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Submitted by iloveindians Location: All India (All India, India)

Guys, I sincerely want to know what are your attitudes towards a foreigner.

I am originally from an east Asian country. I am very attracted to Indian men. I love Indian men's facial features, body shape, *** size, dresses, etc. Especially i am attracted to dark mature Indian men who are very dark and hairy and having a thick *** with a long foreskin. I have been a long time reader on ohmojo. I saw many wonderful cruising places and i really really want to experience them as well. For example, famous krishnaveli theatre in chennai, rajeshwari theatre in bangalore, local trains, loos, sleeper buses, various massage centres, etc. I want to meet decent Indian men and release my strong desire and enjoy fully. However, i never dared to take a step because i am always worried about my appearance. Being a different race with a different face and colour, i am afraid to be rejected by you guys. I am also worried that my presence in these cruising places may disturb your usual *** activities, or you may not realise i want to join you too. I wish that i also had an Indian face, so i could join you for all the fun. I want to be an Indian so I can meet Indian men easily.

Brothers, please tell me honestly what do you think of a foreigner interested in Indian men. I know some Indians may mostly like caucacians or black people, but what about Asians? Would you be interested in some fun with an Asian man?

If you ever see an Asian guy show up in a well known cruising place, would you think he came for cruising also and prey him? Are you interested in having fun with me? For me, what are effective ways for me to signal to you so you understand my *** intention and accept me?

I want to hear your open and honest opinions so i can have the right expectation of my life in india.

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Posted On Nov 30, 2019 - 08:31 AM

All of us like a variety and spice in life
You will find Indians in general very easy going and like-able
As always in every culture you will find the good, bad and ugly

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Posted On Nov 30, 2019 - 08:59 AM

U gotta be careful when Cruise in local public spots and as you mentioned u would be easily spotted and can be prey to others.
Massage centers can be trustful, but mostly young guys or twinks will be there.
Not sure in Chennai, but in Bangalore there are few bars. Where u can find some good chaps based on ur preference.
Also Indians are also with different taste and Interests, so few may like u and few may not.
Its not juz only Caucasians and black

Based on the place where I see an Asian, I will judge. ✌️

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Posted On Nov 30, 2019 - 09:17 AM

Well, I have been to Netherlands twice for few months and I see people don't care you belong to what country and what race as long as you like each other. It doesn't matter when you get along and date someone from any corner of the world.
And as long as we respect each other and make a beautiful date, no one is gonna harm you in most cases. I can't deny of having bad experiences which I heard from people.
I feel when foreigners come to India, it is little different situation as here you have to be careful as the people are very conservative and not really open and acceptable o. on homosexuality even though it is decriminalized an year ago.

I suggest just be careful and meet at safe public places or at your own place.

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Posted On Nov 30, 2019 - 10:24 AM

In my opinion i love asians a lot they are super cute and have good face features except most of them are too skinny

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Posted On Nov 30, 2019 - 11:23 AM

I am very into Asian boys specially the slim or fit SMOOTH ones. But I find it rare for them to be into Indian men....

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Posted On Nov 30, 2019 - 11:41 AM

I just love guys from the Far East, but unfortunately most of them are not into Indians. I experienced this in Bangkok where the gay tourists from the Far Eastern countries openly fell for white guys or their own kind and completely ignored South Asians from the Indian subcontinent. I'm pleased to know that you love Indians and hope you have a great time while you're here. But please do exercise caution when cruising in public places. You'll be safer cruising along with an Indian friend.

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Posted On Nov 30, 2019 - 01:07 PM

@vanju I was once told by a Japanese Friend that for most of them it's first White then Back, then Asian , then Indians and after that Middle Eastern men....

Of course stereo types aren't necessarily true always

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Posted On Nov 30, 2019 - 01:22 PM

My first and only preference is Indians, especially south Indians who are dark and hairy. Indian men are a hidden treasure. I become very *** every day. Unfortunately when Indians see me, their first impression is i am a foreign tourist only. They completely ignore the fact that I also am a man so they don't approach me with *** in mind. It is also too conspicuous for me if i give any signal or show up in well-known cruising spots in India. I eager want the same kind of *** opportunities like a common ordinary Indian man can get from other Indian men. I really want to visit the inside of KV/RW theatre where i can receive loads of good services from many sexy Indian men. But i am sure people will become really surprised to see a foreigner in those local places and unexpected things may happen. :(

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Posted On Nov 30, 2019 - 02:32 PM

I am not at all into foreigners

I like marathi, gujarati, rahasthani guys a lot

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Posted On Nov 30, 2019 - 03:50 PM

You can pass off as a North East Indian chap.
But be careful of public places. Anything within your own 4 walls is safe. You need to be a little more vigilant, as you are an easy target for black mail since you don’t know local language.
Make friends with local guys and go there

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Posted On Dec 1, 2019 - 06:54 AM

@the original poster.... I think you won't be a nuisance in places like Rajeshwari theater or Imperial cinema.
Secondly, I feel tops surely maybe interested in east Asian looks. Bottoms maybe not as much into east Asians.
In short.... You sound like a bottom to me, so I'm pretty sure you'll be well received in India. Make a decent friend from ohmojo and take him along if you're still nervous

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Posted On Dec 1, 2019 - 09:04 AM

they are human being with feelings, they shud be treated nicely, set the right expectation and enjoy life

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Posted On Dec 1, 2019 - 09:18 AM

I met a African guy in delhi , we had some conversation and he seemed to me a nice guy.
If I have to prefer I would go for African/red American>middle eastern> Indian>whites

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Posted On Dec 1, 2019 - 07:24 PM

I think both bottoms and tops would love to explore and experience with foreigners of different race. As a foreigner i think you should be more concerned about scammers and blackmailers rather than being concerned about hook ups. U will find a plenty of men to hookup with, infact i will say u have an upper hand being a foreigner since most Indians would choose a foreigner over an indian. But being a foreigner there are plenty of chances of getting scammed or blackmailed and people looking to do something will definitely see u being a foreigner as a once in a lifetime opportunity. So be very careful when approaching some one. Get to know them before u take any steps further.

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Posted On Dec 3, 2019 - 11:02 AM

As a white British bottom I love more than anything to be dominated by young Indian guys.

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Posted On Dec 3, 2019 - 03:04 PM

I met one foreigner just week back. He was from USA. Such a lovely man he was. And nice gestures. I was there in Bhubaneshwar and we were on same hotel. It was first experience with foreigner and memorable one. So nothing to worry much.

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Posted On Dec 4, 2019 - 09:38 AM

And if you have confident cruising skills, confident seducing power and can read gaydar, then stroll on tourist spaces, hotel areas and shopping areas which are frequented by foreigners.
If you find a foreigner there, follow him, make sure he noticed that u r stalking at him, give him subtle hints, and wait for his positive response.

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Posted On Dec 4, 2019 - 12:47 PM

I love to ride on foreigners and south indians mostly.. Well with foreigners I hv reason as indians are lil skeptical during ***.. There back of mind thinks something else specially young ones... I mean younger thn 35.... Whereas foriengers enjoy each and every part.. Well if example.. After hardcore *** blowjob or ***.. Smooches etc.. U just lay on bed.. Now indian go nd wear cloth or watever on TV Or clean or bath... Wwhrreas foriengers in my experience 90 percent thy just lay there smoke make urself ready for another round or talk..... I love that pink ***.. Recently I was in bali... At beach bathroom changing room i went there after water sports.. Everyone was nude with their *** hanging.. I met one 9 incher erect *** I stripped too to change... He saw me nd we had nice chat in nude there and had me touch his tool openly while he played wd my boobs.. I mean moobs.... Negros are good too..

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Posted On Dec 10, 2019 - 04:51 AM

I think so they are fine with Asian...I’m from North East India and I’m mongoloid..and yes the Indian boys are fund of Asian boy but when you are Bottom..but if you are top than I don’t know about it...and yes I also like dark slim Indian boy and black ***

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Posted On Dec 22, 2019 - 06:07 AM

I have just returned from a trip to Singapore and Malaysia. Both countries have large South Asian populations and when I went to the saunas there,
I mostly had *** with Indian tops but also with one or two East Asians and Malays. From what I saw, there were a number of East Asians hunting
specifically for Indian men and they usually got lucky. So I can't imagine why you should not find someone to have *** with. I find that men are
basically the same everywhere I go. Sure, there are some men who mostly enjoy *** with men of their own race but usually there are always
people who are willing to experiment. Also, men will think outside their own box. I, for example, have a clear preference for very dark, very hairy
Indian / South Asian men who are total tops but this has never stopped me to try out *** with someone from another ethnicity even when there
was a mixed crowd. I am white and almost never have *** with another white man. Yet I did that too and he was even a bottom like me.
So my advice is to follow the advice of local men on where to go, to give Indian men the benefit of the doubt and to make your desires / preferences
clear even when you have to be discreet.

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Posted On Dec 22, 2019 - 07:32 AM

It depends on the legacy and the tradition of the country you travel to. I encountered severe racism in some countries, while others were more open and tolerating. The worst places, amongst the ones i have been to, are Dubai and Hongkong. There, roughly half of the profiles explicitly state "No indians, no paki, no philipinos" in their profile itself. Ofcourse, hooking up with someone is an individual choice, and depends on a lot of factors. But as such, my views towards them have also gone sour, after coming to know that they have such unkind and negative attitude towards ppl from india. And ofcourse, hum khud bhi zimmedaar honge kuch had tak, for the negative image that has been established.

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Posted On Dec 22, 2019 - 09:27 AM

most indian love foreigners, so you are welcome, but there are always personal preferences and they might very, in general but indian man would loveto have *** with u

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Posted On Dec 22, 2019 - 10:50 AM

Foreigners with their beautiful cut/uncut *** are a huge attraction for any Indian in my opinion. At least I am very very attracted to them and have always have fantasized about getting them in real just as I have watched in *** films innumerable times. You will get plenty of people and can choose as everyone will be too eager to do anything with you.

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Posted On Dec 24, 2019 - 05:23 AM

Great to see this thread. And equally great to see someone who likes Indians and accepts it openly. I have travelled a lot to US, EU And Asia numerous occasions Worst racial discrimination that I have found is in Asia, particularly HKG. I have checked with few my Indian gay friends in HKG and got confirmation here. Answer probably lies in history pre independence ... and behavior of few amongst us . Anyways, love being in SGP, particularly Keys Sauna. Europe is cool. US is mixed, Florida is cool, so is eastern part, though Western part of US can be cruel to Indians at timrs. Rest SEA and ASEAN is mixed.

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Posted On Dec 25, 2019 - 09:14 PM

As a northeastern Indian with southeast Asian features I'll suggest you don't go cruising. India is dangerous and some idiots are racist as ***.

If you are *** & wanna *** just use ohmojo Blued Grindr & tinder or any other online apps. Easier & way way safer.

Good luck.

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Posted On Dec 26, 2019 - 03:40 AM

@FOROLDERTOPS, I completely agree with you. We Indians are very racist, and political correctness here is counterproductive as it only prevents the truth from being exposed, which results in the mindset remaining unchallenged and unchanged. I sure hope your comment is not erased by admin. The truth must be told.

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Posted On Dec 26, 2019 - 01:41 PM

II am from Europe and have been using this site. I am planning a trip to India and wanted to be sure that I could meet up with like-minded Indians whom I love.
I am glad that I have done that as I have been in contact with many lovely Indian men looking for ***. When I do come to India I know that I already have very many friends (more than I had hoped for) whom I will willingly trust and stay with during my visit. I am sure that any ethnic differences will be wonderfully resolved under the bedclothes.

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Posted On Dec 30, 2019 - 12:02 PM

Foreigners are undoubtly attractive for me. Fantasising about have foreigner makes me feel extrà hornier. It is one of my fantasies to have fun with a foreigner i will love to *** his shaved *** if i get a chance and if i am lucky enough thn i would also offer him to *** my *** too.

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Posted On Dec 31, 2019 - 07:35 AM

This is my second posting here. Some of the messages are very interesting and worth thinking about.
So here are a few more ideas. But first of all, I'd like to thank iloveindians for starting this thread. :-)

@iloveindians: I am in Japan a lot and get the same reaction from locals. Even when I go to well known
cruising areas men will not recognize me as a gay man but see the foreigner first. I go to places where
white men almost never show up and I think the problem is precisely that. The men there are just not
used foreigners showing up. It is not active discrimination (You get that at some saunas in Japan where
foreigners are not allowed) but just an oversight.

One more thing: Sometimes, men will shy away from you because they are afraid of not being able to
communicate successfully. My Japanese language skills are not excellent but good and I find that the
moment I start speaking in Japanese, the atmosphere changes and becomes much more relaxed. In
crusing areas the atmosphere is tense and you don't want to start with a communication problem,
especially since in most Asian countries gay life is not out in the open and you have to be discreet,
even in saunas. With Indian men, I have had problems sometimes because their English was very
heavily accented. Still, the *** with them was amazing. LOL

@vanju1 and @masterbot: Well, well, there may be an East Asian preference for white skin but when
push comes to shove, many guys will also chicken out. Again, my views are shaped by 30 years of
gay *** in Japan. Preferences have to do with dreams. Realities look different and even though I as
a white man I am an object of desire in Japan, I am also an object of fear: Fears that white men are
accustomed to more and better *** than East Asians can provide, fears that white men are carriers of
all kinds of sexual diseases (which is kind of ironic because I am far better educated in sexual health,
protected / medicated (PreP) than any Japanese men I have met except of HIV-positive guys who
were forced to deal with their health AFTER they got infected) and all the stuff I have written above.
Oh, and when you are a white bottom, things are always more difficult.

The last sentence I have written needs more explanation. From what I have read here, sexual stereotypes
are alive and well when it comes to ethnicity and race: All blacks have huge *** and dominant tops
(both false, trust me, I know), whites are tops when it comes to (East) Asians (false, so many white
men are like me, we need Asian tops), all East Asians are submissive bottoms (surely, people who
believe this have never been rough *** by a Japanese construction worker (heaven)). What I find
very odd in this respect is the fact that I have never heard sexual stereotyping with regards to South
Asians, either negative nor positive. They just do not seem to figure in the sexual imagination of most
non-South Asians. Weird.
I have suffered from this all my life because I am a submissive white bottom who looks fairly butch
even though I am not really muscular. I am usually expected to be a top before men find out that the
opposite is true. To prevent this, I have become much more demonstrative when I am in cruising areas
like parks, *** cinemas or saunas. I am as naked as I can, I am on my knees and I bow deep when men
approach me. This is working to some extent but it also drives men away because for some it is just too
much. Difficult.
Any thoughs?

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Posted On Jan 1, 2020 - 06:35 AM

Happy New Year everybody! :-)
@Cock4u, I am glad that you found the information about Japan useful. I wrote this because I wondered
whether foreigners will meet with similar problems in India. After all, @iloveindians started this thread
because he wanted to find out what to do to cruise Indian men successfully.
Now, for African men...I am 52 now and I have also served a number of African men. Most useful insight:
African men are MEN and not erotic phantasies, which means that all of them have rather different sexual
desires, can be tops, versatile, bottom and can enjoy vanilla, or rough, or kinky ***. Go to bed with them
and find out. African men and African Americans have a problem: The rest of the world thinks that all of
them are dominant tops with huge ***. True for some of them, but oddly enough, most of the African
men, especially African Americans, wanted to be submissive. In ***, you constantly see it the other way
around, i.e. African (Americans) dominating and humiliating white men which does not square with my
personal experience at all. A large number of the black men I have been with actually wanted to be my
*** slave and quiet of few of them wanted to me to beat them. And I am not forgetting that there were
also guys who wanted vanilla *** and rough ***.
Now for the black ***: While it is true that on average, they are bigger and much bigger than other
penises, many black penises are average size and there are even a few small ones around. I always felt bad when
a black guy started apologizing in advance for his less than large ***. My heart went out to them because
they must suffer quite a lot under that stereotype. Imagine that everytime you go to bed with someone you
must prepare yourself for the disappointment in the other man's eyes. Good *** is so much more than
*** size.

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Posted On Jan 2, 2020 - 03:40 PM

Hey, thanks for sharing your comments and thoughts on my last posting but remember, we, or rather you guys in India, should be here to help
@iloveindians along.
@Lips4hugepoles: It is perfectly ok to be at a loss because clearly, that situation was not going anywhere. You were two bottoms trying to get
a top. But, BIG BUT, I have had some of my best *** with fellow bottoms. I did not look for them on the internet but sort of bumped into them
at saunas and *** cinemas. Somehow, the pressure to perform (even when you are a bottom, there is that pressure) was absent and I could be
more relaxed. Strange, isn't it.

@Peachypie: It is totally ok to crave black and Arab men. I am completely happy to have this craving for very dark, very hairy South Asian men
and South Asian penises. But I constantly remind myself that I am dealing with men / human beings who deserve respect. When I guys is not
into me, I can't help it and there is no point in being bitter or mad. I sometimes say "no" to certain men, too, and I want to be taken seriously
in my refusal. Others certainly have the same right. I am a submissive bottom and I like over-bearing, pushy and, yes, sexually selfish men but
when I say "no", it means "no". So listen to the African guys you will meet in the future and take things further when they encourage you.

One more personal observation on this subject. I don't know whether you can generalize what I am saying, so you have to take the following
just a something very subjective. It concerns African Americans. I have noticed that the black Americans I have been with would not think about
having *** with a white American but they would gladly have *** with me and I am a white European. Likewise, I have had *** with black
Americans who have been to India and they said that felt strangely liberated because they don't stand out because of their skin colour. They must
be under constant pressure in the US in a way that is hard to understand for us who were raised in a kind of majority culture. So probably the
men to go for in India would be black Americans....

@iloveindians: I am sorry but I am going to hijack your thread because the last paragraph that I have written has reminded of something I have
noticed on the pages here and on other sites where there are Indian men. I have a question concerning the caste system and I would be glad
to hear the thoughts and comments of you all. It seems that caste is factor when cruising on the net. Curiously, brahmins seem to be especially
unpopular. In the west, you sometimes read on profiles the words "no Asians" or "no blacks". On Indian sites, I sometimes read the word "no Brahmins".
Any idea on why that is? And what about other castes and dating outside your caste? Sorry to be so blunt but for a westerner, my knowledge is
limited but I keep wondering. The same is true for religion, by the way. With tensions rising between Hindus and Muslims, does this have an effect
on dating?

This is a weird post. In the first section I sound like an agony aunt, giving advice to others and the last paragraph I am touching upon stuff that I
imagine is highly political in India. All these things are related, though. If you have ever dated a black American, you know how highly political and
volatile interracial dating can be. For men who have *** with men, it is less challenging than for straight people but it still is there. In my long life,
I dated a black American for about 9 months and although it was great, at times it felt like walking through a mine field.

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Posted On Apr 22, 2020 - 11:31 AM

Foreigners are human beings, no different from anyone else. I treat everyone in a friendly way depending on the nature and character of the individual and his mental health. I personally love to talk and interact with people from other cultures, and check if I can "steal" some of their good systems and habits to incorporate in my own life ;)

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Posted On Nov 12, 2020 - 06:44 PM

I startef gay activities with a foreign guy, as I i was in Goa for my first job, internet Was just started then, i was searching something about Tantra, i found this Hungarian guy, who used to visit Goa every year.
I was in Vasco, he came to Vasco, we had Goan wine and prawns vindaloo. Then i took him to a lodge. It was planned to stay night together. He was very tall, well built guy. Once we enter the room, he said he is ready, and he hugged me from back, i could feel his tool touching my butts, then he pushed me on a bed and undressed, my god, it was very skinny, long thick ***, i touched and started playing with it, *** it for long, it was my first *** experience. It was awsome expirience, he tries to insert in my ***, bit he could not do it, as my *** was quite tight n his *** was huge, he tried whole night , bit couldn’t do it. At last I did with it my hand made him ***( huge load) he was very nice n kind.

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Posted On Nov 15, 2020 - 05:11 AM

Yes foreigners do great foreplay with ***. Thy do great rimming. Thy put tongue inside and that makes me go crazy. Thy love rimming. And then finger it nicely. And the fu ck thereafter is the best with foreigners. Thy knw how to nicely drill a tight hole like mine.

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Posted On Nov 15, 2020 - 07:04 AM

I met a Spanish guy in Goa recently, he was a awesome rimmer , he ate my bum and balls so well , I came out

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Posted On Nov 15, 2020 - 08:02 AM

i had in chennai with russian, austrialians, uk, sri lanka, usa, arab, sudan, nigerian, burma guys

few other whites and egypt, newzealand guy in bangkok, pattaya.

well enjoyed with them

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Posted On Nov 15, 2020 - 09:14 AM

@whitebottom :

I am a gay south indian man but been in Mumbai most of my life. And like most gay men I have had a proper share of *** with many men. In my experience of around 15 years, I have not come across a single incidence of casteism. I have never asked, never been asked, never heard of my friends being asked or asking the partners caste or creed. Even in social gay circles, I have NEVER come across anyone even mentioning caste. So this is a very western obsession with the Indian caste system. It is discussed passionately by westerners and has a strong derogatory undertone for India. Caste system prevailed centuries ago. It is barely in the indian conscious now. At least not in cities. I really don't think it exists even in the villages, at least in the gay *** and hook up scenario. The west and educated elite should get over this obsession of derogating India and Indians by bringing up a topic, which I agree was extremely unfair and criminal, but no longer in practise. NO ONE thinks of caste before they hook up. They are more interested in physical features.

Mulsims : YOu would be surprised to know that muslim men are actually in high demand in the gay community or amongst men who have *** with men. It is because of their good looks and other well known physical features.

Please do not harbor misconcepotions about the present India and the gay/ bisexual community here. The world and India has chanegd over time and ancient social divisions do not exist anymore.

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Posted On Nov 16, 2020 - 02:25 PM

@letsfuck I agree with most of the statements you have mentioned above regarding caste discrimination in India and especially how it's not prevalent in the gay community in our country. But i'm in disagreement with some of your statements. You maybe right in saying that caste discrimination isn't a very common thing in the gay community and in very few cases we can see caste as a factor in declination of someone's proposal. Tbh i have never come across any guy, except one, who asked about my caste or showed any hatred towards any particular caste. But to say that caste system existed centuries ago and it is barely in the Indian conscious now isn't true. The recent Hathras Case is a very strong evidence of the fact that caste system exists in our country and discrimination happens on that basis. It may not happen on a very large scale in big cities and towns but it's existence in small towns and villages isn't deniable. And even i have experienced few encounters where i have seen people making such discrimination. So, it's very much prevalent even in modern India but very few people admit it publicly. Now, as far as gay community is concerned then, discrimination doesn't happen a lot on the basis of caste but people do discriminate on the basis of religion. It doesn't happen all the time but it's existence can't be totally ignored.

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Posted On Nov 16, 2020 - 06:25 PM

Hey shapeoflove. My response was to the very specific questions raised by whitebottom. And I have quoted the experiences of myself and the people I know in the community. The generalized assumptions of whitebottom are not real. As I have explained the caste system may exist but it exists in rural and semi-urban areas. But to generalize it for the entire country is not correct. Discrimination exists everywhere and to my knowledge, it is far worse and severe in the west. So the western world should not really be pointing fingers at India. The hathras case is not related to the lgbt community, It is hence irrelevant. However, I would like to say that one must not believe everything that the media projects. I dont think I personally have come across any discrimination based on religion. I have already mentioned that muslim men are actually in great demand. So maybe other religions face discrimination , which I have personally experienced and am not complaining because it is a stereotype that is prevalent in the MSM community which is not actually true.

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Posted On Nov 17, 2020 - 01:04 AM

I had met a black guy in Hyderabad around 2 years back through Grindr. He was so hot muscular with big black pole. I haven’t seen anything so big earlier, he invited me to his place and he was having beer and *** then he was so high. That he had used me as slave.
It was a memorable experience.

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Posted On Nov 17, 2020 - 04:22 PM

@letsfuck I went through @whitebottom's comment and i didn't see him doing any generalisation tbh. Moreover he tried to break some of the sexual stereotypes surrounding people of different ethnicities and races.And instead of pointing fingers at us, he seemed rather curious to know about the working of the caste system and it's effect on gay dating scene in India. And he asked because he saw some Indians mentioning 'no brahmins' in their profile. Tbh i have also come across few profiles where i saw terms like 'no muslims' mentioned clearly. So, how can someone think that discrimination on the basis of caste and religion doesn't happen in the Indian gay dating world? It's an undeniable fact that caste and religion are discriminatory factors in our country as in the same way race is a discriminatory factor in the western world.The only thing is that its prevalence in big cities is less as compared to small towns and villages. As in the same way it's a fact that it's existence amongst homosexuals is comparatively much less than heterosexuals. But then, homosexuals are minority group themselves. So, it's not a surprising fact. And you are right in saying that discrimination exists everywhere and the recent case of George Floyd in the US shows us how it's still a big part of the American culture. But to say that it is far worse and severe in the west is not true. Because you can't really compare it. In the George Floyd case, we saw how a black guy became the victim of racial discrimination but then, we also witnessed one of the largest movement in the American history where people in thousands of number came out and protested for the rights of black people. I don't remember any such protest happening in India against any religious or caste discrimination, even though we have witnessed cases such as Hathras and Dadri mob lynching, just to name a few. So, can't really say that it's more worse in the western world than here. And tbh untill and unless we don't recognize our flaws and keep on ignoring it, we can never progress as a society and nation. Because at the end of the day, discrimination springs from ignorance itself.

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Posted On Nov 17, 2020 - 05:38 PM


This will be my last comment on this particular topic. I dont want to go on about it and take other people on the thread for granted.

Whatever I say is based on my personal experiences and experiences of people I have interacted or socialized with. It is also wrt to GAY DATING and Gay people ONLY.

I have already said that discrimination based on caste and religion are hardly issues even in small towns and villages. If it happens it is minuscule and that can be ignored. The argument is if discrimination happens. It does. Everywhere. No matter how perfect or well educated any society is. WHat is being done about it and comparing different regions of the world is a different topic altogether. It is a very long tedious debate and I dont want to get into it. There are many factors that will play into that debate and arriving at conclusions is difficult.

As far as what whitebottom question was like I said casteism and racism don't exist. Even if it does it is very minuscule and can be ignored. It doesn't become an "issue". Does it affect gay dating and the LGBT communtiy ? NO. Though the fact remains that it is made into an agenda to satisfy political aspirations. But again that is a different debate.

To sum it up, there is hardly any discrimination based on caste in religion in the LGBT community. There is discrimination based on other aspects, like body shaming, that needs greater attention.

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Posted On Nov 17, 2020 - 05:53 PM

@letsfuck and @shapeoflove...i agree with both of you as well as disagree to some extent

*Personally I've never come across casteism in lgbt dating scene. It maybe because we can't put too much of filtering in our preferences for dating unlike our straight counterparts who have 98% more options to find partners. We are less than 1 percent of a population in any scenario (although 5 theoretically but very less than 1 are visible or traceable) so the ideal option is to consider physical and mental compatibility and totally disregarding things like caste and religion

*I came across casteism outside lgbt scene in both rural and urban areas. Once when I was working in a town called hardoi in UP, me and my friends got a descent house for rent and after all the negotiations were done, the landlord asked each one of us of our castes. Imagine the humiliating experience if I were not brahmin or any of my two flatmates not from upper castes. In an educational conference organized by Harvard University in india, a highly educated guy was closely asking about my castes and told me he doesn't believe in mutants referring to intercaste union and of course I suddenly had to walk out telling him "bye tata I'm done talking with you" without trying to win his allegiance by telling him im a proud brahmin. Many of my close female friends (all from so called rich intellectual family) always check for the guys caste if they come across someone they like of course hidingly by stalking their social media and all. They will be like "you know I'm all for equality but I don't want to go all through the drama of getting into showdown and tamasha with my family. My great granny almost had a heart attack when my sister decided to marry a Muslim guy and blah blah"...ofcourse just say it aloud you will only marry someone from high caste and I respect your preferences just as you should respect mine lol.

*Racism is obviously present in lgbt dating scene.im from northeast india and I have across guys in their dating profile writing in big bold letters "SORRY NO NORTHEASTERN GUYS PLEASE". Although I would still say it's less severe in india than in US or Australia where the extreme disliking for Asian guys are visibly widespread.

There are also a lot of guys especially tops who have fetish for northeastern boys (especially the smooth ones). I don't think it's really a good thing either. Since I do not really have the so called typical northeast look, I can never imagine how it feels to be fetishised and objectified to be seen as sexually appetizing racial pie 🥧 but I know some northeast boys who are leading miserable experiences of getting used as *** objects when they are actually looking for a more romantic experience.

*I would also say that lgbt dating scene is much more vibrant and more cordial with diversity. I've met and have amazing time with wonderful guys from all over india north south east west and from other countries and multiple races or ethnicity like Arabs Europeans south Africans. Although I have never met Africans or blacks I'm really excited to meet one someway and Asians too similarly especially phillipinos and Indonesians (they are so exotic!!). What I love about lgbt dating scene we are not guilty about human urge and desires like *** and intimacy and people are more upfront here on our needs demands and limits. So yup fewer cases of no consensual things like ***.when I used to have gf I had to play hard and beat about the bush when it comes to things like ***.in india having *** with any random girl is way too risky with the increasing cases of false *** cases. Again with girls its hard to be upfront unless they are callgirls and a slight over the top excitement could translate into abuse in the mind of the woman. In lgbt community its simple we tell each other if i enjoy getting slapped and abused..oral or no oral..*** on face..*** ..etc etc. Everything is open book negotiation.

So yup i wouldn't say lgbt dating scene also carries all the prejudices of our society. Maybe a lot of people would say looking for muscular hunks and all coz afterall thes is an online platform and do not reflect the entire lgbt.look out for real things in real life when a random guy in real life sees your unfiltered you and gives you a sign he likes you that means he likes you for who you are and I've got that a lot of times when im not even the conventional fitness model hunk type.

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Posted On Nov 17, 2020 - 05:59 PM

And yup @letsfuck I agree with you we shouldn't make a mountain out of molehill when it comes to things like casteism which are not very relevant in lgbt scene and racism too despite my experience with northeast things I've met with bunch of hot guys all over india meaning one or two racism case doesn't affect the overall experience