Moral dilemma of having *** with married guys

What do you think if a single guy or guy in open relationship, has casual *** with married men is it wrong or right?

Not that I only search for married guys, but i do come across some genuinely good guys, with prospect of excellent sexual chemistry.

In my mind there are various points for for both for and against, yet I am never able to decide.

POINTS FOR HAVING *** WITH MARRIED GUYS

1. Other person is an adult and I am not responsible for their life choices

2. Not every person, especially in India and slightly older generation has or has the opportunity to explore and express their sexual identity, before they got married.

3. It is just casual ***, like a good game of tennis. I have zero interest in a relationship with them, beyond good ***.

POINTS AGAINST HAVING *** WITH MARRIED GUYS

1. In India rarely husband and wife, are in an actual open relationship. Hence it is not fair to that lady.

2. If this gets known to that lady, it would cause hurt and in a way blame lies with me as well for that hurt

3. My providing easy access to casual ***, I am helping prolonging a lie

These are the thoughts in my head. I know it is an emotionally charged topic, and bound to bring up strong memories and conflicting feelings.

Yet I am sure each one of us has been at the either end of the equation, one time or the other.

What do you guys think and how do you decide?

I would love to have genuine and candid insights, from both single and married guys.

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No Picture Asimas	Posted On Apr 3, 2025 I live with my college seniors they *** me they have their girl friend they are doing so that they can *** they have some one to clean like girl for top it is not love he can do with boy girl but for bottom he can never be happy in life with a girl once a bottom is bottom for always
No Picture Tista V. *	Posted On Apr 3, 2025 @Asimas I had a similar experience while I stayed in Mumbai for a while with my ex boyfriend (we broken up because he got married), he hosted me for a week till I didn't find a place of mine. In that one week, at his place he and and his two flatmates sodomized me every night. All three of them were married but they never received blowjobs from their wives nor they were allowed to *** their wive's ***. I don't remember how many times I was ***, how much *** did I carry in my *** or gulped down my throat. It was a crazy sexual week for me, where they had my entire body waxed smooth so they could enjoy me more. I do not complaint but I do admit that married tops *** aggressively which I love.
No Picture TamaRai	Posted On Apr 8, 2025 The moral dilemma would remain a debate forever. However I have enjoyed my flings with married men, I for one try to respect boundaries and mutual privacy. So if the man is with his family, I don't pester him. On the other hand, if we enjoy each other's company while we are together we cherish the moment. Be it in bed and just being able to be our trueself with one another. It gets ugly only when either of you try to step out of that line. Also a married man I've been with actually said our sessions has improved his relationship with his wife. Because he loves getting his tool *** but his wife is traditional in a way she thinks only Randis would do it. I don't mind if I'm Randi or not, I love to *** a man all night long. So he gets this part sorted with me, he doesn't get irritated about his wife not fulfilling his kink. So I'm for it as long as we respect each other's space.
No Picture Neerav	Posted On Apr 9, 2025 Who sets the morals? Humans are naturally polygamous. Read about the evolution. Humans have reached the peak as a species is all because mixing and matching of the gene pool, which rarely happens in the monogamy. When issues like inheritance rights came up, then this marriage and family concept arose. Mention of sexual relations between parent-child, sibling-sibling are also common in some literature about evolution. Not just mention, these practices are still present, which shows our instincts as animals. As long as we're not exploiting someone forcefully against their wish, I don't think morality plays any role. It's a personal choice of every individual.
No Picture c_man131	Posted On Apr 10, 2025 As a married man.. here's my 2 cents. I cannot afford emotional attachment but that doesn't mean me and my bottom partner can't have fun. If my wife took care of business why would I be looking elsewhere?? Most of us are happily married but sexually starved...which drives us to explore outside. Trust me it's not easy or it's not like we feel guilty. Somethings are just basic human needs.
No Picture Salman472	Posted On Apr 10, 2025 Yes most of the people I know that they are not getting what they want in *** from partners so they are connecting with bots, without disturbing the personal life..
No Picture Femishy	Posted On Apr 13, 2025 It is very common to have *** with maaried tops mostly are married but they would share this with us I recently had *** with a married man age above 50 I saw him today at mall having food with his family he spotted me and got realy nervous and approaches me fastly and take me to bathroom and tell me to avoid him when meeting next time he was so nervous I call him down and told him the meeting wasn't intentional at last I hugged him to make sure it's ok wee were in bathroom so he obviously got *** and starte touching me and one thing lead to another and we had *** at toilet for the first time he came after I give him a blowjob and kissed me and said till next time baby it was most hottest experience he also promised me a night drive today that iam excited to go to which I promised him to wear mostly cd dresses
No Picture Pixie	Posted On Apr 26, 2025 vishal_kumar, The question of immorality doesn't rise at all because the heterosexuals consider gays as IMMORAL people and majority of the gays consider themselves as AMORAL; therefore, "gays don't care who they ***, where they *** and when they ***; all they care is about is *** & ***."
No Picture Voyager4545	Posted On May 1, 2025 I am a married man. I dont have any physical relationship with guys. but i need a togetherness of a decent guy in the same situation
No Picture Sissybot699	Posted On May 8, 2025 Actually I don't see much dilemma. Now I am being used by one top . I like mature men to the core. He needs a bot to anything he says. Both got what we need. Infact I wear his wife clothes and get ducked by him when she is away. I don't see a moral dilemma in this. Just a pure lust ❤️‍🔥 and is it getting satisfied or not I see
No Picture Oh_Roy_Khanna	Posted On May 8, 2025 @sissybot699 lucky u man
No Picture Grandios	Posted On May 26, 2025 Unfortunately when there is so much social pressure to confirm and backlash for coming out, honesty becomes a luxury. I wish I was bold enough, but I just can’t think of coming out and have an entire family lose their calm life. There is no good answer I believe. It’s a lonely life to live a lie and continue to keep lying. It takes an emotional toll. People aren’t in the closet because it’s fun but there is no way out without gigantic repercussions on their life.
No Picture Pixie	Posted On May 26, 2025 @Grandos, Don't understand you. You are not living in India but in Hartford Connecticut, as per your profile; so, what social presssure are you talking about? You are 37 years old, as per your profile, assuming you are not dependent on your parents or anybody and you have a job; so, what is holding you up? If you are living with your parents than, move out; if you are married than, get a divorce. Free yourself from all the attachment, free yourself from all the lies and from the double life and live a happy, gay life. If you are not courageous and brave than, you will be miserable through out your life. Be gay, Be Happy.
No Picture Behance11	Posted On May 27, 2025 You need to figure out your own moralities. For me it’s pretty kinky to *** a guy who has some saggy wife at home. I pick guys that are sensible enough to know how to hide it of course. As long as you both take precautions there’s little to no chance of them knowing. As for the guilt, I suppose you need to have a deeper conversation with regard to what’s moral and what’s not. I would argue that it’s far more selfish to confess to your partner and ruin their life just because you need to get something off your chest. Homosexuality isn’t abnormal but it can’t be used to procreate, hence the need for a wife. You need to be able to set your sexual desires and your emotional attachments separate. Why shouldn’t a handsome 50 something year old have a second chance at sexual satisfaction? How many times is he supposed to slam the same loose ***? I’ve had guys tell me they think of me while *** theiir wives and it’s so romantic.
No Picture YourTrueMate	Posted On May 27, 2025 Seems till now only single Gays have responded here. I am married bi....I got to know about my liking of men post marriage...i was quite asexual before that.... I do feel guilt of going outside my wife, but its a hard fact that once I have been with a guy i always long for that physical as well emotional connection with a guy. YES, it has been very emotional too. I find it really shocking that so many gays talk bad about married bisexual and feel that they are the bad guys....but why being so judgemental...you never know their life stories... we can never generalize something to a full community. there are always good n bad guys in any group. If a gay talks bad of bisexual and married guys....and being super judgemental.....then he can't complain that straight guys are not understanding gays and their feelings. Let a person decide his morality and acts and you agree or disagree to meet and enjoy with him, but you don't need to cuss him and make him feel guilty. He might be undergoing a psychological dilemma already. Let's come together a Gay+BI community and help each other on our mental and emotional needs too.
No Picture sandyh *	Posted On May 27, 2025 @YourTrueMate Well said brother. Us gays and bisexual have become way too judgemental. We need to understand each others struggles and be more empathetic. We need to help relieve each others stress in this homophobic world, not add to it.
ThirstResponder	Posted On May 27, 2025 I think there's a misguided perception that marriage grants us access to someone's body and soul. But can we ever truly claim ownership over another person's body? I don't think so. I understand the societal pressures that often compel a man to marry. However, if I were in his place, I wouldn’t seek intimacy outside the marriage simply to satisfy carnal desires. No matter how challenging that might be, I would choose to honour and respect the girl's presence and significance within the relationship. However, I believe that if someone is in an open marriage, there's no harm in being physically involved—provided it's clearly confirmed that the relationship is indeed open.
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