Ways to deal with an inactive partner
Hi. Has anyone ever faced with dealing with an inactive partner? I have a partner in my building who was very kinky but now seems very inactive. Any suggestions how to deal with it? Btw i have tried talking toys etc but the reply always is he wants to go slow now Reply/Post a comment
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bottomboyvicky | Posted On Feb 14, 2022
People have phases. Give him sometime.
Or the other possibility is that the fizz between the both of you is over for him. So move on... |
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Patricknorman | Posted On Feb 14, 2022
Its not that he doesn't like ***. He just stopped doing anything non penetrative |
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Sammie031 | Posted On Feb 20, 2022
Hi there Patricknorman,
Why don't you sit down with your partner and have a chat. Everyone has needs, maybe your partner is unable or uncomfortable to share something that may be the reason. Or stress or something that may lead to lowered *** drive.
I read your profile, and trust me I've done some kinky things to my tops. But certain times I've lost interest in them or sometimes I just didn't want to do it (I felt pressured). I dont know you but, I'm sure you're a great partner, I believe having a nice chat with your partner may help you.
Try to understand what do they need.
Do they want to explore and experiment more with their sexuality?
Are they in a situation where they're unable to have any sexual contact because of onset of stress which could range anywhere from, work life to stuff at home.
Do they wish to include someone else in the relationship to spice up things in the bedroom ?
Do they want more foreplay ? Etc,
Hope that helps.
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Darkstarchild | Posted On Feb 21, 2022
depends on the relationship Personally life,, especially in the pandemic is tricky, emotionally and sexually too. Relationships have had a storm and everyone is realigning and discovering new truths. So if I had an inactive partner, I would first consider the person, obviously. Is this an only sexual thing and I'm not receiving what we both connected over.. Then I let go... let go gently of a lover.. and it was sad.. but it meant it was time perhaps...
But if it's not just sexual.. then gotta weigh out what's worth sticking out with. Figure out what's missing, or sometimes we just need some time off. It's healthy, I believe. But never force yourself to be miserable for the sake of another person (not if you really don't want to. the answer is clear), if it's not working for you.. and you've tried waiting, talking, communicating.. you have to the the right to do what you want to be happy.. :) just be mindful and considerate.
But always stand for sexual and mental sanity. yours first. cause only in giving do we make room to receive. (Or don't, who am i to judge hahahaah) |
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Dombot26 | Posted On Mar 3, 2022
Hey it's pretty common that one of the guy gets less interested or active in bed , but sometimes it's pretty simple to get them back to their earlier level by using toys and *** games.
If that doesn't work then try taking it slow for some time and try to understand his problem , sometimes age and say to day pressure are a big factors ,if u guys aren't in a serious relationship then try a threesome with a very active guy , I have been the third guy in 3 cases and it did work well, I heard that their partners had success .
Even after all this he isn't active and you aren't satisfied then walk out dear . You deserve better . |
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sameer143347 | Posted On Mar 4, 2022
Okay so i have something to say and it is my prespective..so please dont feel disrespected or annoyed or irritated.
I have seen someof them asking or suggesting to get out of relationship if the partner has become inactive for some or the other reason. May be he has lost interest in *** and this normally happens sometimes...
That person is a partner your partner for a reason..you saw something in him and then choose him as your partner. Choosing a partner is not based only on how good he is on bed. There are other things at work too. So instead of supporting him or trying to figure out and helping him we are advised to walk out.
Walking out is the easiet option and the most convinent. But then that would make you someone who is looking out only for *** and nothing else. The best part we then say that gays or bis are never stable, they think only about ***, it is difficult to find a partner for us. Dont you think that this makes us hypocrite of the highest level.
Commenting such as you deserve better or best is like saying that if he is not interested then you are free to whore around or your sexual health or mental health is priority is like saying that your mental health is purely based on your sexual health and my brain likes in my balls or *** and nothing else.
The way should be not to give up on him. That will be a test of your character and values. This is what people find it sexy.
All i am saying is this is my opinion and please dont get offended. |
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Dombot26 | Posted On Mar 6, 2022
As I said before,if it isn't a long term relationship then why stick around somebody who doesn't appreciate you or your happiness . First try everything that's possible to help the situation then talk about it, even after a long time he doesn't change or isn't willing to change then just walk out , there's nothing wrong with it.
Why suffer and be unhappy in a relationship and pretend to be happy . Life is short , have fun .
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ItsMayank | Posted On Mar 15, 2022
In 6 years of relationship, I dealt with an inactive partner... He was fine on talking erotica, spooning and body *** to some extent. Not beyond., to me the person was important and the relationship was valued and so I never felt it as a concern or a problem to run away. Not boasting about myself but I was monogamous as long as we were in a relationship.
*** is important I agree, but once u find the value of the person you tend to mend your ways, crumble your inner self and place this person as a priority... This is exactly what I did without regrets...
The aftermath was a massive breakup, but that's not was were discussing..
-----My perspective---- |
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Lustforyou | Posted On Jan 26, 2023
Hi guys came across this thread..I see it's been inactive in a way good people are happy with their partners I guess😜
Just wanted to share my experience get someone else perspective. Been with this guy "Top" for many years he wants a loyal partner who just sleeps with him. So I was ok coz risk wise it made sense in my head anyways. In the beginning everything was fine he loves to get *** slow passionately like a gf would give her guy which I love giving.. he used to *** talk good was commanding in his tone at the same time passionate which I love..used to tell me I *** you like a *** ur my bitch etc..the usually dominating types which I love too..used to pin me down on his bed Lick me kiss I used to feel over powered not just physical but mentally and emotionally too wow loved it as was and still exploring my feminine side and love being submissive for my partner.
The problem starts here...
It's been 5 years his demands are I want you to shave ur full body,don't meet anyone else,be free at his beck and call,travel to his place always never comes to mine and don't chat with ur previous guys u have been with etc.. I did each and everything..not once has he ever *** me just gives me talks gets me all sexed up..then when I visit him he just lays on the bed like a dead person gets *** and cums after that all he wants is just getting *** and when I literally beg him to *** me coz am so *** by then he is like next time this has being going on forever..
The worse part is I used to meet this guy before him whose place I cross when I go to meet him and that guy did all of the above but used to be *** all the time he could not stop Take his hands off my *** off me was just like he used to pounce on me that feeling used to make me feel like am sexy for him and I used to get turned on. And tho his size was small to avg hands down the best I ever had till date..used to *** like a river and I loved it be drenched in it..it was like he was always wating for my call and he came to my place things ended with that guy because in his *** *** drive he used to bite and leave marks i was ok with it till nipples body parts where it is covered altho I didn't like it but he used to bite and leave marks on my neck i live with my family and had to stop meeting him only for that reason lost his contact no. I feel so bad I can't contact him. His amount of *** damn I wish I meet him again will let him *** me like his whore
This current guy *** just like a dead person on the bed has *** my *** drive and done just messaged him doesn't even respond to text BTW he is gay and lives alone so don't know what his problem is but I see him online on planet Romeo and tells me he is sleeping what an *** hole I wasted my time with. Just messaged him he can *** off and posted this
Wish me luck here |
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