Relationship advices one on one
This thread is for people who had past relationship experience and like to advice to others on one to one basis. Even myself has recently entered into a relationship for first time and some kind of confusions are still going on and wanted to get advice from some one who has past experience. Reply/Post a comment
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Bottomoy9696 * | Posted On Oct 20, 2025
Any top at shashwat hospital looo dm me ?????Any top with place today at 10 pm at deccan Gymkhana or deccan corner dm me .......?Nanded city warje karve nagar shivne nda uttam nagar anu top with place dm me |
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Ranga21 | Posted On Oct 20, 2025
99% of so called relationships in this gay world is only for ***. The day either of you move to a different city the relationship ends. |
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Tryingthisone | Posted On Oct 20, 2025
I feel I’m too young to give anyone advice, but having been through one relationship and another kind of “exploring” phase, maybe I do have something to say.
So, the first one… I met this guy on Tinder. Things were actually going really well. He was attractive, fun to talk to, and we used to go out for lunch almost every weekend. He was always super busy with work, and I had seen that side of him before, so I didn’t want to overthink it. But, of course, I did.
I used to go to his place pretty often since he lived alone. No hookups or anything - I wasn’t/Im not in that phase of my life, and I’m still a virgin. One day, I was at his house, both of us working, and suddenly he connected his phone to earphones and started acting weird. He looked like he was on a call but wasn’t saying anything. He was wearing glasses, and I could literally see a reflection of someone — like a guy’s face(not literally lol, reflection) - in his specs. I was like, what the hell is happening? I asked casually who he was on call with, and he said it was just his colleague, that he didn’t want to disturb me since I was in a meeting. I let it go, thinking maybe it’s just me overthinking again.
Later that night, when he thought I was asleep, he got a call. I saw a guy’s name flash on the screen. He went outside and said something like, “I’ll call you tomorrow, sorry I couldn’t earlier, I was busy with *this guy*,” and he said my name. I heard everything but didn’t react. Next morning, I left his place and tried to move on, but obviously, my brain didn’t stop spinning.
A few days later, he said he was going to his hometown and wouldn’t be available for a while. I said okay, cool. But surprise - he wasn’t in his hometown. He was on a trip with another guy. I saw his Instagram story literally within a minute of it going up - he was holding hands with that guy, holding a rose, all that romantic stuff. I was shattered. I checked again later, and boom, the story disappeared. Guess he realized he forgot to hide it from me.
I didn’t say anything. Stayed quiet, tried to act normal. The next day he texted me, “Hey babes, what’s up?” like nothing happened. I acted fine, didn’t bring it up. Then he randomly said, “Why haven’t you reacted to my reels lately?” and I just said I was busy. He asked if I’d seen any of his posts or stories from yesterday, and I said no. He just said, “Oh okay, was just asking.” I knew exactly why he was asking - he was checking if I saw *that* story.
Anyway, I overthought everything for a whole day and finally decided to talk. I told him, “I wanna say something that might annoy you, but please promise to be calm because I don’t have the energy to fight.” He agreed. I said, “Just answer yes or no. I saw your story. You’re dating someone else, right?” He said yes. “That day at your home, you were on call with someone who wasn’t your colleague, right?” He said yes. “You say you’re busy at work, but you’re actually looking for others, right?” He said yes.
I just said, “Okay, that’s it. It’s a no from me,” and hung up.
He called back, apologizing, saying stuff like, “Since you weren’t into hookups, I had to explore.” That line hit me hard. I was like, seriously? You said hookups don’t matter, that you’re fine with it. If that’s what you wanted, you could’ve just said it. Maybe I’d have thought about it, maybe I’d have said no, maybe yes - but at least it would’ve been honest. He said, “No, I didn’t want you to lose your virginity, I like the way you are.” I was done. I told him to stop the nonsense and ended it there.
But I wanted to sit and have a proper convo, we met and I asked him, cried in a cafe, lol. He tried consoling, no doubt. But I just had to let it go and we parted ways, he pleased me, but it wae upfront no from my side.
He tried reaching out several times after that, but I just couldn’t go back. I was really broken.
So, moral of the story - if someone says they’re not into hookups but still want a relationship, ask them clearly if that’s really their long-term stance or just a temporary phase. Always have open conversations, and always be honest. Trust matters the most. Overthinking sometimes helps, but it can also destroy you, so be careful. And if you’re losing interest in someone, say it. Sit down, talk it out. If it works, great. If not, at least don’t play with someone’s emotions. |
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Tryingthisone | Posted On Oct 20, 2025
So, now talking about the *exploring phase* guy.
He was a really cute guy also met him on Tinder. Things were chill in the beginning. I told him straight up that I didn’t want to rush or say yes immediately, and that I’d rather meet first and see how things go. He totally agreed.
We met for lunch one day, had a nice time - nothing physical, no kiss, just good conversation. Days passed, and we eventually exchanged our Instagram IDs. That’s when I noticed he was really into Pride walks, drag shows, all that. I wasn’t (and still am not) into those things.
Before anyone jumps in - let me make this super clear: I have *zero hatred* or judgment towards any of it. People can do whatever makes them happy, and I totally respect that. It’s just personally not my thing. Just because I’m not into it doesn’t mean I hate it.
Anyway, he told me those were old pictures and that he hadn’t posted new ones yet. I said okay, no problem. But the thing is, earlier when I had asked him directly if he was into all this, he said no. So I asked him - “You told me you weren’t into this stuff, and now you’re saying something else?” He brushed it off, saying, “It’s okay na, leave it. I just like doing it sometimes.”
I was like, dude, if you like it, that’s totally fine, but why lie in the first place? He said, “I was scared of losing you. I wanted to take you to Pride walks and gay parties.” I told him, “Did you even ask me if I was comfortable with that?” He said, “Why ask when you’ll be mine anyway?” I said, “No, that’s not how it works. Just because *you* are okay with something doesn’t mean *I* have to be.”
Then he said, “I thought I could change you. I want you to come into this world.” And that’s when I told him, “Look, I had clearly told you earlier that I’m not into this, and forcing me into something won’t make it right.”
We had a long conversation after that and decided it wasn’t going to work. I just said, “I can’t,” and left it there. (Please note: we did sit and have a detailed conversation, he did apologise for it and realised I was right and was sorry for it too, just can’t type all that here, haha)
Moral of the story: Have open and honest conversations. Don’t lie or misguide someone just to make them stay. Just because *you* like something doesn’t mean your partner should too. Yes, people can change — but that takes time, and it has to come naturally, not through pressure. Don’t assume, “Oh, this person will change for me.” Respect people’s personal space and choices. |
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Tryingthisone | Posted On Oct 20, 2025
Whenever I write something here on Threads, I’ve noticed that some people start conversations out of sympathy - which I truly appreciate - but a few end up steering it into directions I’m not comfortable with, like hookups or other things that don’t align with me.
To those who reach out with genuine care: thank you, sincerely. Your kindness means a lot. I was in a really difficult phase and have been taking therapy regularly - still do, because I genuinely need it and it’s been helping me heal. I’m in a better place now, maybe not at my best yet, but definitely better.
Also, I’ve seen some people ask me for my therapist’s contact when I mention this, but I hope you’ll understand - I’m not comfortable sharing that.
And just to make things clear, since I often get random messages - everyone cannot be everyone’s type, and that’s okay. I have my own preferences, and I’ve mentioned them in my bio so there’s no confusion.
Thank you for understanding and respecting my space :) |
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Vinnnyyyyyyyy | Posted On Oct 20, 2025
Let love be about connection, not labels.
Whether you are a top, bottom, or versatile remember, those are just roles, not your entire identity. What truly matters is emotional depth, mutual respect, and shared affection. Love is not defined by position; it's defined by presence. Don't let routine dull your bond. Surprise each other. Compliment often. Hug longer. Laugh more. Even small gestures, a message, a smile, a shared meal can keep the spark glowing through years.
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Rajan2409 | Posted On Oct 21, 2025
Attractions each others must
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Welcomemylife * | Posted On Oct 21, 2025
Let love be about connection, not labels.
Whether you are a top, bottom, or versatile remember, those are just roles, not your entire identity. What truly matters is emotional depth, mutual respect, and shared affection. Love is not defined by position; it's defined by presence. Don't let routine dull your bond. Surprise each other. Compliment often. Hug longer. Laugh more. Even small gestures, a message, a smile, a shared meal can keep the spark glowing through years.
I appreciate all dear who need real |
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