I have never been groped in electric train or bus or anywhere in the public by strangers. No stranger seems to have interest in staring at me or complimenting me. And no one ever expressed liking in me yet. Wondering if it is because I am unattractive or just bad luck.
Thus, starting a topic to discuss how to become more attractive.
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|Posted On May 10, 2018 - 11:31 AM|
Dude.. It's an old saying but it holds good "BEAUTY IS IN THE EYES OF THE BEHOLDER" .. Do you think that the guys who get gropped in the train or approached in the public are the handsome most ? Not at all..
You learn to love yourself.. Learn to carry yourself well.. Learn to present yourself.. All these will make you will attract yourself to you.. You don't need someone to approach you for a sexual motive to reiterate you are attractive..
|Posted On May 10, 2018 - 01:47 PM|
in General attraction comes from within! it all depends how you feel inside yourself makes you the most attractive. The inner glow counts
i have seen so many normal colored and normal built or even chubby guys but something i their eyes or smile or their energy attracts me. its not the looks that matter, its the energy that you carry within and how contagious and infectious that energy is makes u more attractive.
|Posted On May 10, 2018 - 05:10 PM|
Well said Valentine and gayspark. It's true, start liking you, appreciate the beauty within you, wear a genuine smile all the time which is gifted to all human beings, which will make u to like others and things will happen naturally. I have tried both being neutral and straight face and a smiling face. Experiment and experience! Some days it's like everyone that you see look beautiful, I enjoyed and had great energy on those days and others start reciprocating those days, it's true , u can try
|Posted On May 11, 2018 - 04:37 AM|
@gayspark....i know this is forum where each can post their opinion and views, i could not understand what you meant by "normal color" and "even chubby guys"....
Who decides what is normal and abnormal?
While you have tried to highlight that one should not worry about how others think and individual should have self confidence that will reflect as positive energy, which is 100% correct, not sure if you approach the issue in same mind set....
Just my thought...am sorry for nitpicking...
|Posted On May 11, 2018 - 05:12 AM|
While I agree with what has been said above, the fact of the matter is that physical looks, how one looks & conducts oneself plays a major part in attracting others. Specially in scenerios mentioned by the Op.
There are definitely things one can do to make oneself more attractive from that perspective.
First and foremost is confidence. If one considers oneself worthy enough he will be able to behave in a way that attracts others. This definitely works.
Then there are other factors. Like you should keep yourself fit. A fit body is automatically attractive. It is indeed nature's barometer for saying how a person is fit to be a potential mate! You don't need to be muscled or even toned. Just being in good shape helps. Doing few exercises and keeping yourself physically active helps a lot. Of course being more athletic and/or toned will take it even further.
Then comes grooming. This also helps a lot. If one is well groomed, even a average looking guy can look very attractive. Personal hygiene and keeping oneself properly groomed goes a long way. Grooming could be keeping your hair (facial and otherwise) trimmed and not to leave them unkempt. Keeping your skin properly clean and clear (requires discipline and daily effort), keeping nails and hands well maintained etc.
Then comes how you dress. One does not need to be fashion aware to be well dressed. The fitting of what you wear goes a long way. Even if you buy good or expensive brands but if they are not a good fit, you will look shabby. Pick up clothes that fit you well. If you are not fashion literate take help from others to pick up clothes (friends who are typically well dressed).
Last but not the least, conduct yourself in a confident and positive manner. A smile goes a long way in making you 10x more attractive than you already are. People are naturally attracted towards a person who seems happy.
Take care of these things and I'm sure you will automatically feel the change and become more attractive for others. It will help your confidence level in not just love/social life but in all aspects of your live including workplace.
Don't expect to become attractive overnight. One has to work towards it. Put in the efforts and you will see the results.
Best of Luck!
|Posted On May 11, 2018 - 06:06 AM|
@iluv2cruise, don't be sorry at all. I'm glad you asked me. We are in different colors, so can't say which is normal colors n which is fair, my interpretation of fair is different to others. I have been the chubbiest guy during my school days, so I can relate what I went through.
|Posted On May 11, 2018 - 10:40 AM|
Go to gym
|Posted On May 11, 2018 - 11:35 AM|
While chatting with my prospective date I try to find out what he likes. Accordingly I prepare myself. For example I'll dress for him or wear a particular type of perfume or talk on his favourite subjects. That way I'm attractive to him. Other than cleanliness and smiling etc.
|Posted On May 11, 2018 - 03:12 PM|
Hi going to gym doesn't make one attractive. There is always something special you can find in one person regardless of looks or attire or anything else. If that spark you can find you will fall head over heels for that person.
I did fall for couple of ppl here in ohmojo with whom I felt a connection right away. Even if they don't chat with me or don't agree with me I still keep thinking if them. I know they too like kefir what I am.
I know you are reading this n know that I am talking about you.
|Posted On May 14, 2018 - 09:55 AM|
My two cents on this is that "whatever your appearance, there is always someone out there who finds you attractive". I remember when I was younger and had a head full of hair and youthfull looks, I hardly got anyone to be interested in me. Now I am 44, grey hair and bald head. I am having many more people getting attracted to me. I am not sure its because of the look of maturity that it brings on.
Also my personal choice of men are not the handsome looking men with adonis like body. I prefer the tough looking guys- more the rowdy looking guys who others might find repulsive looking.
So as they say" beauty is in the eyes of the beholder"
|Posted On Jun 5, 2018 - 05:36 AM|
@sam50- There are certain exercises which can get you firm and round butts. Some kind of squats and lunges actually firm ur buttock region. Just try in you tube video. Exercises for bubble butts
|Posted On Jul 2, 2018 - 01:06 PM|
So how about face masks, clay,... any one into these profits ??