Finding love - because it's not only about ***

Whenever we visit a gay dating site, basically whatever we can find, are mainly concentrated about having ***. I don't have anything against that as I exploited that for a long period of my life. But when I decided that I'll come out, one of the major thoughts that came to my mind, was, what about my life? Do I need to spend my life alone? Will I ever be able to find a soul mate? Though I finally came out to my friends and parents, I still don't have the answer to that question. So here I want to ask the fellow openly gay people in ohmojo - what's your experience about this? Have you been able to find a stable boyfriend for a romantic relationship? If yes, then please share your story. May be your story can inspire a lot to come out and can also help people like to find love.

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No Picture Bustyslit	Posted On Oct 12, 2019 Are we talking about love or commitment at the moment! If love then I am sorry, I have not yet been in love. But as far as commitment for partner goes, I am ready to be committed to a top fully. Try out all my kinks only with him as I have some fantasies associated with it.
No Picture radical123	Posted On Oct 12, 2019 Romantic love, in the full sense of the term, is an emotion possible only to the man of unbreached self-esteem: it is his response to his own highest values in the person of another—an integrated response of mind and body, of love and sexual desire. Such a man is incapable of experiencing a sexual desire divorced from spiritual values. Love, friendship, respect, admiration are the emotional response of one man to the virtues of another, the spiritual payment given in exchange for the personal, selfish pleasure which one man derives from the virtues of another man’s character.
No Picture matureee	Posted On Oct 13, 2019 Lekin jab hame kisi ko aadat ho jaye or phir apke partner me changes aane lage like woh pehle se na rahe to ye bahut hurt karta hai dil dimaag sab bechain rehta hai 24 ghante has usko sochna......
No Picture Sagarstrange000	Posted On May 25, 2025 Just refreshing thread.. I am Bottom 27.. and looking for life partner who is top Not for hookup and fnf but genuine one ... I have some expectations and he definitely might have If anybody looking for same can DM me I am From Pune... Not in to above 35
ThirstResponder	Posted On May 29, 2025 I genuinely believe that our ideas of love are deeply shaped—and in many ways regulated—by popular culture. It often creates unrealistic expectations that love must always be intense, magical, or dramatic, while overlooking the quiet, evolving, and sometimes difficult realities of real relationships. That said, I experienced a love that defied those surface-level expectations. I was in a relationship for about five years with a man who was four years older than me. We met through a mutual friend, and I can say without hesitation that he was the best thing that ever happened to me. He had been in relationships with a few women before, but I was the first man he dated. For me, it was my first serious relationship. What we shared was deeply loving and incredibly tender. No one knew about us—outwardly, we were just friends—but in private, our love quietly flourished. He was facing a lot of pressure from his family to get married and found it difficult to come out to them. Eventually, he did get married. Before that happened, we made the difficult, mutual decision to part ways. I even congratulated him on his marriage. We haven’t spoken since. Our relationship was never just about physical intimacy. In fact, I never felt the desire to be with anyone else during those years, and neither did he. I feel, when you find someone who truly understands and sees you, the physical fades into the background. What remains—and what matters—is love, care, and deep respect.
No Picture Rohan666	Posted On May 29, 2025 Any body wants voice call or chats for friendship and love
No Picture Shyxplore	Posted On Oct 19, 2025 Any Topies for love ❤️
No Picture anand84	Posted On Jul 20, 2026 42 top here..
No Picture MatureGuy	Posted On Jul 22, 2026 I'm living with my friend for the last five years now. He's 23 years younger to me. We met on a dating site. I've relocated twice to be with him. It all started with a sexual attraction but we don't have *** anymore. There's a lot of love between us. I've realised that at the end of the day love and respect are paramount in keeping a relationship healthy.
Vedantcute	Posted On Jul 24, 2026 I don't know why male relationships exist ?? Like what's stopping them except their hormones... I am on grindr, romeo, walla so many apps but never found friendly guys everyone asks for pics and then decide to meet that's not even going well at first place ... I know there would be temporary relationship but atleast let it be ... Don't do hook ups ... I am top 21 and m happy I haven't done it with such people from such apps If u guys have some idea where I can find some good people please tell me such app or website or platform
No Picture Pixel	Posted On Jul 25, 2026 Heer Ranja, Romeo and Juliet, Shah Jahan & Mumtaz and so on............ all these love story doesn't talk or say anything about love; they talk about obsession, tragedy and loss of love. Anyhow coming down to gays, I don't think gays are capable of love because by nature and in general, most gays are promiscuous; I am not saying it doesn't exist among gays, it does but very rare in this modern day & age where the definition of love has changed and love is nothing but a convenience or an understanding of mutual benefits. Today's love between two gays is much more practical than a romantic fairy tale. I find it very strange some members on this thread are looking for love in dating apps like Grindr & Romeo but these apps are for slutty gays for quick ***. Obviously, they are looking for love in the wrong place. And some members confuse themselves between love & friendship; if you are living together without ***, that means friendship even if you had *** few times before with your friend. These kind of friendship or love whatever you call it will not last long. It's just a matter of time, such shallow relationship will breakup. A true gay love is when two gays live together as husband and wife and who are not sharing the cost of living expenses and they are totally committed to each other. In my 35 years of gay life, living in an advance country where homosexuality is not a taboo, I haven't seen or heard of any gay couple who are sincerely in love with each other and have committed to live together for the rest of their whole life. True love or love story is just a fairy tale or fantasy, it's not practical in these day & age. For gays, *** is much more stronger than love. Well this is my personal opinion and my intention of this post is not to criticize anyone. Be Gay, Be Happy.
No Picture Mnbvcxxz_r	Posted On Jul 25, 2026 I agree dear that in today's time it's almost impossible to find true love but still I believe in old school type love. Loyal, genuine, committment for lifetime, love, respect, care, trust, honesty, understanding, support etc. We can just pray and hope everyone get this type of love, relationship and partner because at the end everything fades, looks, physical attraction evrything, then person want only one single partner who love, respect, care and loyal to him, and stand by him forever. This is how I think
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