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How to become attractive?

Submitted by newbieforum Location: All India (All India, India)

I have never been groped in electric train or bus or anywhere in the public by strangers. No stranger seems to have interest in staring at me or complimenting me. And no one ever expressed liking in me yet. Wondering if it is because I am unattractive or just bad luck.

Thus, starting a topic to discuss how to become more attractive.

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Posted On May 10, 2018 - 11:31 AM

Dude.. It's an old saying but it holds good "BEAUTY IS IN THE EYES OF THE BEHOLDER" .. Do you think that the guys who get gropped in the train or approached in the public are the handsome most ? Not at all..

You learn to love yourself.. Learn to carry yourself well.. Learn to present yourself.. All these will make you will attract yourself to you.. You don't need someone to approach you for a sexual motive to reiterate you are attractive..

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Posted On May 10, 2018 - 01:47 PM

in General attraction comes from within! it all depends how you feel inside yourself makes you the most attractive. The inner glow counts
i have seen so many normal colored and normal built or even chubby guys but something i their eyes or smile or their energy attracts me. its not the looks that matter, its the energy that you carry within and how contagious and infectious that energy is makes u more attractive.

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Posted On May 10, 2018 - 05:10 PM

Well said Valentine and gayspark. It's true, start liking you, appreciate the beauty within you, wear a genuine smile all the time which is gifted to all human beings, which will make u to like others and things will happen naturally. I have tried both being neutral and straight face and a smiling face. Experiment and experience! Some days it's like everyone that you see look beautiful, I enjoyed and had great energy on those days and others start reciprocating those days, it's true , u can try

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Posted On May 11, 2018 - 04:37 AM

@gayspark....i know this is forum where each can post their opinion and views, i could not understand what you meant by "normal color" and "even chubby guys"....

Who decides what is normal and abnormal?

While you have tried to highlight that one should not worry about how others think and individual should have self confidence that will reflect as positive energy, which is 100% correct, not sure if you approach the issue in same mind set....

Just my thought...am sorry for nitpicking...

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Posted On May 11, 2018 - 05:12 AM

While I agree with what has been said above, the fact of the matter is that physical looks, how one looks & conducts oneself plays a major part in attracting others. Specially in scenerios mentioned by the Op.

There are definitely things one can do to make oneself more attractive from that perspective.

First and foremost is confidence. If one considers oneself worthy enough he will be able to behave in a way that attracts others. This definitely works.

Then there are other factors. Like you should keep yourself fit. A fit body is automatically attractive. It is indeed nature's barometer for saying how a person is fit to be a potential mate! You don't need to be muscled or even toned. Just being in good shape helps. Doing few exercises and keeping yourself physically active helps a lot. Of course being more athletic and/or toned will take it even further.

Then comes grooming. This also helps a lot. If one is well groomed, even a average looking guy can look very attractive. Personal hygiene and keeping oneself properly groomed goes a long way. Grooming could be keeping your hair (facial and otherwise) trimmed and not to leave them unkempt. Keeping your skin properly clean and clear (requires discipline and daily effort), keeping nails and hands well maintained etc.

Then comes how you dress. One does not need to be fashion aware to be well dressed. The fitting of what you wear goes a long way. Even if you buy good or expensive brands but if they are not a good fit, you will look shabby. Pick up clothes that fit you well. If you are not fashion literate take help from others to pick up clothes (friends who are typically well dressed).

Last but not the least, conduct yourself in a confident and positive manner. A smile goes a long way in making you 10x more attractive than you already are. People are naturally attracted towards a person who seems happy.

Take care of these things and I'm sure you will automatically feel the change and become more attractive for others. It will help your confidence level in not just love/social life but in all aspects of your live including workplace.

Don't expect to become attractive overnight. One has to work towards it. Put in the efforts and you will see the results.

Best of Luck!

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Posted On May 11, 2018 - 06:06 AM

@iluv2cruise, don't be sorry at all. I'm glad you asked me. We are in different colors, so can't say which is normal colors n which is fair, my interpretation of fair is different to others. I have been the chubbiest guy during my school days, so I can relate what I went through.

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Posted On May 11, 2018 - 10:40 AM

Go to gym

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Posted On May 11, 2018 - 11:35 AM

While chatting with my prospective date I try to find out what he likes. Accordingly I prepare myself. For example I'll dress for him or wear a particular type of perfume or talk on his favourite subjects. That way I'm attractive to him. Other than cleanliness and smiling etc.

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Posted On May 11, 2018 - 03:12 PM

Hi going to gym doesn't make one attractive. There is always something special you can find in one person regardless of looks or attire or anything else. If that spark you can find you will fall head over heels for that person.
I did fall for couple of ppl here in ohmojo with whom I felt a connection right away. Even if they don't chat with me or don't agree with me I still keep thinking if them. I know they too like kefir what I am.
I know you are reading this n know that I am talking about you.

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Posted On May 11, 2018 - 08:50 PM

Ohh this is really nice discussion..So now whatever u r going to read it is completely coming from inexperienced person in this area๐Ÿ˜‹

Firstly public groping is 80% times never about perfect looks and perfect color . It is all about how much *** and desperate the other person is.

Secondly sometimes your behavior and innocent looks makes you unreachable. And people will avoid to approach you. They might think it is above their reach.

Sometimes we skip the signals and act like ignorant of all( I was totally umaware of the signals. I likes a guy he used to stare me in eyes but I never got to understand ๐Ÿ˜‹ but thanks to ohmojo,now I did PhD in this department๐Ÿ˜›)

Most importantly just dress up properly whatever u wears. And try to talk to people and talk about anything then in conversation also u might get some signals๐Ÿ˜‰

And most importantly if u r not getting any signals then u try to give signals. Everyone wants first u and first u.

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Posted On May 14, 2018 - 09:55 AM

My two cents on this is that "whatever your appearance, there is always someone out there who finds you attractive". I remember when I was younger and had a head full of hair and youthfull looks, I hardly got anyone to be interested in me. Now I am 44, grey hair and bald head. I am having many more people getting attracted to me. I am not sure its because of the look of maturity that it brings on.
Also my personal choice of men are not the handsome looking men with adonis like body. I prefer the tough looking guys- more the rowdy looking guys who others might find repulsive looking.
So as they say" beauty is in the eyes of the beholder"

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Posted On Jun 5, 2018 - 02:44 AM

I keep wondering how can i make my *** look more fleshy.is there any medicine that can make my *** have a "Bubble butt" effect.i am for top gays around the world and love to be used as their slave in bed

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Posted On Jun 5, 2018 - 05:36 AM

@sam50- There are certain exercises which can get you firm and round butts. Some kind of squats and lunges actually firm ur buttock region. Just try in you tube video. Exercises for bubble butts

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Posted On Jun 9, 2018 - 07:14 AM

Want to know what should i do to increase flesh in my ***.is oxytocin injection good ? or any massage oild.i want to be a bitch when presented to top gays

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Posted On Jul 2, 2018 - 01:06 PM

So how about face masks, clay,... any one into these profits ??

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Posted On Jul 30, 2021 - 02:40 PM

Hey, does anyone know any pill or medicine that helps to loose weight and loose it fast?

Yes I know calorie deficit, nutritional diet, exercises, walk 40 mins, alternate day cardio and weight sessions.. know all of it.

I'm talking about pills that sheds 25-30 kgs in 2-3 months. If it's there? Costs? Side effects (coz I'm kinda desperate, so willing!!)

Would appreciate if anyone from fitness industry or medical field suggests something

PS. I've tried green tea extract pills, steroids - anawar, growth hormones n peptides.. please suggest something effective in real!

Thanks in advance.

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Posted On Jul 31, 2021 - 02:25 PM

First of all al many said earlier you need to feel beautiful and attractive from inside

Focus on being healthy and happy and your energy will attract right kind of people towards you

Stop underestimating your self n love your self be happy

That's it

You don't need expensive diet medicine or gym

Eat healthy homemade food , exercise and I'm saying again be happy and positive

Have a blessed life bro ๐Ÿ˜Š

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Posted On Aug 7, 2021 - 03:52 PM

run 2-5 Km daily, you will loose that indian fatty body

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Posted On Aug 8, 2021 - 12:16 PM

It depends on your role or preference.. you might have a dream bod that you wanna achieve according to your preference. So if your body allows you to work for your goal then the only key is hardwork and if your body just can't get to that point just accept yourself.. trust me, the biggest critic of yourself is you and which is quite great tbh cus then you strive to be your best version that's what we should aim for.. goodluck you are awesome and so beautiful

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Posted On Sep 14, 2023 - 07:00 AM

How a Bottom can develop Bubble Butt ? Any specific exercises or medicines.

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Posted On Sep 14, 2023 - 08:06 AM

@toni_kumar do squats daily. It will help :)

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Posted On Sep 14, 2023 - 10:53 AM

Naughty_dom I agree with u. I do the same and have got now a sexy ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ˜Š massy bouncy perfect shaped ๐Ÿ‘

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Posted On Sep 14, 2023 - 11:07 AM

I won't say ,looks don't matter, they does alot actually, but people don't ask such looks everytime, an average looking guy have as much chance as any good looking one, now if you want to be attractive,being healthy fit,sense of clothes and little grooming can make it happen easily,but the most important thing which will effect on every person,good looking or not is a good nice personality.

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Posted On Sep 14, 2023 - 02:12 PM

A good soul which never know cheating, a real smile, polite behaviour, character.... I guess that's enough to be attractive ...

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Posted On Sep 14, 2023 - 02:40 PM

I will turn 40 this year. After going through a lot in life, I find some of the following things will make myself attractive

1) Loving myself unconditionally - my sexuality, limitations etc.
2) Embracing my physical appearance regardless of whether someone is into me or not - skin tone, facial features, grey hair - Indians attach a lot of weightage to skin tone and fair looks unlike other western countries.
3) Working on my self worth and self esteem
4) Being assertive

Those have helped me not take people and things too seriously and move on with my life with happiness and peace.

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Posted On Sep 15, 2023 - 04:11 AM

Okay I read the main title and I have to ask you, why do you want to get gropped or fondled in a public transport to feel attractive? No offense but it's a very silly thing to seek out public validation to make you feel attractive.

A lot of people have already said it in the discussion thread and I'll say the same thing. You have to love yourself first before the world will love you back. To be called attractive on physical appearance is an absolute understatement.

Again I mean no offense to anyone but I have known a few of these "physically attractive" people with fair skin, gym bods and other attributes and they have turned out to be some of the worst arrogant, entitled, narcissistic sociopaths I have ever encountered.

You want to be attractive? Make peace with who you are, love and pamper yourself as you want to, love the person who you see in your reflection, learn to be your own best friend. Be what you were meant to be and do it with confidence. You will never again feel the need of another person's validation to feel good ever again.

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Posted On Sep 15, 2023 - 05:22 AM

It's very simple actually... stop comparing yourself with people like SRK, Salman etc. They look attractive because of makeup. The best is to embrace your appearance as you are. Remember God has made you unique. Be body positive and depend not on others to say "you look attractive" or vice versa. As @Valentinr84 has said on this forum "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder" is quite true.

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Posted On Sep 15, 2023 - 05:23 AM

I prefer wearing tight shirts and trousers that stretch against my chest and ***. I also like to stick my *** out and walk and offer it to males , especially in trains. Males love fondling my *** in a tight pant, with the shape outlined. Also the cloth against the thighs makes you feel very sexy. I keep my *** and balls outside my underwear so my males can feel my *** easier and see the outline. They get very attracted. You feel a bit naked like this. Several times I have had males fondling my *** in the front and someone feeling my *** behind. I usually press my upper body forward and *** backward so both males get the best grope of my body .

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Posted On Sep 15, 2023 - 06:58 AM

I think Its not fully matter of attraction...its a mixture of possibilities, co-operation, clean ness...and circumstances

If you thinking only about looks its nit fair...anyone looks for otherone on above all points tht I feel...

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Posted On Sep 15, 2023 - 07:30 AM

Look really matter a lot. Usually in every field we like attractive people or smart. Sometimes we choose attractive guy for fun or sometimes we are rejected due to lรฒok or pic. It is true that inner beauty is important but practically how u look really matter based on first impression other qualities comes un picture later.

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Posted On Sep 15, 2023 - 09:10 AM

So many views and suggestions, I appreciate all the messages in the thread. Let me tel you my story.....I am turning 53 nxt month m 5.6 tall 64 kg waist 30 wheatish complexion slightly on the darker side. During my early 40s I was 74kg with little grey mush and fat arround my waist and belly in short i was chubby. Guys use to find me attractive and I had encounters with strangers also through FB dating apps and at cruising spots as well. That time I got rejected as well because of my skin colour, weight some times etc etc....
I started controlling my weight due to medical reason and now am what I mentioned. Still I get rejection from young guys who like mature as m in shape...ha ...ha...ha.... Young guys look for mature who are fair and fat. In the nut shell it all depends whom you are meeting and I always take it easy.
M happy with my shape, I dress up as per my age and shape and never approach any one too attractive. I look for people who are average looking though look matters and hygiene as well and above all who is interested in Mae......

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Posted On Sep 15, 2023 - 11:10 AM

Eat healthy
Take care of your skin
Hit the gym weekly 5 times OR run , cycling , zumba
Make a new hobby every 6 months
Pamper your self ๐Ÿ’ž
Gift something valuable to yourself
Go for treck, solo traveling and explore the nature