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When my sxual advances backfired

Submitted by HeadsTailsAndHo Location: All India (All India, India)

We all, sometime or other, get so lost under influence of our list and horniness that we forget the possible consequences of our sexual advances to strangers / friends / relatives who either were straight or pretended to be straight.

Sometimes such sexual advances are returned with pleasant moments and sometimes are returned with leaving us embarrassed, in awkward situations, denting our image for long time.

Would love to share experiences of those moments here.

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Posted On Jan 20, 2020 - 01:59 PM

Please take this as a advice too.... lot can go wrong when you approach people
I kept chatting with a good looking gym body guy.... he accepted to meet me after gym hours
i went there- he took me to a room at the end of the gym...
asked me to wait there.... all warning signs ran in my mind...
i should have just ran...
but i was just immovable
and my worst fears came true
- few of his friends came in
- apart from all the other things that happened - i lost close to 6 digits of my hard earned money
They were so proud of their achievement and said this happens to them often and they make best use of it ....

i hated myself for what happened, became depressed, had to lie regarding the shortage of money and what more....

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Posted On Jan 20, 2020 - 02:42 PM

@ friendnnd.. that's really sad to hear.. yeah have to be very careful.. just don't fall for the looks.. get to know well and proceed..

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Posted On Jan 20, 2020 - 02:43 PM

I agree with dingdong

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Posted On Jan 20, 2020 - 02:51 PM

@friennd friend I feel very sorry what was happening to u, first meet in public place, share ur pic pls forever don't go to any rooms pls.

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Posted On Jan 21, 2020 - 06:02 AM

ITS really bad...such things happen..Alone we cannot fight...If v People get United nobody can take advantage....if someone of us get into trouble...v should come forward and take action...bcos..in this situation and to help us no body will come... nor can v tell such things to any other.(nor friends nor police nor any other people)...its only we people who can help each other in such situations...we should form a group..and if anyone someone needs help..we can do our best.

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Posted On Jan 21, 2020 - 06:56 AM


That's sad to hear..... but one should always be careful while going to any place/room

Always keep background check of a person with whom you're going with.

In such case you can always take help of cops.... They will definitely help you.

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Posted On Jan 21, 2020 - 07:18 AM

Go to police station. That's the only way to stop these things. Nothing to worry about.

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Posted On Jan 21, 2020 - 07:28 AM

I would request my Gay/bi/trans people from pune to make a group so that anyone of us does not fall in such trap. Once in group we can be assured of safety. Please if anyone can make such group . It would be great help!

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Posted On Jan 21, 2020 - 01:09 PM

Kunal # I had a similar experience. I went to the police and the same was resolved within 15days. I got my money back. If u lodge a complaint, police would call you and not your family or friends. So be brave on these cases. Family members might be called on in case someone lodged complaint against you or if it's a court case. People like us need to be brave and educated enough on law of the country to avoid such incidents.

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Posted On Jan 21, 2020 - 01:27 PM


Why would cops contact his friends and family members?

You'll have to provide your identity to police but they won't contact your close relatives and friends as you're an adult and above 18 individual. They will get in touch on your cellphone. You can also tell them to maintain secrecy (which they will).

I need to mention that I was caught at a cruising place and he was an actual cop who wanted to make some money but he couldn't do anything as I was well aware of basic laws :)

In his case he was blackmailed.... Blackmailing is a crime and fun wise they are consenting adults and didn't get caught in indecent act in public then why need to worry?

People here take risk to go with random thugs for fun but they can't go to police for safety??

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Posted On Jan 21, 2020 - 04:13 PM

@frirendnnd you can take help from humsafar trust.

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Posted On Jan 21, 2020 - 06:37 PM

Agree with Daniel 100% true. We need people like you more who has basic knowledge. These thugs take advantage of our lack of knowledge and courage.

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Posted On Jan 21, 2020 - 06:38 PM

After same sexxx relationship being allowed in India, police also knows how to behave with people like us

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Posted On Jan 21, 2020 - 11:53 PM

Gay *** is legal in India. You can go to police. Police will not inform your family. Even if they ask you to call your family you can say you area an adult and you can deal with it. Is required take a lawyer and go. You can also approch gay activist groups in your city for further help. I am sure you can get your money by going to police. Also you can stop these guys doing this to anyone else

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Posted On Jan 22, 2020 - 02:33 PM

Thanks everyone for your suggestions, concern and advices. Let me make few things clear
1) It happened few years back and i only posted it now because i just came across this site and topic recently
2) My bad experience has totally affected my life - i can never meet anyone or have any physical contact due to the nightmare
3) It was a public place - considering my age and social status i cannot have met a person in bus stand or coffee shop. So i thought meeting a person in the GYM was safe - there were other shops around
4) they pulled the shutters downs (of the gym), switched my phone off, took all the money and all cards (credit and debit cards) - forced to give PIN numbers and withdrew about 75,000 when a couple of them were into physical abuse + video recorded everything so that they can blackmail later OR to stop me from going to police...

I know basic law, but i felt it was my greed and it should be a lesson for ever
They may not contact your family or friends BUT just imaging walking in and out of police station (others could see you there)
officially recording a complaint about something like this
and the various questions the policemen would ask...

Anyway - it was more for others to beware

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Posted On Jan 22, 2020 - 03:14 PM

I feel completely sorry for your experience..
I myself had few experiences of such sort but they were way much of smaller impact in my socail and personal life..
So I could understnd wht sort of agony u wud hve gone thru..

I relaly want to iterate a point which not only concerns about our safety nd self respect but also with
Are we okay with aany mn sexull mis behaving with any girl?? our sister or spouse?No right..
Then why dont we have same stand if any man sexually mis behaves with any other man?
Does not a man has soul and priorities? Or should his chastity should be always be tken with pinch of salt?
I m not sounding like a good boy here.. Myself after taking such advances and also after being taken adnvnce of this is what
i realized... Man or woman.. child or dult.. NEVER EVER TKE ADVANCE OVER aNYONE WITHOUT THEIR CONSENT..

So taking such matters to police is perfectly legal nd normal because we expect the same treatment if its done with girls
too..And the victim is to be of deciding authority in this rathter than middle men bastaards who try to make out money from
such incidents as it has happened in ur scenrio.;

Hving consensuAl *** is for more safer than tking such sexual advncements that too in public palce..
If caught the effect that it has mentally physically nd emotianlly will be devastating..

I hope readers here will try to understand my messge rather thn bashing me s homophopic..lols..

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Posted On Jan 22, 2020 - 03:17 PM

I also hope you re normal now emotionally.. If not try to come out..
You are not alone here.. Almost every one here would have undergone such incident atleast once whether big or small..

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Posted On Jan 23, 2020 - 07:11 AM

@Aarif2018 - i think you misunderstood. I did not force myself on him. I did not use my money or power or position to have *** with him.
I liked his FB pics and starting chatting with him. He responded positively.
He is running a big team in using such people.
So here it is my weakness that has been abused.

If he had said "i am not into it" or simply "leave me alone" i would have NOT msged him after that.

So comparing this to women being sexually assualted or forced is like comparing apples and oranges

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Posted On Jan 23, 2020 - 07:13 AM

@Aarif2018 - thanks for your concern. Yes I am out of it but it has made a permanent impact in me. In a way it was good that i wont fall into any other such traps..

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Posted On Jan 23, 2020 - 08:18 AM

@friendnnd, buddy i have been following on your experience,which is quite unfortunate. However, the point here is that there is nothing wrong with you. You just followed your instincts n then things went awry. The reason why i feel that you should get this to police is just to make sure that this doesn't become a practice of trapping guys. I know it can be traumatic experience but yet you've got to face it. Pray that you recover.

whether its a guy or gal doesn't matter, getting exploited or extorted doesn't discriminate gender. They did let you off with money or harassment ,things would have been worse for you as well just as any other girl. Haven't you read in newspapers that men also get *** , but such news don't come out. (Read in a newspaper edition of Mumbai). So be brave and put this bad episode behind you and look forward.

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Posted On Jan 23, 2020 - 05:13 PM

Nothing wrong to ask legal(Police) help in such cases.They will definitely help you. Also they will maintain your privacy.

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Posted On Jan 23, 2020 - 06:28 PM

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Admin Note: This thread is for topics related to sexual advances that went wrong. There are other threads for posting cases of being blackmailed for gay *** or similar. This thread is not the correct one for such incidences.

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