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This topic is being started by the OhMojo.com website adminstrator for bringing attention to the topic of risks associated with gay cruising.

Please post about the dangers typically associated with cruising, your experiences, how to take care against them and also how to tackle it if you find yourself in trouble.

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greenguy12us		Posted On Jul 12, 2017

Don't cruise where there are local guys roaming around. They are aware of the activities and are in search of gullible guys. They extort money and even beat you. Cruise the places where there are more likely outsiders will be visiting. Once I had trouble at a loo where a local guy flashed his *** and when I tried to touch it he shouted and called his frds. But I being a local too I managed to escape by arguing with them and blaming him instead of touching me.
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253008		Posted On Jul 12, 2017

list of few places where accidents happened :
1,kurla platform no 5/6 loo : in evning the place is heaven sometimes but stds people, police and local thugs
one guy was bitten in loo by 3 guys n more incidents, police cases but still place is good to cruise in early morning to evening.

2.kurla highway signal : such a worst place
there was a guy murdered , blade cuts on rikshawala , robbery wid young guys 12-25.

3. koper station loo : group of guys will come n show u *** n ask you to go other side n they will rob everything.

4.ghatkoper station loo plat no 4. : one guy bitten by cops and even *** them brutally.

5.bhandup station loo: they will ask you to go east side..there is places where they will rob u easily and u cant do anything.

6. cotton green station : thugs everywhere n cheap people..
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letsfuck		Posted On Jul 12, 2017

The cops resort to physical violence if you show courage. Since they are more in number they abuse you physically to extort money. I think we need some substantial action against these thugs. It cant be brought in media because of the social stigma. But this has to stop.
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Incestmate		Posted On Jul 12, 2017

Offcourse there is risk in every action which r sexually or Socially or nonsexually related.
Utmost is keep yr eyes ears open .
Allways go out for search of sexual / social / or anytype of fun without carrying any of ur valuables i.e. gold /silver/credit-debit cards, expensive gadgets or anything other).
Before hitting a spot for sexual activities take 3 / 5 rounds of that place and its surroundings to understand the geography of the area & to spot out the criminials out there waiting for thier trap plans execution.
For gays , when u meet ur N.S.A mate , u shuld not directly venture into the loos or any spots at the 1st instance but keep patience and meet ur sexmate few days later that too at different place.

For those u r trapped, keep ur guts and learn from the mistakes which got u in the trap and see to it , that same is nvr repeated again.

And , offcourse let others know thru this ohmojo website about all risks /bad experinces and name the spots where others can b cautious by learning thru ur bad experinces.

Lets form a safe community and enjoy.

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Ebubu		Posted On Jul 12, 2017

Of course thugging by the police and other locals will never stop as long as things will go their way. Guys, learn from the Stonewall riots and learn to organize yourselves in groups. I know well enough that with this situation of Art 377 returning to being valid again, the power is in the hands of the police, but if no one takes action, and I mean VIOLENT action against that, THINGS WILL NEVER CHANGE. Indians, it's for you to fight back and find solutions to end this nonsense !
When you see a violent action from the police side, try to take pics and send them to international papers and gay rights organizations. The last thing Modi needs right now is to be ridiculed at an international level on civil rights and liberties.
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Lust&Love		Posted On Jul 13, 2017

Hey guys,,,,
Just a suggestion...In case u r caught and are taken to ATM for money extraction, you just have to enter wrong pin so that the card gets blocked in three attempts. While you make last attempt to enter wrong pin, you may call the thug inside so that he gets captured in the camera. Once the card is blocked, it will not be activated until next day. Later if the cops threaten to u to call ur family/friends tell them u r open to family/frnds so they know about u. Just be confident.
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63157		Posted On Jul 13, 2017

Reverse pin is a hoax. There is no such mechanism.
Better not to carry any cards when meeting strangers. And at secluded places.
Frankly i dont understand the desperation of visiting loos for cruising. I try to avoid go to a public loo even to attend natures call. But then, to each his own
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CrazyCruiser		Posted On Jul 13, 2017

Some not-so-fool-proof way for safe(er) cruising:

1. This rule doesn't apply to life in general, but to cruising too: "Nothing in life is easy." If you go inside a loo, and someone immediately starts showing interest in you, or persists even after you're not showing interest, do no entertain that guy even in the slightest. Definitely do not entertain a guy who is really good looking (or better looking than you) and who's showing unreasonable interest in you. Let me not elaborate the obvious here. Always desist, pause, act "straight and uninterested", see if anyone else around you is doing something naughty too, if no one is doing anything naughty, you should not initiate it, it almost invariably means it's a setup; if there are others who are freely doing stuff, then it could perhaps be safe to assume that it's OK.

2. Look for tell-tale signs. Does the guy look like a thug or a wife-beater? Is he wearing extremely straight clothes with those bulky black Oxford shoes? Does he look like typical marathi goon? (no offence, I myself am maharashtrian). If yes, then high chances he's a cop. If the profile is exactly opposite: bindaas, lafanga-looking romeo, fearlessly wagging his *** at everyone in the loo, dressed gay in the most obvious sense, high chances he's the bait.

3. 100-50-10 ft Analysis: Before you enter a cruising spot, do this analysis. First, inspect from 100 ft how the scenario is looking. Yes, there will be shifty-looking people hovering around the spot, but how many of them appear a little nervous, how many of them look smug. The thugs always look smug, remember that because the bastards know they're in for the kill. At 50 ft, see how many people notice you and their reactions thereupon, carry out the instructions in point no. 2 above. If point no. 1 is happening, leave immediately but nonchalantly. If there are a bunch of covert acting people, some nervous, it can be assumed that they are there for some time, ergo, no problem yet. At 10 ft, you immerse yourself into the spot. The people you observed at 50 ft, if their behaviour remains unchanged, it's probably safe. Try keeping a lookout on how many new guys are "suddenly" entering the scene after you did and swarming towards you. If that's the case, finish your business like a straight-acting guy and leave at a normal speed without eye-contact. If you've already analysed the scene to be safe, wait till the others in the scene get acclimatised to your presence and trust you that you're not a nuisance and allow them to resume their activity which might've been interrupted by your arrival. Give a hint of smile to someone doing naughty stuff if there's no one around. If there's someone staring only at you even though others are indulging in naughty stuff, leave (without giving that approving smile and all).

4. A friend in need rescues you when you're caught in deed: Even if you don't mention it to your friend that you're out cruising it's OK. Most of us anyway cruise at the spur of the moment. But confide in that one close friend of yours who you know won't judge you that you like to cruise at such risky places. And let him know that you'll be calling him in case something unfortunate happens. And save his number like "Dad" or "Baba" or "Home", so that if you're forced to call your family you can dial that number and get that friend by your side without having to explain anything over the call in front of the possibly fake cops.

5. It's also safer to keep your debit/credit cards hidden inside your bag instead of wallet if you're doing a spur of the moment cruising. If you don't have a bag, put them inside your shoes or socks or inside your pants, wherever that's not gonna be accessible without thorough frisking. These extortionists are not gonna force you to get strip searched because they don't have time for this and they themselves are a little over the edge. I would still support that you stand up for yourself and not give in to demands, but if you're of a soft heart, then better to these tricks. Sometimes it's still better to not carry your cards at all, and just enough cash if you're "planning to go cruising".

These are not exactly fool-proof as I mentioned, but could greatly reduce the chances of you being in a spot. I'll add more if I think of some.
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253008		Posted On Jul 13, 2017

ohmojo.com is best cruising spot site where you can find almost all spots in mumnbai and navi mumbai.
as things gone worst better option is to take someone wid you who knows how to cruise properly..even at ampty places u can find hot guys but what if they robbed u ? u cant do anything..


same happened wid my frd
he gone at cruising place and got robbed mobile ,wallet and watch n more
he came out of place and asked for help
but nobody helped..after lots of begging one autowala agrred to took him nearest police station and had complaint and he called his family as he has no option
young guy who was enjoying his life had lots of troubles from that incident.
his whole family and me were present at police station till 3am
the guy who was silent guy in society n everybody was talking about him..staring him because everyone knew what exactly happened and he could not even explained to anyone!!
all the time crying and police ,family and all society people asking : why u went there inside and the place is very cheap..people n cops saying hijdas and prostitutes used to stand there , why u visited such a place ?

such an shameful moment when the things happenes with respected guys,educated!!
cops keeping eyes on him for more than 15 days.finally he just doing job and go his home only..
always being sad!!
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letsfuck		Posted On Jul 14, 2017

Thats quite fool proof Crazy Cruiser. Thank you. Everyone, veterans and juveniles, can use your tips for safe cruising.
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panpipe69@gmail		Posted On Jul 14, 2017

Thanks, CC, for the very exhaustive "DIY" list.
Since I'm reading it in retrosopect, I feel even more dumb!
In hindsight, now I realise there were all the clear signs this was a set up.
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Irfan99		Posted On Jul 15, 2017

Guys, thanks for all the heads-up in this thread. I need some tips (or experiences if you have any) for a thing that's nagging me for a while now. I'm getting messages from members that I'm interested in, for coming over to their place. Now, I'm just extra cautious by nature and I tend to meet people at a neutral place - at least for starters before getting too comfortable and taking it to anyone's pad.

I'm concerned though about such guys who invite people over to their place and film them via a hidden camera. After all, it's their place and they know well where to place it to keep it out of sight. I'm super concerned about anyone extorting me with either photos or videos of us in compromising positions.

Have you guys gone over to anybody's place and what measures did you take to ensure this doesn't happen? Any bad experience when it did happen? Please put my nerves at ease guys. I have some good invitation with people who I'd like to connect.
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bouncingonrods		Posted On Jul 22, 2017

It's always a risk @irfan.
The times when I visited people's homes, I just took a risk and went but that is out of sheer desperation (because they were both hung like pornstars and to me it was worth the risk).

If cam is the issue, just place a condition of doing it with the lights off or if it is daytime, the curtains drawn. But about blackmailers, just use tips from the experts in the posts above.
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Irfan99		Posted On Jul 23, 2017

@Bouncingonrods : Thanks for the tip. I've been invited a couple of times and I just turned down their requests completely. Better safe than sorry, as they say. But I don't know for how long I can just keep turning down home invites. Maybe I'll just buckle in and visit and keep your advice in mind.
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yuviraj1973		Posted On Jul 23, 2017

@ Irfan Let me relate a story that happened to me 8 years ago... but still sends shivers down my spine each time I think of it!!!

I had met this guy on a then very popular site called www.gay.com (dunno if it still exists!) We chatted on the phone and he called me over. I knew he was married, so asked him where his wife was, he said she in Nashik - fair enought. I land up at his house at about 5pm, Very decent guy, well turned out, good house, well placed in a bank. Nice looking. We started to make out... about 45 mins into *** he was on his fours *** my *** like a hungry bitch, and the doorbell rang, he said ignore it they will go.
But 'they' didn't go... the bell kept ringing, I lost my hard on and let to dress up, he went to the door, and it was his WIFE!!!! she had the keys to the house, so she tried the lock, but he had locked it from inside.... he was so cool ... i was panicking!!! he said don't worry she will go away... but she *** didn't!!! kept ringing the door and the home phone... the idiot didn't open!!!
Finally he got into the towel , got wet and came out acting as if he was in the shower, opened the door , i was sitting like i was a courier guy, come to deliver something.... *** shitting my pants, in two minutes I ran from there and blocked his number just in case his wife were to call.....
LAUGHED SO MUCH AFTER!!!!
But how do u safeguard against such STUPIDITY!!!!!
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Irfan99		Posted On Jul 23, 2017

Also, I forgot to add, that this was perchance one of the rare cases where a spouse walks in. I don't think that will happen too often. Come to think about it, why would a guy call someone over when he knows his spouse can barge in anytime.

But at least here, both of you were consenting and decent. My fear is of a different kind. What if you were making out and the other guy tapes you for extortion later? That certainly scares the holy *** out of me.
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yuviraj1973		Posted On Jul 23, 2017

Few Pointers
Meet the guy outside first
Second the area, staying conditions etc play an important role
Don't jump into bed ...look around see where the phone is... are there any blinking lights anywhere.. etc..
Say a prayer each time!!! ;D
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bouncingonrods		Posted On Jul 23, 2017

@irfan
However, I am pretty much like you are. When it comes to people from the net, even i never took the risk of meeting them, except a few here and there back when I was unaware of such risks.

The instances when I took a risk knowingly were with guys I met in local trains, I made out a bit with them in the train and then they invited me over, i went after kind of getting decent vibes from them about their intentions. As against these 2 guys, there were several others who made out with me in a train and then invited me but i just couldn't find myself to agree. I guess it's instinct.
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suraj2013		Posted On Jul 29, 2017

I feel we also need to have any support group whom we can contact if we get into any trouble. May be a lawyer. I was once caught in kopar loo the cop asked to call lawyer or family members. I kept on insisting I know fine is 1200 and I will that. Later they thaught I am regular offender took 1200 and left me. But some of my other friends were not lucky caught in dahisar station loo. One of my friend was beaten by cops and also they told his family as he did not pay 5000 bribe they ask for. About mavali guys in Kurla loo we should have some mechanism to teach them a lesson. I agree we are also at fault going to public urinals for quick ***
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CrazyCruiser		Posted On Aug 8, 2017

Another species of guys to be wary of during cruising are the 'ghati' or 'mavali' types, you usually find populating a political rally, sporting a tika on the forehead. They can be worse than undercover cops. They could make you *** them and then later frame you or harass you. These are usually the marathi homophobic guys acting all straight. They may not understand that you're cruising, but if you even as much stare at them, they will stare back at you, as if daring with their 'mardangi' to stare back more, and you might mistaken that as a cruising approval.
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264304		Posted On Oct 10, 2017

I am a south indian guy from Goregaon. On the night of 4-oct-17, I met a cute guy (he said he is from Goa) at nagardas road tabela loo at Andheri East . He had a Scooter. We both decided to have fun. Upon his suggestion we rode to a nearby roadside loo (having 3 booths), but could not do action there, since there are people around. After that upon my suggestion we rode to the Slum loo on the highway which is at left hand side when we go from metro signal (Western Express Highway, Andheri) to Gundavali. When we are about to enter the loo, we noticed one old man sitting outside on a concrete pipe and watching us, but we were not bothered about him due to the excitement. We have entered one of the toilet booths and had good fun. We then heard noises of many person outside and they knocked on the door. Upon opening the door I could notice that outside there are 7 to 8 men including the same old man. Immediately I tried to run away by overpowering them, I was severely thrashed and they have snatched my gold chain worth 20k and then they left me. The cute guy was also caught but he was taken away by one / two person. I don’t know what happened to him. They must have looted him. I have returned to the location after 5 minutes, but I could not find him. We have not exchanged name or contact no. I am sincerely concerned about his well being and I am deeply interested in him. If he is reading this post please contact me.
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kathir7		Posted On Nov 14, 2018

I went to pee at a cruising place post work around 11 pm near padi and I saw a guy flashing his *** and coming close to me.he told me to come to adjoining place and insisted me to come inside an abandoned room with a door.he said the place is safe and we could see any one coming.i entered the room and we started hugging and holding ***.suddenly he said he could see guys coming and asked me to go and he ran away.group of 3 men of age in early twenties came and held me and started asking me what you are doing with him there and stared thrashing me.one guy punced me in face and head and hit me in the neck for more than 13 times another guy slapped me probably and they were forcing em to come to the dark corner.they said they knew what I was doing in that room and forced me to say .one of the guy was video taping I believe.aftrr some time some passerby were walking in that side and I shouted for help and these guys losened their grip and I started running away.my *** was bleeding and ears are paining and am scared to hospital.
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Indrachaap		Posted On Nov 14, 2018

That's really sad yaar

We all have to be so careful
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bisanthosh		Posted On Nov 14, 2018

Lot of social animals are ready to loot you.. Some might video tape you while you are in hot action and later threaten you.. cruising might give you thrill, but the risks and problems you face later will give you lifelong pain. Get a room and do whatever kind of *** you wanted to do..
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Sagardvg		Posted On Nov 14, 2018

@kathir7
True
Even I hv had very bad experience
I met a guy at majestic loo
We introduced each other n talked for sometime
Since I was late I had to rush but the guy tempted me
He told me he wd blow me dry
I was very extited
I took me to some isolated area near railway track
We entered empty bogey n started groping each other
Suddenly a guy attacked. It was his friend
He started abusing me n he claimed to be a cop
It was a trap
I was totally scared as he stretch clicking pics of mine n said he will take me to police station
He was beating me up but not his friend (the guy who trapped me). He wanted to loot me. He was asking my ID card
I realised it later tht it's a trap
It was bit difficult to escape as they were two altogether n the other guy was trapping the door so tht I don't run away
Finally, somehow I struggled n escaped
I had few bruises & scratches on my hand
I lost my chappal during this incident
It was a great escape n thanked almighty God
God is great
So guys please be careful
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Sagardvg		Posted On Nov 14, 2018

The problem is that m *** always
Always high n can't control my sexual urge
Any tips guys ?
How to control ?
Should wee control
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Valentine84		Posted On Nov 14, 2018

@sagardvg - if you are that ***, why can't find a constant and settle down rather than cruising and risking ? Lol :p
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Valentine84		Posted On Nov 14, 2018

@sagardvg - I meant a constant partner.
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Prashto		Posted On Nov 14, 2018

Cruise ing anywhere in India is risky ....i stopped it completely. I was trapped many times in Pune Mumbai and once Coimbatore and last time in Pune I was just standing that guy shagging and I didn't do anything and still he and his gang may be sponsored by police beat me badly my ear drum raptured I too fought with those 6 goons was not enough suddenly police saw they beating me and I was saved I talk with police that guy kept standing shagging his *** and suddenly started beating me then after that also sometimes I went to few look but frequency and lust to go to look is reduced and now I don't go at all
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Prashto		Posted On Nov 14, 2018

Cruising in loos I was doing since teenager now mostly I go for massager and escorts or parties....I am really fed up of massager too or such *** as there is no emotion involved and at least in India i won't get boyfriend commited so I think I should stop my sexuality compltly
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Lips4hugepoles		Posted On Nov 14, 2018

Keep a pepper spray, guys. The biggest risk now is goons rather than rogue cops. When they ask you for money, pull that out of your bag and blind them. Add a couple of more smacks for fun lol
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wingedcupid		Posted On Nov 14, 2018

At least all of my gay friends have undergone one or other such issues.
1. I was in college and while cruising in a bus stand,a man who trapped me asked me for money. After knowing i had nothing in hand he forced me to take him to my home. I was feeling that i would easily escape this by taking him in long winded route and run away from a gully connecting streets. I just entered a random house and helplessly noticed that the gully was closed through construction of a wall. He came behind me and then blackmailed me to take me to my home. I went to my home,ask mom to give me 400 rs urgently for buying a book. She gave me money which i handed over it to him. 400rs was like 10000 to us during then for a middle class family. He left me by then but it didnt end there. He came directly to my house along with one of his friend saying my name. Mom was wondering how such weirdos are looking for me but then i took them down and asked what do they want. He said that his friend has attacked someone with knife and he was on the look out by police. If i give 1000 rs he will escape to another place. I begged and pleaded how on earth i could make 1000 rs. By grace from heaven, i just uttered some nonsense telling them that my uncle who is living nearby is a police. If we meet him probably he can help the friend in preventing arrests. I didnt wait for his reaction and started walking nearby. These guys ran away instantly. I didnt calculate to say what i have to but then i genuinely think to date it was divine intervention helping a poor timid helpless boy and look marvelously and intelligently i escaped there. He never dared to come back and once again during a cruise i saw. The moment i saw him i told come lets go to my uncle again and then he ran off swearing me in bad words

2. Another instance a good looking guy called me to have ***. He was in good shape and had rowdy looks which was attractive to me. I had not believed myself when he called me and went with him in a trance. He was very much arrogant in *** that we had in open air. He forced me to lick his dirty *** and ugly ***. Once its over he took my shirt and my watch as i had nothing. All he asked was 20rs but then since i didnt have, he took my possession. I ran behind him.begging how would i go home in just a brief, he threw his dirty tattered t shirt and left as a deaf man. Somehow i sneaked into my house, took some dress which was drying outside and went inside. This incident is so etched in my mind that todate i never wear watch though i can afford several now. I gave up wearing watching in despair.

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Cuteguysblr		Posted On Nov 14, 2018

I was very small that time. It was the time when there is no Grindr or PR. G4M might have existed but I was unaware. Only thing I know that time was Yahoo messenger room number 9. Also I love to watch *** in public urinals. This was happening for long time but i didn't had fun with anyone who approached me in urinals. One time a guy approched me and told he stay in a lodge which is very close by. I just went with him. After we we started making out only I understood he is so drunk. He asked me to do weired stuffs which i don't even remember. I wanted to leave that place. But he is not allowing me. He forcefully making me to do stuff. I was literally crying and pleaded him continueously that I wanted to leave. But he took my cloths and not returning. I was completely nude. He keep forcing me to do something and he told he will return my cloths once he satisfied. I felt like hell amd doing stuff with tears. At one point somehow I could grasp my cloths and open the door. I ran out of that room naked, I weared half of my cloths in corridor of that lodge and ran away from there. I stopped doing *** for sometime after that incidence.

One more time I met someone in public cruising, I have taken a room in a lodge since we don't have place. We started making out, I went to washroom in between. This guy trying to take my wallet. I somehow mamaged to catch him. He started asking money. I bargained and gave him some 100s and escaped frok him.

In one more similar incident I had complete fun with a guy and we both slept naked. Next day morning I could see he is Missing, my money in my wallet and my cloths as well. Luckily I had another pair of cloths in my bag. Alao he didn't take my ATM. So managed somehow.

One more incident. I was drunk and wanted to buy more drinks. Went to liquor shop and saw a handsome man. He smiled at me. We had conversations. I bought drinks for him as well. We had drinks in a ground kind of area. I started touching him. He attacked me, I fell unconscious and he looted my entire wallet amd mobile. I waa on the ground for many hours, lated got litrle concious and went home

These all happened in Coimbatore at an young age. Now I am aware how to handle things well. But need to control our emotions mainly when we are drunk
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Apb		Posted On Nov 15, 2018


Sad that everyone being hurt in one way or the other,,one side it's full of love ,feelings and emotion..The other side it's just to snatch ,loot,others money and valuables.
In my case few guys taking good service, walk out saying their paytm, is not working and will be crediting later, but wannish by switching off their mobile and block my number,,but these type are very few,,and in other hand have met so many good hearted men of all ages , who value and respect , ones love ,emotion, feelings. It's all part of life. So staying with selective friends or a partner is the one way to avoid these bad incidences.
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tonedbloke		Posted On Nov 15, 2018

Public cruising is dangerous. I know I have been in uncomfortable and dangerous situations many times. We actually search for dark secluded places to do our stuff and put ourselves at risk.
I know it is difficult to control the urge. Even if we have a decent partner we still search for new encounters because the thrill of meeting some one new is always exciting.
One way to reduce the risk is to share contacts with friends in order to meet new guys. That way at least we know that the guy we are meeting is genuine and not going to be a extortionist or thug.
Second advice I got which I still need to try sounds a bit stupid. I was told, *** when you get the urge. At least for a few hours the urge will go away.
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Softsmart22 *		Posted On Nov 15, 2018

@tonedbloke I like your 2nd point if we do that the urge will go for few hours and definitely we can get time to think further whether go or no go...
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Sasmathu		Posted On Nov 15, 2018

It is saddening and heat wreaking to read some of the experiences. One of my friend is an expert in crusing. Just to give an example, he took his wife and kid to a nearby park.There he met a guy to whom he was instantaneously attracted. He made his wife and kid sit at one place, went for a long walk, had fun with the guy and then joined his wife and kid as if nothing happened. Of course he might have also had bad experiences, which i am not ware of. But this was one amazing experience which he shared with me.One valuable advice which he gave me for crusing is never go alone. Infact he had a gay partner and both had a open relationship. So when it comes to crusing both go together. Then in the crusing spot they split as though both have come separately.Then once they get a guy, they would tell him they have come together and whether he is ok for threesome. If he says ok both guys will enjoy with him. Otherwise, one will enjoy and another will be a guard. Infact atleast once a month they take a room near the beach. Booze, go for crusing in beach late night, pick up a guy,take him to a room and have fun. I personally feel when two or more guys go together the chances of extortion is pretty low. Of for this to work one needs to have trustworthy gay friends and perfect understanding.
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Manuman		Posted On Nov 17, 2018

Once I was peeing in a public urinal and I noticed that the guy next to me was shagging. He was cute and I started getting ***. We both held each other's ***. Then he told me to follow him to the toilet. I was *** and did what he said. We both enjoyed in the toilet. When I was trying to open the door, he didn't allow me. He asked me for money and started shouting. I panicked. I took out my wallet and offered him 100 but he asked for more. I wanted to get out immediately and gave him 500 and he allowed me to leave. I still feel lucky that he didn't snatch my wallet and it was a good lesson learnt.
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Sasmathu		Posted On Nov 17, 2018

@Manuman Exactly the same incident happened to a friend of mine at koyamedu bus stand. Since he was tall well built and elderly he literally threw the guy to the floor and escaped.
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Topwithplace15		Posted On Nov 17, 2018

Yes, this is true and that's why I never meet any locals (kannadigas), this happened because of a bad experience, through Locanto I met one guy he informed that he is 21 and studying, but he was a uneduacted guy and carried a huge knife with him when he met me, it was long steel rod like knife and he was uncomfortable sitting in my bike, I noticed something is wrong and able to make it that's it's 15 inches long.rod knife, I dropped him.in the way with some tricks and he later called.me.and threatened to pay him 2000 RS, as he knows who I am, I blocked his number
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Sunny Starr		Posted On Nov 18, 2018

First of all I don't understand why do people go cruising outside. It is never safe. You never know who you will meet, cops, goons, *** adicts, rapists, might be to be murderers etc. Another possibility is , what if they steal you of everything, even you clothes. They can leave you stark naked, click pics or video and then blackmail you for more. Why cruise outside when you can meet nice people on oh.mojo or any other website.

Also please don't have *** outside in a dirty place like public loo. I always meet guys only if they have a safe place or call them if I can arrange a safe place. No *** outside or in public place.
Keep it simple guys. NO SAFE PLACE, NO ***. Its better to be safe than sorry...
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HeadsTailsAndHo		Posted On Nov 18, 2018

@SunnyStarr

First of all, it is individuals choice to cruise outside or not.
If idea of cruising outside was really such bad, the site itself had not been there. Remember, the site is mainly about cruising? Such discussion threads have been added later.

Now, coming to Why people do cruise outside, possibilitity of blackmailing, uncertainty of meeting unknowns (cop or goon) etc.
If you say that meeting people from dating sites is safe and sure and tried - tested method, then it is a myth.
I have met cops, army guys, from these dating sites. I have heard stories that people met someone thru these sites and the guy was found a goon. People have also shared stories where they say they got recorded while having *** with a guy who me they met thru dating sites.

Anyways...
What I am trying to say, the difference between cruising online (ie from dating sites) and crashing outside is just the physical activity, ke you have to roam outside and look for a date.
Same like online shopping and regular shopping.
Besides, in regular cruising, one gets thrill, as he has actually put efforts to get someone ***, in converting a possible straight guy to have gay ***, etc.
Besides that, fun of seducing someone, excitement in looking at *** / crotch / bums / chests / biceps of others, chasing someone, looKing others having ***, .... all these are also included.
Also there is another fact with Regular Cruising is
What you see what you get.
While in case of Online cruising it is often, what you see is definitely not what you get. People post their OLD pix in which they look younger, people post one of their BEST pix in which they are looking really handsome, people post pix of the era when they were fit and muscular. But when you meet them in real, you get disappointed, but you can't blame them either as you asked them for pix and they shared their own pix.

Anyways...
I just wrote on behalf of me, a fan on Regular Cruising fun.

PS: In case of online cruising, often you don't get quick ***. If you need quick ***, regular cruising is best.
It is same as, while coming from office, I got late. My cook did not come, I am hungry, I need food, so I will simply stopby to any food joint and will order some good food and have it. That time I will not go and searching what all options are available.
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Gulfisaforever		Posted On Nov 18, 2018

@headstails
Relax. Even he has a good point. Nd so do you. Both activities have their respective pros n cons. Nd ya physical cruising definitely has the what u see is what u get advantage. Its simple too. U dont like someone u dont give them any signals; the end of the story. While online dating is much more fussy n complicated. People take forever to share their pics, whether they are real n accurate pics is baat ko to bhul hi jao. Its an idle mans job, to find a good online date. But ya u do get to pick who u want to meet more accurately online, than in physical cruising.
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Valentine84		Posted On Nov 19, 2018

@headtailsho - Physical cruising is for people who dare and wish to take a risk. As for a closet gay like me, I prefer online hook up sites. Also I am not convinced with your analogy of stopping by and buying food when ur cook is absent. We are in the age where we use umpteen food delivery apps to appease our hunger. These apps comes with the review and rating as well which help us choose better. The same holds for online dating as well.

I agree "WHAT YOU SEE IS NOT WHAT YOU GET" in online but the review could always help. I am not sure how many of you use the 'classic' version of planetromeo. It's has GB feature where we could read about the profile we are visiting. If a mutual friend gives a GB, it's a safer bet and I mostly try such options. Even in physical cruising, looks can be deceptive but in online hook up it gives you a choice and if your shewrd you can even do a few cursory checks (checking phone nos in truecaller(tagging is a get at feature), whatsapp status)before you go ahead. Also fake profiles could be marked spam or reported.

But in cruising, you have solely depend on your gut feeling which is risky in my point of view. Of course, there are pros and cons in both but BETTER SAFE THAN BEING SORRY :)
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Kdj		Posted On Nov 20, 2018

@valentine84. headstails used hunger and cook thing as a metaphor not an example.
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Lips4hugepoles		Posted On Nov 20, 2018

@kdj that's what valentine meant lol. He doesn't agree with the comparison
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Exotic1234		Posted On Nov 20, 2018

The days of cruising are long gone with the advent of technology. I think yahoo chat rooms started to kill the world of cruising and with other sites like PR, Gaydar it just kept going down and with the Internet on your mobiles it’s as good as gone. However cruising still happens in some ways - I read posts about people going to the Vijaya Movie theatre or Marina Swimming Pool, that’s a form of cruising, in Delhi the gay spa’s on Fri Sat and Sun open up to patrons who can use the facility for sauna/steam and dark rooms, that’s clearly a form of safe cruising. Cruising is fun but like others have already mentioned it comes with its share of risks and safety. However chances of gay curious / straight men who swing once in a while is possible only thru cruising as they are usually not on any sites. Trust me there is a whole new world of people willing to experiment with their sexuality only the timing and the ambience has to be right
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Valentine84		Posted On Nov 20, 2018

@kdj - I guess I also mentioned it as an analogy. Guess u didn't get that ;)
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Mehulsingh		Posted On Aug 27, 2023

What I felt during cruising :
#Always be careful of cops
#Dont indulge in any activity they may land u in troubles, dont pounce on a straight, wait to get cules
#Dont carry your wallet , carry only limited amount of money /metro card , NO atms , valuables or personal identities
# If you go to cruising place by your own vehicle, never park it at the crusisng place like just infront of the urinal.. Easy prey to cops if caught , they may ask you multiple things ans u may land in trouble..park it far away and walk to the destination
# never wait until dark inside parks or secluded places, easy to get robbed or injured!
# Always be aware of sexually trasmitted diseases , always wash your *** /genitals after the bl**job... Avoid coming in contact with semen... Condom should be must!
# Dont go behind the person who said you NO earlier , just attempt a 2nd if you r eager for him only ,even if then he says "no"plz avoid him..
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Unleash009		Posted On Aug 28, 2023

Thanks @MehulSingh for highlighting all the points. There's no harm in having fun but be cautious. I am telling this from my experience. Always be careful. Kahin Maza, Saza na ban jaye.
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