Narcissism as such is self egotistic appreciation of one's own self attributes.. We as gay men admire a lot of attributes on other men but we do take pride on something(s) about our ownselves too..
Don't limit your answers to just physical attributes which you admire in you but also any personality traits you admire yourself for.. Curious to know how we value our ownselves..
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Guru005 | Posted On Apr 22, 2018
Well, I'm not sure about writing narcissistic behavior of myself. A few days back I saw what looked like my dream boy and I just did the usual thing, to message him. The response put me in total shock as he started abusive words and questioning me if I saw myself in mirror and how ugly I was. He added further his body was meant for handsome hunks and I dare not bother disturbing him. I felt extremely insulted, but didn't care because it wasn't my problem and it was his narcissistic behavior and superiority complex, I'm sure he'll learn his lesson the hard way. People like you (Valentine's), gayspark, pandi1980, introvert, sasmathu are epitome of decency and maturity. I'm sure it takes time for the rest to go through in life what it needs to attain such levels of good behavior. Narcissistic behavior is badly attributed to bad parenting, who failed from their duty. |
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245068 | Posted On Apr 22, 2018
I do believe almost everyone has a living physcho within. Few are liked by others and rest are our practical examples. I know how I looks. Since in someone's standard measure, we may fall in last category. But it doesn't mean I m not smart. I literally went to tears, when a blind person kissed and said that I am the most beautiful person in the world. The people with eyes are judging with our profile pics and likes, comments we received. I always wonder, we see some hot hunks in FB with many likes and comments. But still what they are searching in Grindr and PR?!. I have been cheated, rejected, but at the same time I have been appreciated and cherished. There are still people around me, who see only what I succeeded and achieved, What I deserve. So the attitude abt looks come by maturity. Lot of people are highlighting their physo's over their own personality and eventually understand life with karma. So let's live simple š |
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Valentine84 | Posted On Apr 22, 2018
Guys - chill .. Cool.. I didn't expect this topic to take a serious overtone.. I am not asking about the NPD - Narcissistic Personality Disorder which is deeper psychological problem..
I just asked when you look at yourself in the mirror what do you admire in you... Leave alone the physical attributes any of your personality traits which you take pride on..,
Keep it light guys ;) |
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279743 | Posted On Apr 22, 2018
Physical attributes : My cute looks, brown eyes, my smile,my complexion and skin tone
Personality traits : Perseverance, Management and Soft Skills, My language skills, Stoicism |
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Guru005 | Posted On Apr 22, 2018
@valentine, then your choice of words for the thread is wrong. You could have avoided the narcissist and just simply used light words like you've explained, what you like about yourself when you see in the mirror. You initiated a national highway project and then expect a narrow Lane. Lol. |
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Guru005 | Posted On Apr 22, 2018
Because, people go with the topic and the brief description, not a substantive explanation which looks like another entry submitted. |
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Valentine84 | Posted On Apr 22, 2018
@Guru - yes I did realise the intensity of the word and for the same reason gave a description as "valuing one self" and personality traits..
Never mind .. Now that I have clarified .. Go ahead and tell your views about you.. |
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Exotic1234 | Posted On Apr 22, 2018
Just live by the super famous dialogue from Jab We Met - āMain Apni Favourite Hoonā and then you will find your lifeās a joyride. |
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Exotic1234 | Posted On Apr 22, 2018
@guru - What happened with you was quite sad but i think that guy was probably suffering from low self esteem.Such people find their esteem from pulling other people down.
When I was younger I admired āsmart intelligentā people as I am growing older I admire ākindā people. Physical attributes are good for one time hook up but more often people get attracted to whatās inside of us. But then that realisation comes only with time and maturity. |
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Valentine84 | Posted On Apr 22, 2018
Fine.. I need to break the ice here since it went more off shoot.
What I admire about me when I see in mirror ?
Physical attributes
* My height - I am taller than average and so i feel I always get a better edge. ;) while wearing an ethnic outfit like a long Kurtha or sherwani my talker frame gives me a little pride ;)
* My Dimple - This dimple on my right cheek has been my unique identity ever since I was a kid. Still love certain photographs where my dimple is evident.
Personality traits:
* My communication or rather more precisely my articulation skills..
* (not sure) but at times I feel I am congenial.. |
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Exotic1234 | Posted On Apr 22, 2018
@Valentine - Good for you !!
When I look at the man in the mirror I like his self confidence, more often than not I count his blessings in life.
Other aspects - I love his amazing communication/articulation skills, a great smile, a well maintained body, the big brownish eyes , hmmmmm Indha narcissism podhuma? |
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263363 | Posted On Apr 22, 2018
My biggest asset I feel is my smile.... many say it's quiet infectious smile. Also my deep eyes, many regular people have commented openly about my eyes. So any person I have met so far have never failed to mention these two attributes which I don't know if very special. But other than that I love my butt n thighs feel so *** when I show myself off to the mirror. That's my naughtiest n horniest asset I guess. Many people say my voice is different n unique so these all I cherish |
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bromance16 | Posted On Apr 22, 2018
My eyes n clear skin. Many Ppl compliment my smile which I don't feel it that attractive.
Apart from physical features, I am a grammar Nazi which annoys many ppl but I'm quite proud of the quality. |
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Sasmathu | Posted On Apr 22, 2018
Well to look into the mirror the first thing which i admire is my big eyes and naturally trimmed eyebrows. But apart from that there is nothing much which i can take pride off with respect to my physical beauty. Then comes my degrees. I have five degrees to my credit and have always stood class first (and university first). My intelligence (LOL), subject knowledge, analytical skills, independent thinking, my self esteem, ability to put up with dire conditions, etc. In generally people say I am a sweet person but soon they also realize that i am a no nonsense guy. |
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263363 | Posted On Apr 23, 2018
@sasmathu, I salute your attitude n intellect in right way of thinking more about your achievement than your physical attribute. You can think belong what meets the eye. Which I like in you the most. Thanks for the valuable lesson. I'm inspired n waiting to reach my fifth degree dream through your help |
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Pandi1980 | Posted On Apr 23, 2018
Physical attraction :
My eye balls which have some grasping power
My smooth body.Though it is not gym toned/well built it is somewhat defined
My little tummy which doesn't look wierd
Most importantly, length of my fingers in hand (length is higher than usual length of other men)
On the whole, I am not a handsome hulk but a simple and normal looking guy in terms of physical appearance.
Other attraction:
Talkative in nature.Easily mingle with any sort of people
Very expressive (I usually pour out my feelings whether it may be anger,sad, happy to anyone)
Straight forward (will not butter anyone just becoz I need favour or anything)
Studious (first in class since from childhood and university topper too)
My degree ( very rare degree.... Till now valentine is the only person who was aware of it.99% of people will ask me if there is such course in India...LOL)
My perseverance towards anything and determination (sometimes stubborn š)
Curiosity to learn anything and quick learner (@cherry blossom - Hindi tutor ...ha ha)
Maintaining a good network (greetings to my few friends when I wake up)
Trustworthy and caring (only my close circle knows well) |
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Mahesh80 | Posted On Apr 23, 2018
Of late we are getting more and more psychological topicsā¦itās quite interesting! I enjoyed reading every single post in this thread.
I have sharp eyes, deep voice & a photogenic face. In general, I do not give much importance to my physical attributes, nor do I to those of others.
I am an animal lover and became a vegetarian many years ago due to that. A very introverted and equanimous person. I am such a lazy guy that many times I donāt even think; too lazy to even think. I have half a dozen degrees, but none of those degrees have taught me anything about real life nor were they really helpful in facing the real life issues, hence I donāt really value them much, they just added some materialistic and professional value in my life, thatās it.
I am both a dreamer & a practical person, with my one leg firmly on the earth and the other leg always facing & measuring the sky, like the trivikrama avatar of Vishnu. I somehow try to balance without falling down. Lol.
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CherryBlossom | Posted On Apr 23, 2018
@Pandi1980 you are simply adorable dude. I am glad that I can help with hindi. I am sure you are going to win lot of hearts for being intellect and approach towards people. |
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Sasmathu | Posted On Apr 23, 2018
@Gayspark and @Hellosweetshere Thanks for your compliments guys. Yes for a long time I lived in self denial, self pity, etc. But now that i have started accepting me as myself it gives me tremendous confidence. |
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Pandi1980 | Posted On Apr 23, 2018
@cherryblossom - Thanks dude
I missed one of the my assets which is more precious, my level of maturity at this age (relatively compared with other guys of my age) - got this compliments from many ...Lol |
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285360 | Posted On Apr 23, 2018
Well im gonna flaunt about my own assets now.
Physical:
Im a typical guy next door goodlooking guy. Not handsome but definitely goodlooking.
I have smooth body with firmly moobs n nips and good body . Most of the tops told me that I got nice moobs and ***.
Im very jovial funny sensible....
Kinda talkative ..... |
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Omlette | Posted On Apr 26, 2018
Mine was my smile and eyes. But after I came to Chennai I saw dark guys are much more beautiful and hot than me...and their smile are killing....so can't be proud of any asset of mine... |
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Shu | Posted On Sep 27, 2022
I used to be the guy who judge people on apperance,I am not good looking either but even then had the audacity to reject them based on their looks,I feel ashamed now,it hurts. |
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