How to identify trustworthy guys for relation

Hi, many people look for long term connections with other guys.

I want to know what are the red flags to look for to decide trust worthy guys.

And also what are the green flags to identify Good guys.

How you guys got connected with good ones.

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No Picture WannabeeBot	Posted On Jun 3, 2025 That is my question regarding NSA hookups as well. Like how do you know whom you can trust? Photo/video blackmailing scams are at a peak these days as it is.
ThirstResponder	Posted On Jun 3, 2025 I believe I’m well-equipped to answer this question, having been in a relationship for five years with a man who was four years older than me. He struggled for a long time to come out to his family, and in the end, he got married. Before that happened, we ended things mutually. I congratulated him on his marriage, and we haven’t spoken since. This brings me to what I consider the first and most essential quality in a trustworthy partner: honesty. Honesty lays the foundation for everything else in a relationship. In today’s world, I feel love has become somewhat overrated — not because it doesn't matter, but because many of our ideas about love are shaped by movies, books, and pop culture, often painting unrealistic expectations. What truly matters to me is respect. A relationship might survive without intense romantic love, but it cannot survive without mutual respect. And when I look around, especially on apps like this, I see hundreds of married men seeking emotional or sexual connections outside their marriages. That never sat right with me. I’ve never been interested in pursuing someone who’s already married — not because I’m judging, but because cheating reflects a lack of integrity. Marriage is a commitment to monogamy — unless it's openly agreed otherwise. If you know you're not someone who can commit to monogamy, then don’t get married. Stand up for yourself, have difficult conversations with your family, do what’s right — because hiding behind tradition or fear and then betraying someone shows a lack of character. This leads to another important point: if you’re looking for a trustworthy partner, you need to be honest yourself. Don’t expect loyalty, love, or public recognition from someone who is already committed elsewhere and cannot offer you those things. If someone tells you they’re in an open relationship, that’s different — but always verify it. Don’t assume. Finally, my biggest advice is this: take your time. Don’t rush into relationships, and let trust and connection build naturally. The wrong person won’t make much of an effort and will likely disappear when things get real. But someone who genuinely loves and respects you will be patient. In my case, I waited a year and a half before having *** with my boyfriend, and he waited too. We were faithful, we respected each other, and for that, I’m grateful. He may not be in my life anymore, but he was a meaningful part of it.
No Picture Aseem Javed	Posted On Jun 3, 2025 Completely agreeing to what ThirstResponder has mentioned. Honest advice. Dont rush into a relationship. Take ur time. U cannot get into a relationship in a hurry. *** is no hurry either. Ur into the relation for mutual sake, *** takes a backseat. In a relation, there can be several red flags and green flags. U need to be smart enough to spot them. Dont let ur heart take over ur head. If I'd say, asking for money is a red flag. Dont film ur intimate moments. That too is a clear red flag. Green flags are mutual honesty, trust and love. And oh the biggest green flag.......accept and love each other as ur are. Hope it helps for those looking to get into a relationship
No Picture Viharihyd83	Posted On Jun 3, 2025 I think 1. Mutual respect is a green flag. 2. Share thoughts and continuing communicate from time to time
No Picture Easy_mark_5	Posted On Jun 3, 2025 All the trust worthy top men are from far away. Mostly from different states in my case. I judge whether they are trusting worthy or not based on how they talk about me and my feelings and my slutty lusty body parts.
No Picture btm4drink *	Posted On Jun 3, 2025 Am looking for trust worth person...but all are timepassers
No Picture Silverkok	Posted On Jun 3, 2025 Most guys come out during first chats itself. If not offer him a gift, or send him money online. You can easily realise his intentions. In my case - I'm the first guy I gifted him the wrist watch, I had worn. He was reluctant first but happily accepted in few moments. We had a good s... at my home. But I didn't like him much from inside too. But didn't tell him anything. Within a week, he asked me he badly needs 1000 rupees. I transferred online right at once. The next day I said good bye. The wrist watch was an utter loss for me. The next guy, when he saw me the first sight, without wasting a moment he held my hand, took into his bedroom. Luckily there wasn't any one at his home. I got too excited by this and drank his entire ***. He too got excited by me drinking his *** in the first fun itself. We attached to each other. Always respected each other, never tried to judge other's actions, rather trying to understand each other's points of view more than insisting on our own. When I offered him a gift, he got upset. When I insisted, he got further more upset. This was his green flag. We openly discuss our salaries, financial aspects at homes got to know well that both of us are not sound in wealth and savings. We started advising each other in money matters savings debts. And started trying to save each other's pocket as more as possible. We were openly discussing our household matters, matters with mother father sister wife everyone at home. This served me not only a green flag, but we promisef ithat well never leave each other in life. It's easy to get out our intentions most of the times that we are genuine or not. And today we are in relationship since about two years and love each other, the real Love even without s...
No Picture Mcs_579810	Posted On Jun 4, 2025 As per the experiences I have been facing so far I am irritated with the people who keep expectations on the aspects which I clearly mention in profile and clearly explain to them that I can not posses them. They will chat nicely and when coming to point to start something real they will again expect the things which I can not posses
No Picture Mcs_579810	Posted On Jun 4, 2025 Like looks physique colour size etc. I will clearly explain about almost everything about me in detail. Even then they will keep expecting the same.
No Picture Bussywussy	Posted On Jun 4, 2025 I don't know any of you but your posts help me understand different perspectives, and I like reading your posts.
No Picture Sur123	Posted On Jun 4, 2025 Well I have been in a few LTRs and in my experience, I found older men to be more understanding and trustworthy. They do not just seek sexual intimacy (although most of them have trouble getting or maintaining an *** due to their age) but also a deeper emotional connection. Most of the men I have been with had either gone through failed marriages or staying away from their wives and hadn't had *** in a long time. They wanted me to fulfill the role of their wife or wanted some spice in their boring solitary lives. There was one middle aged ex army man with whom I was in a relation for over 2 yrs. He was introduced by a friend and we shared a good chemistry. He was very honest and loyal with me. He had been staying away from his family and was very clear on what he wanted. He had a liking for my white curvy structure and my sexy big assets. He told me that he wanted me to be his secret CD wife. We were living together at his rented flat. He used to regularly buy me sarees and other sexy outfits and asked me to wear them in the house. He was also quite good in bed. The younger boys I've met were quite immatute and didn't seem worthy enough to be trusted.
No Picture GanuTop *	Posted On Jun 5, 2025 For me, the partners must maintain transperency in communication They must respect person, his/her safety, privacy, space, stuatus, secrecy, They must be punctual when they start their relationship... Some time, If you are facing any issues or if there is any other thought, inform your partner immediately...may be by phone call or text... Hitting around bushes means you are not a trustworthy person.... You must exhibit respectable langauge in public decorum...
No Picture saramaturegay *	Posted On Jun 5, 2025 person to person experience will be different everyone won't get same thing in life
No Picture Chanden	Posted On Jun 5, 2025 I am trustworthy with old men only. Any well educated men onces try with me if trust me.
No Picture Tryingthisone	Posted On Jun 5, 2025 So I feel like a lot of people today are looking for long-term connections, but honestly, it’s not easy finding someone who's "genuinely" trustworthy. Like, you really need to pay attention to small things that speak a lot louder than just words. From what I’ve learned, here are a few red flags to watch out for: *They always have an excuse: Like, if someone is too busy all the time, especially when it becomes a pattern - it's sus. *They hide things, or act weird: If you feel like they’re being secretive about basic stuff, trust your gut. *They only come to you when they need something, but don’t really show up when you need them emotionally. *Gaslighting: This one’s so real - they’ll mess up, but somehow make you feel guilty for asking about it. *Love bombing at first, and slowly pulling away - then blaming work or stress. You’ll feel the emotional distance, even if they don’t admit it. Now on the flip side, green flags (rare but gold lol): *They communicate clearly, even about small things. *They're consistent - not just in words, but in their actions too. *They’re okay with your emotions - like they don’t make you feel “too much” for being expressive or overthinking. *They don’t need to be reminded to respect your boundaries. *And this is underrated: they make you feel safe - mentally, emotionally, and even when you're just being silent. Honestly, how people get lucky with good ones - I don’t even know. Maybe it’s about taking time, not rushing, and listening more to actions than promises. Like for me - I was once in a relationship with a guy, he was 6-7 years older. Things were going okay until I started seeing those patterns. You know that gut feeling? I'm a huge overthinker and sadly, my instincts have always turned out to be right. It hurts, but maybe that’s just how I’m wired. Anyway, I used to believe him when he said he was "busy in meetings" or working late. Lol. Then one fine day, he put up a story on Insta with someone else - and forgot to hide it from me. The moment I saw it, I knew. I took screenshots immediately ‘cause I knew he’d hide it in minutes. And he did. I casually called him and acted normal, but yeah… he could sense I knew, he showed some fake love, I'm sure he was with that guy while he was on call with me, Said, Babe, your lips and was kissing the other guy while he was on call with me, i could hear his kiss sound, when asked Wru, in stressful tone, shocked tone, he said, I'm at home only babe. I didn't want to go, to his house, but just said, okay, I'm coming now, he panicked and said No no, don't, it's drizzling and made up some shitty reason, and the other guy with him said "Nooooo" in a slow note(i could hear that, lol). I didn’t say anything that day, I was too numb to process it all. I really loved him, and even after all that, my heart was still craving his love. I couldn’t eat, sleep, or work. It was messing me up badly. Next day I confronted him - and guess what? The reason he gave was he “expected ***” and I wasn’t giving it, so he found someone else. This, after we’d both agreed we weren’t going to go that way in the beginning. That excuse made no sense. Felt like trash. And I might be young, but I’ve seen the world early on - I know how cruel it can get. So yeah, before getting into anything serious, you really gotta be careful. It’s not as dreamy as people say. Sometimes, your heart might want love so bad, that you ignore all the signs your brain is trying to show you. Take your time. Don’t rush. Protect your peace above everything. Happy Hunting :)
No Picture everydaygayguy *	Posted On Jun 6, 2025 @Tryingthisone- very well written.