Let's talk about the issues within our community
Wanted to start a forum/thread for us to talk about the issues within LGBTQIA+ community.. issues we've seen/faced/heard/wanted to talk about. I'll go first..
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FarhaanAbad | Posted On Aug 5, 2022
@Hydversguy... Yeah. Cruising is dying slowly. Cruising used to be about finding people like you in expected places just by using some gestures/facial expressions or something... The art of crusing is dying and so are the Cruising spots...
Ofcourse, apps/websites like these help us connect faster reducing the risk of exposure to our homophobic society..
But Cruising is absofuckinlutely fun!! |
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FarhaanAbad | Posted On Aug 5, 2022
Things or issues i wanted to talk about originally in the titled post :
Issues in our community (WE NEED TO ADDRESS THIS)
1. BOTTOM SHAMING. Internalised homophobia within our own community... Why do some tops feel the NEED to shame bottoms? They're more than just HOLES that you wanna ***. Unless it's a kink (consented by both parties) nobody deserves to be called a ***, gaandu, raand, chhinaal "kitnon ka leta hoga Roz" ,..,..,
Imagine a world without bottoms.. what would these tops do? Hilaane ke alawa kuch nahi bachega fir.
Be a little respectful towards people that take some pain (actual physical pain) to please you. *** karke *** karne ke baad don't behave like you've USED them. Make them feel good. Show some gratitude. Ask them if they enjoyed it as well. Don't immediately dress up and walk away. Have a little conversation. Treat them like humans..not like your personal peepee pleasers.
2. Remember, not all effeminate men are gay and not all gay men are effeminate. Irrespective of their sexuality, stop shaming them. Their 'feminine' behaviour doesn't affect you or your lifestyle. So stfu and let live. Judge not.
It is okay to not PREFER hanging out/having *** with them but do not shame them for who they are and how they behave (steriotypically) You be you, and let them be..
3. Lack of acceptance of TRANS/INTERSEX/KINNAR/HIJDA community. (within our own community)
Just because they don't fulfil YOUR made up criteria of who fits and who doesn't in our community doesn't mean they don't belong here.
This one calls for a long-*** in-detail discussion. Hum sab saath mei LGBTQIA+ kehlaate hain. Alag alag nahi. Apnon ke beech apnon ke saath kyun discrimination? Kyun paraya treatment? Fir tum mei aur straight homophobes mei zyada fark nahi rehgaya na. Yeh convenience basis pe selective acceptance and selective pyaar mat karo. Sab apne hi log hain. Hum sab ek hain!!! Paanch ungliyaan mil kar hi ek mutthi banti hai.
4. Denigrating our BISEXUAL bhais/behens/them:
It's not a TRANSITION phase. Some people really ARE bisexuals.
Even if they are gay, it's not for you to say or force them to come out as gay. Not your life, not your job. So sit the *** down.
They're not BISEXUAL because they want partial acceptance from the straights. They're bisexual cuz they ARE bisexual. Periodt.
5. Gender fluid/non binary :
Aapko nahi samajh aya koi baat nahi. Koshish karo samajhne ki. I educate myself too. I talk about fluidity with my friends. I try my best to understand. The more I learn, the more I understand.
Nahi samajhna toh bhi koi baat nahi. Just don't judge their being, their choices, their lifestyle. Just like you expect not to be judged by others. Jio and jeene do.
I'm sure there are so many other issues i haven't mentioned kyunki Mera dimaag abhi block ho rakha hai XD
Do comment and add on to this. Thanks. Bye.
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Upfront | Posted On Aug 6, 2022
All cruising places in Hyderabad that I knew are almost gone. |
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Vanshi * | Posted On Aug 11, 2022
@FarjaanAbad Excellently put in words.
It's sad that we in our own community are so prejudiced and discriminating.
I even liked your point on treating transgenders with respect. I had a problem with them because of my experience with them in trains. However i don't have the same opinion about every transgender for not every onebis the same. |
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Milf11lover | Posted On Sep 8, 2022
Yeah... actually I consider being a bi as very cool thing. I mean who in the world get the pleasure both the sexes and be happy at the very same rate. Sharing love with multiple partners is an art..that too sharing love with different partners from different genders is definitely top of all the straight and LGTQ communities |
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Kar_thik | Posted On Sep 8, 2022
Not understanding what "No" means: forcing yourself, harrasing or acting rude just cuz you got rejected is small *** energy
Making fun for searching for life partner: I don't understand this kind of mentality at all, like yes if you like promiscuous lifestyle then good for you but you cannot expect every gay man on earth to follow that. Stop making fun for being afraid of stds or wanting monogamy |
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