never have fun in public.
Don t wear anything valuable while meeting anyone new |
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asitasit14 | Posted On May 9, 2025
So few years back i used to meet so many guys from grindr and from my other fake insta account. Also i was fond of having fun with strangers and in loo. After 1 bad incident, I used to go without money to everywhere. Once i had fun with a guy, actually they were 2 but he said other is not interested in all these things. So i went with him into a commercial complex, after *** him he asked 500 rs. I had no money, i told him that but he was so reluctant about it. I got to know that there is a group of 7-8 people with him in that complex. I was so scared. He sat on my vehicle and told me let's go to your home, and give me money. As i am coming to your home now i want 1000 rs. They both came with me. One was sitting behind me so that i can not escape. I stopped Vehicle few meters away from home and was going up, he snatched my phone and said I will give this back once you give me money. I was afraid that they will ran away with my phone. But they assured me not to worry. I had no any option. Luckily they only asked 1000 rs and did not beat me to ran away with my phone. |
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devang1 | Posted On May 10, 2025
@asitasit. ... There are more frauds on grindr and blued other than ohmojo or PR...plz chhose matures to meet... There is less or zero risk in matures... I also trapped once on grindr |
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shahshahaj22022 | Posted On May 10, 2025
Grindr is frauder now |
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Junedsolami | Posted On May 11, 2025
Please keep update in this group with any of situations happened to any of us, we have to help each other. |
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devang1 | Posted On May 12, 2025
Problems mostly occurs without safe place or in open meet at unknown places... Who r genuine and with safe place like home or office, live alone they can mention if interested So other members can approach such profiles |
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