Married bottom dilemma

I am a married bottom married for 4 years.

I have been doing bottom acts since college. And I thought I will leave being a bottom after marriage, but time and again every few months(3-4) I get a huge urge meet some top and give BJ. And I always do it.

But the after guilt is too strong, with things like I am cheating on my wife. And everytime I think, that this was the last time, and pray to god to pardon me just this last time. I delete my all accounts(ohmojo, planetromeo etc) and live happily until the urges start agian later.

How do other married bottoms come to cope with this? Have tou made peace with this that youwill be doing it forever or some other way ?

P.S: Got the guilt today as I met a top and had fun for 2 hours being a total ***. And when I left, bam! guilt starts.

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No Picture Bandrasc_hlong *	Posted On Apr 21, 2025 Tbh it's an individual thing many sub bots were totally closed with relationships and stuff and did this to serve their desires.there were few married guys into niche kinks such as sniffing *** *** *** or getting a *** bath, then there were some courageous ones who came out to their partners based on their initial reaction , some women were against it, some supported it but didn't want to know, and the best ones actively joined, those were the couples that took their camaraderie and companionship to the next level
No Picture Harry80	Posted On Apr 21, 2025 Nice , what level u r in
Longwick	Posted On Apr 24, 2025 I had threescore with many couples and mostly guy happen to admire the *** and start craving and soon they open themselves as bisexuality. Girl are open to that. They enjoy *** 90% I asked few wives how they feel about cuckold and this lifestyle they say if it's in room let it be enjoy yourselves. Women are complicated they expose everything within limits.
No Picture Harry80	Posted On Apr 24, 2025 Luckey
fifty	Posted On Apr 27, 2025 Watched a movie named Dear Dad. starring Aravind Swami. It captures the dilemma of a married gay guy, how he lands into the situation and how he decides to come out of it. The conflict gets solved quite easily for real life . A question on the title of this thread - do only married bottom guys have a dilemma? tops dont? Is there a conception that bottoms dont get *** or are not capable of having intercourse with a woman? All this is more psychological than physiological . Isnt it? So a top also may not get aroused by a woman and there will be bottoms who have been satisfying there wife.
No Picture BH@2225	Posted On Apr 27, 2025 I m also a married bottom.... Curiousely developed men to men *** habit in my school life..... After my graduation... I got govt job.... So i left this being dedicated in my duties.... After few years i got married.... Met very honest wife.. Born children..Thereafter... Service and family responsibilities became my everything so never thought about homo ***...now children are well grown up... I m retired... Wife is 45 plus.. Now i feel strong urge for bottoming.... So i met and enjoyed with few men.... Which i enjoy very much in this 50 plus age.... But with extreme privacy from family.. Relatives and known peoples... Have *** with wife once in a month.....
No Picture Mr_calvinharrie	Posted On Apr 27, 2025 @fifty great prespective but I guess I dosent matter if ur top or bottom u r in same situation my friend is married and vers bottom He don't get any difficulty having *** with his wife it's just he don't enjoy some take vigra some naturally can do
No Picture Jigs_love	Posted On Apr 27, 2025 @fifty ... Nice point... Also to add on that it is much more issues with Bisexual.... We bisexual feel urge for both genders.... Attracted towards women and also urge to be a bottom with a nice top.... It becomes complicated as neither of the urge is affecting the other one....
No Picture smacarbon	Posted On Apr 29, 2025 Hi @choosnewala, I am an 0mnis3xual. I am versatile with men, so, I do get my a55 f0cked or s0ck a c0ck, whenever I have urge and get place. I do not feel that, I am cheating on my wife because she is not at all interested in s3x. I do make her 0rgasm 90% of the times we have s3x. But still she never initiate anytime, and never allows me to l1ck on her pu55y to make her reach 0rgasm, if I do get early ejac. Many times when I want to intiated she is engaged in household works till late that, my mood get off due to irritation of waiting for her to come to bedroom, sometimes she is engaged in teaching the kids, sometimes she make excuse of getting up early to pray, etc. So, to fulfill my needs either I have to either jack0ff or visit others. I have had gone to pr0st1tutes and massag3 parl0urs (male & female) whenever I have spare money, got handj0bs or bl0wjobs. Otherwise I go to gay apps to get men. I crave physical attention, and I try it from somone other than wife. So, I do not feel guilt or remorse.
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