Dahmer :Netflix any such scary incident occurred?
Recently watched Netflix Dahmer series of a gay serial killer. Any such scarey incidents you have in dating life please share to alert each other and be more cautious. I face such but once I went to meet a guy from PR but in reality he was all different guy and very old and weird. I immediately said I don't want to continue but he was not letting me go. Thankfully it was public place n he didn't do anything just was begging for ***. But I said no I need to go. He then followed me for a while. I stopped and said if you follow I'll call my uncle who is police..so he stopped following. I was making sure he is not following and I took wrong way to go home in case he was following. Reply/Post a comment
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mat40 * | Posted On Oct 4, 2022
I watched it too. Pretty disturbing. But nothing compared to the actual interviews of Dahmer himself. It's hard to even believe that underneath that calm, soft exterior lies a monstrosity. I guess that's how he easily lured his victims, eventually murdering them.
Years back, i met a guy at a public loo, it was around 9:30 pm. He was quite tall, dark and pretty fit; he suggested we go to his place. In all honesty, either i trust too fast or i'm really slow in judging a person. I immediately agreed. Not even thinking or asking how far his place was. On the way, i somehow felt a little odd, the route he had taken made me feel a little uncomfortable. Completely unknown to me. No rickshaws or cars in sight. Kachha rasta to be exact. As for him, he wasn't the way he was initially; he was totally quiet, didn't talk as much, no casual questions or anything. Like he was a totally different person. I was on two minds, whether i should go ahead with this or head home. Finally, i told him to stop the bike, i got down and faked a phone call; I didn't want to show him that going with him was a bad idea, wasn't sure how he would've reacted, especially when we were in the middle of nowhere.
After i ended the "fake" conversation, i told him, that i had to leave, my friend is in the hospital.
Now, here's the thing, he didn't ask whether i would be able to get a rick or a cab nor did he ask anything about the phone call. Weirdly enough, he just said "OK" and he took off, not looking back. I quickly walked ahead, found a passerby, asked him for directions, then headed to the main road and quickly booked a cab, all the while hoping he wouldn't come back to check ( out of curiosity )
As i was heading home, i was wondering what would've happened if i had gone to his place. There are times when our minds get clouded, flustered, overwhelmed with the situation ... anything. Tell a close friend where you're going, who you're going with and share the location, vehicle license plate number. Worst case scenario, if there's no update of any sort, your friend can call the police.
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Kkunal001 | Posted On Oct 4, 2022
I had a bad experience in Delhi. I was staying at a hotel in Aerocity.
The day was to return i decided to check out some guys on Grindr.
Met this guy who had a profile pic of a person well known body builder on instagram. I asked him if it was him and he sent me few more pictures. I got convinced and call him over to my hotel, but first thought of meeting him in the lobby.
When he arrived he was totally different guy. It wasnt him in the pictures. He was not bad looking but was not the profile dp. I let my urges get better of me. Agreed to take him to my room.
Once in the room he started acting really weird. Started forcing himself on to me..got aggressive and abusive. When i asked him to leave he started shouting at the top of his voice... I was calm through out, but his temper wasnt going down. He asked me for money and took all the 10K i had with me. Somehow got him out of my room into the hallway and then to the lobby.
Ever since then i never randomly hook up with anyone especially off Grindr. I am extra careful in the North.
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daddyrunner | Posted On Oct 4, 2022
It is a chilling series.
Precisely what i was saying on mis opportunity thread.
Plz make sure no where you lose control of the situation.
And that starts right frm sitting in their car.
Once you are IN and the doors are locked (while sitting inside you donno if the child lock is ON or not) you are stuck.
Unless and until you are very sure of the other person don't go to any confined places with him.
When you feel something is not right, if you are in public place , just leave, just walk away, no need to fake any scenario or give any reason. Don't bother he will feel bad and all, that is his problem. Your priority is to stay safe.
If you are at secluded place, like lonely road or something, think of an excuse to leave without antagonising him. You don't want to upset him, while you are in his territory.
Always, before meeting have a voice call with that person, and pass on that no.to your friend .this call can be traced if the need arises. And that fear will be enough to make him think twice before doing some stupid things. No whtsapp call, i think that can't be traced.
As mentioned above have a trusted friend to know where your are going.
If you feel danger, then without being ashamed, shout, attract atttention.
More and more I think about these scenarios, more and more i get nervous. |
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daddyrunner | Posted On Oct 4, 2022
Yeah one more,
From kunal's post.
If you see the pics were fake, just back off.
Even if the person before u is reasonably good, he took efforts to hide his identity is a red flag in inself.
Even on GR is somenone has different DP ( not celebrity pic, but some good looking guy next door pic) and he sends some diff pics in convo. Back off..
There is plenty of *** around and you will get your share. No need to be desparate. |
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Kkunal001 | Posted On Oct 4, 2022
@daddyrunner those were early days of social media for me and in general as well. 2016 Instagram wasn't what it is today.
But you are right. Lessons learnt the hard way. I'd rather give up on *** than find myself in a situation like this again |
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mat40 * | Posted On Oct 4, 2022
@daddyrunner. Totally on point! It's effing freaky though, meeting someone at cruising spots or on GR ... trust is big deal. Never know when the other person will lose his marbles. |
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raju1987 | Posted On Oct 4, 2022
I have experienced such 3 incidents in my life back in 2010 through PR then in 2012 through Nimbuzz chating app then in 2013offline cruising.
In all 3 scenes I was beaten and was robbed in first 2 scenes.
Since then I have lost all that trust and even if person is normal I always have those sensations that I shouldn't trust the person. Have stopped cruising since then and even if I go I don't carry anything except my phone. |
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