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Homosexual but heteroromantic

Submitted by Manishgan Location: All India (All India, India)

Hello guys

I want to understand opinions of people about these concepts.

In my case I never felt any kind of sexual attraction towards women but felt a strong romantic attraction and also an attraction to kiss them.

But when it comes to men, I am so fond of their bodies and tools (m a bottom) but never ever felt any kind of romantic spark for any man. Even the kissing I do is a part of sexual desire.

My question is how to handle these two things for life. I strongly wish to get married and have a family and love, but I can’t provide any sexual pleasure to the lady. So I probably marriage isn’t a good option. But I can’t stay with a man since I never felt any romantic crush on any man. Do I have to stay single all my life? I am so worried.

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Posted On Jul 3, 2021 - 05:03 PM

accept your sexuality...you will meet the right man who will make you fall in love with him.

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Posted On Jul 3, 2021 - 05:53 PM

I kind of understand what u mean, I have been wid various men ever since I was 16 but never had the love angle. Has always been sexual.

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Posted On Jul 3, 2021 - 09:38 PM

Same here. You should try to have *** with the woman you love and it will be better than the *** with men. I too am not sexually attracted to women but when I had *** with the woman I was in love with it was ten times better than all the men I've slept with as a bottom.

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Posted On Jul 3, 2021 - 10:43 PM

Don't worry much about fitting into a specific label. Take your time to figure things out. You'll find someone to love irrespective of their gender ( and *** them with love :P ). I know you've probably done it plenty but give a deep thought to both these feelings and try to understand if there is something stopping you from exploring the other side for both men and women.

But before denying romance with a man or *** with a woman, I'd suggest try them out too (with consent ofc). We don't know we need something until we actually try it.

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Posted On Jul 4, 2021 - 04:22 AM

Yes I too feel the same

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Posted On Jul 4, 2021 - 05:14 AM

Yes budddy I have a same feeling , only change is that I don’t like to Do any hardcore fun.
Its called as Asexual Bi Romantic man.

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Posted On Jul 4, 2021 - 06:45 AM

I think you are obsessed with gender and sexuality. You must try to look for the person with who you feel emotionally and mentally connected instead of just the sexual angle. *** is only a part of the relationship and not all of it. Let go of the physicality and turn your attention on the person who can stimulate you mentally and emotionally, with who you feel like spending time with and sharing your life. *** will automatically be fulfilling.

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Posted On Jul 4, 2021 - 01:16 PM

It is very clear in your feelings itself.

If you can't provide sexual pleasure to the lady then what are you expecting our of a marriage with a straight female?

If there is no *** then do you think a straight female will be happy? hell "No"....it will be devastating and mental trauma to the female. Just think of yourself in place of that lady, I m sure you will get all the things clear in your mind.

If you really wanted to know what you are, just hire an escort lady and see if you can have intercourse. If you can and also enjoy then only go for marriage.

I hope you read and seen lot of such cases which ends up with lot of devestation and life long trauma. That ruins the familes for life time.

So I kind request you to be 200% sure and then only think about marriage otherwise, you will be inviting trouble for lifetime!!

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Posted On Jul 4, 2021 - 02:36 PM

Please dont just carried away by these illogical and unreasonable advises. neither this portal nor the members are permanent in your lives. one is going to marry not to either win or lose his married life. life is too long and that too if u dont marry, it is always said "THE MARRIED WILL STAY LIKE A SLAVE BUT DIES LIKE A KING BUT AN UN-MARRIED [BOTH MALE OR FEMALE] WILL LIVE LIKE A KING BUT DIES LIKE AN ORPHAN". there will be no one in your need in your personal life when you need the most that too even after the marriage. all these people who are advising are are against the married life especially targeting the LGBT are those who are failed in their married life. *** is the not the only one which drives or leads the life. Even a straight who got married and lived for around 10-15 years of his married life will lose interest in *** and due to many disorders, diseases, stress, old-age will not be able to perform *** due to things like accidents or unforeseen blows of life. you mean to say, they are failed in life? we the men especially, when we are stressed too much, exhausted due to either work load, traveling or tensions and so on.....will not be able to perform our *** as our *** will not either erect or sustain to have intercourse. does it mean we are failed in our married life? in today's sick age, any one can be hammered with disorders like paralysis, ***-transformation like MTF, MTF and so on. when you become sexually powerless, now a days many electronics, fiber and other satisfying accessories are available on the net due to our modernisation ! in need, there is nothing wrong in using them for mutual satisfaction for the self or the spouse secretly. but marriage is a enjoyable institution of the life - so, please let you be straight, homo, homeo, bi or part of LGBT, just go for marriage. when need comes, always you can have your favorable decision which suits to both of you. better to cross the bridge when you are across it. i hope this will clarify many doubts which are floating in this group. WISH YOU ALL A VERY HAPPY MARRIED LIFE

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Posted On Jul 4, 2021 - 05:54 PM

There is no point in gloating over a marriage when it's based on a lie!

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Posted On Jul 5, 2021 - 04:22 AM


Seriously 😳,

How illogical or bizarre your thoughts are!!!

Just because you want to die like a "KiNG".......LOL :D

Giving such lame and bizarre excuses are not going to change "who you are" and "what you want."

You came alone in this world and you will leave alone!

Because of such sick mentality, people ruin life of others too. This is happening from ages and not sure why we have such mentality. We cannot change others but we should change ourself as we understand being in same situation. Think practically before you make any decisions.

I just wanted to say, whatever may be your sexual orientation, just don't ruin someone's life or be hurtful by giving physical and mental trauma especially to the female.

I still can't believe someone can have such bizarre mentality being on spectrum!

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Posted On Jul 5, 2021 - 08:12 AM

i feel man to man is always sexual, but man to woman is love and sexual.

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Posted On Jul 5, 2021 - 09:28 AM

Some of these comments are so funny. 😂 "Live like an orphan live like a king." Bull ***. If people don't the guts to live a life which is not a lie and are scared of commitment and of "what will people say" they tend to bend to societal pressure and marry. Karma is a bitch. Just putting it out there

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Posted On Jul 5, 2021 - 12:56 PM

deepdesire u r right and pratical . marraige is not only for *** its life partner so guys think in tht ways. un maried people start feeling very lonely at some stage of life.

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Posted On Jul 6, 2021 - 10:19 AM

I request all my friends get married .. and dont loose the essence of marriage life i.e being a parent.

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Posted On Jul 6, 2021 - 10:59 AM

What abt bottoms?? @roniel

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Posted On Jul 6, 2021 - 10:59 AM

In my case, I don't want to fit into any case. When Im in needy I find the right companion and felt the same with all. Either Men, Women or a TG. I take them with max lust enjoy the session. That's it

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Posted On Jul 6, 2021 - 05:05 PM

There is nothing wrong in marrying a girl but keep in mind that marriage is a bond built on mutual trust. If you can't maintain that mutual trust then, there is no point of getting married. If, as a homosexual or bisexual, you are able to control your urge towards men or women apart from your wife then, do it. If you think that you can lead a truthful as well as a satisfactory life(involves satisfaction of both the partners) at the same time then, definitely go for it. But if not then, there is no point of getting married. And why would you want to become a parent when you can't even become a truthful husband? Just imagine the situation the children would be in when they would get to know that their father cheated their mom all his life. That would be one of the worst feeling for them. Why would you want to put your wife's and children's happiness at stake?
So, the decisions is yours. But always remember not to break the mutual trust.

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Posted On Jul 7, 2021 - 12:32 AM

Just remember, you only get to live once .... So whatever suits you the best go for it. Don't get trapped between societal or ethical norms.

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Posted On Jul 9, 2021 - 03:01 PM

Very important and much needed topic, I feel the same way, i love to be romantic only with girls, kisses hugs foreplay etc, I feel at peace after having *** with girls. whereas feel guilty and unenjoyable after *** with tops. don't have any attraction towards males except their tool and developed liking to getting used/humiliated by tops. I was sexually abused at age of 5. Going through very difficult and severe depressive time of life. I wish to have happy and peaceful life. Need help, guidance and support how to deal with this. Thanks.

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Posted On Jul 10, 2021 - 06:50 AM

Puregaandu, maybe it is the mental conditioning . The society does not accept homosexual relationships or even ***. Being hatrosexual is the norm and anything else is called abnormal,unnatural. We are conditioned to think like that.You need to accept who you are and firmly believe that there is nothing wrong in what you do. Consult a counsellor. There are gay helplines available in some cities.

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Posted On Jul 13, 2021 - 03:57 PM

Hi friend, my advice dont go with marriage, marriage start with *** then only create love of both the persons, if dont have *** bound will not create, it will create life long trouble both of you.

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Posted On Aug 21, 2021 - 10:22 AM

I am married for 7 years now I love my wife a lot but I was always gay but I enjoy with her but still I want her to have another man in her life i want hero enjoy life i love her like mad but why I think like that I never understood .........

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Posted On Aug 25, 2021 - 02:32 AM

There is a difference between lust and love