Is it difficult being a bottom psychologically? i mean in a conservative society like India and where being a member of LGBT community is seen with hatred . have you ever came across a person who treated you just to fulfill their desires and have looked down upon you for being a bottom..lets share our thoughts
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CrazyCruiser | Posted On Sep 19, 2018
Gawd, this is such a self-deprecating discussion. I mean, instead of sharing your bad experiences, you can just be assertive. It doesn't even take any physical strength to be so. It looks you guys require a gay-version of the feminism movement where "bots" are given equal rights (such as equal blowjob time, ensuring that the top makes you ***, cuddles after ***)! Are bottoms women that people can easily deny them a whole bunch of things even if they try to ask for them? Just the way charity begins at home, victimisation begins at home too. Stop seeing yourself as a victim and people will treat you as the way you want them to. You're not stuck in a forced arranged marriage that you have to keep on sobbing like this as if it's your destiny.
In fact this whole "bottom" categorisation is done by the regressive guys (straight and/or gay) just because theirs is an insertive role, which can be compared with that of women in a heteronormative relation. And this shitty thinking is pretty much prevalent in third world countries like India, because of the status of women here. Submissive doesn't mean lesser self-respect. It's a sexual preference, not a real life behaviour and attitude. And it is YOU bottoms who need to impress that upon your man. Stop *** being a sissy and go on PMSing in a forum.
(I'm ranting like this as if I'm a macho top. I'm not. I'm flexible versatile, with right kind of thinking.) |
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Gulfisaforever | Posted On Sep 19, 2018
I m not sure if you guys are on the same page. We were, or at least I was talking abt the supercilious attitude of ppl who are tops n think they are above versatiles or bottons. Nothing to do with what goes on in bed during an intercourse. It extends to other areas. Anyways, enough said.
Crazycruiser, u seem to have this personality trait of exploding into a rant out of the blue, nd spit venom towards others needlessly. Be careful abt wht u say. Even grindr is introducing the concept of 'kindr'. Be considerate of what u say. Rather than just playing the blame game etc. |
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dirtypig788 | Posted On Oct 20, 2018
this definitely most debatable topic in gay ***...i can clearly say..mostly straight guys who could not find a girl need some one for ***.. its based on my experience...Sometimes even i never had atleast warm hug,.. then no talk after ***...
i would say even before you have ***...just try to find whether he is straight/bi/curious/gay... then you can atleast don't get disappointed even if he didnt touch you as your mind is already set.. |
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dirtypig788 | Posted On Nov 15, 2018
This was my curious question I want to ask...in *** .. why top cannot kiss bottom.. what he is trying to prove here.. he is very well aware that he going have *** with guy.. but it’s to bad to use another guy as object.. |
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bisxxdman | Posted On Nov 15, 2018
@dirtypig - a real gay top or even a real bi-top would always kiss,hug,bite,lick a bottom as a male does to a female.
But not all here are real. Many men here masquerading as pure tops just want their *** *** or *** a ***. They don't do anything to please a bottom because they are not gays/bis but straight men many into sexless marriage wanting a relief but doesn't have either guts to patao another female or means ( money,place,etc) to have a affair or both.
These are selfish pathetic men best avoided. |
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dirtypig788 | Posted On Nov 15, 2018
@bisxxdman , Pure Tops .. I hate that word.. I have watched lot of videos from foreign countries .. even though that guys is Straight . want to have *** with Men .. First thing they do is kiss.. Thats the respect you are giving to other guys
But only in Indian gay world we are not eligible to get a kiss also . :( |
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Valentine84 | Posted On Nov 15, 2018
@dirtypig - hope you would have read my comment about tops in this same thread. There nothing as 'pure tops' in Indian context. Cos the guys who claim themselves as pure tops are merely desperate straights. These self proclaimed " pure tops" are not man enough to find a girl to *** and so they exploit a gay guy and try to use them as a bottom. They don't kiss. They don't *** but they expect the bottom as their *** object alone. To your question on " WHAT ARE THEY TRYING TO PROVE HERE"?
Well the answer is simple. These self proclaimed "pure tops" are merely cowardice who can't tackle their own self ego and so they act this way just to Virtually satisfy their otherwise inferiority complex levels.
TOPS - A top is one who GIVES pleasure to a bottom. If he merely TAKES pleasure using a bottom he is not a top.
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Lips4hugepoles | Posted On Nov 15, 2018
Being a bottom, i hardly ever faced any prejudice. But probably because I'm still in the closet so i don't know.
But my partners are usually pretty nice with me.
About the whole kissing thing : i prefer being kissed by my top. But it's ok if he doesn't like kissing. I've dated guys who don't kiss me but i still get good pleasure during ***. Hell, in fact when i started off as a bottom, got the first several years I was so oblivious, i didn't allow any tops to smooch me, until one guy finally insisted and i allowed. After that i couldn't stop. But I guess it's more of a personal choice. No big deal |
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wingedcupid | Posted On Nov 16, 2018
What an irony this world has...few of my lamentations..
1. A straight guy is ready to *** a girl even if she resembles a hippopotamus but will never agree to give *** to a cute gay man
2. So many movie songs praise female body and objectifies but they hardly adore mens beauty
3. At work you toil hard yet get no attention but so many men in project wants to talk to some good looking girl
4. You watch in *** indian women lying like a dead wood whereas hungry men sweat and crave over her body
4. My personal exp.. Once a cute guy came and sat opposite to me in a train. He was damn hot. I was listening to some songs and didnt focus on him. He was not able to sit quietly and kept asking me something. I was going to cloud nine whenever he struck a conversation but to my dismay the gimmicks are all for 2 girls who were sitting besides me! Damn damn!!!
Why is the whole world appearing to me running behind triangles? Dont we deserve some attention
It is because that the society is blind/ignorant towards male attention, this gets etched on tops mind that *** is only with girls. With this mentality, guys they just wanna spread their legs, make us ***. No boobs press or hug or kiss. Its ok to go to an extent of drinking anything coming of woman for them ;) ( excuse my vulgarity)
Ps: i avoid such deadwoods. Thanks to xdressing i get men who adores me within 4 walls at least..sigh
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versbang | Posted On Nov 16, 2018
Really? I'm a versatile top. How can a person directly *** or ask u to *** without a kiss hug or body play? How will he get into mood? |
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Apb | Posted On Nov 16, 2018
It's just a narrow minded tops ,with selfish mind,and some with lack of knowledge too act like this ,, but with out love and care to each other, without total involvement, of mind N body , no *** / action is COMPLETE .. |
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wingedcupid | Posted On Nov 16, 2018
@versbang why not? I can have *** with women like that. Not attracted to their bodies mentally but still can poke mine into them, hump till they get climax . Perhaps same way for the st8 guys..so ur comment made me feel that u should not complain about this :)
Also such st8 guys meet mostly at desperate times which actually doesnt require desperate measure to keep their *** stand! |
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hotbotpop | Posted On Jul 19, 2021
I've never been desperate for ***. I look reasonably manly and do boys stuff lol. But as a bottom, I love it if tops are dominating and take charge in bed. Especially if they are masculine with big ***. But I don't like to be treated without respect out of bed. If anyone dare to do that, I'll leave them right away giving a piece of my mind. Thankfully none of the tops have ever been disrespectful to me so far other than during *** as I specifically ask them to verbally abuse/dominate while at ***. And usually I'm the first to ***, so many a times I leave the tops high and dry half way. I would be laughing on the way back thinking of that, evil fun :D |
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ToBeFreeinLyf | Posted On Jul 19, 2021
The short answer would be 'yes'. Being a feminine bottom, I've always been treated as someone soft and weak, someone who can be dominated easily and overuled. And so when I say no to someone, the usual response is abuse, some go to the point of harassing through fake accounts after you block them. Most, yes most tops are of the opinion that a bottom cannot reject them, why? Because they have a ***. It's as if nobody else does and that gives them privileges. So yes, bottoms do face prejudice. |
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Dombot26 | Posted On Mar 11, 2022
Yes yes and yes . The word bottom for many is just a guy with a hole ready to take anyone's ***, that's the majority of the mentality out there in the society and that's shocking and disgusting.They think bottoms or sometimes vers shouldn't be given a option to choose his partner.
Being a dominant guy , I experience this sort of prejudice and harassment from many guys here, the words they use and their mentality are just so repulsive and nauseous.
I had to delete my last profile becoz of some *** like that .And there are other bottoms out there preaching "we are born to satisfy tops" or "bottoms have no rights" guys you are bottoms yes but a submissive slave is your tittle so don't include every other bottom out there to your so called slaves to *** group .
Bottoms or vers both are humans and have feelings and are free to choose their partners.if anyone says otherwise or abuses you then just ignore them. |
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Dombot26 | Posted On Mar 11, 2022
But I also have to mention that in my experience so far I have met so many genuine guys who are understanding and caring and kind to their partners.
Not all tops have the same mentality , there are genuine gentlemens out there .Who listen to you , who speak their mind ,who aren't afraid to explore their fetishes.
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hotbotpop | Posted On Mar 11, 2022
I'm a bottom but not the girly type. Other guys in work and outside respect me a lot and they assume I'm straight.
When cruising, the tops are usually respectful. Once in a while, I've faced rough tops who don't care a damn and I sort of like that during ***. But not always (complex needs I know :P)
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Bins | Posted On Mar 14, 2022
Genuine tops often respect bottoms as a partner. I am a bottom, and except one guy, I've had good experiences with the others. I am not girly and not ready to cross dress either.
I do love a little bit of roughness and love to be spanked while being *** and all that. Except the desperate hole seekers, who behave to be an entitled lot because of their possession, the others have been largely good |
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Rohitdadaq | Posted On Mar 14, 2022
I am vers....
With bottoms I *** .ND make sure they get an orgasm
With tops...I *** if I'm getting *** .I eat *** if I'm getting eaten 😋
Foreplay has got nothing to do with being top or bot ...I have had tops who like foreplay ND cuddling after *** as well |
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slaveforyou | Posted On Mar 16, 2022
I agree with @rohitdadaq. It's all about pleasure and self satisfaction. Be explorer and explore your body 😉
Being versatile I too come accross many tops who are just intrested in screwing and the only thing they need is *** to rub their genital. Avoid meeting such kind of guys who are self centred and just focus on their pleasure. These dnt care about the bottom or other person. Try and wait till the guy with whom you vibe and understand you irrespective of role or position you play. |
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Gemini94 | Posted On Jul 12, 2026
It's all depends on your mindset..I am bottom and I feel really awesome with this fact.. |
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MasterGuy29 | Posted On Jul 14, 2026
Labels are useful for understanding ourselves, but they become a problem when we start using them to judge others.
Over the years, I’ve seen people get so caught up in roles that they forget there is a person behind them. I’ve met confident people who still carried insecurities, and quiet people who had more self-awareness than those trying hardest to prove themselves.
Being a bottom is not a measure of someone’s strength, personality, or worth. It is one part of a person, not the whole person.
The biggest thing I’ve learned is that trust is not something to take for granted. When someone is open about a side of themselves they may hide from the rest of the world, that deserves understanding, not judgment.
Everyone has their own journey. Don’t reduce someone to a label. Take time to know the person behind it. |
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Pixel | Posted On Jul 15, 2026
Do bottoms face Prejudices? I find this very "INTRIGUING." Such prejudices usually exit in countries where men has male chauvinistic attitude. In south America countries
and Asian countries, especially, the muslim countries where top/active gay don't consider themselves as gay because they are the penetrator and hold a dominant position in ***
hence, they are the "Macho Man" and you are a "pussyboy". They develop this macho attitude due to social environment depending on their culture, tradition and religion.
And surprisingly, these macho gays are not aware how biased and rediculous they are. Top or bottom it's just a sexual preference where one enjoys the most or sometimes it's
the mood when a gay who is versatile, would like to play as a top or a bottom. Gays who have macho attitude or labels the bottom are biased and narrow minded.
As per my personal experience, I don't enjoy *** with such macho gays because they don't do much in bed and they have lots of " I don't do that & this" such as, I don't kiss, I don't ***,
I don't hug and I don't talk; you bend over and I *** you and say good bye. I don't waste my time with such gays, usually, I stay away from them. |
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USABottomUncle | Posted On Jul 16, 2026
@Pixel I agree with your comments. As a foreigner bottom I feel privileged when an Indian top wants to use me. I am focused on giving him pleasure and if I can make him relaxed enough to let me be submissive and degraded through rough *** I am happy. I know what I am in the bedroom and it makes me happy to obey. |
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Mnbvcxxz_r * | Posted On Jul 30, 2026
Well u have never met anyone but chat with many.
So most of the top says, they don't kiss, hugs, cuddles ,talking,chatting etc. It's like just want to use bottom as *** toy only.
And one thing I never understand why top call them straight. Bro agar straight hote toh ladke k saath kyu physical hona chahte ho. Accept that u r bisexual or homosexual.
Puri duniya k saamne na sahi atleast gay sites pe toh jooth mat bolo.
Mujhme bhi himmat nahi duniya ko face karne ki ya closet se bahar aane ki. But yaha I do accept that I'm into men.
Ladko ki leni bhi hai aur straight straight chilllana bhi hai. And what with some bottoms, why they behave like *** toys or *** workers.
Kahi bhi kisi k saath bhi bina commitment k sone k liye ready ho jaate hai. Have some self respect dear.
Well that's my personal opinion those who don't agree with me can simply ignore my comment |
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bharat007 | Posted On Jul 30, 2026
rightly said! Mnb...
even in gay world so many people behave so illiterate/creepy! I'm bored as hell both here and in insta, if my friends be open about being bi then I wouldn't be in any of these sites
frankly with friends whom you're emotionally connected, I find more pleasurable to spend time with them rather than some random guy I agreed to meet with through sites |
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intimate_muses | Posted On Jul 30, 2026
Couldn’t agree more @Mnbvcxxz
Most of the people who call themselves tops are just hungry and in need for ***
Else if you are into it there’s no chance you don’t like kissing, foreplay and body play ….there has to be some love in the intimate moments else it’s just no fun for the other person…!!
Anyways …!! |
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Jishan9930 | Posted On Jul 30, 2026
As a Muslim and being bottom is very hard. I meet many guys who shows themselves as bisexual but in reality they are just straight guy who just want to get their *** *** and wants clean *** to ***. No romance, no foreplay, no kissing. Just use and throw they want |
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BRIEF87 | Posted On Jul 31, 2026
Yes, a lot. I am a bottom myself, and I have met guys just want a quick release. Threy do not like kiss, no touches, not even a handjob, no romance. Just a *** for their meat. |
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TwilightPet | Posted On Jul 31, 2026
Had the worst experience today, lately apart from occasional cruising i haven't been meeting people... So I decided to meet this one guy who has been bugging me for a while., On chat he was like so romantic n stuff but in reality he was just a straight guy trying to get something feminine (which I don't try to be anymore cus i think tops don't bother about this stuff a lot vibes matter more) so I went to meet him he showed me the bed while he wrestled with the lock on his door then he got naked and told me to do the same no kissing no foreplay i literally wanted to leave but I thought to myself let's just do it.. so I gave him a bj and the whole time the guy just lay there with his eyes closed no moans no holding my head or any kind of response I started doubting myself and just stopped which he took as a signal for *** and I went with the flow because I wanted to feel something too.. so I tried to ride him (because I feel the most comfortable in this position) but he was like nope let's switch i kept insisting but he didn't listen and we ended up doing doggy style and he lasted for a minute even though the whole time he kept talking about my studies and career(nothing sexy about that
) and in the end he was like if you know of any job vacancies let me know, I didn't want to shame him but I was like bhaiya I am a hookup not your consultant i just stormed out of his place feeling disappointed... Is it really that hard to find a real top guy and not some desperate straight man |
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Vijay077 | Posted On Aug 2, 2026
Me jo ye profile pe pure tops, straight tops likhte he na unko to bahot galiya deta hu unki amma behan pe agar wo meri profile padhe bina mujhe msg karte he to.... Mene mere GR ke profile pe strictly likha he "dogs and Pure tops /straights not allowed bolke.... 😜😜 |
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dals | Posted On Aug 3, 2026
frankly, i dont care what others think bout me when i get ***, i enjoy and crave |
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Cruiser2021 | Posted On Aug 4, 2026
In my experience elder tops are so much more polite then younger tops. Younger ones are many times use and throw. I always prefer elder tops. |
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