Relationship advices one on one
This thread is for people who had past relationship experience and like to advice to others on one to one basis. Even myself has recently entered into a relationship for first time and some kind of confusions are still going on and wanted to get advice from some one who has past experience. Reply/Post a comment
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Bottomoy9696 | Posted On Oct 20, 2025
Any top at shashwat hospital looo dm me ?????Any top with place today at 10 pm at deccan Gymkhana or deccan corner dm me .......?Nanded city warje karve nagar shivne nda uttam nagar anu top with place dm me |
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Ranga21 * | Posted On Oct 20, 2025
99% of so called relationships in this gay world is only for ***. The day either of you move to a different city the relationship ends. |
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Tryingthisone | Posted On Oct 20, 2025
I feel I’m too young to give anyone advice, but having been through one relationship and another kind of “exploring” phase, maybe I do have something to say.
So, the first one… I met this guy on Tinder. Things were actually going really well. He was attractive, fun to talk to, and we used to go out for lunch almost every weekend. He was always super busy with work, and I had seen that side of him before, so I didn’t want to overthink it. But, of course, I did.
I used to go to his place pretty often since he lived alone. No hookups or anything - I wasn’t/Im not in that phase of my life, and I’m still a virgin. One day, I was at his house, both of us working, and suddenly he connected his phone to earphones and started acting weird. He looked like he was on a call but wasn’t saying anything. He was wearing glasses, and I could literally see a reflection of someone — like a guy’s face(not literally lol, reflection) - in his specs. I was like, what the hell is happening? I asked casually who he was on call with, and he said it was just his colleague, that he didn’t want to disturb me since I was in a meeting. I let it go, thinking maybe it’s just me overthinking again.
Later that night, when he thought I was asleep, he got a call. I saw a guy’s name flash on the screen. He went outside and said something like, “I’ll call you tomorrow, sorry I couldn’t earlier, I was busy with *this guy*,” and he said my name. I heard everything but didn’t react. Next morning, I left his place and tried to move on, but obviously, my brain didn’t stop spinning.
A few days later, he said he was going to his hometown and wouldn’t be available for a while. I said okay, cool. But surprise - he wasn’t in his hometown. He was on a trip with another guy. I saw his Instagram story literally within a minute of it going up - he was holding hands with that guy, holding a rose, all that romantic stuff. I was shattered. I checked again later, and boom, the story disappeared. Guess he realized he forgot to hide it from me.
I didn’t say anything. Stayed quiet, tried to act normal. The next day he texted me, “Hey babes, what’s up?” like nothing happened. I acted fine, didn’t bring it up. Then he randomly said, “Why haven’t you reacted to my reels lately?” and I just said I was busy. He asked if I’d seen any of his posts or stories from yesterday, and I said no. He just said, “Oh okay, was just asking.” I knew exactly why he was asking - he was checking if I saw *that* story.
Anyway, I overthought everything for a whole day and finally decided to talk. I told him, “I wanna say something that might annoy you, but please promise to be calm because I don’t have the energy to fight.” He agreed. I said, “Just answer yes or no. I saw your story. You’re dating someone else, right?” He said yes. “That day at your home, you were on call with someone who wasn’t your colleague, right?” He said yes. “You say you’re busy at work, but you’re actually looking for others, right?” He said yes.
I just said, “Okay, that’s it. It’s a no from me,” and hung up.
He called back, apologizing, saying stuff like, “Since you weren’t into hookups, I had to explore.” That line hit me hard. I was like, seriously? You said hookups don’t matter, that you’re fine with it. If that’s what you wanted, you could’ve just said it. Maybe I’d have thought about it, maybe I’d have said no, maybe yes - but at least it would’ve been honest. He said, “No, I didn’t want you to lose your virginity, I like the way you are.” I was done. I told him to stop the nonsense and ended it there.
But I wanted to sit and have a proper convo, we met and I asked him, cried in a cafe, lol. He tried consoling, no doubt. But I just had to let it go and we parted ways, he pleased me, but it wae upfront no from my side.
He tried reaching out several times after that, but I just couldn’t go back. I was really broken.
So, moral of the story - if someone says they’re not into hookups but still want a relationship, ask them clearly if that’s really their long-term stance or just a temporary phase. Always have open conversations, and always be honest. Trust matters the most. Overthinking sometimes helps, but it can also destroy you, so be careful. And if you’re losing interest in someone, say it. Sit down, talk it out. If it works, great. If not, at least don’t play with someone’s emotions. |
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Tryingthisone | Posted On Oct 20, 2025
So, now talking about the *exploring phase* guy.
He was a really cute guy also met him on Tinder. Things were chill in the beginning. I told him straight up that I didn’t want to rush or say yes immediately, and that I’d rather meet first and see how things go. He totally agreed.
We met for lunch one day, had a nice time - nothing physical, no kiss, just good conversation. Days passed, and we eventually exchanged our Instagram IDs. That’s when I noticed he was really into Pride walks, drag shows, all that. I wasn’t (and still am not) into those things.
Before anyone jumps in - let me make this super clear: I have *zero hatred* or judgment towards any of it. People can do whatever makes them happy, and I totally respect that. It’s just personally not my thing. Just because I’m not into it doesn’t mean I hate it.
Anyway, he told me those were old pictures and that he hadn’t posted new ones yet. I said okay, no problem. But the thing is, earlier when I had asked him directly if he was into all this, he said no. So I asked him - “You told me you weren’t into this stuff, and now you’re saying something else?” He brushed it off, saying, “It’s okay na, leave it. I just like doing it sometimes.”
I was like, dude, if you like it, that’s totally fine, but why lie in the first place? He said, “I was scared of losing you. I wanted to take you to Pride walks and gay parties.” I told him, “Did you even ask me if I was comfortable with that?” He said, “Why ask when you’ll be mine anyway?” I said, “No, that’s not how it works. Just because *you* are okay with something doesn’t mean *I* have to be.”
Then he said, “I thought I could change you. I want you to come into this world.” And that’s when I told him, “Look, I had clearly told you earlier that I’m not into this, and forcing me into something won’t make it right.”
We had a long conversation after that and decided it wasn’t going to work. I just said, “I can’t,” and left it there. (Please note: we did sit and have a detailed conversation, he did apologise for it and realised I was right and was sorry for it too, just can’t type all that here, haha)
Moral of the story: Have open and honest conversations. Don’t lie or misguide someone just to make them stay. Just because *you* like something doesn’t mean your partner should too. Yes, people can change — but that takes time, and it has to come naturally, not through pressure. Don’t assume, “Oh, this person will change for me.” Respect people’s personal space and choices. |
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Tryingthisone | Posted On Oct 20, 2025
Whenever I write something here on Threads, I’ve noticed that some people start conversations out of sympathy - which I truly appreciate - but a few end up steering it into directions I’m not comfortable with, like hookups or other things that don’t align with me.
To those who reach out with genuine care: thank you, sincerely. Your kindness means a lot. I was in a really difficult phase and have been taking therapy regularly - still do, because I genuinely need it and it’s been helping me heal. I’m in a better place now, maybe not at my best yet, but definitely better.
Also, I’ve seen some people ask me for my therapist’s contact when I mention this, but I hope you’ll understand - I’m not comfortable sharing that.
And just to make things clear, since I often get random messages - everyone cannot be everyone’s type, and that’s okay. I have my own preferences, and I’ve mentioned them in my bio so there’s no confusion.
Thank you for understanding and respecting my space :) |
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Vinnnyyyyyyyy | Posted On Oct 20, 2025
Let love be about connection, not labels.
Whether you are a top, bottom, or versatile remember, those are just roles, not your entire identity. What truly matters is emotional depth, mutual respect, and shared affection. Love is not defined by position; it's defined by presence. Don't let routine dull your bond. Surprise each other. Compliment often. Hug longer. Laugh more. Even small gestures, a message, a smile, a shared meal can keep the spark glowing through years.
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Rajan2409 | Posted On Oct 21, 2025
Attractions each others must
Then all |
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Welcomemylife | Posted On Oct 21, 2025
Let love be about connection, not labels.
Whether you are a top, bottom, or versatile remember, those are just roles, not your entire identity. What truly matters is emotional depth, mutual respect, and shared affection. Love is not defined by position; it's defined by presence. Don't let routine dull your bond. Surprise each other. Compliment often. Hug longer. Laugh more. Even small gestures, a message, a smile, a shared meal can keep the spark glowing through years.
I appreciate all dear who need real |
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Sky_lvr | Posted On Oct 21, 2025
I used to be a super ***. Super into cruising. Magic number 270+. Now committed for 4+ years. He's a great guy. Before meeting eachother he would sleep with his bfs only after a romantic connection. Whereas I have had numerous 3somes and 4somes with total strangers.
But since we're not living together we rarely make love and being faithful is hard for me. Seems easier for him. We've spoken about open related relationships, but he's not for it and i won't force him.
We're great in every other way. We don't play games with each other's feelings. Very careful with money. Very understanding. Very patient, etc etc.
But I'm so scared I'll hurt him by cheating on him.. my ears are open to useful advice. |
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lets_do_it_safe | Posted On Oct 21, 2025
@sky_lvr tell him exactly how you feel…if u think u just cannot control ur urges better to leave than cheat coz if u truly love each other it’s gonna hurt him a lot. So better end on a good note. But remember u may not find a loving guy like him, u have to decide what’s worth living with him with limited *** and be with a person who loves u or give up on him and be a *** who is noones truly just a lust satisfaction tool. |
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Ranga21 * | Posted On Oct 21, 2025
@lets_do_it_safe, I don't think him having *** with others should be a problem to his partner if he's open about it and both genuinely love eachother. It's physical needs and if they are far from eachother some day or the other one might end up having *** outside.
But important thing is having the open communication. Not hiding it. But if the other partner says no he should have *** then both of them has to mutually sit and take a call, either break up or decide how to tackle this. But before opening and have a conversation.
Don't cheat and break his heart. @Sky_lvr |
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Manmadh | Posted On Oct 21, 2025
@sky_Ivr.... I'm similar type like your bf ...and yes I'm in a relationship... What we are afraid is that ... If you start having *** with others, you will actually like it and start neglecting us..
Who knows...one of the guys will propose you and you also want to b with him ...
For us if we are emotionally invested in someone.. it is very hard to digest the fact that you might like someone else...
In my 3rd relationship with a guy , we were in committed relationship for 3 years... And one day he told me , he wants to have *** with others, it was hard for me to swallow, but I accepted it ... He use to b transparent... Whenever he goes out on a date ... He will tell me.. and after *** he use to even call me and tell me how it went.... After 4 months I told him , I don't like it, then simply he said let's break up and left me .
I was literally in shambles for 2 years , I couldn't concentrate on myself, my health detoriated due to depression...
So please head my advice, it will break him and leave a scar on him
If you want him as your partner, just be involved in him ... Initiate ***... He will oblige and satisfy you every bit.
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Anirudhbottom | Posted On Oct 22, 2025
I agree with ranga tha sax part is too much focused in gay community |
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dilse4u | Posted On Oct 22, 2025
I think in gay relationship all are good friends not gf bf or not hubby and wify....
So no question of cheating and all, jis ko jiske sath chudna chude, sirf itana dhyan rakhne ki jarurat hai agar understanding jyada hai to ek duje ko priority deni chahiye aur ek dusareko ignore Kiya nahi lagna chahiye that's all...
Baki maje karo aish karo... |
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Anirudhbottom | Posted On Oct 22, 2025
Manmadh well i think if someone has to cheat he will cheat anyday and he has to dump you so open relationship was just an excuse here
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Anirudhbottom | Posted On Oct 22, 2025
Like you can't trace him he will download grindr and have hookup anyday and cheat on you |
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bananacreamlove * | Posted On Oct 23, 2025
@ Manmadh it's true I can understand as I have been with the same situation and now it's difficult to trust |
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Skippy_ | Posted On Oct 24, 2025
I met a guy a couple weeks of back. He saw my tg id in ohmojo and texed me and we desided to meet and talk. But we didnt saw eachother but we agred to meet. we at metro sation and he pick me up in his car while driving we talked and the more i talk the more i fell for him and he said that he is exploring " THIS IS MY FIRST TIME DOING THIS " and then we talked and talked and talked ended up spending 3 hr in his car and he droped me at same metro station and he even brought us a matching t-shirt for us everything went so well and head back. He even invited me to his home which i politely decline ( cause we only met few hrs back ). He actully skiped work to meet me that is so cute right. I'm not expecting more from but the efforts and care he showed made me feel like a girl. After that we reached our places and he stared asking me what is my fantasies and i told him we had a good chat which was fun every this is so good so far but the next day i have to leave hyd beause i got feaver my health is not grate at that time so i left after that we texted a lot one day i texed a bad word(b***h) it's a typo actully and said sorry and apologize immediatelly. its been 4 days he texted me back and i feel miserable.
and i said to him plz block me if i cross my line with you and guess what he did block me. And all i want to think is the t shirt he gave me. It all ways reminding me of him the time we spend together.
Did i really cross the line by say it mistakenly ?
what should i do with the t shirt ! do i need to give him back ?
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Anirudhbottom | Posted On Oct 24, 2025
Skippy I think he wanted intimacy which you didn't give
Now this case seems genuine one guy didn't liked the bad word he may wanted a good relationship and connection but wanted flirting and that one word killed everything I guess
My suggestion is meet him atleast once again
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Skippy_ | Posted On Oct 25, 2025
But he is not letting me to do that. I genuinely want to make this work for us. And I'll do whatever it takes.
He is not responding to my msg and my call are going straight to voicemails. |
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groooovyguy | Posted On Oct 25, 2025
Love urself
Then live urself
Ul get the Love u deserve |
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Sky_lvr | Posted On Oct 25, 2025
Thank you guys for your understanding words. I've spoken to him frankly about my needs. Coz talking to him about this itself removes a lot of my desire to cheat on him.
I love him so very much. I could never find someone who loves me like him. And bottom line I don't want to hurt him.
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Sky_lvr | Posted On Oct 26, 2025
Skippy, there's something missing here.
In all fairness if he is over reacting for a simple bad word which you genuinely apologised for, then be happy it ended before your got deeper into it. Would you have really been happy with a guy who doesn't understand your actions/accept your apologies?
But if you think he was going too fast and you wanted to show things down a bit, and this inconsistency had an underlying effect on your falling out, then you're still the winner. Coz you've fallen out with a guy who isn't suitable for you.
About the t shirt thing, don't worry yourself because of his gestures of attention or kindness. Give your heart done time to heal. A few months later this episode will seem clearer to understand.
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Sydguy22 | Posted On Oct 28, 2025
My Marathi friend who I was dating has cut of our relationship as he was struggling to deal with his father not supporting his sexuality and was not talking to him. He wants space but I feel really bad and want to support him. What should I do? For reference we both live in Australia and I am an Australian. He moved here five years ago from Mumbai |
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*** | Posted On Oct 29, 2025
@Sydguy22: Your marathi friend made his choice, u need to make peace with it. Would it really surprise you if you hear that he married some unsuspecting poor girl to appease his parent? All these " abba nahi manenge" types never have courage to face the music. If u want be a passive listener then it is fine, but don't get *** in his drama. Ask him, why did he really came to Australia? if he gives any other excuse other than wanting to live a true and independent life, then he is either lying to u or himself. He travelled 8000KM from India to Australia, how much more space he needs? hahahaha!!
Rather than asking- what should I do?, Ask yourself- What do I want.
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bear4matures | Posted On Oct 29, 2025
@Skippy You didn’t really cross any line it was just a typo and you apologized. If he blocked you after that, it’s on him, not you. Keep the T-shirt if it reminds you of something nice, or put it away if it makes you sad. You don’t need to return it. You did nothing wrong some people just aren’t ready for real feelings. |
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TopGang | Posted On Nov 2, 2025
Keep safe distance, life is like that. Get a c, enjoy... Move on..... |
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lovepablo25 | Posted On Nov 3, 2025
@ Welcome and Vinay: Beutifully said. The essesnce that we are looking for should not be forgotten. Else, we we will not enjoy whatever comes our way
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Beautiful_Life | Posted On Nov 5, 2025
Are relationship even possible in this homophobic world? I wish to be loved someday but I don't know if it's possible. |
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maturelonelygay | Posted On Nov 6, 2025
My 40+ single guy. For me, becoming a person itself is difficult. When I go to another level, I keep on searching for relationships for more than 30 years now. I have never stayed with one person one night together or one day spent together in life. All are dreams in my life. As I am side bottom, never get fucks people need only *** and *** am not saying everyone. Some good people are there. have never seen in my life gay means only ***. They need young and smart looking Still I am dieing one shoulder get a hug as I am mature gay people asking money for xx all mature is not a well settled still we are in 2025 getting a broad-minded people is very difficult
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Vickychubbtm | Posted On Nov 6, 2025
Had been in a relationship with a guys for 6 yrs but i came to know he was cheating. So in 2018 we ended up our relationship. And after that never had guts to be in a relationship after that i had hookups too but never had it without protection.After that now i met a guy around a month ago we are in a open relationship as to know each other and then we can move further. |
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Mysterious69guy * | Posted On Nov 18, 2025
My only advice is never be in a relationship with straight/bisexual married person....saala inkoo jab biwi ghaas nahi daalti tab ye apne paas rone aate hai.....I have wasted 6 years of my premium youth being in a relationship with a married guy and that mf was selfish upto the core, he had started this relationship with me for his own benefits he had no interest in lovemaking neither he cared for me so my only advice is if you are in relationship with a married man don't be very much loyal to him and keep finding better alternative so as you are not supposed to repent like I am doing now..... |
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ziyan | Posted On Nov 18, 2025
@mysterious69guy … so true even I’m in same situation the moment I leave he come just for *** nthng much …. Even some gay guys r same after years or more they start keeping secret relations with others .. so relationship and all don’t excist as of now … |
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dilse4u | Posted On Nov 18, 2025
@Mysterious 69 guy, You are absolutely correct straight, bisexual or Married all need pu.sy but if they don't get her GFS or wife... because of their materialistic demands, zhagde breakup, not getting blowjob, pregnancy tabhi unko muft ki daru pilane wale friends achhe lagte hai aur bad me sexual need ke liye vahi super understanding wala dost aur dost ka muh dost ki gand sab bahot romantic lagta hai...aur jab new pu.sy miljaye to vohi dost boring lagta hai.... |
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Storyteller_kp | Posted On Nov 18, 2025
Dilse4u... vese hi alpha man hi sahi hote he..straight acting hote he to secret rhti he sab bate. Or unke l*nd bhi dandaar hote he |
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